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Best prediction of someone's future behaviour...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is their past behaviour.. agree or disagree

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Also....Shhh I'm not suspossed to be here I'm finishing off the xmas Baileys and mumsnet is boring me

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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Okay, we didn't see you

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

usually yep. There will be exceptions, I won't ever go outside in my slippers again after slipping over in the snow last week for instance

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Okay, we didn't see you "

I was never here (ninja emoji)

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By *lmostthereMan
over a year ago

Southampton


"

Also....Shhh I'm not suspossed to be here I'm finishing off the xmas Baileys and mumsnet is boring me "

What no anal at Butlins or the infamous glass of water for post-coital penis ablutions threads?

We never saw you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is their past behaviour.. agree or disagree

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I agree it is a strong indicator, but I also believe people learn and can change. I’d try not to predict but dialogue with the person if I want to get to know or understand them better. Or perhaps even to express my fears and help them to make active choices for how they proceed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good to not see you, Jeff. I’ve missed you lots.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I agree, but I try not to make that judgement on one example of that that behaviour... unless it is something so utterly offensive that it's clear that is their factory setting.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

Also....Shhh I'm not suspossed to be here I'm finishing off the xmas Baileys and mumsnet is boring me

What no anal at Butlins or the infamous glass of water for post-coital penis ablutions threads?

We never saw you "

No but loads of LTB (LEAVE THE BASTARD) threads

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury


"Is their past behaviour.. agree or disagree

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Yes and no depends on the people involved.

I'll hold my hands up I cheated on my ex husband for many reasons.

I wouldn't cheat now I have no reason to do so.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is their past behaviour.. agree or disagree

I agree it is a strong indicator, but I also believe people learn and can change. I’d try not to predict but dialogue with the person if I want to get to know or understand them better. Or perhaps even to express my fears and help them to make active choices for how they proceed. "

This is lovely and exactly what I'm trying! And the person in question is being very good and talking through the hard questions with me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Good to not see you, Jeff. I’ve missed you lots. "

I have missed your face!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is their past behaviour.. agree or disagree

Yes and no depends on the people involved.

I'll hold my hands up I cheated on my ex husband for many reasons.

I wouldn't cheat now I have no reason to do so. "

That's it too isn't it! People react different in different circumstance xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is their past behaviour.. agree or disagree

I agree it is a strong indicator, but I also believe people learn and can change. I’d try not to predict but dialogue with the person if I want to get to know or understand them better. Or perhaps even to express my fears and help them to make active choices for how they proceed.

This is lovely and exactly what I'm trying! And the person in question is being very good and talking through the hard questions with me. "

A dynamic you have with someone is never ever going to be the same as they or you have had with someone else - there’s different people involved, it’s not comparable so it’s always in new creation not replay of the old alone. Keep taking daily leaps of faith and trust your gut. People aren’t perfect, so allow them to learn you and you them and learn to learn yourself too. You’ll know what to do and when to do it. Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends whether someone can learn from their experiences and their mistakes..

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

A leopard never changes it’s spots.....although can by rolling in some mud, at least hide them....until it gets wet....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good to not see you, Jeff. I’ve missed you lots.

I have missed your face!! "

*jumps on Jeff and gives her a squeeze*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's horoscopes

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is their past behaviour.. agree or disagree

I agree it is a strong indicator, but I also believe people learn and can change. I’d try not to predict but dialogue with the person if I want to get to know or understand them better. Or perhaps even to express my fears and help them to make active choices for how they proceed.

This is lovely and exactly what I'm trying! And the person in question is being very good and talking through the hard questions with me.

A dynamic you have with someone is never ever going to be the same as they or you have had with someone else - there’s different people involved, it’s not comparable so it’s always in new creation not replay of the old alone. Keep taking daily leaps of faith and trust your gut. People aren’t perfect, so allow them to learn you and you them and learn to learn yourself too. You’ll know what to do and when to do it. Good luck x"

This reply is just perfect! And gave me the warm fuzzies xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely, and that's why a certain punishment should brought back!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If that's the case it doesn't seem to allow for the potential for people to learn grow and change their view of themselves or others OP.

It's too static to reflect no two situations are the same and no two people have the same dynamic if they then interact with others.

Perhaps we just need to accept that all are different and change in different ways in different situations and maybe there is even redemption that allows us all to change. Because like groundhog day we mostly don't just keep repeating the same actions. Eventaually we change what we do and discover different outcomes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If that's the case it doesn't seem to allow for the potential for people to learn grow and change their view of themselves or others OP.

It's too static to reflect no two situations are the same and no two people have the same dynamic if they then interact with others.

Perhaps we just need to accept that all are different and change in different ways in different situations and maybe there is even redemption that allows us all to change. Because like groundhog day we mostly don't just keep repeating the same actions. Eventaually we change what we do and discover different outcomes."

I like this. I do agree that people have different dynamics with different people. This is going to remain in my head

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"If that's the case it doesn't seem to allow for the potential for people to learn grow and change their view of themselves or others OP.

It's too static to reflect no two situations are the same and no two people have the same dynamic if they then interact with others.

Perhaps we just need to accept that all are different and change in different ways in different situations and maybe there is even redemption that allows us all to change. Because like groundhog day we mostly don't just keep repeating the same actions. Eventaually we change what we do and discover different outcomes."

Mostly. Yet, there are some people who use the same playbook for all new sexual encounters. Follow the same patterns and experience the same outcomes. We can be creatures of habit.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Maybe the best predictor is someone's motivation

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular


"Is their past behaviour.. agree or disagree

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Best prediction of me looking at your av is that I’ve done it before and will probably do it again.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

Ooooo this is interesting. I have different mikes, mike that is a football fan, dishing out verbal abuse to rival players and fans (seen on sky), mike that is at work, who works hard engages with otherd tries to do the right thing, filthy / slutty mike who well .

I look at mike 10 years ago and I am more relaxed chilled and take a pragmatic view of things

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows


"Is their past behaviour.. agree or disagree

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Both!

Some people can change, some can't!

Things can happen in life that change you & your attitude.

I'm definitely not the same person I was 3yrs ago, totaly unrecognisable physically & mentally.

I'd even say my ex is a nice person now - something I never thought I'd say lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I disagree.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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I agree. You can only judge on their past behaviour ... the rest is wait and see. I don’t believe people ever really change that much.

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By *icky-discoMan
over a year ago

oxford


"I agree. You can only judge on their past behaviour ... the rest is wait and see. I don’t believe people ever really change that much. "

I think they can due to things that have happened to them in the past it’s all about the individual though

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you for all your thoughts. This was said in an episode of my craxy ex girlfriend and it got me thinking!

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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"I agree. You can only judge on their past behaviour ... the rest is wait and see. I don’t believe people ever really change that much.

I think they can due to things that have happened to them in the past it’s all about the individual though "

We are all the way we are because of our past experiences

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

There's two unknowns here - knowing what other people are thinking is impossible. Really, you just can't know all the time.

The other unknown is what will happen in the future. You don't know how you will be in the future (as you can tell by all the people who say they are very different from their old selves).

Add these together and the chances of knowing what someone else will be like in the future can't be predicted.

It's like trying to predict the weather by saying it was sunny yesterday so it'll be sunny today. Yes, perhaps it will but it that was always the case it would be sunny all the time and it isn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I disagree. "

To add on to this, I think a persons current behaviour tells me a lot too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I disagree.

To add on to this, I think a persons current behaviour tells me a lot too. "

That is their past behaviour, the near past.

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By *ed.FoxMan
over a year ago

Between Hampshire and London


"Absolutely, and that's why a certain punishment should brought back!"

Spanking?

In my experience spanking just encourages more naughty behavior...

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