FabSwingers.com forum: Why do bi/gay men hassle straight men

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I find this alot on here and have to block most of the time. Why is this? If messaged a woman here and they didnt repky id take it as a polite no

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By *un4meanduMan
over a year ago

STOTFOLD

"I find this alot on here and have to block most of the time. Why is this? If messaged a woman here and they didnt repky id take it as a polite no

I get a lot of bi/gay men and Tv/TS looking and fabbing pics even though I block them and if you then look who fabbed your pics you then look at them so maybe they see a sign of interest?

If I unblock I just say no thanks as per profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Straight guys are The Golden Fleece for many gay guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We get it soooooooo much. It clearly states male is straight.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I think they think if youre on fab youre desperate and would turn to men for sexual gratification

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because they like the idea they can turn them because let's face it for many men not only can't they read profiles any hole Is a goal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think they think if youre on fab youre desperate and would turn to men for sexual gratification"

There are loads of guys here who would meet guys but would never have a profile on a traditional gay site

Therefore, new pickings

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

I can assure you my partner does not do this. Tottal lack of respect for other people’s Sexuality.

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By *igg13Man
over a year ago

Happens all the time. But no point being rude, just say no. If it continues then block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know. I can only assume that sexual frustration coupled with an aggressive personality pushes someone to harras for sex.

But I'm no Psychiatrist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Literally this morning. Got a message from a couple, both straight on profile. Turns out he's bi. Waste of time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Literally this morning. Got a message from a couple, both straight on profile. Turns out he's bi. Waste of time"

So it's not just men then ?

Couples do it too

Who'd have thought ?

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York

I get a lot of fabs on my pics from men even though I have zero interest in them and my profile states this, I'm not even curious. I'm not offended by it so I'll take the compliment, but I did have to block messages from men as I was getting loads constantly asking if I fancied a cam wank or blowjob lol, just no!

I've had quite a few blokes trying their luck on nights out as well over the years though, and I don't think I give off a gay vibe other than being well dressed and groomed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Erm think you’re wrong 90^ of the time it’s the other way around sorry....

I never hassle guys

But I always get messaged or winks from straight guys

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By *atsun xxxMan
over a year ago

Nr LOUTH Lincolnshire

"I get a lot of fabs on my pics from men even though I have zero interest in them and my profile states this, I'm not even curious. I'm not offended by it so I'll take the compliment, but I did have to block messages from men as I was getting loads constantly asking if I fancied a cam wank or blowjob lol, just no!

I've had quite a few blokes trying their luck on nights out as well over the years though, and I don't think I give off a gay vibe other than being well dressed and groomed

What’s a gay vibe Mr

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York

I've had quite a few blokes trying their luck on nights out as well over the years though, and I don't think I give off a gay vibe other than being well dressed and groomed

What’s a gay vibe Mr

Like I must cause a fault with their gaydar or something. I do have quite a few gay friends that I go on nights out with so maybe they just assume I'm the same lol

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By *atsun xxxMan
over a year ago

Nr LOUTH Lincolnshire

I've had quite a few blokes trying their luck on nights out as well over the years though, and I don't think I give off a gay vibe other than being well dressed and groomed

What’s a gay vibe Mr

Like I must cause a fault with their gaydar or something. I do have quite a few gay friends that I go on nights out with so maybe they just assume I'm the same lol"

There is no way of telling unless you talk to people

So you’re on a night out and you see a gorgeous girl, she smiles !!!

With your powers, how can you tell she is gay or straight

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

"I find this alot on here and have to block most of the time. Why is this? If messaged a woman here and they didnt repky id take it as a polite no

Because there are fab straight men here.

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

We'd appreciate a function to block gay, bi or bi-curious men simply because we'd never consider them joining us. So having them view us, wink and message is wasting everyone's time and muddying the water.

And no, it's not homophobic. It's a preference. It's the same as if somebody wouldn't consider married guys.

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

"Literally this morning. Got a message from a couple, both straight on profile. Turns out he's bi. Waste of time"

Are you sure it's a couple?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would appreciate a button that stops so called straight guys hassling me

Only being honest here

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By *xplicitMan
over a year ago

donegal

Im going to stand up for gay/bi men here...i'm a fabber a long long time and being straight i have always found no means no in these situations.Simply dont find they hassle you if you are completely clear with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find this alot on here and have to block most of the time. Why is this? If messaged a woman here and they didnt repky id take it as a polite no

Playing Devils advocate here

I recognise your pics from the various 'Hot or not' threads you have started

In doing so, you raise your profile on the site greatly - to both those you seek and those you don't

You also don't have a block on guys messaging you.

Rightly or wrongly, some will read that as an invitation.

I can see you are in pretty good shape - which is a draw for men as well as women.

Could it be that you are becoming a victim of your heightened profile on the site ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It may be because there are 3 kinds of straight.

Actual straight, which I am.

Straight, secretly Bi curious however not comfortable putting that on their profile.

Fab straight, Bi if the right offer comes in.

You are aware of saying such as.

Any hole is a goal.

And

I would let anyone suck my cock.

I think those guys that message straight men are testing the boundaries.

Just to reiterate. I am actual straight bi/gay guys please refrain.

Thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

I think its because most men who work out are bi or gay.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It may be because there are 3 kinds of straight.

Actual straight, which I am.

Straight, secretly Bi curious however not comfortable putting that on their profile.

Fab straight, Bi if the right offer comes in.

You are aware of saying such as.

Any hole is a goal.

And

I would let anyone suck my cock.

I think those guys that message straight men are testing the boundaries.

Just to reiterate. I am actual straight bi/gay guys please refrain.

Thanks. "

100% true

I used to be straight now I’m not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think they think if youre on fab youre desperate and would turn to men for sexual gratification"

You actually think that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably the same reason some men hassle women after a no or a message delete.

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By *ieran2210Man
over a year ago

Leeds

I get messages off loads of men & no women so I must just look gay haha

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By *igertigerCouple (MM)
over a year ago

nr Letterkenny

"I find this alot on here and have to block most of the time. Why is this? If messaged a woman here and they didnt repky id take it as a polite no

why even bother replying....as for their thinking everyman on here is desperate it might be a truer reflection of how you view yourself or others on the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think its because most men who work out are bi or gay."

You're such a tease

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

"I think they think if youre on fab youre desperate and would turn to men for sexual gratification

You actually think that?

And TV's are the top of the slippery slope!

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

It's not so much a gay/bi thing, it is more a man thing.

Ladies who state an age preference always receive messages from guys outside their age range unless they use their filters to stop them.

Many men also don't take no particularly well, hence why ladies and couples often choose to just delete without reply and sometimes block straight after.

Despite what you may say on your profile guys will just chance their arm, just in case you will make an exception for them.

The key is to use the tools the site gives you. Use your filters to stop them messaging you!

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Personally speaking as someone who is openly bisexual, I wouldn't dream of messaging another guy on here who is listed as straight with a view to meeting for sex and think I can speak for the majority of other bi guys I know that would be the same.

Likewise if I were playing with a couple who were straight I wouldn't dream of attempting any form of bi play unless it was initiated by them.

Do I fab straight guys pics? Yes I do if it's a pic I like - does it mean I want to jump their bones? Errr nope it's just an appreciation of a good pic nothing more, nothing less.

Despite the stereotypes not all bisexual men are predatory or after "a cock, any cock".

Why do some bi/gay/fab straight guys do it? For the same reason as guys on here message women/couples whose profiles they don't match....unrealistic expectations/perceptions of the site plain and simple. If you get hassled by anyone whose profile doesn't appeal to you, regardless of their sexuality, just block and move on

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By *haneleviMan
over a year ago

Kidderminster

Challange I suppsoe !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There should be a block all men even looking at me button... Just in case it's catching

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More to the point why do straight men hassle bi couples???

And also amazing how many “straight guys” ain’t straight I would say a good 90% are bi from the messages we get anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are no married bachelors and there are no gay/bi straight men. If the guy does anything with another man, he's not straight, period. Same if a gay man/woman has sex with the opposite gender, they are bi, not strictly gay.

So really, if you score, you only scored a closeted gay/bi man posing straight. Otherwise, it means we can turn gay or bi people straight too, and gay people utterly reject and protest this idea.

For example, I seduced and scored a woman who lived as a lesbian and swore by her repulsion toward sex with men. As far as I'm concerned, she wasn't really gay since she slept with me. I could start hunting down and scoring "lesbian" women, but it would only prove that they actually love men and are not lesbian/gay.

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

Why do "straight" men hassle men for sex but yet insist they are straight?

Why do "straight" men shag pre-op trans and still think they're straight?

Why do "straight" men cheat more than anyone else on here?

Why do "straight" men think it's ok to deceive people on here?

Answer those and then as a confident Bi man I will answer your questions!!!

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

We had a particularly persistant straight man messaging us for bi fun the other night... he wasnt having it that we wouldnt enjoy him sucking cheffys cock and got quite abusive in the end. Its a pity coz we rarely need to use the block button.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do "straight" men hassle men for sex but yet insist they are straight?

Why do "straight" men shag pre-op trans and still think they're straight?

Why do "straight" men cheat more than anyone else on here?

Why do "straight" men think it's ok to deceive people on here?

Answer those and then as a confident Bi man I will answer your questions!!!"

And this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do "straight" men hassle men for sex but yet insist they are straight?

Why do "straight" men shag pre-op trans and still think they're straight?

Why do "straight" men cheat more than anyone else on here?

Why do "straight" men think it's ok to deceive people on here?

Answer those and then as a confident Bi man I will answer your questions!!!"

Because all of those are closeted gay/bi men posing as straight men. So straight men aren't doing any of those things, it's gay/bi men. So the real question is, why do gay/bi men like to pose as straight men and then claim that straight men are the ones being deceptive when it's really the gay/bi demographic being deceptive? Can you answer those questions?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We had a particularly persistant straight man messaging us for bi fun the other night... he wasnt having it that we wouldnt enjoy him sucking cheffys cock and got quite abusive in the end. Its a pity coz we rarely need to use the block button."

No, you had a bi man who was posing as a straight man. Why do bi men keep doing this?

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

God loves a tryer

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

No, you had a bi man who was posing as a straight man. Why do bi men keep doing this? "

Someone needs a tissue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Part of the problem, is that too many fabbers have d*unk the Kool-aid, and subscribe to the fallacy that 'straight' means 'fab straight'.

That, and a monumental disrespect, for clearly stated sexual orientation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, you had a bi man who was posing as a straight man. Why do bi men keep doing this?

Someone needs a tissue. "

You need a tissue, why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So why not just block all single guys from messaging?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

"So why not just block all single guys from messaging? "

Once someone has had what they perceive as hassle, it seems wise to pit at least a temporary block upon the gender that they don't wish to meet, or bite the bullet and do something different.

Men apparently do this FAF to others here, so it's either to be accepted as part of fab life or steps taken to avoid it.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

No, you had a bi man who was posing as a straight man. Why do bi men keep doing this?

Someone needs a tissue.

You need a tissue, why? "

For your issue..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"More to the point why do straight men hassle bi couples???

And also amazing how many “straight guys” ain’t straight I would say a good 90% are bi from the messages we get anyway "

This is true. 90% of messages/winks I get from guys are listed as 'straight' on their profile. A girl I was chatting to once said she wasn't comfortable meeting a bi guy. One of her 'straight guy' verifications was from a guy who had messaged me on numerous occasions looking to meet. Weird old world innit?

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By *lmostthereMan
over a year ago

Southampton

"I find this alot on here and have to block most of the time. Why is this? If messaged a woman here and they didnt repky id take it as a polite no

Because they think you're hot?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They never bother us. Now I feel left out.

Bother me any time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They never bother us. Now I feel left out.

Bother me any time."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"More to the point why do straight men hassle bi couples???

And also amazing how many “straight guys” ain’t straight I would say a good 90% are bi from the messages we get anyway

That's funny! I love bi guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"More to the point why do straight men hassle bi couples???

And also amazing how many “straight guys” ain’t straight I would say a good 90% are bi from the messages we get anyway

That's funny! I love bi guys

I prefer women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"More to the point why do straight men hassle bi couples???

And also amazing how many “straight guys” ain’t straight I would say a good 90% are bi from the messages we get anyway

That's funny! I love bi guys

I prefer women.

Good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, you had a bi man who was posing as a straight man. Why do bi men keep doing this?

Someone needs a tissue.

You need a tissue, why?

For your issue.."

But your name is sue? It's fine, I won't diss you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get 1 or 2 messages a day from blokes.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To add a twist to your thread....

I get so many 'Straight' guys messaging and fabing my pix.

Why is that?

I think, not just on here, but in reality too, something's are always as they appear to be on the surface...

Nneka xx

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By *Cocksucker84Man
over a year ago

newcastle

Yes, the harrassment straight men get from gay/bi guys on here is absolutely disgraceful. Especially when straight women never get harrassed by straight single men in any way shape or form on here or in real life.

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