FabSwingers.com forum: Being 5 min late constitutes No Show?

By *av.x.69 OP Man
over a year ago

Callington/Liskeard

Hi All,

Impromptu first meet was organised for 8pm. She suggested a pub to meet at.

Before leaving, I messaged her saying I’m on my way, and gave rough location where I was leaving from.

I parked the car in the pub car park and ordered my drink at the bar at 8:05pm.

When logged into this site to send her the message saying I’ve arrived, I saw her No Show message and that she had already left the pub.

Question is, does this constitute a no show?

Thanks

PS. Genuinely trying to rationalise the outcome. Don’t think there’s a right or wrong answer to this. Just trying to get the majority view.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

I'd be fucked if 5 mins latest a no show! My time keeping is awful

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By *radleywigginsMan
over a year ago

northwest

It's impressive that see managed to smash down her drink in under 5 minutes..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally id have ordered a drink and given you til I finished it to show up.

The fact you had said you were on your way would make me give you the benefit of the doubt.

Id say anything up to 10 min or so is acceptable for running late, you cant help getting stuck in traffic or delays and most people should know that.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

I’d allow 15 minutes if she was a hottie, 2 seconds if not.

Looks like that’s the question you need to ask yourself, OP

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

5 minutes seems harsh, you sure it wasnt a bit longer OP?

I've waited half an hour for someone before, he was in touch the whole time and had a good excuse. I'm glad I waited

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She left after 5 minutes that's very unfair especially after you had texted her

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I'd at least order a drink and give someone that time before I thought they were a no show, so I'm a bit dubious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was she even there in the first place?

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By *av.x.69 OP Man
over a year ago

Callington/Liskeard

I’ve got timed messages to prove I wasn’t more than 5min late

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"I’d allow 15 minutes if she was a hottie, 2 seconds if not.

Looks like that’s the question you need to ask yourself, OP

Wasn't even 2 seconds

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't be late to a date/meet bro, that's such a rookie mistake. Makes it look like you don't really care

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd give 30 mins max before declaring a no show. Also depends if you are in contact with them up to the time they should be meeting.

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By *otForSoftiesWoman
over a year ago

The North / Party Hard Everywhere

You ordered your drink at 8.05 but what time did you log in? Maybe there was a gap. Or maybe she saw you and ran out

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

I think her name is "billy bullshit"

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By *av.x.69 OP Man
over a year ago

Callington/Liskeard

Fair point.

We had actually exchanged pics and few messages several days before too. So we were known quantity to at least one another.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Was she even there in the first place?"

That's the question I'd be asking.

And if you were there at 5 past and she wasn't then she'd have had to leave before then. So...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If she that sensative that she couldnt give you 5 mins then ide say good job . You had a lucky escape

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By *ruesome-twosomeCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

I suspect she didn't show up and if you'd been on time there would of been another excuse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems a bit harsh to have left after 5 mins. Or would have been 4mins or you would have met each other in the doorway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbh I met someone who made it very clear to me that if I was late she would leave as she wasn’t waiting beyond the meet time.

I think there are a lot of people stood up, and the nature of the vulnerability makes people set hard limits that should be respected imo.

Harsh but fair imo

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By *av.x.69 OP Man
over a year ago

Callington/Liskeard

Message sent was defo 8:05.

Pub wasn’t busy, didn’t saw anyone leave but you never know. Good point.

I would have thought they’d have some decency to txt say, “sorry but no thanks. “

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Was she even there in the first place?"

Exactly

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

"She" was probably that bloke sat in the corner.

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By *av.x.69 OP Man
over a year ago

Callington/Liskeard

Didn’t ask that as I’d be suggesting she’s a liar. I always give benefit of the doubt.

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By *av.x.69 OP Man
over a year ago

Callington/Liskeard

Was it you hahaha

She has veris so good in that respect

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By *ree2view2uMan
over a year ago

Nr Donny

5 mins of no way long enough to call you a no show!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Was she even there in the first place?"

That would be my question too

We've all been stood up or generally piddled about

But personally I dont buy the story that she left because you were five mins late

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean

You ordered your drink at 8.05 and logged into the site to message her ?

Why didn't you TEXT her or PHONE her ?

Did you not have her number ?

Did you speak to her on the phone before you moved out of the house to meet ?

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By *igga_manMan
over a year ago

near Reading

"Was she even there in the first place?"
that was my thinking......?!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean

Hmmmmmmm you don't say what time you logged into the site either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Was she even there in the first place?"

Exactly

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

5 minutes late does seem harsh to be classed as a no show.If it was me I would have got their 20 minutes early however traffic , public transport sometimes makes it easier said than done.

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By *av.x.69 OP Man
over a year ago

Callington/Liskeard

"You ordered your drink at 8.05 and logged into the site to message her ?

Why didn't you TEXT her or PHONE her ?

Did you not have her number ?

Did you speak to her on the phone before you moved out of the house to meet ?

hindsight is 20:20

lessons for all I guess, as soon as you relax few key rules like, Talk before meet, even if it’s rush, then beware.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's polite too arrive on time always .I'd of left as well .I'd class it as you weren't bothered.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

She must of downed her drink in one!!!

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By *radleywigginsMan
over a year ago

northwest

hindsight is 20:20

lessons for all I guess, as soon as you relax few key rules like, Talk before meet, even if it’s rush, then beware. "

Your hindsight is 15 minutes after she already left

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends, was it 5 minutes past 8 on the right day?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean

"She must of downed her drink in one!!! "

She couldn't buy a drink cos her starting shoes were spiking the carpet.

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By *av.x.69 OP Man
over a year ago

Callington/Liskeard

"5 minutes late does seem harsh to be classed as a no show.If it was me I would have got their 20 minutes early however traffic , public transport sometimes makes it easier said than done."

I tend to get there at least 15min early to grab a drink and compose to make first impressions etc, but shit happens.

I know some folks would say as they swipe their hand in the air, “excuses!”. I get it.

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By *av.x.69 OP Man
over a year ago

Callington/Liskeard

"Depends, was it 5 minutes past 8 on the right day?

Nice one.

I believe it was the right date, tad past the agreed time, at the agreed location

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She's a cunt. You're better off without her.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Five minutes seems a bit harsh. Even we give longer than that and we're merciless

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By *av.x.69 OP Man
over a year ago

Callington/Liskeard

"She must of downed her drink in one!!!

She couldn't buy a drink cos her starting shoes were spiking the carpet."

Then at least my balls are intact lol should be thankful for that !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"5 minutes late does seem harsh to be classed as a no show.If it was me I would have got their 20 minutes early however traffic , public transport sometimes makes it easier said than done.

I tend to get there at least 15min early to grab a drink and compose to make first impressions etc, but shit happens.

I know some folks would say as they swipe their hand in the air, “excuses!”. I get it.

I was an hour late to meet someone who travelled across London to meet me, near mine.

Shit happens.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Five minutes seems a bit harsh. Even we give longer than that and we're merciless

May I call you Ming from now on?

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

"She must of downed her drink in one!!!

She couldn't buy a drink cos her starting shoes were spiking the carpet."

5 mins is harsh though, I would've waited at least 6!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My meet from last Thursday is 6 days late so I constitute that as a no show not 5 min.

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By *av.x.69 OP Man
over a year ago

Callington/Liskeard

"She must of downed her drink in one!!!

She couldn't buy a drink cos her starting shoes were spiking the carpet.

5 mins is harsh though, I would've waited at least 6!!! "

You are simply fab, thankQ for waiting 6min. Will try not to cut it so fine.

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By *av.x.69 OP Man
over a year ago

Callington/Liskeard

"My meet from last Thursday is 6 days late so I constitute that as a no show not 5 min."

That’s horrid being days out. Hope you’ve been fed and watered, or you still waiting?

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"Hi All,

Impromptu first meet was organised for 8pm. She suggested a pub to meet at.

Before leaving, I messaged her saying I’m on my way, and gave rough location where I was leaving from.

I parked the car in the pub car park and ordered my drink at the bar at 8:05pm.

When logged into this site to send her the message saying I’ve arrived, I saw her No Show message and that she had already left the pub.

Question is, does this constitute a no show?

Thanks

PS. Genuinely trying to rationalise the outcome. Don’t think there’s a right or wrong answer to this. Just trying to get the majority view. "

5 minutes is nothing. There loss or maybe she never went!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My meet from last Thursday is 6 days late so I constitute that as a no show not 5 min.

That’s horrid being days out. Hope you’ve been fed and watered, or you still waiting?

I went and met a bf gf couple this morning that I've met before off here and they gave me creampie so I'm ok and full now

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By *av.x.69 OP Man
over a year ago

Callington/Liskeard

"?..they gave me creampie so I'm ok and full now

That’s awesome. I can sleep easy now knowing you’ve had proper creampie

So it’s true, everything Cums to who (S)he waits...

... I’ll wait then for my velvety wet slippery mmmm ...

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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago

Traffic land

"It's impressive that see managed to smash down her drink in under 5 minutes.. "

For some of us it’s a skill

I’d probably hang round for another two though

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

"5 minutes late does seem harsh to be classed as a no show.If it was me I would have got their 20 minutes early however traffic , public transport sometimes makes it easier said than done.

I tend to get there at least 15min early to grab a drink and compose to make first impressions etc, but shit happens.

I know some folks would say as they swipe their hand in the air, “excuses!”. I get it.

"
. Not excuses as you said shit happens

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By *av.x.69 OP Man
over a year ago

Callington/Liskeard

"...

For some of us it’s a skill

I’d probably hang round for another two though"

That’s why you are cool dudette

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

That seems harsh. I usually allow 15 minutes.

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By *ky19Man
over a year ago

Plymouth

I was over 30 mins late for a date last month, and didn't get another.

My own fault for going through a real difficult time and being ill and doing a lot of work. I was in no shape to manage and needed to rest, should have arranged the date for when I was a bit better, but as usual I bite off too much. Should have waited till I was well enough to do it properly. Oh well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd call that 'bottled it'

Reckon she's too chicken shit to have a meet with you dude!

Move on to a real woman!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I suspect she didn't show up and if you'd been on time there would of been another excuse "

This.

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By *av.x.69 OP Man
over a year ago

Callington/Liskeard

"I'd call that 'bottled it'

Reckon she's too chicken shit to have a meet with you dude!

Move on to a real woman!

Aiiiiii Dudette

I know I’m not the first or last who will experience this and it does go on. Which is super unfortunate.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

Sounds like she is a bit high maintenance.

OK you were late but not massively.

Think you had a lucky escape.

Even with no message of running late we would always give someone at least 15mins grace.

We are the type who always turns up half hour early for everything so can't understand why anyone is late tho.

Jolly bad form.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"I'd call that 'bottled it'

Reckon she's too chicken shit to have a meet with you dude!

Move on to a real woman!

Best and most applicable answer on this thread

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By *av.x.69 OP Man
over a year ago

Callington/Liskeard

Many thanks to everyone who responded.

I’m happy to close off this thread and truly appreciate your comments.

Cheers and be safe xxx

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

5 mins is a bit ridiculous. I got lost meeting someone at cupids once. I think I was 20 mins late in the end. I did stay in touch with them mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi All,

Impromptu first meet was organised for 8pm. She suggested a pub to meet at.

Before leaving, I messaged her saying I’m on my way, and gave rough location where I was leaving from.

I parked the car in the pub car park and ordered my drink at the bar at 8:05pm.

When logged into this site to send her the message saying I’ve arrived, I saw her No Show message and that she had already left the pub.

Question is, does this constitute a no show?

Thanks

PS. Genuinely trying to rationalise the outcome. Don’t think there’s a right or wrong answer to this. Just trying to get the majority view. "
If she thought you were hot enough she would have waited longer, you had a lucky escape

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It seems like the shortest possible wait. I would have messaged to say I was late though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’d allow 15 minutes if she was a hottie, 2 seconds if not.

Looks like that’s the question you need to ask yourself, OP

Just anylasing this comment, you’d arrange to meet women from both ends of the spectrum? But you would only hang around if she was a “hottie” as you call her and 2 seconds if not?

You would arrange to meet women who are both hot and not? .......... but would only wait around for the hottie?

Nope, I’m trying my best to understand this comment of yours but I just can’t, could you explain if for me please?

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By *unloversCouple
over a year ago

rotherham

Just put it down to one of the timewasters on here and move on luv

Xxxx

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

I believe she is fake in my opinion.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

It sound's like if she did actually turn up she wasn't that excited to meet you,because if she was she'd wait a bit longer than 5 minute's surely,especially if you'd messaged her.

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By *av.x.69 OP Man
over a year ago

Callington/Liskeard

"I’d allow 15 minutes if she was a hottie, 2 seconds if not.

Looks like that’s the question you need to ask yourself, OP

Just anylasing this comment, you’d arrange to meet women from both ends of the spectrum? But you would only hang around if she was a “hottie” as you call her and 2 seconds if not?

You would arrange to meet women who are both hot and not? .......... but would only wait around for the hottie?

Nope, I’m trying my best to understand this comment of yours but I just can’t, could you explain if for me please?"

@Will. The guy is saying I’m probably ugly as sin and hence she didn’t hang around after agreeing to meet.

Just for the record as I’d like to be fair.

She has veris, so she’s real unless all veris are fake. We did exchange face pics before hand.

All I can say is, more likely, she had zero intentions of meeting, it was just some sick run-around for me so she could get her stupid kicks, and to get sympathy vote by sticking “no show/time waster”status on her profile.

Or she was genuinely there (which I don’t believe) and left promptly, cold feet etc etc.

Anyway, many thanks for everyone’s contributions. Happy Fabbing to you sexy peeps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure why the situation leads people to think she was a fake or didn’t show? I’m not a meet vet by any means, but how would the person have know he was late had they not been in the vacinity and waiting? May have got there early and thus been waiting

OP:

i) had you swapped contact details prior to the meet?

ii) had you agreed on a specific location within, or outside, the venue to meet?

iii) what did the no show message say? (Without revealing the identity of the sender)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’d allow 15 minutes if she was a hottie, 2 seconds if not.

Looks like that’s the question you need to ask yourself, OP

Just anylasing this comment, you’d arrange to meet women from both ends of the spectrum? But you would only hang around if she was a “hottie” as you call her and 2 seconds if not?

You would arrange to meet women who are both hot and not? .......... but would only wait around for the hottie?

Nope, I’m trying my best to understand this comment of yours but I just can’t, could you explain if for me please?

@Will. The guy is saying I’m probably ugly as sin and hence she didn’t hang around after agreeing to meet.

Just for the record as I’d like to be fair.

She has veris, so she’s real unless all veris are fake. We did exchange face pics before hand.

Or she was genuinely there (which I don’t believe) and left promptly, cold feet etc etc.

Anyway, many thanks for everyone’s contributions. Happy Fabbing to you sexy peeps. "

Just because someone doesn't fancy you, doesn't mean you're ugly as sin. I don't fancy Tom Hardy or George Clooney. They're not ugly.

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

Seems rather harsh 5 minutes, if she's in that much of a rush your meet would have been over in a flash anyway

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