FabSwingers.com forum: What am I doing wrong???

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Been on here for 2 months. Must've sent about 200 + messages, always polite or slightly witty, but never crude. Fabbed hundreds of pics of women. Yet barely had any responses, and those i have received have been "No thanks!" "Not for me", etc.

So how am I going to meet someone if I can't even get a message here?

What am I doing wrong?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

No response, what a surprise!

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

"No response, what a surprise! "

At 3.17am? What a surprise!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The opener of your profile admits your situation is complicated. Could be that. I could be wrong. Good luck though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Main issues so far seem to be my hair length and my situation. From what I've noticed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe its the name?

Dominant would maybe appeal to those into that sort of kink. Warrior just makes it sound like you wanna fight everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same here mate, my picture isnt a horrid pne but i think my profile could do with a sprucing

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Dominant is in the username as I am dominant in sex and into bdsm. Warrior just sounded cool and I thought maybe the idea of a dominant warrior would be an attraction to the ladies. Perhaps not?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Same here mate, my picture isnt a horrid pne but i think my profile could do with a sprucing"

Well, I may not be an oil painting but I'm not Quasimodo either, yet not one girl has fabbed any of my pics in 2 months?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Paragraphs 3 and 9 say pretty much the same thing, with different words, 9 having the addition of you being in a relationship.

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

It may be the fact that you are attached, the fact you cannot accommodate or travel, you have a fierce name, or you want ladies near to a place most people won't have heard of.

I also wonder if you have managed to read 300 ladies profiles, thought if you are who they seem to be looking for, selected the most appropriate and then written 20o personalised letters. Or maybe you cut and paste a generic message.. Perhaps a better option would be less messages, but prtsonal.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It may be the fact that you are attached, the fact you cannot accommodate or travel, you have a fierce name, or you want ladies near to a place most people won't have heard of.

I never do generic messages and I never copy and paste. That's what's frustrating, having sent 200+ messages that are personalised, that are intelligent, that are detailed etc.

Plus, I always read women's profiles thoroughly.

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

Just how many people did you expect to answer at this time of the day? Come on, be realistic!

To answer your query, you have only been on here by a couple of months. That makes you a mere beginner!

You are competing against so many other guys all seeking the same!

You have to stand out especially with your profile. In parts, it is negative so get rid of those sections.

You don't accommodate but don't say why; that makes people suspicious. You need a clear facial pic.

Get to clubs and Socials plus involve yourself in the Forums. It's all about getting noticed plus having Patience, and even more Patience.

This isn't an Instant Shag site. It could take months to get anywhere.

Good Luck.

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

"Just how many people did you expect to answer at this time of the day? Come on, be realistic!

To answer your query, you have only been on here by a couple of months. That makes you a mere beginner!

You are competing against so many other guys all seeking the same!

You have to stand out especially with your profile. In parts, it is negative so get rid of those sections.

You don't accommodate but don't say why; that makes people suspicious. You need a clear facial pic.

Get to clubs and Socials plus involve yourself in the Forums. It's all about getting noticed plus having Patience, and even more Patience.

This isn't an Instant Shag site. It could take months to get anywhere.

Good Luck."

He cannot accommodate cos he has a partner and doesn't get enough sex at home. It says near the bottom of his profile

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just how many people did you expect to answer at this time of the day? Come on, be realistic!

To answer your query, you have only been on here by a couple of months. That makes you a mere beginner!

You are competing against so many other guys all seeking the same!

You have to stand out especially with your profile. In parts, it is negative so get rid of those sections.

You don't accommodate but don't say why; that makes people suspicious. You need a clear facial pic.

Get to clubs and Socials plus involve yourself in the Forums. It's all about getting noticed plus having Patience, and even more Patience.

This isn't an Instant Shag site. It could take months to get anywhere.

Good Luck."

Which parts of my profile would you say are negative?

Also I realise it's not an instant shag site. But I'd hoped for some sort of response or possible meet after 2 months.

I often send a face pic to women in my messages, but I choose not to have one on my profile.

I'm starting to think that it's just that most women don't like long haired guys.

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

"Just how many people did you expect to answer at this time of the day? Come on, be realistic!

To answer your query, you have only been on here by a couple of months. That makes you a mere beginner!

You are competing against so many other guys all seeking the same!

You have to stand out especially with your profile. In parts, it is negative so get rid of those sections.

You don't accommodate but don't say why; that makes people suspicious. You need a clear facial pic.

Get to clubs and Socials plus involve yourself in the Forums. It's all about getting noticed plus having Patience, and even more Patience.

This isn't an Instant Shag site. It could take months to get anywhere.

Good Luck.

He cannot accommodate cos he has a partner and doesn't get enough sex at home. It says near the bottom of his profile

That last point could be interpreted in another way; he might be in a relationship but living apart from a partner. It needs clarification.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Changed that on my profile.

Also changed my location to Wigan rather than the village of Shevington that's in Wigan.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes it works out that you just can’t win. As Gen pointed out it takes time. You might not ever get that message back that says yes. No point in crying over spilt milk though. Either crack on or don’t.

Where this site is concerned it’s simply a case of right person, right time. I found the unlikeliest match and I definitely wasn’t looking.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sometimes it works out that you just can’t win. As Gen pointed out it takes time. You might not ever get that message back that says yes. No point in crying over spilt milk though. Either crack on or don’t.

Where this site is concerned it’s simply a case of right person, right time. I found the unlikeliest match and I definitely wasn’t looking. "

I appreciate your point and I'm definitely going to persevere. But sometimes I feel like I'm invisible here, especially when I don't get any friend requests, fabbed pics, messages that I haven't initiated, etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh my fucking god you look like jim slip

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Oh my fucking god you look like jim slip

Who?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Genguy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Where this site is concerned it’s simply a case of right person, right time. I found the unlikeliest match and I definitely wasn’t looking.

Suck it up buttercup. It may sound mean but it’s the best way. I’m not going to tell you it’s ‘their loss’ etc. Deal with the radio silence and persevere but don’t whinge. When we send a message it’s the fab equivalent of junk mail. I definitely don’t send a reply to every leaflet that comes through my door. Do you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Number one you're married and would be cheating a lot of women don't go there,showing your personality is good but showing negative thoughts isn't good either as for why no success ,their are many men and few women you're in the mix with lots of competition,I've learnt not to worry too much if you get replies eventually they come and you meet and you get verified etc good luck

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

"Just how many people did you expect to answer at this time of the day? Come on, be realistic!

To answer your query, you have only been on here by a couple of months. That makes you a mere beginner!

You are competing against so many other guys all seeking the same!

You have to stand out especially with your profile. In parts, it is negative so get rid of those sections.

You don't accommodate but don't say why; that makes people suspicious. You need a clear facial pic.

Get to clubs and Socials plus involve yourself in the Forums. It's all about getting noticed plus having Patience, and even more Patience.

This isn't an Instant Shag site. It could take months to get anywhere.

Good Luck.

Which parts of my profile would you say are negative?

Also I realise it's not an instant shag site. But I'd hoped for some sort of response or possible meet after 2 months.

I often send a face pic to women in my messages, but I choose not to have one on my profile.

I'm starting to think that it's just that most women don't like long haired guys. "

You seem to have a fixation about having long hair. Whether you have short, long or no hair is a matter of preference for others, so let them decide.

You negative aspects are your frustration in females who won't meet unless you are Meet verified, under a certain age etc etc.

That is their preference and you cannot change that. It is part and parcel of this site and similar others.

Yes, you have been on for only 2 months; yes, you may have sent out 100's of messages & had little or no response. But look at other similar messages in the Forum search pages and they all say the same.

Sorry to say it, but two months is nothing!

Be Patient, it will work.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Number one you're married and would be cheating a lot of women don't go there,showing your personality is good but showing negative thoughts isn't good either as for why no success ,their are many men and few women you're in the mix with lots of competition,I've learnt not to worry too much if you get replies eventually they come and you meet and you get verified etc good luck

I'm not married. But I see your point.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just how many people did you expect to answer at this time of the day? Come on, be realistic!

To answer your query, you have only been on here by a couple of months. That makes you a mere beginner!

You are competing against so many other guys all seeking the same!

You have to stand out especially with your profile. In parts, it is negative so get rid of those sections.

You don't accommodate but don't say why; that makes people suspicious. You need a clear facial pic.

Get to clubs and Socials plus involve yourself in the Forums. It's all about getting noticed plus having Patience, and even more Patience.

This isn't an Instant Shag site. It could take months to get anywhere.

Good Luck.

Which parts of my profile would you say are negative?

Also I realise it's not an instant shag site. But I'd hoped for some sort of response or possible meet after 2 months.

I often send a face pic to women in my messages, but I choose not to have one on my profile.

I'm starting to think that it's just that most women don't like long haired guys.

You seem to have a fixation about having long hair. Whether you have short, long or no hair is a matter of preference for others, so let them decide.

You negative aspects are your frustration in females who won't meet unless you are Meet verified, under a certain age etc etc.

That is their preference and you cannot change that. It is part and parcel of this site and similar others.

Sorry to say it, but two months is nothing!

Be Patient, it will work.

Mostly fair points. And the hair issue is just because any time I've received a NO and asked why it's a no they say, my hair.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not married. But I see your point."
anyone not everyone is bothered about that aspect but try and read the profiles a lot say in their write ups no cheaters

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I know that. And I do read the profiles and I avoid the ones who say they're not into attached guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile as others have said sounds negative.

One thing i picked up on is you're not portraying yourself as desirable.

Do you think a woman wants to see someone who hasn't had sex in two years. Especially when you have a partner.

Woman want to find someone exciting, not dull.

Goodluck anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your profile as others have said sounds negative.

One thing i picked up on is you're not portraying yourself as desirable.

Do you think a woman wants to see someone who hasn't had sex in two years. Especially when you have a partner.

Woman want to find someone exciting, not dull.

Goodluck anyway."
don Juan yes I get that

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Your profile as others have said sounds negative.

One thing i picked up on is you're not portraying yourself as desirable.

Do you think a woman wants to see someone who hasn't had sex in two years. Especially when you have a partner.

I was trying the honesty approach, but I can easily omit that. However if it then comes up in conversation in a message that's worse than them knowing the situation right off the mark, surely?

Woman want to find someone exciting, not dull.

Goodluck anyway."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Your profile as others have said sounds negative.

One thing i picked up on is you're not portraying yourself as desirable.

Do you think a woman wants to see someone who hasn't had sex in two years. Especially when you have a partner.

I was trying the honesty approach, but I can easily omit that. However if it then comes up in conversation in a message that's worse than them knowing the situation right off the mark, surely?

Woman want to find someone exciting, not dull.

Goodluck anyway."

And I'm far from dull, it's just that my partner seems to have given up on sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you appeal to a smaller group of women OP. Not everyone likes very long hair on a male, just like some may not like shaved. Given that you have also admitted to being in a relationship, that will put many off. I would suggest you keep the attached part (honesty being the best policy and all that), but I don't think we need to know you have a dull sex life. I feel that is too much information. Airing your personal laundry like that, could be slight overkill. You don't need to go into detail, other than to say you're attached. Good luck OP

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By *eviantdeliteWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham

Maybe the reason why your wife won’t sleep with you is the same as you reaso. Why you don’t get replies on here....your attitude....an expectation of sex....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Talk to your partner get her involved and watch the inbox flood with replies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It seems to us that you expect by putting some ‘effort’ into an internet message you are going to have sex with a woman you are attracted to?

This is predominantly a swinging site, not a dating site.

Not all women are attracted you, even if you are attracted to them.

Two months is not a long time, this is not tinder.

If you want to be into swinging go to socials and clubs.

You also don’t need to ask why people have turned you down, accept they are not interested in you.

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By *icky-discoMan
over a year ago

oxford

Short answer signing up on here

Long answer signing up on here mate

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"Just how many people did you expect to answer at this time of the day? Come on, be realistic!

To answer your query, you have only been on here by a couple of months. That makes you a mere beginner!

You are competing against so many other guys all seeking the same!

You have to stand out especially with your profile. In parts, it is negative so get rid of those sections.

You don't accommodate but don't say why; that makes people suspicious. You need a clear facial pic.

Get to clubs and Socials plus involve yourself in the Forums. It's all about getting noticed plus having Patience, and even more Patience.

This isn't an Instant Shag site. It could take months to get anywhere.

Good Luck.

Which parts of my profile would you say are negative?

Also I realise it's not an instant shag site. But I'd hoped for some sort of response or possible meet after 2 months.

I often send a face pic to women in my messages, but I choose not to have one on my profile.

I'm starting to think that it's just that most women don't like long haired guys.

You seem to have a fixation about having long hair. Whether you have short, long or no hair is a matter of preference for others, so let them decide.

You negative aspects are your frustration in females who won't meet unless you are Meet verified, under a certain age etc etc.

That is their preference and you cannot change that. It is part and parcel of this site and similar others.

Sorry to say it, but two months is nothing!

Be Patient, it will work.

Mostly fair points. And the hair issue is just because any time I've received a NO and asked why it's a no they say, my hair."

Cut it then. You’ll be beating them pesky women off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe ladies are being kind by saying your hair is an issue rather than anything else.

There is no magic formula. You want women to meet you. So there is no point in changing you to suit what they want to meet. And be very patient.

I have still yet to actually meet anyone but chat to some amazing friends, purely from interaction in the forums.

Take the pressure off yourself by forgetting about meeting. It will happen when it is meant to happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take out the stuff about your hair (or at least trim it down pahaha!) also id take out the stuff about you and your partner because it basically sounds like you are after an affair to be honest and while some women may like it. Others might not, of course be honest about your situation because it clears anything up from the word go but don’t be sooo honest.

Also change your name to something that doesn’t sound like you want to jump into battle and not a bed.

Good luck,

Geeky x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You found 200 women attractive in 2 months. Blimey that's some serious searching.

Chill and enjoy looking and reading and finding the ladies most likely to reply.

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By *inkyman1964Man
over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent

"Dominant is in the username as I am dominant in sex and into bdsm. Warrior just sounded cool and I thought maybe the idea of a dominant warrior would be an attraction to the ladies. Perhaps not? "

Maybe this is the wrong website if you are into BDSM?

Maybe try one that is more about the FETish LIFEstyle.

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By *adja_lazloCouple
over a year ago

Solihull

'I am in a dull relationship' yet you say you have so much to offer strangers on here, that would be our first and main no no

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Maybe the reason why your wife won’t sleep with you is the same as you reaso. Why you don’t get replies on here....your attitude....an expectation of sex...."

No, she's just gone off sex, mostly for psychological reasons. It's a long story as to how we ended up in the current predicament, so I won't bore you with that. And she's not my wife.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Dominant is in the username as I am dominant in sex and into bdsm. Warrior just sounded cool and I thought maybe the idea of a dominant warrior would be an attraction to the ladies. Perhaps not?

Maybe this is the wrong website if you are into BDSM?

Maybe try one that is more about the FETish LIFEstyle. "

I have, I tried Fet etc and get a lack of response there too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Take out the stuff about your hair (or at least trim it down pahaha!) also id take out the stuff about you and your partner because it basically sounds like you are after an affair to be honest and while some women may like it. Others might not, of course be honest about your situation because it clears anything up from the word go but don’t be sooo honest.

Also change your name to something that doesn’t sound like you want to jump into battle and not a bed.

Good luck,

Geeky x"

Points taken, I'll change some of my profile. Though it won't let me change my name unless I pay to be a site supporter.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"'I am in a dull relationship' yet you say you have so much to offer strangers on here, that would be our first and main no no"

Maybe my wording is wrong there, as it's not the relationship that's become dull, it's her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Main issues so far seem to be my hair length and my situation. From what I've noticed."

You can't change that. They don't want to meet you. There is no magic answer. No matter how nice your messages, if people don't want to meet you they won't.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Talk to your partner get her involved and watch the inbox flood with replies

I wish she was more into the stuff I am sexually so that we could share things like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"'I am in a dull relationship' yet you say you have so much to offer strangers on here, that would be our first and main no no

Maybe my wording is wrong there, as it's not the relationship that's become dull, it's her."

You poor man. She's so dull. Get rid of her and find someone exciting.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think you appeal to a smaller group of women OP. Not everyone likes very long hair on a male, just like some may not like shaved. Given that you have also admitted to being in a relationship, that will put many off. I would suggest you keep the attached part (honesty being the best policy and all that), but I don't think we need to know you have a dull sex life. I feel that is too much information. Airing your personal laundry like that, could be slight overkill. You don't need to go into detail, other than to say you're attached. Good luck OP

Okay, I'll take that on board.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP the reality is that women you've messaged don't want to meet you for one reason or another. Perhaps because you are attached and cheating, perhaps because of your long hair, perhaps they don't like the look of your face/body, perhaps they only like black guys/redheads etc. We can't all be everyone's cup of tea and women aren't obliged to shag you just because they are on a swingers site.

You may find chatting up women in real life easier at a club or organised social event where you can connect in person rather than via your profile.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"'I am in a dull relationship' yet you say you have so much to offer strangers on here, that would be our first and main no no

Maybe my wording is wrong there, as it's not the relationship that's become dull, it's her.

You poor man. She's so dull. Get rid of her and find someone exciting."

Maybe that will happen if things don't change.

But not so easy after 6 and a half years.

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

One obvious answer to your question is.....sending 200 messages in two months

Guys need patience on here - that suggests you’re messaging pretty much anyone you think you might be attracted to.

Far better to take your time and wait for that very occasional moment when you really think you fit the bill and there’s something about that profile that makes you sense a real possibility.

Blokes wait months and months on here.

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By *aughtycouple1008Couple
over a year ago

west london

"Been on here for 2 months. Must've sent about 200 + messages, always polite or slightly witty, but never crude. Fabbed hundreds of pics of women. Yet barely had any responses, and those i have received have been "No thanks!" "Not for me", etc.

So how am I going to meet someone if I can't even get a message here?

What am I doing wrong?"

The ratio of women to men is enormous. ... you may be waiting years on here before a meet i kid you not.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I'm not married. But I see your point."

I think you being in a relationship may put women off but you are being honest about it.

What stood out for me was you are looking for 1 or 2 local women! That’s not going to make a woman feel special! Yes I know it’s not a ‘dating’ site as such. If I was looking which I’m not then I would not want to be 1 of 2. Not judging just giving my humble opinion for what it’s worth.

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By *ed wineMan
over a year ago

Where the streets have no name

So how am I going to meet someone if I can't even get a message here?

What am I doing wrong?"

Creating unrealistic expectations about this site and its possibilities.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OP the reality is that women you've messaged don't want to meet you for one reason or another. Perhaps because you are attached and cheating, perhaps because of your long hair, perhaps they don't like the look of your face/body, perhaps they only like black guys/redheads etc. We can't all be everyone's cup of tea and women aren't obliged to shag you just because they are on a swingers site.

You may find chatting up women in real life easier at a club or organised social event where you can connect in person rather than via your profile."

That's probably true but I'm not really able to do things like that due to my situation.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Okay I'll take that into account.

I'm not married. But I see your point.

I think you being in a relationship may put women off but you are being honest about it.

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By *art123Man
over a year ago

Stoke

So how am I going to meet someone if I can't even get a message here?

What am I doing wrong?"

It’s the way it is on Fab bud.. I’ve (and probably 1000s of others) have asked the same question, it’s a numbers game. The only thing you can do is accept it. There is no such thing as the ‘perfect’ profile sadly.

A lot of guys join fab thinking it’ll be easy to hook up or have fun with a female on a sexually based site but if anything it’s harder.

Finally, these forums aren’t exactly consoling to a single guy not having much luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't be put off by the long hair.

I do stay away from fabbers who are attached. But that's me. I know there are many fabbers who don't have a problem with that.

Don't give up. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"'I am in a dull relationship' yet you say you have so much to offer strangers on here, that would be our first and main no no

Maybe my wording is wrong there, as it's not the relationship that's become dull, it's her."

And that there would be the clincher for me. I have zero interest in meeting with disrespectful men who claim their partners are dull and would willingly cheat on them rather than man up and face the issues in their relationship.

Man up and accept people don't find you or your situation attractive. Like others have said two months is nothing, fabbing photos and friends requests mean nothing on here other than to those who seek attention.

Whinging on the forum is only digging you a bigger hole!

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By *inkyman1964Man
over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent

"Dominant is in the username as I am dominant in sex and into bdsm. Warrior just sounded cool and I thought maybe the idea of a dominant warrior would be an attraction to the ladies. Perhaps not?

Maybe this is the wrong website if you are into BDSM?

Maybe try one that is more about the FETish LIFEstyle.

I have, I tried Fet etc and get a lack of response there too. "

Maybe you need to distinguish between the Fetish side of your life and the Swinging side. It is more difficult to find someone to share both aspects.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"'I am in a dull relationship' yet you say you have so much to offer strangers on here, that would be our first and main no no

Maybe my wording is wrong there, as it's not the relationship that's become dull, it's her."

I wonder what she thinks about you, it might she thinks you are dull

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Use the tools available to you:

Make sure they're online.

Use the hotlist otherwise. Message them when you're ready.

Make private notes.

Read their status and gauge their mood.

Go to socials

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"'I am in a dull relationship' yet you say you have so much to offer strangers on here, that would be our first and main no no

Maybe my wording is wrong there, as it's not the relationship that's become dull, it's her.

You poor man. She's so dull. Get rid of her and find someone exciting.

Maybe that will happen if things don't change.

But not so easy after 6 and a half years."

How will you feel 4 years from now still with no sex and the relationship the same? Are you friends in every other way or just staying together because it's harder to split? Is the other stuff good? Would it be financially impossible to move out so you're really just flatmates? Don't answer these questions on here, it's personal. Just something to think about.

Fact is, men are unlikely to meet on here. Some will but most won't. It makes them feel shit and unwanted as you've already found out. You're rejected by your partner but now also rejected by 200+ women. It's difficult not to take it personally. You're trying to find reasons why people don't want you (long hair, attached) and that's fucking soul destroying.

I'd find a way to have amazing wanks and be happy that way. Good luck. x

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

In all honesty OP, I think you've done yourself more harm than good with this thread (certainly when it comes to chances of meeting any regular forumites) - you've been given some very good advice, most of which in one way or another you've come back with points to excuse yourself.

You've described your relationship and your partner as "dull", you say you're only looking for people locally and have sent 200 messages in 2 months to people you're interested in (suggesting anyone will do), you have an interest in BDSM which will not appeal to all, your username is not the best etc etc.

And you wonder if it's the length of your hair going against you?!

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By *eviantdeliteWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham

So how am I going to meet someone if I can't even get a message here?

What am I doing wrong?

Creating unrealistic expectations about this site and its possibilities. "

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By *eviantdeliteWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"In all honesty OP, I think you've done yourself more harm than good with this thread (certainly when it comes to chances of meeting any regular forumites) - you've been given some very good advice, most of which in one way or another you've come back with points to excuse yourself.

And you wonder if it's the length of your hair going against you?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And you wonder if it's the length of your hair going against you?!

To be fair to the guy, 200 messages isn't that many. There's 317,000 people in Wigan.

Sure they aren't all on Fab but still...

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By *r and mrs sanddancerCouple
over a year ago

BOLDON COLLIERY

Also change your name to something that doesn’t sound like you want to jump into battle and not a bed.

Good luck,

Geeky x

Points taken, I'll change some of my profile. Though it won't let me change my name unless I pay to be a site supporter."

as you have no veries and you have only been on here 2 mths to save money get a new profile and change the wording at the same time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"'I am in a dull relationship' yet you say you have so much to offer strangers on here, that would be our first and main no no

Maybe my wording is wrong there, as it's not the relationship that's become dull, it's her."

She's dull? Hmmm surely that's a 2 way thing too? I mean if I'm dull the person I'm with is not bringing out the best of me as a person.

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By *eviantdeliteWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"'I am in a dull relationship' yet you say you have so much to offer strangers on here, that would be our first and main no no

Maybe my wording is wrong there, as it's not the relationship that's become dull, it's her.

She's dull? Hmmm surely that's a 2 way thing too? I mean if I'm dull the person I'm with is not bringing out the best of me as a person.

"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Points taken, I'll change some of my profile. Though it won't let me change my name unless I pay to be a site supporter."

That puts people off, we prefer people who are verified and a contributer

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

OP, its been said already and I would agree it's because you're attached, regardless of your situation at home, many people won't get involved with you, but good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"'I am in a dull relationship' yet you say you have so much to offer strangers on here, that would be our first and main no no

Maybe my wording is wrong there, as it's not the relationship that's become dull, it's her.

You poor man. She's so dull. Get rid of her and find someone exciting.

Maybe that will happen if things don't change.

But not so easy after 6 and a half years.

I'd find a way to have amazing wanks and be happy that way. Good luck. x"

You’re so right-sadly my right hand got bored of my dick and my left hand isn’t my type

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By *icky-discoMan
over a year ago

oxford

He won’t listen they never do

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"He won’t listen they never do

I'm definitely listening and taking points on board.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesnt bode well when you read your first two posts on this thread, you come across as impatient, that mixed with having dominant in your user name, and being attached is a red flag for most women I would say

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

Op tbh get yourself to swinging clubs there is more chance of meeting people there

I would say I have given up messaging people out of the blue on here as unless they live in London or Manchester it is unlikely I will meet

That is not to say I won’t but requires more organisation.

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth

"He won’t listen they never do

I'm definitely listening and taking points on board. "

But by the look of things not actually doing anything about them

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By *eedsmale36Man
over a year ago

Leeds

So how am I going to meet someone if I can't even get a message here?

What am I doing wrong?"

Get used to it pal, I’m a Brad Pitt lookalike with a 9” cock and sometimes I only get 3-4 meets a week.

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan
over a year ago

Older Hot Bearded Guy

I can empathise with you to a point, but, two months isn't that long.

The fact of the matter is, there's just a hell of a lot of men on this site.

You might be better off buying a fleshlight to keep you going.

It may well take another six months or more, before you get to meet someone off here.

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By *eepster1Man
over a year ago

birmingham

I have been on here 2 years apart from guys wanting me ladys no interest l just look at the pics

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"No response, what a surprise! "

Sorry i'd just finished at the local gangbang and was heading over to the dogging park for extras.....

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By *otlovefun42Couple
over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...

So how am I going to meet someone if I can't even get a message here?

What am I doing wrong?"

A single guy coming on a site like this and expecting to get some response after only a couple of months is what you are doing wrong.

FAB and all the other sites like it are not a magic tool to get meets. They are just another tool in your box and have to be used alongside all the others. Go to clubs when you can, try to get to some socials locally. Bottom line is get yourself known.

If because of your circumstances you are unable to do that, added to your can't accomodate and can't travel, you are probably going to find it very difficult on here.

As an aside. How did you find 200+ women that that can accomodate, are within walking distance or a short bus trip away from you, and happy to play with attached guys? That in itself must be a minor miracle.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"'I am in a dull relationship' yet you say you have so much to offer strangers on here, that would be our first and main no no

Maybe my wording is wrong there, as it's not the relationship that's become dull, it's her."

Oof ..... and then I no longer felt like helping

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

What sort of warrior are you?

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"'I am in a dull relationship' yet you say you have so much to offer strangers on here, that would be our first and main no no

Maybe my wording is wrong there, as it's not the relationship that's become dull, it's her."

You've completely destroyed most chances of meeting anyone who frequents the forums with this thread and this comment in particular.

You come across as sulky, selfish, bratty and arrogant. Maybe the problem is your attitude, not your hair.

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By *oxesMan
over a year ago

Southend, Essex

"It may be the fact that you are attached, the fact you cannot accommodate or travel, you have a fierce name, or you want ladies near to a place most people won't have heard of.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"'I am in a dull relationship' yet you say you have so much to offer strangers on here, that would be our first and main no no

Maybe my wording is wrong there, as it's not the relationship that's become dull, it's her.

You've completely destroyed most chances of meeting anyone who frequents the forums with this thread and this comment in particular.

You come across as sulky, selfish, bratty and arrogant. Maybe the problem is your attitude, not your hair."

And that kind of attitude is not what a woman looks for in a dominant

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"'I am in a dull relationship' yet you say you have so much to offer strangers on here, that would be our first and main no no

Maybe my wording is wrong there, as it's not the relationship that's become dull, it's her.

You've completely destroyed most chances of meeting anyone who frequents the forums with this thread and this comment in particular.

You come across as sulky, selfish, bratty and arrogant. Maybe the problem is your attitude, not your hair.

And that kind of attitude is not what a woman looks for in a dominant "

Nobody is looking for that attitude in anyone, especially not a dominant

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"As an aside. How did you find 200+ women that that can accomodate, are within walking distance or a short bus trip away from you, and happy to play with attached guys? That in itself must be a minor miracle."

^^Exactly, it doesn't sound as if you are very selective, I can never find 2 guys I'm interested in messaging never mind 200

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

^^Exactly, it doesn't sound as if you are very selective, I can never find 2 guys I'm interested in messaging never mind 200

Me too foxy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Complaining.

No one likes a moaner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"'I am in a dull relationship' yet you say you have so much to offer strangers on here, that would be our first and main no no

Maybe my wording is wrong there, as it's not the relationship that's become dull, it's her.

You poor man. She's so dull. Get rid of her and find someone exciting."

I was feeling sympathetic till about now

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