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"Yes most guys whine about it." Not whining about it really lol just wondering | |||
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"Yes most guys whine about it. Not whining about it really lol just wondering " It's the Ratio!  | |||
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"Yes most guys whine about it. Not whining about it really lol just wondering It's the Ratio! "That the only issue | |||
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"Yes most guys whine about it. Not whining about it really lol just wondering It's the Ratio!
That the only issue"no, it's really not. for anyone | |||
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"Yes most guys whine about it. Not whining about it really lol just wondering It's the Ratio!
That the only issue"No, but it does rather allow the ladies to be more choosey. | |||
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"Yes most guys whine about it." ^^^^ What she said | |||
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"I’m going to sound like a dick now (what do you mean again?), but if the messages you’re writing aren’t getting a response the you probably need to do one of three things: 1) change your message style/content (this is the most obvious, right? Unless you’re hell bent on avoiding responsibility) 2) change your profile (a lot of people will check your profile before they even consider replying - after all, if they don’t like the look of you, either picture you or written you, why would they message you?) 3) a combination of 1 and 2 If it’s broke, fix it. Look at the guys who seem to do well in here. There’s plenty in the forums. " This is the best advice you'll get OP so take heed - plus you've only been here 6 weeks and have a veri already - which is actually pretty good going  | |||
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"I estimate I get a reply once in every 300 messages. If you're not in the top 10% of looks/wealth/physique you might as well not bother as I've found out. " That is pretty bad | |||
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"I estimate I get a reply once in every 300 messages. If you're not in the top 10% of looks/wealth/physique you might as well not bother as I've found out. That is pretty bad " Yup. | |||
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"It iswhat it is; personally, it doesn't bother me that I get very little response in here because, when I do, it's with someone that really clicks and I have a lot of fun. " Quality not quantity | |||
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"I estimate I get a reply once in every 300 messages. If you're not in the top 10% of looks/wealth/physique you might as well not bother as I've found out. " I dont think thats true. And im not sure how you could tell how wealthy someone is from a profile and a message?!? I tend to reply to people who give me a reason to. So a well thought out or relevant message-a lot of my conversations have started via the forums or chatrooms so they already have a solid base. | |||
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"Well full marks for creative use of cock pic, but that really should not be the only pic on your profile IMO, and that of many women, it screams 'I'm just a cock' and most of us are looking for a man!" Spot on | |||
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"I estimate I get a reply once in every 300 messages. If you're not in the top 10% of looks/wealth/physique you might as well not bother as I've found out. I dont think thats true. And im not sure how you could tell how wealthy someone is from a profile and a message?!? I tend to reply to people who give me a reason to. So a well thought out or relevant message-a lot of my conversations have started via the forums or chatrooms so they already have a solid base. " | |||
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should give you lots of time to get all your chores done and out of the way
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"It really does crack me up when single guys bandy about phrases like "if you're not in the top 10% etc etc" - that has absolutely nothing to do with it. It's all about putting some effort in, constructing a decent profile, backing it up with decent pics that aren't of your cock, getting involved in the forums, letting your personality shine through, going along to organised socials and clubs and so much more. The biggest cards in your deck though are having a positive attitude and realistic expectations - come on here expecting instashag and bemoaning a lack of "luck" will get you nowhere fast "Not when you judged and discarded on sight becore you can open your mouth. | |||
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"It really does crack me up when single guys bandy about phrases like "if you're not in the top 10% etc etc" - that has absolutely nothing to do with it. It's all about putting some effort in, constructing a decent profile, backing it up with decent pics that aren't of your cock, getting involved in the forums, letting your personality shine through, going along to organised socials and clubs and so much more. The biggest cards in your deck though are having a positive attitude and realistic expectations - come on here expecting instashag and bemoaning a lack of "luck" will get you nowhere fast "Except for the fact that you missed looks. If you're not a good looking guy then that's that, you aren't getting laid. At least on fab. You can go on about being awesome but if your face is trash (and most women won't respond unless you attach a face pic) you get one half-serious-but-not-really reply every 300 messages. You can't presume to know what my experience is. And considering i have a shitty face, the content of messages has no impact. When women say "write something interesting" or "you need to put some effort in" it's just virtue signalling. A good looking, well built guy doesn't need to put effort in to a message to receive a reply. Life is harsh and you're trying to deny it for the sake of someones feels. | |||
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"It really does crack me up when single guys bandy about phrases like "if you're not in the top 10% etc etc" - that has absolutely nothing to do with it. It's all about putting some effort in, constructing a decent profile, backing it up with decent pics that aren't of your cock, getting involved in the forums, letting your personality shine through, going along to organised socials and clubs and so much more. The biggest cards in your deck though are having a positive attitude and realistic expectations - come on here expecting instashag and bemoaning a lack of "luck" will get you nowhere fast
Not when you judged and discarded on sight becore you can open your mouth. "Obviously without knowing the detail it's difficult to say but if that's what always happens to you perhaps you need to ask yourself why that is and take corrective action | |||
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"It really does crack me up when single guys bandy about phrases like "if you're not in the top 10% etc etc" - that has absolutely nothing to do with it. It's all about putting some effort in, constructing a decent profile, backing it up with decent pics that aren't of your cock, getting involved in the forums, letting your personality shine through, going along to organised socials and clubs and so much more. The biggest cards in your deck though are having a positive attitude and realistic expectations - come on here expecting instashag and bemoaning a lack of "luck" will get you nowhere fast
Except for the fact that you missed looks.
If you're not a good looking guy then that's that, you aren't getting laid. At least on fab.
You can go on about being awesome but if your face is trash (and most women won't respond unless you attach a face pic) you get one half-serious-but-not-really reply every 300 messages. You can't presume to know what my experience is.
And considering i have a shitty face, the content of messages has no impact. When women say "write something interesting" or "you need to put some effort in" it's just virtue signalling.
A good looking, well built guy doesn't need to put effort in to a message to receive a reply.
Life is harsh and you're trying to deny it for the sake of someones feels."Obviously looks and attraction come into it just as they do outside of the site - but I'm a firm believer in there being someone for everyone whether that be in life in general or here. A lot of the time though personality shines through - display a negative one and you'll get negative responses plain and simple. | |||
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"It really does crack me up when single guys bandy about phrases like "if you're not in the top 10% etc etc" - that has absolutely nothing to do with it. It's all about putting some effort in, constructing a decent profile, backing it up with decent pics that aren't of your cock, getting involved in the forums, letting your personality shine through, going along to organised socials and clubs and so much more. The biggest cards in your deck though are having a positive attitude and realistic expectations - come on here expecting instashag and bemoaning a lack of "luck" will get you nowhere fast
Not when you judged and discarded on sight becore you can open your mouth.
Obviously without knowing the detail it's difficult to say but if that's what always happens to you perhaps you need to ask yourself why that is and take corrective action "I did - I stopped going to clubs or messaging people. Now I don't have to deal with the lies and hypocrisy. | |||
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" Except for the fact that you missed looks. If you're not a good looking guy then that's that, you aren't getting laid. At least on fab. You can go on about being awesome but if your face is trash (and most women won't respond unless you attach a face pic) you get one half-serious-but-not-really reply every 300 messages. You can't presume to know what my experience is. And considering i have a shitty face, the content of messages has no impact. When women say "write something interesting" or "you need to put some effort in" it's just virtue signalling. A good looking, well built guy doesn't need to put effort in to a message to receive a reply. Life is harsh and you're trying to deny it for the sake of someones feels." I can assure you that "well built good looking guys" do need to make the effort if they want a response from most of the women on here. We still need to like them as a person to want to meet them. Its a proven fact that people are deemed more physically attractive with familiarity and affection. An attractive personality goes a long way. Let your personality shine around the forums, attend socials, try a club. You'll be surprised. | |||
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"That difficult to get a response in here, I’m sure the percentage is pretty low. What am I doing wrong, anyone else having the same issue" Stop sending messages, let the women come to you. It's the future. | |||
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" Stop sending messages, let the women come to you. It's the future." | |||
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" Stop sending messages, let the women come to you. It's the future. "I’ll be here forever then lol | |||
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" Except for the fact that you missed looks. If you're not a good looking guy then that's that, you aren't getting laid. At least on fab. You can go on about being awesome but if your face is trash (and most women won't respond unless you attach a face pic) you get one half-serious-but-not-really reply every 300 messages. You can't presume to know what my experience is. And considering i have a shitty face, the content of messages has no impact. When women say "write something interesting" or "you need to put some effort in" it's just virtue signalling. A good looking, well built guy doesn't need to put effort in to a message to receive a reply. Life is harsh and you're trying to deny it for the sake of someones feels. I can assure you that "well built good looking guys" do need to make the effort if they want a response from most of the women on here. We still need to like them as a person to want to meet them. Its a proven fact that people are deemed more physically attractive with familiarity and affection. An attractive personality goes a long way. Let your personality shine around the forums, attend socials, try a club. You'll be surprised. " That only works if people allow you to speak to them. | |||
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"I can assure you that "well built good looking guys" do need to make the effort if they want a response from most of the women on here. We still need to like them as a person to want to meet them. Its a proven fact that people are deemed more physically attractive with familiarity and affection. An attractive personality goes a long way. Let your personality shine around the forums, attend socials, try a club. You'll be surprised. That only works if people allow you to speak to them. " Well guess that depends how you approach them - sit sullenly saying not a great deal, giving off negative vibes, and people are less likely to be welcoming than if you approach with a positive attitude and a smile. I know, trust me I know, how hard it is for single guys both on here and at socials and clubs, especially if you're not very outgoing, but it really does come down to the difference between looking at the glass as half full or half empty. Think you're going to fail and you're destined to fail - think you'll succeed and you might not always do so, but you increase your chances of doing so enormously | |||
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"It really does crack me up when single guys bandy about phrases like "if you're not in the top 10% etc etc" - that has absolutely nothing to do with it. It's all about putting some effort in, constructing a decent profile, backing it up with decent pics that aren't of your cock, getting involved in the forums, letting your personality shine through, going along to organised socials and clubs and so much more. The biggest cards in your deck though are having a positive attitude and realistic expectations - come on here expecting instashag and bemoaning a lack of "luck" will get you nowhere fast "Exactly this.... | |||
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"I can assure you that "well built good looking guys" do need to make the effort if they want a response from most of the women on here. We still need to like them as a person to want to meet them. Its a proven fact that people are deemed more physically attractive with familiarity and affection. An attractive personality goes a long way. Let your personality shine around the forums, attend socials, try a club. You'll be surprised. That only works if people allow you to speak to them. Well guess that depends how you approach them - sit sullenly saying not a great deal, giving off negative vibes, and people are less likely to be welcoming than if you approach with a positive attitude and a smile. I know, trust me I know, how hard it is for single guys both on here and at socials and clubs, especially if you're not very outgoing, but it really does come down to the difference between looking at the glass as half full or half empty. Think you're going to fail and you're destined to fail - think you'll succeed and you might not always do so, but you increase your chances of doing so enormously "You try mustering a positive attitude after getting blanked a dozen times in an evening, time after time. | |||
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"Yes most guys whine about it. Not whining about it really lol just wondering It's the Ratio!
That the only issue
No, but it does rather allow the ladies to be more choosey."As is their right to do so. | |||
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