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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is it because some spoil it for all or because of bad experiences

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

There's always an ebb and flow with meets. The challenge is to keep Upping your game, so that you are optimising your success. Happy Christmas

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

I think the number of arranged meets will drop over the next few days and then pick up just before and after New Year

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"I think the number of arranged meets will drop over the next few days and then pick up just before and after New Year"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It used to be a lifestyle where there was a sense of community. Now its just a pickup website for dabblers and dreamers.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

There is only so much you can do with writing on here and putting up piks it seems to me it's getting harder and harder for single guys to meet with women/couples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it because some spoil it for all or because of bad experiences "
no its diminishing numbers the odds are getting greater also many need to go to Specsavers who incidentally have some great deals on at the minute

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

possibly cos most folk meet in real life,,you know in a bar a night club

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Personally I find it's because the site has become saturated with men who think it is just a quick sex hook up site, and come here with no respect for the women on here, hence why I haven't had sex since March.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I find it's because the site has become saturated with men who think it is just a quick sex hook up site, and come here with no respect for the women on here, hence why I haven't had sex since March. "

Since march...wow that's rookie abstinence

You should read 'some' of the female profiles. Two words to articulate them - narcissistic divas.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It used to be a lifestyle where there was a sense of community. Now its just a pickup website for dabblers and dreamers."

And people don't seem to have any manners either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it because some spoil it for all or because of bad experiences "

Yes.

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By *ilent.KnightMan
over a year ago

Swindon

I’m finding it easier ... I must be stealing them all. Sorry. Here’s hoping I find love next year and leave the rest to you guys !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I find it's because the site has become saturated with men who think it is just a quick sex hook up site, and come here with no respect for the women on here, hence why I haven't had sex since March. "

yea but its a sex site,,so its to be expected,,kind of obvious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I find it's because the site has become saturated with men who think it is just a quick sex hook up site, and come here with no respect for the women on here, hence why I haven't had sex since March. "
march oh my can I please meet you for a Starbucks

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"Personally I find it's because the site has become saturated with men who think it is just a quick sex hook up site, and come here with no respect for the women on here, hence why I haven't had sex since March.

Since march...wow that's rookie abstinence

You should read 'some' of the female profiles. Two words to articulate them - narcissistic divas. "

They still get meets though don't they! Why is that? Coz 'most' men are only interested in getting their dick wet and they don't care who with

The fact that I do care who I meet, is my hindrance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because a lot of men on here are selfish and disrespectful

So not only does it make it hard for the genuine nice guys, it makes it hard for us as well as we'd rather not bother than have to try and figure out if a guy is dick via messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*a guy is a dick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I find it's because the site has become saturated with men who think it is just a quick sex hook up site, and come here with no respect for the women on here, hence why I haven't had sex since March.

Since march...wow that's rookie abstinence

You should read 'some' of the female profiles. Two words to articulate them - narcissistic divas.

They still get meets though don't they! Why is that? Coz 'most' men are only interested in getting their dick wet and they don't care who with

The fact that I do care who I meet, is my hindrance "
I suggested Starbucks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I find it's because the site has become saturated with men who think it is just a quick sex hook up site, and come here with no respect for the women on here, hence why I haven't had sex since March.

yea but its a sex site,,so its to be expected,,kind of obvious"

You think it's ok for men to have no respect for women?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

people ,,that's men and women are on here foe SEX,,ITS A SEX SITE

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Not all men r the same and some actually know how to treat a woman I no it must b hard to trust people when there are nobheads out there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I find it's because the site has become saturated with men who think it is just a quick sex hook up site, and come here with no respect for the women on here, hence why I haven't had sex since March.

yea but its a sex site,,so its to be expected,,kind of obvious

You think it's ok for men to have no respect for women? "

Where did I say that?,,did I mention some women have no respect for men,,did I mention some have no respect for themselves,,no ,,I never mentioned that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I find it's because the site has become saturated with men who think it is just a quick sex hook up site, and come here with no respect for the women on here, hence why I haven't had sex since March.

Since march...wow that's rookie abstinence

You should read 'some' of the female profiles. Two words to articulate them - narcissistic divas.

They still get meets though don't they! Why is that? Coz 'most' men are only interested in getting their dick wet and they don't care who with

The fact that I do care who I meet, is my hindrance "

There's no justice in the world, the fact some guys will sacrifice their dignity and self respect for getting their dick wet does nothing to articulate what is socially acceptable behaviour for BOTH sexes.

The fact that you don't sacrifice yours is not so much of a hindrance, but more of a virtue x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not all men r the same and some actually know how to treat a woman I no it must b hard to trust people when there are nobheads out there"

It must be annoying to be a nice guy and just get turned down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I find it's because the site has become saturated with men who think it is just a quick sex hook up site, and come here with no respect for the women on here, hence why I haven't had sex since March.

yea but its a sex site,,so its to be expected,,kind of obvious

You think it's ok for men to have no respect for women?

I'm with mikki on this.

Where did I say that?,,did I mention some women have no respect for men,,did I mention some have no respect for themselves,,no ,,I never mentioned that "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not all men r the same and some actually know how to treat a woman I no it must b hard to trust people when there are nobheads out there

It must be annoying to be a nice guy and just get turned down. "

You have no idea of the despondency

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I find it's because the site has become saturated with men who think it is just a quick sex hook up site, and come here with no respect for the women on here, hence why I haven't had sex since March.

yea but its a sex site,,so its to be expected,,kind of obvious

You think it's ok for men to have no respect for women?

I'm with mikki on this.

Where did I say that?,,did I mention some women have no respect for men,,did I mention some have no respect for themselves,,no ,,I never mentioned that "

You think it's ok for people to have no respect for others?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

People should treat others as they want to be treated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I find it's because the site has become saturated with men who think it is just a quick sex hook up site, and come here with no respect for the women on here, hence why I haven't had sex since March.

yea but its a sex site,,so its to be expected,,kind of obvious

You think it's ok for men to have no respect for women?

I'm with mikki on this.

Where did I say that?,,did I mention some women have no respect for men,,did I mention some have no respect for themselves,,no ,,I never mentioned that

You think it's ok for people to have no respect for others?"

lol,,i never said that,cant you READ, Or is it a lack of respect

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By *ilent.KnightMan
over a year ago

Swindon


"People should treat others as they want to be treated"
except those in D/s relationships !

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Personally I find it's because the site has become saturated with men who think it is just a quick sex hook up site, and come here with no respect for the women on here, hence why I haven't had sex since March.

yea but its a sex site,,so its to be expected,,kind of obvious

You think it's ok for men to have no respect for women?

I'm with mikki on this.

Where did I say that?,,did I mention some women have no respect for men,,did I mention some have no respect for themselves,,no ,,I never mentioned that

You think it's ok for people to have no respect for others?

lol,,i never said that,cant you READ, Or is it a lack of respect"

Have to admit it does read like you've said there's no need to be respectful on a sex site.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Nothing is aimed at you or anybody in particular but I find you to be very rude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I find it's because the site has become saturated with men who think it is just a quick sex hook up site, and come here with no respect for the women on here, hence why I haven't had sex since March.

yea but its a sex site,,so its to be expected,,kind of obvious

You think it's ok for men to have no respect for women?

I'm with mikki on this.

Where did I say that?,,did I mention some women have no respect for men,,did I mention some have no respect for themselves,,no ,,I never mentioned that

You think it's ok for people to have no respect for others?

lol,,i never said that,cant you READ, Or is it a lack of respect

Have to admit it does read like you've said there's no need to be respectful on a sex site."

don't be ridiculous,,but you read into what I say how you want,,if you cant see some ones taking the piss,,you,ve been on here way way too long,,no doubt that will offend you, but hey any thing I say will,merry xmas,x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Merry Christmas

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not all men r the same and some actually know how to treat a woman I no it must b hard to trust people when there are nobheads out there"

Agreed, it just gets difficult when there are so many guys on here who are idiots

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not all men r the same and some actually know how to treat a woman I no it must b hard to trust people when there are nobheads out there

Agreed, it just gets difficult when there are so many guys on here who are idiots "

can I just butt in,,its not just guys that are idiots on here,,thankfully most people on here are pretty decent,,but please ,,please don't ever think its just men that are twats on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not all men r the same and some actually know how to treat a woman I no it must b hard to trust people when there are nobheads out there

Agreed, it just gets difficult when there are so many guys on here who are idiots

can I just butt in,,its not just guys that are idiots on here,,thankfully most people on here are pretty decent,,but please ,,please don't ever think its just men that are twats on here."

No you can't just butt in.

I'm giving my opinion which is not up for debate

Obviously there are idiot women on here as well, but I haven't met any so it's not my place to comment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the site needs to reject/delete profiles if they cannot be photo verified within 24-48 hours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I find it's because the site has become saturated with men who think it is just a quick sex hook up site, and come here with no respect for the women on here, hence why I haven't had sex since March. "
It work both ways this respect malarkey. .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not all men r the same and some actually know how to treat a woman I no it must b hard to trust people when there are nobheads out there

Agreed, it just gets difficult when there are so many guys on here who are idiots

can I just butt in,,its not just guys that are idiots on here,,thankfully most people on here are pretty decent,,but please ,,please don't ever think its just men that are twats on here."


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Quite right! Equal rights for twats of all genders!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I no we've got the block button but do you think we can block them all lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You make your own luck on Fab.

You are the master of your own destiny and blaming the actions of others on how you are treated butters no parsnips.

Is it getting harder to meet? Were you expecting it to be easier?

A lot of chaps do very well on here. If you are having lityle success, look at how you sell yourself. If you were a woman, would you be tempted with what you offer?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the site needs to reject/delete profiles if they cannot be photo verified within 24-48 hours. "

I'm sure that if you don't photo verify you can't use the site fully?

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Personally I find it's because the site has become saturated with men who think it is just a quick sex hook up site, and come here with no respect for the women on here, hence why I haven't had sex since March.

yea but its a sex site,,so its to be expected,,kind of obvious

You think it's ok for men to have no respect for women?

I'm with mikki on this.

Where did I say that?,,did I mention some women have no respect for men,,did I mention some have no respect for themselves,,no ,,I never mentioned that

You think it's ok for people to have no respect for others?

lol,,i never said that,cant you READ, Or is it a lack of respect

Have to admit it does read like you've said there's no need to be respectful on a sex site.

don't be ridiculous,,but you read into what I say how you want,,if you cant see some ones taking the piss,,you,ve been on here way way too long,,no doubt that will offend you, but hey any thing I say will,merry xmas,x"

Not offending me at all, I'm able to converse without histrionics. If I've read it incorrectly, my bad. I'll leave you to your hissy fit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You make your own luck on Fab.

You are the master of your own destiny and blaming the actions of others on how you are treated butters no parsnips.

Is it getting harder to meet? Were you expecting it to be easier?

A lot of chaps do very well on here. If you are having lityle success, look at how you sell yourself. If you were a woman, would you be tempted with what you offer?

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says the guy with not one verification

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

It would be interesting to see an actual breakdown of the membership and if / how it's changing. Is the site filling with dreamers, or is it just peoples perception changing as they get used to the site?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You make your own luck on Fab.

You are the master of your own destiny and blaming the actions of others on how you are treated butters no parsnips.

Is it getting harder to meet? Were you expecting it to be easier?

A lot of chaps do very well on here. If you are having lityle success, look at how you sell yourself. If you were a woman, would you be tempted with what you offer?

says the guy with not one verification "

Boom boom!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the site needs to reject/delete profiles if they cannot be photo verified within 24-48 hours.

I'm sure that if you don't photo verify you can't use the site fully?"

I don’t know how it works to be honest? But saying that it’s quite easy to spot the fakes, the prostitutes and don’t get me started on the people who ask for their photos to be fabbed.......

My FB has had her photos stolen and fake profile set up. Completely mental people on here.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"I think the site needs to reject/delete profiles if they cannot be photo verified within 24-48 hours.

I'm sure that if you don't photo verify you can't use the site fully?"

We're not photo verified and have no intention of being. I believe that we have full access to everything that a silver supporter gets...

Not entirely sure what photo verification would prove.

To the OP, try getting out and meeting people in person. So many are put off by various things online I find clubs work best.

Nita

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the site needs to reject/delete profiles if they cannot be photo verified within 24-48 hours.

I'm sure that if you don't photo verify you can't use the site fully?

We're not photo verified and have no intention of being. I believe that we have full access to everything that a silver supporter gets...

Not entirely sure what photo verification would prove.

To the OP, try getting out and meeting people in person. So many are put off by various things online I find clubs work best.

Nita"

Yeah because you're meet verified

Sorry I didn't explain that properly

I've never been photo verified but was meet verified after a few days of joining so I've never needed to be

But if you're not meet verified you have to be photo verified to use the site fully

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most girls like to have bigger boobs than the bloke that's shaging them

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville


"Personally I find it's because the site has become saturated with men who think it is just a quick sex hook up site, and come here with no respect for the women on here, hence why I haven't had sex since March.

yea but its a sex site,,so its to be expected,,kind of obvious

You think it's ok for men to have no respect for women?

I'm with mikki on this.

Where did I say that?,,did I mention some women have no respect for men,,did I mention some have no respect for themselves,,no ,,I never mentioned that

You think it's ok for people to have no respect for others?"

What do you think ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same old, same old.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Do you think having a picture showing most not all of you face would get rid of some fake profiles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you think having a picture showing most not all of you face would get rid of some fake profiles "

Who?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you think having a picture showing most not all of you face would get rid of some fake profiles "

Nah.

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By *erry194Man
over a year ago

luton

Chill out people, happy xmas eve ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you think having a picture showing most not all of you face would get rid of some fake profiles

Who?"

I looked for outrage and found it.

I. Am. Outraged.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

^re previous post.

My comment got positioned badly. In the actual post I was trying to articulate support for Mikki, but the comment somehow got moved up in the text somehow. I think Mikki was trying to articulate that being a twat and being disrespectful are virtues not monopolised purely by blokes, and it is a pity that such opinions are heckled down because it doesn't fit in to the blameless militant feminist narrative.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It's all fun and banter with a point behind it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

And every body that joins the site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"^re previous post.

My comment got positioned badly. In the actual post I was trying to articulate support for Mikki, but the comment somehow got moved up in the text somehow. I think Mikki was trying to articulate that being a twat and being disrespectful are virtues not monopolised purely by blokes, and it is a pity that such opinions are heckled down because it doesn't fit in to the blameless militant feminist narrative."

No body said that it's only men being disrespectful?

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"Do you think having a picture showing most not all of you face would get rid of some fake profiles "

Nope. .. It would get rid of a much larger portion of genuine people, who have no desire to be easily recognised on here.

Nita

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By *appyhumper123Man
over a year ago

hull


"Not all men r the same and some actually know how to treat a woman I no it must b hard to trust people when there are nobheads out there

It must be annoying to be a nice guy and just get turned down. "

yep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People are just too fussy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

True

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"^re previous post.

My comment got positioned badly. In the actual post I was trying to articulate support for Mikki, but the comment somehow got moved up in the text somehow. I think Mikki was trying to articulate that being a twat and being disrespectful are virtues not monopolised purely by blokes, and it is a pity that such opinions are heckled down because it doesn't fit in to the blameless militant feminist narrative.

No body said that it's only men being disrespectful?"

I think that was Mikki's point...for which i was agreeing to with a mispositioned response which someone has taken out of context.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I certainly wouldn’t show my face in my profile until I had exchanged a few messages. All for professional reasons obviously. I can’t perform the role of foreign secretary without having some discretion. Merry Christmas love Boris.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"^re previous post.

My comment got positioned badly. In the actual post I was trying to articulate support for Mikki, but the comment somehow got moved up in the text somehow. I think Mikki was trying to articulate that being a twat and being disrespectful are virtues not monopolised purely by blokes, and it is a pity that such opinions are heckled down because it doesn't fit in to the blameless militant feminist narrative."

But nobody said that! I think a lot of this suppressed feminist hatred is down to the fact that a lot of men resent women on here as they perceive them to have some sort of power that they don't, and it doesn't sit comfortably with them.

Plus I could only speak about my opinions on men on here as that is who I speak to and receive the disgusting and abusive messages from.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"^re previous post.

My comment got positioned badly. In the actual post I was trying to articulate support for Mikki, but the comment somehow got moved up in the text somehow. I think Mikki was trying to articulate that being a twat and being disrespectful are virtues not monopolised purely by blokes, and it is a pity that such opinions are heckled down because it doesn't fit in to the blameless militant feminist narrative.

But nobody said that! I think a lot of this suppressed feminist hatred is down to the fact that a lot of men resent women on here as they perceive them to have some sort of power that they don't, and it doesn't sit comfortably with them.

Plus I could only speak about my opinions on men on here as that is who I speak to and receive the disgusting and abusive messages from.

"
you do have power ,the power of choice and if that person you're considering puts one foot wrong you move straight onto the next damnit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well you're entitled to your thoughts and opinions, and for those ones, I'm entitled to disagree with them...and I am sure many men do. Men aren't here with misogynist hangups - on the contrary, men are respectful that the women here whom are liberated from the stigma of female sexual freedom in society and are able to express themselves sexually without negative judgment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"^re previous post.

My comment got positioned badly. In the actual post I was trying to articulate support for Mikki, but the comment somehow got moved up in the text somehow. I think Mikki was trying to articulate that being a twat and being disrespectful are virtues not monopolised purely by blokes, and it is a pity that such opinions are heckled down because it doesn't fit in to the blameless militant feminist narrative.

But nobody said that! I think a lot of this suppressed feminist hatred is down to the fact that a lot of men resent women on here as they perceive them to have some sort of power that they don't, and it doesn't sit comfortably with them.

Plus I could only speak about my opinions on men on here as that is who I speak to and receive the disgusting and abusive messages from.

you do have power ,the power of choice and if that person you're considering puts one foot wrong you move straight onto the next damnit "

Yeah the choice ultimately is a woman's. A bloke goes on a meet wondering if he's going to get lucky, a woman already knows.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

The biggest hurdle for single guys is quute simply that there’s way too many of you competing for the same women on a daily basis.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"^re previous post.

My comment got positioned badly. In the actual post I was trying to articulate support for Mikki, but the comment somehow got moved up in the text somehow. I think Mikki was trying to articulate that being a twat and being disrespectful are virtues not monopolised purely by blokes, and it is a pity that such opinions are heckled down because it doesn't fit in to the blameless militant feminist narrative.

But nobody said that! I think a lot of this suppressed feminist hatred is down to the fact that a lot of men resent women on here as they perceive them to have some sort of power that they don't, and it doesn't sit comfortably with them.

Plus I could only speak about my opinions on men on here as that is who I speak to and receive the disgusting and abusive messages from.

you do have power ,the power of choice and if that person you're considering puts one foot wrong you move straight onto the next damnit "

Of course I have the power over myself, it's the fact that men are so out numbered on here by their own sex is the reason why they resent the women on here as you yourself pointed out, we can just move on to the next should we choose to do so, to a point where it becomes gulling to you (not personal but in general) and men in general are just not used to that behaviour and start to resent the feeling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You make your own luck on Fab.

You are the master of your own destiny and blaming the actions of others on how you are treated butters no parsnips.

Is it getting harder to meet? Were you expecting it to be easier?

A lot of chaps do very well on here. If you are having lityle success, look at how you sell yourself. If you were a woman, would you be tempted with what you offer?

says the guy with not one verification

Boom boom!!!!"

Well spotted.

That will be because I haven't met anyone yet.

You will also find I don't bleat about it.

I just rattle around the forums, chatting with friends and generally enjoying my Fab experience.

Fab is working out for me just fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well you're entitled to your thoughts and opinions, and for those ones, I'm entitled to disagree with them...and I am sure many men do. Men aren't here with misogynist hangups - on the contrary, men are respectful that the women here whom are liberated from the stigma of female sexual freedom in society and are able to express themselves sexually without negative judgment."

MANY men on here are disrespectful and misogynistic.

On a daily basic I get messages that fit into both of those group.

A large majority of men on here treat women as though we are free escorts and should drop what we are doing to go and meet them just because they demand it.

And a lot of men on her don't know how to speak to women as if they've normal human beings, so far this evening I've had someone refer to my black cunt, been called "a black" and been told countless times that I'm fake/fat anyway/ugly anyway because I'm not willing to travel 50+miles to meet guys because they asked Me too(Not very nicely I might add).

Don't get me wrong there are also ALOT of really nice genuine guys on here but unfortunately the former ruin it for everyone

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Bet Fred wombat that last comment is how most blokes must think on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"^re previous post.

My comment got positioned badly. In the actual post I was trying to articulate support for Mikki, but the comment somehow got moved up in the text somehow. I think Mikki was trying to articulate that being a twat and being disrespectful are virtues not monopolised purely by blokes, and it is a pity that such opinions are heckled down because it doesn't fit in to the blameless militant feminist narrative.

But nobody said that! I think a lot of this suppressed feminist hatred is down to the fact that a lot of men resent women on here as they perceive them to have some sort of power that they don't, and it doesn't sit comfortably with them.

Plus I could only speak about my opinions on men on here as that is who I speak to and receive the disgusting and abusive messages from.

you do have power ,the power of choice and if that person you're considering puts one foot wrong you move straight onto the next damnit

Of course I have the power over myself, it's the fact that men are so out numbered on here by their own sex is the reason why they resent the women on here as you yourself pointed out, we can just move on to the next should we choose to do so, to a point where it becomes gulling to you (not personal but in general) and men in general are just not used to that behaviour and start to resent the feeling "

Not all men feel mortally wounded when their ego takes a knock.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well you're entitled to your thoughts and opinions, and for those ones, I'm entitled to disagree with them...and I am sure many men do. Men aren't here with misogynist hangups - on the contrary, men are respectful that the women here whom are liberated from the stigma of female sexual freedom in society and are able to express themselves sexually without negative judgment.

MANY men on here are disrespectful and misogynistic.

On a daily basic I get messages that fit into both of those group.

A large majority of men on here treat women as though we are free escorts and should drop what we are doing to go and meet them just because they demand it.

And a lot of men on her don't know how to speak to women as if they've normal human beings, so far this evening I've had someone refer to my black cunt, been called "a black" and been told countless times that I'm fake/fat anyway/ugly anyway because I'm not willing to travel 50+miles to meet guys because they asked Me too(Not very nicely I might add).

Don't get me wrong there are also ALOT of really nice genuine guys on here but unfortunately the former ruin it for everyone "

The misogynists you speak of I accept do exist on here, they are twats, not men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bet Fred wombat that last comment is how most blokes must think on here"

You'll have to be precise in which comment you are referring to. I have noticed that the thread can easily be taken out of context if care is nit taken in one's communications.

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By *eliciousladyWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes U.K


"Most girls like to have bigger boobs than the bloke that's shaging them "

where did that appear from?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As most the guys on here seem to think send a fancy a fuck gets them what they want without any thought for how others think of this site or it’s use

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The biggest hurdle for single guys is quute simply that there’s way too many of you competing for the same women on a daily basis.

"

You've right, and some of the women are here for their own reasons which is nit in keeping with the purpose of the website, that is to say to bolster their own sense of flagging self - esteem. For The removal of doubt, that comment is in NO WAY a hint in your direction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As most the guys on here seem to think send a fancy a fuck gets them what they want without any thought for how others think of this site or it’s use "

You can also NOT send a message like that...and still be treated like a cunt!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah the choice ultimately is a woman's. A bloke goes on a meet wondering if he's going to get lucky, a woman already knows."

Absolute nonsense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah the choice ultimately is a woman's. A bloke goes on a meet wondering if he's going to get lucky, a woman already knows.

Absolute nonsense."

...because the alternative is not consentual sex!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah the choice ultimately is a woman's. A bloke goes on a meet wondering if he's going to get lucky, a woman already knows.

Absolute nonsense.

...because the alternative is not consentual sex!"

For you maybe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are going to add to the debate then add constructively. If you can't - don't, because you are embarrassing yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

...and you're beginning to sound like one of the arrogant pricks the women in the debate make mention of.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thid is a debat?

I don't subscribe to the whole "women call the shots" theory; I choose who I fuck.

And I also don't really think blaming lack of "luck" is anything to do with other men spoiling it for all.

These are excuses, and not for me.

That is my input. Sorry you don't like it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I aldo don't think that the alternative is non-consensual.

That's just fucking creepy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah the choice ultimately is a woman's. A bloke goes on a meet wondering if he's going to get lucky, a woman already knows.

Absolute nonsense.

...because the alternative is not consentual sex!"

So if a woman doesn't want to have sex with you the only alternative is for you to have sex with her without her consent?

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"...and you're beginning to sound like one of the arrogant pricks the women in the debate make mention of."

If you use reply+quote people can see who you are replying to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thid is a debat?

I don't subscribe to the whole "women call the shots" theory; I choose who I fuck.

And I also don't really think blaming lack of "luck" is anything to do with other men spoiling it for all.

These are excuses, and not for me.

That is my input. Sorry you don't like it."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sex site or not. Uneducated, without manners and etiquette. Lack of basic communication skills doesn't really help oh and dreamers. This ruins it, even though it may by a seemingly increasing few.

People have other things to with lives too, that could be it.

Dunno it varies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...and you're beginning to sound like one of the arrogant pricks the women in the debate make mention of.

If you use reply+quote people can see who you are replying to."

He meant that to me - the arrogant prick who doesn't moan on the internet when he doesn't get laid.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Hello. Happy Christmas.

I would say if a man hasn't had a sex meet off here it's quite likely that he hasn't met a woman who finds him attractive enough to want to!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thid is a debat?

I don't subscribe to the whole "women call the shots" theory; I choose who I fuck.

And I also don't really think blaming lack of "luck" is anything to do with other men spoiling it for all.

These are excuses, and not for me.

That is my input. Sorry you don't like it."

"You choose who you fuck"....Jesus, I hope the other person you're fucking chooses to also!? Which ironically means you would be making my point instead of opposition to it, instead of an odd arrogant wading in of the debate, for which for many...would raise alarm bells about your narcissistic approach to swinging.

It is exactly what you have just said makes many people's point in here...

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

From the ladiesI have met and talk to on here it’s because of the following.

The vast majority of men still have no idea what ladies want. It’s quite simple if they would take time to read a ladies profile it’s not really that hard to puzzle it out.

As for couples that’s a whole different ball game. One I’ve not fully puzzled out myself yet if I’m honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah the choice ultimately is a woman's. A bloke goes on a meet wondering if he's going to get lucky, a woman already knows.

Absolute nonsense.

...because the alternative is not consentual sex!

So if a woman doesn't want to have sex with you the only alternative is for you to have sex with her without her consent? "

IT'S A SCARY PROSPECT ISN'T IT!!!!

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"Thid is a debat?

I don't subscribe to the whole "women call the shots" theory; I choose who I fuck.

And I also don't really think blaming lack of "luck" is anything to do with other men spoiling it for all.

These are excuses, and not for me.

That is my input. Sorry you don't like it.

"You choose who you fuck"....Jesus, I hope the other person you're fucking chooses to also!? Which ironically means you would be making my point instead of opposition to it, instead of an odd arrogant wading in of the debate, for which for many...would raise alarm bells about your narcissistic approach to swinging.

It is exactly what you have just said makes many people's point in here..."

I think it's clear to everyone he means he has the ability (you might call it power) to say 'no' , just as the other person/people on the meet do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow. Just wow

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle


"Is it because some spoil it for all or because of bad experiences "

No one spoils anything for anyone, it’s all about who wants to meet you and who doesn’t, if you don’t appeal to anyone then you won’t get a meet no matter how hard you try, it’s simple it’s no ones fault it’s just how things are.

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By *aughtycouple1008Couple
over a year ago

west london


"Is it because some spoil it for all or because of bad experiences

No one spoils anything for anyone, it’s all about who wants to meet you and who doesn’t, if you don’t appeal to anyone then you won’t get a meet no matter how hard you try, it’s simple it’s no ones fault it’s just how things are. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep this debate out of my inbox please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thid is a debat?

I don't subscribe to the whole "women call the shots" theory; I choose who I fuck.

And I also don't really think blaming lack of "luck" is anything to do with other men spoiling it for all.

These are excuses, and not for me.

That is my input. Sorry you don't like it.

"You choose who you fuck"....Jesus, I hope the other person you're fucking chooses to also!? Which ironically means you would be making my point instead of opposition to it, instead of an odd arrogant wading in of the debate, for which for many...would raise alarm bells about your narcissistic approach to swinging.

It is exactly what you have just said makes many people's point in here...

I think it's clear to everyone he means he has the ability (you might call it power) to say 'no' , just as the other person/people on the meet do."

Thanks, but it makes him feel better calling other people bad guys to justify his opinion.

Hope it's working for you buddy.

Merry Christmas X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"^re previous post.

My comment got positioned badly. In the actual post I was trying to articulate support for Mikki, but the comment somehow got moved up in the text somehow. I think Mikki was trying to articulate that being a twat and being disrespectful are virtues not monopolised purely by blokes, and it is a pity that such opinions are heckled down because it doesn't fit in to the blameless militant feminist narrative.

No body said that it's only men being disrespectful?

I think that was Mikki's point...for which i was agreeing to with a mispositioned response which someone has taken out of context."

No I asked a question. But you both clearly know my mind better than I do. Thanks for telling me what I think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thid is a debat?

I don't subscribe to the whole "women call the shots" theory; I choose who I fuck.

And I also don't really think blaming lack of "luck" is anything to do with other men spoiling it for all.

These are excuses, and not for me.

That is my input. Sorry you don't like it.

"You choose who you fuck"....Jesus, I hope the other person you're fucking chooses to also!? Which ironically means you would be making my point instead of opposition to it, instead of an odd arrogant wading in of the debate, for which for many...would raise alarm bells about your narcissistic approach to swinging.

It is exactly what you have just said makes many people's point in here...

I think it's clear to everyone he means he has the ability (you might call it power) to say 'no' , just as the other person/people on the meet do."

I'd call it neither, I'd call it being civilised.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thid is a debat?

I don't subscribe to the whole "women call the shots" theory; I choose who I fuck.

And I also don't really think blaming lack of "luck" is anything to do with other men spoiling it for all.

These are excuses, and not for me.

That is my input. Sorry you don't like it.

"You choose who you fuck"....Jesus, I hope the other person you're fucking chooses to also!? Which ironically means you would be making my point instead of opposition to it, instead of an odd arrogant wading in of the debate, for which for many...would raise alarm bells about your narcissistic approach to swinging.

It is exactly what you have just said makes many people's point in here...

I think it's clear to everyone he means he has the ability (you might call it power) to say 'no' , just as the other person/people on the meet do."

Everyone except Mr Wombat

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well you're entitled to your thoughts and opinions, and for those ones, I'm entitled to disagree with them...and I am sure many men do. Men aren't here with misogynist hangups - on the contrary, men are respectful that the women here whom are liberated from the stigma of female sexual freedom in society and are able to express themselves sexually without negative judgment.

MANY men on here are disrespectful and misogynistic.

On a daily basic I get messages that fit into both of those group.

A large majority of men on here treat women as though we are free escorts and should drop what we are doing to go and meet them just because they demand it.

And a lot of men on her don't know how to speak to women as if they've normal human beings, so far this evening I've had someone refer to my black cunt, been called "a black" and been told countless times that I'm fake/fat anyway/ugly anyway because I'm not willing to travel 50+miles to meet guys because they asked Me too(Not very nicely I might add).

Don't get me wrong there are also ALOT of really nice genuine guys on here but unfortunately the former ruin it for everyone "

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By *allen angelzWoman
over a year ago

oxon

to many want to be pleased and not willing to give, I was once called a harden swinger now I wouldn't say I was a swinger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"^re previous post.

My comment got positioned badly. In the actual post I was trying to articulate support for Mikki, but the comment somehow got moved up in the text somehow. I think Mikki was trying to articulate that being a twat and being disrespectful are virtues not monopolised purely by blokes, and it is a pity that such opinions are heckled down because it doesn't fit in to the blameless militant feminist narrative.

No body said that it's only men being disrespectful?

I think that was Mikki's point...for which i was agreeing to with a mispositioned response which someone has taken out of context.

No I asked a question. But you both clearly know my mind better than I do. Thanks for telling me what I think."

My goodness....no one's telling you to think anything...I was just clarifying from the original post.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm having trouble getting any women to chat to me, let alone meet up. Seems most judge me by the length of my hair!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"^re previous post.

My comment got positioned badly. In the actual post I was trying to articulate support for Mikki, but the comment somehow got moved up in the text somehow. I think Mikki was trying to articulate that being a twat and being disrespectful are virtues not monopolised purely by blokes, and it is a pity that such opinions are heckled down because it doesn't fit in to the blameless militant feminist narrative.

No body said that it's only men being disrespectful?

I think that was Mikki's point...for which i was agreeing to with a mispositioned response which someone has taken out of context.

No I asked a question. But you both clearly know my mind better than I do. Thanks for telling me what I think.

My goodness....no one's telling you to think anything...I was just clarifying from the original post."

Then I apologise. Merry Christmas.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thid is a debat?

I don't subscribe to the whole "women call the shots" theory; I choose who I fuck.

And I also don't really think blaming lack of "luck" is anything to do with other men spoiling it for all.

These are excuses, and not for me.

That is my input. Sorry you don't like it.

"You choose who you fuck"....Jesus, I hope the other person you're fucking chooses to also!? Which ironically means you would be making my point instead of opposition to it, instead of an odd arrogant wading in of the debate, for which for many...would raise alarm bells about your narcissistic approach to swinging.

It is exactly what you have just said makes many people's point in here...

I think it's clear to everyone he means he has the ability (you might call it power) to say 'no' , just as the other person/people on the meet do.

Everyone except Mr Wombat"

Have you read the posts and their originators correctly, or was defamatory comment intentional?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"^re previous post.

My comment got positioned badly. In the actual post I was trying to articulate support for Mikki, but the comment somehow got moved up in the text somehow. I think Mikki was trying to articulate that being a twat and being disrespectful are virtues not monopolised purely by blokes, and it is a pity that such opinions are heckled down because it doesn't fit in to the blameless militant feminist narrative.

No body said that it's only men being disrespectful?

I think that was Mikki's point...for which i was agreeing to with a mispositioned response which someone has taken out of context.

No I asked a question. But you both clearly know my mind better than I do. Thanks for telling me what I think.

My goodness....no one's telling you to think anything...I was just clarifying from the original post.

Then I apologise. Merry Christmas. "

No apology necessary...glad the misunderstanding was cleared up.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I’d be interested to know if the disrespect shown by men is an age thing mainly from younger guys??

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Is it because some spoil it for all or because of bad experiences "

What are you comparing it with op, were you on before and found it easier to get meets than you do now ?

I've noticed no difference tbh, it's always been tough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You guys seriously need to get the feel of a thread before assigning opinion to a ever increasing content of one reply box to ONE person BEFORE assigning your tuppence worth...because it really does reflect the conversation and takes it into the gutter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’d be interested to know if the disrespect shown by men is an age thing mainly from younger guys?? "

I think being an arsehole has no gender or age boundaries. Much the same as everything else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’d be interested to know if the disrespect shown by men is an age thing mainly from younger guys?? "

I think it is more a self esteem thing...rejection rather than just blame it on high hormone level youth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’d be interested to know if the disrespect shown by men is an age thing mainly from younger guys?? "

Nope all age guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You guys seriously need to get the feel of a thread before assigning opinion to a ever increasing content of one reply box to ONE person BEFORE assigning your tuppence worth...because it really does reflect the conversation and takes it into the gutter."

It's a conversation that has been done a billion times over. Most people know exactly what the people who are doing the complaining are saying.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the site needs to reject/delete profiles if they cannot be photo verified within 24-48 hours. "

Well that’s our profile that will have to be deleted then

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"^re previous post.

My comment got positioned badly. In the actual post I was trying to articulate support for Mikki, but the comment somehow got moved up in the text somehow. I think Mikki was trying to articulate that being a twat and being disrespectful are virtues not monopolised purely by blokes, and it is a pity that such opinions are heckled down because it doesn't fit in to the blameless militant feminist narrative.

But nobody said that! I think a lot of this suppressed feminist hatred is down to the fact that a lot of men resent women on here as they perceive them to have some sort of power that they don't, and it doesn't sit comfortably with them.

Plus I could only speak about my opinions on men on here as that is who I speak to and receive the disgusting and abusive messages from.

you do have power ,the power of choice and if that person you're considering puts one foot wrong you move straight onto the next damnit

Of course I have the power over myself, it's the fact that men are so out numbered on here by their own sex is the reason why they resent the women on here as you yourself pointed out, we can just move on to the next should we choose to do so, to a point where it becomes gulling to you (not personal but in general) and men in general are just not used to that behaviour and start to resent the feeling "
we don't resent women or at least I don't but you do have that power of choice and if it doesn't work the way you want it to like I said you move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You guys seriously need to get the feel of a thread before assigning opinion to a ever increasing content of one reply box to ONE person BEFORE assigning your tuppence worth...because it really does reflect the conversation and takes it into the gutter.

It's a conversation that has been done a billion times over. Most people know exactly what the people who are doing the complaining are saying."

Why have it then for the billionth plus one time?

I was posting elsewhere before I peeked into this forum. First time for me...and the last curiosity brought me here. This conversation hasn't added anything to my knowledge base that I wasn't already aware of.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the site needs to reject/delete profiles if they cannot be photo verified within 24-48 hours.

Well that’s our profile that will have to be deleted then

Mrs"

I'll verify it...just as to not discriminate against those who aren't elitist swingers!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the site needs to reject/delete profiles if they cannot be photo verified within 24-48 hours.

I'm sure that if you don't photo verify you can't use the site fully?

We're not photo verified and have no intention of being. I believe that we have full access to everything that a silver supporter gets...

Not entirely sure what photo verification would prove.

To the OP, try getting out and meeting people in person. So many are put off by various things online I find clubs work best.

Nita

Yeah because you're meet verified

Sorry I didn't explain that properly

I've never been photo verified but was meet verified after a few days of joining so I've never needed to be

But if you're not meet verified you have to be photo verified to use the site fully "

We had about 6 months where we weren’t verified either by meet or photo. Don’t think we even had any pictures on our profile for about 5 months. But we had the same access to the site as any other non-site supporter. Nothing changed with our first verification. Rules may be different now though.

Mrs

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over a year ago


"I think the site needs to reject/delete profiles if they cannot be photo verified within 24-48 hours.

Well that’s our profile that will have to be deleted then

Mrs

I'll verify it...just as to not discriminate against those who aren't elitist swingers!!"
what's an elitist swinger?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the site needs to reject/delete profiles if they cannot be photo verified within 24-48 hours.

I'm sure that if you don't photo verify you can't use the site fully?

We're not photo verified and have no intention of being. I believe that we have full access to everything that a silver supporter gets...

Not entirely sure what photo verification would prove.

To the OP, try getting out and meeting people in person. So many are put off by various things online I find clubs work best.

Nita

Yeah because you're meet verified

Sorry I didn't explain that properly

I've never been photo verified but was meet verified after a few days of joining so I've never needed to be

But if you're not meet verified you have to be photo verified to use the site fully

We had about 6 months where we weren’t verified either by meet or photo. Don’t think we even had any pictures on our profile for about 5 months. But we had the same access to the site as any other non-site supporter. Nothing changed with our first verification. Rules may be different now though.

Mrs"

Me and my friend joined together and she had to confirm herself my photo cause she couldn't access the site fully

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple


"^re previous post.

My comment got positioned badly. In the actual post I was trying to articulate support for Mikki, but the comment somehow got moved up in the text somehow. I think Mikki was trying to articulate that being a twat and being disrespectful are virtues not monopolised purely by blokes, and it is a pity that such opinions are heckled down because it doesn't fit in to the blameless militant feminist narrative."

Yawn yawn

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over a year ago


"^re previous post.

My comment got positioned badly. In the actual post I was trying to articulate support for Mikki, but the comment somehow got moved up in the text somehow. I think Mikki was trying to articulate that being a twat and being disrespectful are virtues not monopolised purely by blokes, and it is a pity that such opinions are heckled down because it doesn't fit in to the blameless militant feminist narrative.

Yawn yawn "

Thanks for the west country input into the debate. Any other opinion you are capable of articulating?

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple


"^re previous post.

My comment got positioned badly. In the actual post I was trying to articulate support for Mikki, but the comment somehow got moved up in the text somehow. I think Mikki was trying to articulate that being a twat and being disrespectful are virtues not monopolised purely by blokes, and it is a pity that such opinions are heckled down because it doesn't fit in to the blameless militant feminist narrative.

Yawn yawn

Thanks for the west country input into the debate. Any other opinion you are capable of articulating?"

I am an interloper down here thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the site needs to reject/delete profiles if they cannot be photo verified within 24-48 hours.

Well that’s our profile that will have to be deleted then

Mrs

I'll verify it...just as to not discriminate against those who aren't elitist swingers!!what's an elitist swinger? "

The ones who treat the lifestyle like its fight club.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"I think the site needs to reject/delete profiles if they cannot be photo verified within 24-48 hours.

I'm sure that if you don't photo verify you can't use the site fully?

We're not photo verified and have no intention of being. I believe that we have full access to everything that a silver supporter gets...

Not entirely sure what photo verification would prove.

To the OP, try getting out and meeting people in person. So many are put off by various things online I find clubs work best.

Nita

Yeah because you're meet verified

Sorry I didn't explain that properly

I've never been photo verified but was meet verified after a few days of joining so I've never needed to be

But if you're not meet verified you have to be photo verified to use the site fully

We had about 6 months where we weren’t verified either by meet or photo. Don’t think we even had any pictures on our profile for about 5 months. But we had the same access to the site as any other non-site supporter. Nothing changed with our first verification. Rules may be different now though.

Mrs

Me and my friend joined together and she had to confirm herself my photo cause she couldn't access the site fully "

Yep, I couldnt post on the forums until I got either meet or photo verified.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"^re previous post.

My comment got positioned badly. In the actual post I was trying to articulate support for Mikki, but the comment somehow got moved up in the text somehow. I think Mikki was trying to articulate that being a twat and being disrespectful are virtues not monopolised purely by blokes, and it is a pity that such opinions are heckled down because it doesn't fit in to the blameless militant feminist narrative.

Yawn yawn

Thanks for the west country input into the debate. Any other opinion you are capable of articulating?

I am an interloper down here thanks"

There are worse places to be an interloper!

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

We, especially me have great fun. We have some regular quirky, sexy guys who play. We also meet some lovely fun ladies. We are having a ball. Ms

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the site needs to reject/delete profiles if they cannot be photo verified within 24-48 hours.

Well that’s our profile that will have to be deleted then

Mrs

I'll verify it...just as to not discriminate against those who aren't elitist swingers!!what's an elitist swinger?

The ones who treat the lifestyle like its fight club."

By invitation only!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the site needs to reject/delete profiles if they cannot be photo verified within 24-48 hours.

I'm sure that if you don't photo verify you can't use the site fully?

We're not photo verified and have no intention of being. I believe that we have full access to everything that a silver supporter gets...

Not entirely sure what photo verification would prove.

To the OP, try getting out and meeting people in person. So many are put off by various things online I find clubs work best.

Nita

Yeah because you're meet verified

Sorry I didn't explain that properly

I've never been photo verified but was meet verified after a few days of joining so I've never needed to be

But if you're not meet verified you have to be photo verified to use the site fully

We had about 6 months where we weren’t verified either by meet or photo. Don’t think we even had any pictures on our profile for about 5 months. But we had the same access to the site as any other non-site supporter. Nothing changed with our first verification. Rules may be different now though.

Mrs

Me and my friend joined together and she had to confirm herself my photo cause she couldn't access the site fully

Yep, I couldnt post on the forums until I got either meet or photo verified. "

That’s a good point. I didn’t use the forums before we were verified, so I wouldn’t have known

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it because some spoil it for all or because of bad experiences "

Us personally we haven’t had any bad experiences from Fab, and we usually have fun when we’re available to have fun. But it’s probably easier to meet those we already know or get to a club, than risk wasting an evening meeting someone we don’t know. With regards to single men not getting meets - well there are so many that it’s probably not possible for all men to get a meet. But there’s not much anybody can do about the numbers.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it because some spoil it for all or because of bad experiences

Us personally we haven’t had any bad experiences from Fab, and we usually have fun when we’re available to have fun. But it’s probably easier to meet those we already know or get to a club, than risk wasting an evening meeting someone we don’t know. With regards to single men not getting meets - well there are so many that it’s probably not possible for all men to get a meet. But there’s not much anybody can do about the numbers.

Mrs"
we could have an open day on single men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it because some spoil it for all or because of bad experiences

Us personally we haven’t had any bad experiences from Fab, and we usually have fun when we’re available to have fun. But it’s probably easier to meet those we already know or get to a club, than risk wasting an evening meeting someone we don’t know. With regards to single men not getting meets - well there are so many that it’s probably not possible for all men to get a meet. But there’s not much anybody can do about the numbers.

Mrs"

...and you're right, it's statistics. On SH they used to have a counter for gender and orientation. It was at least 6-1 for male - female ratio...and that was 10 years ago!

I live next to an infantry garrison town, I'm sure the ratio fucks things up even more round here, I have to block 50 blokes a month to see the nearest female or couple in "who is nearby!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it because some spoil it for all or because of bad experiences

Us personally we haven’t had any bad experiences from Fab, and we usually have fun when we’re available to have fun. But it’s probably easier to meet those we already know or get to a club, than risk wasting an evening meeting someone we don’t know. With regards to single men not getting meets - well there are so many that it’s probably not possible for all men to get a meet. But there’s not much anybody can do about the numbers.

Mrs

we could have an open day on single men "

That was funny....but improbable and smacks of desperation (which makes it funny!)

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By *havennaturistsCouple
over a year ago

Banff

We live in Fuerteventura half the year and have been stood up more times than we've had hot dinners. The worst ones are those who begin a countdown 3/4 months before they fly here.......only 100 more sleeps etc, only to disappear on landing. What's 100 dirty hankies between friends?.......

Just every so often a genuine, diamond couple turn up, otherwise we'd have given up years ago.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it because some spoil it for all or because of bad experiences

Us personally we haven’t had any bad experiences from Fab, and we usually have fun when we’re available to have fun. But it’s probably easier to meet those we already know or get to a club, than risk wasting an evening meeting someone we don’t know. With regards to single men not getting meets - well there are so many that it’s probably not possible for all men to get a meet. But there’s not much anybody can do about the numbers.

Mrs

we could have an open day on single men

That was funny....but improbable and smacks of desperation (which makes it funny!)"

If everyone on Fab who is serious about meeting turned up to one massive open day, then guys would realise in one go why it’s difficult or impossible for some to get meets.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it because some spoil it for all or because of bad experiences "

I once read in a GQ or some other lads mag the following;

"An ugly, fat, bald bloke with no wealth and a small dick may as well cut his own dick off!".

I think, broadly, the same sentiment applies here, personality isn't a factor. There are plenty of arseholes who get their dick wet regularly because of their attributes. I dare say those types have a finite amount of fun because the word gets around if you're a prick. To quote another old idium "A woman will hear about what you get up to no matter how far away from her you are!".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it because some spoil it for all or because of bad experiences

Us personally we haven’t had any bad experiences from Fab, and we usually have fun when we’re available to have fun. But it’s probably easier to meet those we already know or get to a club, than risk wasting an evening meeting someone we don’t know. With regards to single men not getting meets - well there are so many that it’s probably not possible for all men to get a meet. But there’s not much anybody can do about the numbers.

Mrs

we could have an open day on single men

That was funny....but improbable and smacks of desperation (which makes it funny!)

If everyone on Fab who is serious about meeting turned up to one massive open day, then guys would realise in one go why it’s difficult or impossible for some to get meets.

Mrs"

I did go to a couple of parties where, in comparing, I kinda felt second division...conference league. That said, the ladies were always...ladies {erhem}

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it because some spoil it for all or because of bad experiences

Us personally we haven’t had any bad experiences from Fab, and we usually have fun when we’re available to have fun. But it’s probably easier to meet those we already know or get to a club, than risk wasting an evening meeting someone we don’t know. With regards to single men not getting meets - well there are so many that it’s probably not possible for all men to get a meet. But there’s not much anybody can do about the numbers.

Mrs

we could have an open day on single men

That was funny....but improbable and smacks of desperation (which makes it funny!)

If everyone on Fab who is serious about meeting turned up to one massive open day, then guys would realise in one go why it’s difficult or impossible for some to get meets.

Mrs

I did go to a couple of parties where, in comparing, I kinda felt second division...conference league. That said, the ladies were always...ladies {erhem}"

I was more referring the quantity of men. If there were a hundred men in a pub and only ten women, and don’t think 90 men would be thinking ‘mmm, I wonder why I can’t pull tonight?’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well you're entitled to your thoughts and opinions, and for those ones, I'm entitled to disagree with them...and I am sure many men do. Men aren't here with misogynist hangups - on the contrary, men are respectful that the women here whom are liberated from the stigma of female sexual freedom in society and are able to express themselves sexually without negative judgment."

Oh the irony

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it because some spoil it for all or because of bad experiences

Us personally we haven’t had any bad experiences from Fab, and we usually have fun when we’re available to have fun. But it’s probably easier to meet those we already know or get to a club, than risk wasting an evening meeting someone we don’t know. With regards to single men not getting meets - well there are so many that it’s probably not possible for all men to get a meet. But there’s not much anybody can do about the numbers.

Mrs

we could have an open day on single men

That was funny....but improbable and smacks of desperation (which makes it funny!)

If everyone on Fab who is serious about meeting turned up to one massive open day, then guys would realise in one go why it’s difficult or impossible for some to get meets.

Mrs

I did go to a couple of parties where, in comparing, I kinda felt second division...conference league. That said, the ladies were always...ladies {erhem}

I was more referring the quantity of men. If there were a hundred men in a pub and only ten women, and don’t think 90 men would be thinking ‘mmm, I wonder why I can’t pull tonight?’ "

You've never been to a NAAFI bop! 80 of those blokes would be hitting on those 10...the other 20 are married and the women there know their wives!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well you're entitled to your thoughts and opinions, and for those ones, I'm entitled to disagree with them...and I am sure many men do. Men aren't here with misogynist hangups - on the contrary, men are respectful that the women here whom are liberated from the stigma of female sexual freedom in society and are able to express themselves sexually without negative judgment.

Oh the irony "

Extrapolate?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well you're entitled to your thoughts and opinions, and for those ones, I'm entitled to disagree with them...and I am sure many men do. Men aren't here with misogynist hangups - on the contrary, men are respectful that the women here whom are liberated from the stigma of female sexual freedom in society and are able to express themselves sexually without negative judgment.

Oh the irony

Extrapolate?"

I read more than just what people post in the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well you're entitled to your thoughts and opinions, and for those ones, I'm entitled to disagree with them...and I am sure many men do. Men aren't here with misogynist hangups - on the contrary, men are respectful that the women here whom are liberated from the stigma of female sexual freedom in society and are able to express themselves sexually without negative judgment.

Oh the irony

Extrapolate?

I read more than just what people post in the forums "

I've also said in the discussion that misogynists aren't men, they're twats. So personally I have made a clear distinction between a man and a misogynist by referring to misogynists as twats.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well you're entitled to your thoughts and opinions, and for those ones, I'm entitled to disagree with them...and I am sure many men do. Men aren't here with misogynist hangups - on the contrary, men are respectful that the women here whom are liberated from the stigma of female sexual freedom in society and are able to express themselves sexually without negative judgment.

Oh the irony

Extrapolate?

I read more than just what people post in the forums

I've also said in the discussion that misogynists aren't men, they're twats. So personally I have made a clear distinction between a man and a misogynist by referring to misogynists as twats."

If that’s how you want to describe yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well you're entitled to your thoughts and opinions, and for those ones, I'm entitled to disagree with them...and I am sure many men do. Men aren't here with misogynist hangups - on the contrary, men are respectful that the women here whom are liberated from the stigma of female sexual freedom in society and are able to express themselves sexually without negative judgment.

Oh the irony

Extrapolate?

I read more than just what people post in the forums

I've also said in the discussion that misogynists aren't men, they're twats. So personally I have made a clear distinction between a man and a misogynist by referring to misogynists as twats.

If that’s how you want to describe yourself "

My goodness..It's a pity that you have just waded in with your tuppence worth rather than getting your ducks in a row first!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well you're entitled to your thoughts and opinions, and for those ones, I'm entitled to disagree with them...and I am sure many men do. Men aren't here with misogynist hangups - on the contrary, men are respectful that the women here whom are liberated from the stigma of female sexual freedom in society and are able to express themselves sexually without negative judgment.

Oh the irony

Extrapolate?

I read more than just what people post in the forums

I've also said in the discussion that misogynists aren't men, they're twats. So personally I have made a clear distinction between a man and a misogynist by referring to misogynists as twats.

If that’s how you want to describe yourself

My goodness..It's a pity that you have just waded in with your tuppence worth rather than getting your ducks in a row first!"

As I previously said, I’ve read more than just what has been written on this thread to think there is a lot of irony involved.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one knows the full picture, half the contributions are from people with hidden profiles!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And don't just read the blokes profiles, go to the trouble of reading the misandry in some of the female profiles!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It may be increasingly difficult for the O P to arrange meets but, if he can't be bothered to turn up or to message the lady that he's late,that's quite immaterial.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

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"It may be increasingly difficult for the O P to arrange meets but, if he can't be bothered to turn up or to message the lady that he's late,that's quite immaterial. "

Oh dear oh dear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It may be increasingly difficult for the O P to arrange meets but, if he can't be bothered to turn up or to message the lady that he's late,that's quite immaterial. "

Isn't that the kind of comment reserved for verifications only?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It may be increasingly difficult for the O P to arrange meets but, if he can't be bothered to turn up or to message the lady that he's late,that's quite immaterial. "
which lady? You ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It may be increasingly difficult for the O P to arrange meets but, if he can't be bothered to turn up or to message the lady that he's late,that's quite immaterial. "

Eeekk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

...kinda smacks of bitchiness in a forum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...kinda smacks of bitchiness in a forum."

It's why I only ever agree to meet at a time and place convenient to me. Not feeling bitch particularly but I'm getting the irony of the O P.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

O P?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it easier these days to be fair

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"O P?"

Original (or opening ) post (or poster ).

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By *icearmsMan
over a year ago

KIDLINGTON

I find it interesting to read the may post about men with lack of manners etc...

I get that this place is saturated with men that maybe think it's a hook up place. And I get that inboxes get inundated. But the lack of replies from females and couples is actually quite rude and lacks respect... it's a two way street.

The mail system allows you to part read the mail. Hence you would be able to pick out that ones that look ok to start with. The ones that look individual etc. But they still get mass deleted.

There are many dreamers and attention seekers and they just get everyone else's back up.

This site is a two way street and ignorance from either side breed ignorance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's life on fab you win some you lose some

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