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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

... whom would you consider as being closer to you, your child or your life partner?

The recent death of someone I knew got me thinking about this.

Being childless, I cannot comment on the bond between a child and his/her parents.

However, I am of the opinion that I cannot choose my parents and siblings as I was born with them. This does not mean I have to get on with them or even like them.

Life partner on the other hand is of my own choosing, therefore he would be closer to me than my parents and siblings.

How about you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my sister methinks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always my children..no compromise there at all..

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk

No Question for me - I chose K as my lifr partner and thats exactly what she will be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am closer to my partener as we spend so much time together, we can say things to each other that we couldnt say to anyone else. I am close to my son too but its a different type of close.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its a completely different type of closeness so couldn't call it but that said our sons come first every single time for both of us so if you asked either of us to choose we would both pick them over each other every time

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"... whom would you consider as being closer to you, your child or your life partner?

The recent death of someone I knew got me thinking about this.

Being childless, I cannot comment on the bond between a child and his/her parents.

However, I am of the opinion that I cannot choose my parents and siblings as I was born with them. This does not mean I have to get on with them or even like them.

Life partner on the other hand is of my own choosing, therefore he would be closer to me than my parents and siblings.

How about you? "

No one should have to choose between a life partner and a child. Not even considering to which one you are closest.

These are distinct relationships each very different in their needs and responses.

A partner can never take the place of a child and a child should never be a sexual partner.

I would always support my children before my partner as they are dependent upon me as children. Any decent partner would recognise the need to support children into early adulthood.

Things could be viewed differently when the children are adults. They should not have such an emotional hold on their mother/father that they can cause a rift in a relationship.

Children will leave home eventually and set up with their own partners and be quite selfish about it so it is important for people to keep their own relationships alive despite their children's feelings.

We all have various roles. Mother, daughter, parent , child , wife , lover.

The more successful relationships you have the better life is I'd guess.

I pity the person that has to pick between their own blood and their lover. The two are just not comparable. Nor should they be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

agree completely but couldn't be bothered to compose all that. Well done, n a Sunday too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my kids will always come first above everyone else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My children come first.. this is actually something that my Master always makes very clear.. that if I am given a task but it would mean that I can not give my time that is needed to my children then it is not a failure..

I am very close to my Master.. he is my world.. but if I ever had to choose it would be my kids.. as would Masters children always come first.. its how it should be...

Cali x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on how kinky/rude/naughty my 'partner' is.

Seriously, My kids have always come first.

But at the moment it's easy for me to say my kids for the fact I'm single and very happy being so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

has to be our daughter for both of us

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By *inkershoes69Woman
over a year ago

maidstone

def my kids before anything else x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My children first though I have made friends with a couple of guys on here that I trust without thought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally for me they are in the same level but different categories

They are the only two girls I would actually die for if I had too xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My children come 1st everytime no contest

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

Even though we are coming up to our 38 anniversary next week I would definately say my son is my best friend and the one I am likely to talk to about anything and he me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Children. I don't have a life partner and probably never will

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Its different levels of relationships.

Callum was 21 on tuesday and it was a very emotional day. The day i gave birth it was like one of my arms had been cut of and gained its own life. Unless you have a child i think its very hard to understand (its also hard to explain) the love that you feel for a child. I would die for my son with out a seconds hesitation.

Jay, is my soulmate, we where ment to be together, we share everything, he knows me better than i know myself. He is my world. BUT, i did survive before he came into my life and although i wouldt want to and dont even want to think about it i would survive again.

My mother, my mother has been my backbone through out my life, there is nothing she wouldnt do for me or me her. Only when i had my son did i realize how much she loves me. My mum has been there everyday of my life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its different levels of relationships.

Callum was 21 on tuesday and it was a very emotional day. The day i gave birth it was like one of my arms had been cut of and gained its own life. Unless you have a child i think its very hard to understand (its also hard to explain) the love that you feel for a child. I would die for my son with out a seconds hesitation.

Jay, is my soulmate, we where ment to be together, we share everything, he knows me better than i know myself. He is my world. BUT, i did survive before he came into my life and although i wouldt want to and dont even want to think about it i would survive again.

My mother, my mother has been my backbone through out my life, there is nothing she wouldnt do for me or me her. Only when i had my son did i realize how much she loves me. My mum has been there everyday of my life.

"

thats really emotional and so nice xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not quite sure what you mean by, if you had to choose?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has to be my son, I don't have a life partner or any other family to speak of, so my son and I are very very close x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My children are closest to me . I have no life partner. My youngest especially, we have been through so much, some adults couldn't cope with what he has had to in his short life. xx

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow


"... whom would you consider as being closer to you, your child or your life partner?

The recent death of someone I knew got me thinking about this.

Being childless, I cannot comment on the bond between a child and his/her parents.

However, I am of the opinion that I cannot choose my parents and siblings as I was born with them. This does not mean I have to get on with them or even like them.

Life partner on the other hand is of my own choosing, therefore he would be closer to me than my parents and siblings.

How about you?

No one should have to choose between a life partner and a child. Not even considering to which one you are closest.

These are distinct relationships each very different in their needs and responses.

A partner can never take the place of a child and a child should never be a sexual partner.

I would always support my children before my partner as they are dependent upon me as children. Any decent partner would recognise the need to support children into early adulthood.

Things could be viewed differently when the children are adults. They should not have such an emotional hold on their mother/father that they can cause a rift in a relationship.

Children will leave home eventually and set up with their own partners and be quite selfish about it so it is important for people to keep their own relationships alive despite their children's feelings.

We all have various roles. Mother, daughter, parent , child , wife , lover.

The more successful relationships you have the better life is I'd guess.

I pity the person that has to pick between their own blood and their lover. The two are just not comparable. Nor should they be. "

if i was a bit brighter,thats what i would have written.

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