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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We've all got gripes about the behaviour of others on here.

Sometimes they're rude, sometimes they're overly sensitive, sometimes they're just down right crawa, but do they know?

Do you think people consciously decide to act in a certain way sometimes?

Do you ever reflect on your own behaviour on here? Do you question why you acted in a certain way? Are you ever embarrassed by something youve said or done?

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By *icky-discoMan
over a year ago

oxford


"We've all got gripes about the behaviour of others on here.

Sometimes they're rude, sometimes they're overly sensitive, sometimes they're just down right crawa, but do they know?

Do you think people consciously decide to act in a certain way sometimes?

Do you ever reflect on your own behaviour on here? Do you question why you acted in a certain way? Are you ever embarrassed by something youve said or done? "

No because I’m the same in real life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've all got gripes about the behaviour of others on here.

Sometimes they're rude, sometimes they're overly sensitive, sometimes they're just down right crawa, but do they know?

Do you think people consciously decide to act in a certain way sometimes?

Do you ever reflect on your own behaviour on here? Do you question why you acted in a certain way? Are you ever embarrassed by something youve said or done?

No because I’m the same in real life "

This.

I do think some lack self awareness regarding how they act on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *icky-discoMan
over a year ago

oxford


"We've all got gripes about the behaviour of others on here.

Sometimes they're rude, sometimes they're overly sensitive, sometimes they're just down right crawa, but do they know?

Do you think people consciously decide to act in a certain way sometimes?

Do you ever reflect on your own behaviour on here? Do you question why you acted in a certain way? Are you ever embarrassed by something youve said or done?

No because I’m the same in real life

This.

I do think some lack self awareness regarding how they act on here"

Keyboard warriors are what they are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think some people are totally aware that they can be an utter cuntwaffle...others are simply deluded and think they really are lovely

Myself, I know I can often be far to sassy for my own good, I'm sarcastic and enjoy winding people up...but it's never malicious, I can only hope others see that too! In general though, I don't really give a shit what anyone thinks of me...unless I like you, in which case you must be cool enough to think I'm awesome

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By *icky-discoMan
over a year ago

oxford


"I think some people are totally aware that they can be an utter cuntwaffle...others are simply deluded and think they really are lovely

Myself, I know I can often be far to sassy for my own good, I'm sarcastic and enjoy winding people up...but it's never malicious, I can only hope others see that too! In general though, I don't really give a shit what anyone thinks of me...unless I like you, in which case you must be cool enough to think I'm awesome "

I’ve read a lot of your posts you just flirt loads

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've all got gripes about the behaviour of others on here.

Sometimes they're rude, sometimes they're overly sensitive, sometimes they're just down right crawa, but do they know?

Do you think people consciously decide to act in a certain way sometimes?

Do you ever reflect on your own behaviour on here? Do you question why you acted in a certain way? Are you ever embarrassed by something youve said or done?

No because I’m the same in real life

This.

I do think some lack self awareness regarding how they act on here

Keyboard warriors are what they are"

Not exactly those I was referring to

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Nope, I'm even more twatish and spout more inane drivel in real life than I ever do on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think some people pride themselves with their acidic tongue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think some people are totally aware that they can be an utter cuntwaffle...others are simply deluded and think they really are lovely

Myself, I know I can often be far to sassy for my own good, I'm sarcastic and enjoy winding people up...but it's never malicious, I can only hope others see that too! In general though, I don't really give a shit what anyone thinks of me...unless I like you, in which case you must be cool enough to think I'm awesome

I’ve read a lot of your posts you just flirt loads "

Me?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think some people are totally aware that they can be an utter cuntwaffle...others are simply deluded and think they really are lovely

Myself, I know I can often be far to sassy for my own good, I'm sarcastic and enjoy winding people up...but it's never malicious, I can only hope others see that too! In general though, I don't really give a shit what anyone thinks of me...unless I like you, in which case you must be cool enough to think I'm awesome

I’ve read a lot of your posts you just flirt loads

Me?! "

Can't possibly mean you at all

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By *icky-discoMan
over a year ago

oxford


"I think some people are totally aware that they can be an utter cuntwaffle...others are simply deluded and think they really are lovely

Myself, I know I can often be far to sassy for my own good, I'm sarcastic and enjoy winding people up...but it's never malicious, I can only hope others see that too! In general though, I don't really give a shit what anyone thinks of me...unless I like you, in which case you must be cool enough to think I'm awesome

I’ve read a lot of your posts you just flirt loads

Me?! "

Yep lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Slander!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Crawa was meant to be crazy. I think mine shines through in typos

Id agree. I think some people just arent aware of how they come across.

Personally im the same in real life. I know I can be a bit too cheeky or sarcastic at times and I need to bear in mind that doesnt always come across well in written text but ive never had to question my actions.

An incident earlier has reminded me that some people can go out of their way to be devious and i need to not be so trusting or laissez-faire about things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Slander! "

Green arrow categorically proves this is not slander, or libel

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think some people are totally aware that they can be an utter cuntwaffle...others are simply deluded and think they really are lovely

Myself, I know I can often be far to sassy for my own good, I'm sarcastic and enjoy winding people up...but it's never malicious, I can only hope others see that too! In general though, I don't really give a shit what anyone thinks of me...unless I like you, in which case you must be cool enough to think I'm awesome "

You're alright

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By *icky-discoMan
over a year ago

oxford


"Slander! "

Cruel but fair

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"

Do you ever reflect on your own behaviour on here? Do you question why you acted in a certain way? Are you ever embarrassed by something youve said or done? "

Yes

Yes

and yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Slander!

Green arrow categorically proves this is not slander, or libel "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure it's obvious to others and the person themselves when they're being a dick. It's easy to spot, in real life or online. Some go out of their way to make it clear.

Yes, I believe sometimes it's pre planned.

But hey, it's Christmas, fabs anyone?

*Fabs - fancy a big snog?

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

People have told me before I am hard to chat to via fab and come across as cold and harsh in messages.

I was quite upset because I'm not like that face to face!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm sure it's obvious to others and the person themselves when they're being a dick. It's easy to spot, in real life or online. Some go out of their way to make it clear.

Yes, I believe sometimes it's pre planned.

But hey, it's Christmas, fabs anyone?

*Fabs - fancy a big snog? "

Fuck Christmas....faf?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm sure it's obvious to others and the person themselves when they're being a dick. It's easy to spot, in real life or online. Some go out of their way to make it clear.

Yes, I believe sometimes it's pre planned.

But hey, it's Christmas, fabs anyone?

*Fabs - fancy a big snog? "

Oh go on then!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm sure it's obvious to others and the person themselves when they're being a dick. It's easy to spot, in real life or online. Some go out of their way to make it clear.

Yes, I believe sometimes it's pre planned.

But hey, it's Christmas, fabs anyone?

*Fabs - fancy a big snog?

Fuck Christmas....faf? "

Facs? Fancy a Christmas Shag.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"People have told me before I am hard to chat to via fab and come across as cold and harsh in messages.

I was quite upset because I'm not like that face to face!! "

Im the same! Im not great at small talk by message! I tend to be to the point.

Someone did once cann me sexually aggressive-i thought i was flirting

Ive always found you lovely and friendly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm the same in person. Speak as I find.

Fb

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm sure it's obvious to others and the person themselves when they're being a dick. It's easy to spot, in real life or online. Some go out of their way to make it clear.

Yes, I believe sometimes it's pre planned.

But hey, it's Christmas, fabs anyone?

*Fabs - fancy a big snog?

Fuck Christmas....faf?

Facs? Fancy a Christmas Shag. "

Fuck Christmas

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By *icky-discoMan
over a year ago

oxford


"People have told me before I am hard to chat to via fab and come across as cold and harsh in messages.

I was quite upset because I'm not like that face to face!!

Im the same! Im not great at small talk by message! I tend to be to the point.

Someone did once cann me sexually aggressive-i thought i was flirting

Ive always found you lovely and friendly "

I’m not flirting with you by the way

But you are one of the forum users who’s posts I enjoy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some definitely know. 100%.

Others don't see it at all, kinda like a blind spot and are oblivious to it. Revelling in the opportunity to belittle or demean someone on the forum at any opportunity. It's not banter when its done with such spite and bile.

Well... just my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've all got gripes about the behaviour of others on here.

Sometimes they're rude, sometimes they're overly sensitive, sometimes they're just down right crawa, but do they know?

Do you think people consciously decide to act in a certain way sometimes?

Do you ever reflect on your own behaviour on here? Do you question why you acted in a certain way? Are you ever embarrassed by something youve said or done?

No because I’m the same in real life

This.

I do think some lack self awareness regarding how they act on here"
some judge others as a matter of course all written text can be read ambiguously try it and see,read a message you thought was negative from a positive perspective

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm sure it's obvious to others and the person themselves when they're being a dick. It's easy to spot, in real life or online. Some go out of their way to make it clear.

Yes, I believe sometimes it's pre planned.

But hey, it's Christmas, fabs anyone?

*Fabs - fancy a big snog?

Fuck Christmas....faf?

Facs? Fancy a Christmas Shag.

Fuck Christmas "

Fass. Fancy shitmas shag?

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Yep i think most do know and enjoy having a go or patronising others

We try to be mindful of others on here and not get involved in some of the threads.

You can always rely on certain profiles behaving in the same way,not in a good way.

Miss

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By *eeky goodnessMan
over a year ago

Worcester

Hopefully I dont come across as crazy haha I'm the same on here as I'am in RL I try to be nice, kind, respectful, sometimes over the top with compliments but my hearts in the right place

I'll be in the corner if I'm needed

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By *rtemis-AkelaCouple
over a year ago

Wigan, Liverpool

I personally believe your online actions should be a reflection of your real life actions. If i wouldn't say it or do it in a real life public meet (or private if the chat goes that way) then I won't online.

Some people, however, see the internet as a place to hide and to get away with anything. I believe their online actions are their true selves and the internet offers them a place where they no longer have to hide that.

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By *oddyWoman
over a year ago

between havant and chichester


"Yep i think most do know and enjoy having a go or patronising others

We try to be mindful of others on here and not get involved in some of the threads.

You can always rely on certain profiles behaving in the same way,not in a good way.

Miss"
you took the words right out of my mouth there missx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see it...then just flit away, and find a happy spot to linger

But don't feckin upset my friends ...

Peach x

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax


"Yep i think most do know and enjoy having a go or patronising others

We try to be mindful of others on here and not get involved in some of the threads.

You can always rely on certain profiles behaving in the same way,not in a good way.

Missyou took the words right out of my mouth there missx"

Glad its not just mex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm sure it's obvious to others and the person themselves when they're being a dick. It's easy to spot, in real life or online. Some go out of their way to make it clear.

Yes, I believe sometimes it's pre planned.

But hey, it's Christmas, fabs anyone?

*Fabs - fancy a big snog?

Fuck Christmas....faf?

Facs? Fancy a Christmas Shag.

Fuck Christmas "

Does Christmas have a say in this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm sure it's obvious to others and the person themselves when they're being a dick. It's easy to spot, in real life or online. Some go out of their way to make it clear.

Yes, I believe sometimes it's pre planned.

But hey, it's Christmas, fabs anyone?

*Fabs - fancy a big snog?

Fuck Christmas....faf?

Facs? Fancy a Christmas Shag.

Fuck Christmas

Does Christmas have a say in this? "

Say Christmas again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm sure it's obvious to others and the person themselves when they're being a dick. It's easy to spot, in real life or online. Some go out of their way to make it clear.

Yes, I believe sometimes it's pre planned.

But hey, it's Christmas, fabs anyone?

*Fabs - fancy a big snog?

Fuck Christmas....faf?

Facs? Fancy a Christmas Shag.

Fuck Christmas

Does Christmas have a say in this?

Say Christmas again "

Christmas

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was really badly bullied by someone on here for quite a while and I spoke to other members in case it was me and I was told that this person (who they had met face to face), is a mousy wall flower type who wouldn't say boo to a goose face to face, yet in here they are a bully, attention seeker and generally unpleasant and jealous person... I think that a lot of online bullies are very similar to this person.

I would never treat someone in that way and I was almost driven off the site by this person but other people who talked to me privately at the time it was at its worst made me realise that that person was the one with the problem and not me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some definitely know. 100%.

Others don't see it at all, kinda like a blind spot and are oblivious to it. Revelling in the opportunity to belittle or demean someone on the forum at any opportunity. It's not banter when its done with such spite and bile.

Well... just my opinion "

Very true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm sure it's obvious to others and the person themselves when they're being a dick. It's easy to spot, in real life or online. Some go out of their way to make it clear.

Yes, I believe sometimes it's pre planned.

But hey, it's Christmas, fabs anyone?

*Fabs - fancy a big snog?

Fuck Christmas....faf?

Facs? Fancy a Christmas Shag.

Fuck Christmas

Does Christmas have a say in this?

Say Christmas again

Christmas "

I was going to withdraw my offer of a festive shag...but I'm super horny so I'll just have to punish you in other ways

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I see it...then just flit away, and find a happy spot to linger

But don't feckin upset my friends ...

Peach x

"

You are always the ultimate in cheeriness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People have told me before I am hard to chat to via fab and come across as cold and harsh in messages.

I was quite upset because I'm not like that face to face!! "

Messages can be read completely different to how you meant it same has forum posts. Also some people post comments and mean it as a joke but don’t put anything to show it’s a joke. I have seen a few people on here that just post negative or nasty comments to anything that’s posted. But then I read things and thought wow that’s harsh but the same person as been lovely on a different post. I can be guilty for being blunt and sometimes think I shouldn’t of posted that. So yes there are people who just go out of the way to be arses. Also we all have things we don’t like or might disagree witch may show in a post. I also think many think they can get away with more on threads than they would if it was a real conversation with real people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm sure it's obvious to others and the person themselves when they're being a dick. It's easy to spot, in real life or online. Some go out of their way to make it clear.

Yes, I believe sometimes it's pre planned.

But hey, it's Christmas, fabs anyone?

*Fabs - fancy a big snog?

Fuck Christmas....faf?

Facs? Fancy a Christmas Shag.

Fuck Christmas

Does Christmas have a say in this?

Say Christmas again

Christmas

I was going to withdraw my offer of a festive shag...but I'm super horny so I'll just have to punish you in other ways "

Withdraw what offer? hello

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm sure it's obvious to others and the person themselves when they're being a dick. It's easy to spot, in real life or online. Some go out of their way to make it clear.

Yes, I believe sometimes it's pre planned.

But hey, it's Christmas, fabs anyone?

*Fabs - fancy a big snog?

Fuck Christmas....faf?

Facs? Fancy a Christmas Shag.

Fuck Christmas

Does Christmas have a say in this?

Say Christmas again

Christmas

I was going to withdraw my offer of a festive shag...but I'm super horny so I'll just have to punish you in other ways

Withdraw what offer? hello "

Have another read Bee

I'll be there presently...I'll bring mince pies and a flogger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I definitely think a handful of people on here are purposely cruel and mean. I just try to avoid drama as best I can.

As regards my behaviour, I come here to have fun so always try to be nice. Sometimes I'm a bit low but I wouldn't take it out on anybody.

I'm my time in the Forums, only one little episode has really really upset me but, on the whole, most people here are fun fab fabbers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I swear a lot on here but I do in real life.

Mum says I was a nice girl till I went to work in the factories!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I'm basically a nice person about 90% of the time and treat people on here the way I would in real life. But every now and then an arsehole of the highest degree will come along or someone will push a button and I'll react in a way I wish I hadn't. Not big or clever but we're only human.

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Yes to all of the above, op. Pretty sure that most that annoy us know and pretty sure we know most we annoy, it doesn’t deter a jot and hope we don’t irritate too much either. As it’s Christmas we’ve decided to remove everyone off our block list, Mery Christmas!

Not a chance!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes to all of the above, op. Pretty sure that most that annoy us know and pretty sure we know most we annoy, it doesn’t deter a jot and hope we don’t irritate too much either. As it’s Christmas we’ve decided to remove everyone off our block list, Mery Christmas!

Not a chance!

"

Dare ya!!!!

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe


"Yes to all of the above, op. Pretty sure that most that annoy us know and pretty sure we know most we annoy, it doesn’t deter a jot and hope we don’t irritate too much either. As it’s Christmas we’ve decided to remove everyone off our block list, Mery Christmas!

Not a chance!

Dare ya!!!! "

Can you imagine the vitriol that we’d endure it could be funny thinking about it

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East


"We've all got gripes about the behaviour of others on here.

Sometimes they're rude, sometimes they're overly sensitive, sometimes they're just down right crawa, but do they know?

Do you think people consciously decide to act in a certain way sometimes?

Do you ever reflect on your own behaviour on here? Do you question why you acted in a certain way? Are you ever embarrassed by something youve said or done? "

I can't speak for anyone else but I know I can be over sensitive at times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's only one meneber on here that winds me up enough to comment.

She blocked me right after I called her an self opinionated, stuck up her own arse, try hard lefty stooge.

So, yeah, I think she knows

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some definitely know. 100%.

Others don't see it at all, kinda like a blind spot and are oblivious to it. Revelling in the opportunity to belittle or demean someone on the forum at any opportunity. It's not banter when its done with such spite and bile.

Well... just my opinion "

I would agree.

I think some also make judgements about others and then seek their evidence for their own story. Personally, I value non-judgmental approaches and deeper intellect of communication, not assuming things on face value flaming based on lack of understanding or intent to check in with another. And actually understanding what being non judgmental is. It doesn’t mean someone can’t disagree with you, or challenge or question your own self centred blindspots and over sensitivities.

In fact it’s the same people who forget Eleanor Roosevelt’s quote - “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.“

I have consented to let acid tongues hurt, but then realised, it’s ignorance, intolerance and unsolicited condemnation being dealt out, and I don’t consent. My actions or thoughts were judged not questioned. That’s not a person I respect.

I’m misread by some. I’m judged by some. But none of those people have any intent to check out if there’s miscommunication and hence, that says more about them than me.

Schoolyard intellect. And an inability to be accountable.

I made the decision, and it had to be a decision as I’m a big believer in fairness of discussion to resolve misunderstandings, but some thrive on discord so have no intent of anything but the spite and bile, as you say G, so I choose to not consent. Big it up Eleanor R.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I definitely think a handful of people on here are purposely cruel and mean. I just try to avoid drama as best I can.

As regards my behaviour, I come here to have fun so always try to be nice. Sometimes I'm a bit low but I wouldn't take it out on anybody.

I'm my time in the Forums, only one little episode has really really upset me but, on the whole, most people here are fun fab fabbers "

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East


"Some definitely know. 100%.

Others don't see it at all, kinda like a blind spot and are oblivious to it. Revelling in the opportunity to belittle or demean someone on the forum at any opportunity. It's not banter when its done with such spite and bile.

Well... just my opinion

I would agree.

I think some also make judgements about others and then seek their evidence for their own story. Personally, I value non-judgmental approaches and deeper intellect of communication, not assuming things on face value flaming based on lack of understanding or intent to check in with another. And actually understanding what being non judgmental is. It doesn’t mean someone can’t disagree with you, or challenge or question your own self centred blindspots and over sensitivities.

In fact it’s the same people who forget Eleanor Roosevelt’s quote - “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.“

I have consented to let acid tongues hurt, but then realised, it’s ignorance, intolerance and unsolicited condemnation being dealt out, and I don’t consent. My actions or thoughts were judged not questioned. That’s not a person I respect.

I’m misread by some. I’m judged by some. But none of those people have any intent to check out if there’s miscommunication and hence, that says more about them than me.

Schoolyard intellect. And an inability to be accountable.

I made the decision, and it had to be a decision as I’m a big believer in fairness of discussion to resolve misunderstandings, but some thrive on discord so have no intent of anything but the spite and bile, as you say G, so I choose to not consent. Big it up Eleanor R. "

I will admit I misread you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People have told me before I am hard to chat to via fab and come across as cold and harsh in messages.

I was quite upset because I'm not like that face to face!!

Messages can be read completely different to how you meant it same has forum posts. Also some people post comments and mean it as a joke but don’t put anything to show it’s a joke. I have seen a few people on here that just post negative or nasty comments to anything that’s posted. But then I read things and thought wow that’s harsh but the same person as been lovely on a different post. I can be guilty for being blunt and sometimes think I shouldn’t of posted that. So yes there are people who just go out of the way to be arses. Also we all have things we don’t like or might disagree witch may show in a post. I also think many think they can get away with more on threads than they would if it was a real conversation with real people "

I think that makes a lot of sense!

I would never post something I wouldn’t say in person, also because commenting something here in writing for posterity, or that could be reproduced from a message etc - it’s permanent. Words and the written word, I take very seriously. Authenticity is incredibly important to me. Does it mean people actually understand me, nope! We all read and hear with our projected understanding of the world. I can’t control how my words which honour my intent are received by another in a completely different way serving their own projection of the world or me. However, if someone communicates with me to understand both perspectives, without prejudice or attack, then I have the utmost respect. And the caveat is important.

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

For those who've met me know I'm as upfront and honest in person. Never seen the point of hiding behind a computer screen to please who?

But I do have regular time outs from the forums, some of the inane waffle gets a bit meh sometimes

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over a year ago


"Some definitely know. 100%.

Others don't see it at all, kinda like a blind spot and are oblivious to it. Revelling in the opportunity to belittle or demean someone on the forum at any opportunity. It's not banter when its done with such spite and bile.

Well... just my opinion

I would agree.

I think some also make judgements about others and then seek their evidence for their own story. Personally, I value non-judgmental approaches and deeper intellect of communication, not assuming things on face value flaming based on lack of understanding or intent to check in with another. And actually understanding what being non judgmental is. It doesn’t mean someone can’t disagree with you, or challenge or question your own self centred blindspots and over sensitivities.

In fact it’s the same people who forget Eleanor Roosevelt’s quote - “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.“

I have consented to let acid tongues hurt, but then realised, it’s ignorance, intolerance and unsolicited condemnation being dealt out, and I don’t consent. My actions or thoughts were judged not questioned. That’s not a person I respect.

I’m misread by some. I’m judged by some. But none of those people have any intent to check out if there’s miscommunication and hence, that says more about them than me.

Schoolyard intellect. And an inability to be accountable.

I made the decision, and it had to be a decision as I’m a big believer in fairness of discussion to resolve misunderstandings, but some thrive on discord so have no intent of anything but the spite and bile, as you say G, so I choose to not consent. Big it up Eleanor R.

I will admit I misread you."

And I wish you had told me.

But you know, I could see the miscommunication from both sides the following day. Hence my clarifying it!!

It’s weird because on that same thread someone assumed a contextual discussion which stemmed from the Weinstein revelations, and discussion of humour being helpful or non helpful in the current societal construct that has allowed Weinstein etc to thrive, took it as saying that they were like Weinstein. Which was so far off the mark of the discussion late that evening it could have been seen as funny, except for the fact they were clearly upset. I asked someone to let that person know that wasn’t the case. Sadly they were unwilling to do so.

People seek evidence for what they already believe, for suits their script.

Anyhow, ‘tis life.

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over a year ago


"For those who've met me know I'm as upfront and honest in person. Never seen the point of hiding behind a computer screen to please who?

But I do have regular time outs from the forums, some of the inane waffle gets a bit meh sometimes "

You’re fan-fucking-tastic in person.

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over a year ago


"I was really badly bullied by someone on here for quite a while and I spoke to other members in case it was me and I was told that this person (who they had met face to face), is a mousy wall flower type who wouldn't say boo to a goose face to face, yet in here they are a bully, attention seeker and generally unpleasant and jealous person... I think that a lot of online bullies are very similar to this person.

I would never treat someone in that way and I was almost driven off the site by this person but other people who talked to me privately at the time it was at its worst made me realise that that person was the one with the problem and not me "

I’ve had the same xx

Hugs

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over a year ago

I am extremely dry and love to tease. I hope that I don't come across too badly sometimes. I do sometimes feel I need a filter. Most of what I say is said in jest. People who know me on here, understand that. But I'm aware that others may think I'm being serious.... Apologies to anyone that I may have annoyed very slightly .

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London


"For those who've met me know I'm as upfront and honest in person. Never seen the point of hiding behind a computer screen to please who?

But I do have regular time outs from the forums, some of the inane waffle gets a bit meh sometimes

You’re fan-fucking-tastic in person. "

Aah shush you

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

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"Some definitely know. 100%.

Others don't see it at all, kinda like a blind spot and are oblivious to it. Revelling in the opportunity to belittle or demean someone on the forum at any opportunity. It's not banter when its done with such spite and bile.

Well... just my opinion

I would agree.

I think some also make judgements about others and then seek their evidence for their own story. Personally, I value non-judgmental approaches and deeper intellect of communication, not assuming things on face value flaming based on lack of understanding or intent to check in with another. And actually understanding what being non judgmental is. It doesn’t mean someone can’t disagree with you, or challenge or question your own self centred blindspots and over sensitivities.

In fact it’s the same people who forget Eleanor Roosevelt’s quote - “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.“

I have consented to let acid tongues hurt, but then realised, it’s ignorance, intolerance and unsolicited condemnation being dealt out, and I don’t consent. My actions or thoughts were judged not questioned. That’s not a person I respect.

I’m misread by some. I’m judged by some. But none of those people have any intent to check out if there’s miscommunication and hence, that says more about them than me.

Schoolyard intellect. And an inability to be accountable.

I made the decision, and it had to be a decision as I’m a big believer in fairness of discussion to resolve misunderstandings, but some thrive on discord so have no intent of anything but the spite and bile, as you say G, so I choose to not consent. Big it up Eleanor R.

I will admit I misread you.

And I wish you had told me.

But you know, I could see the miscommunication from both sides the following day. Hence my clarifying it!!

It’s weird because on that same thread someone assumed a contextual discussion which stemmed from the Weinstein revelations, and discussion of humour being helpful or non helpful in the current societal construct that has allowed Weinstein etc to thrive, took it as saying that they were like Weinstein. Which was so far off the mark of the discussion late that evening it could have been seen as funny, except for the fact they were clearly upset. I asked someone to let that person know that wasn’t the case. Sadly they were unwilling to do so.

People seek evidence for what they already believe, for suits their script.

Anyhow, ‘tis life.

"

The person was unwilling to pass the message on or the recipient didn't accept your explanation?

2 other factors regarding that thread. The one about the bulger killers was running at same time wasn't it? And there were 2 people posting on the weinstein one that I am not keen on at all. Difficuilt for me to be objective in that situation. Not a good excuse of course.

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

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"I am extremely dry and love to tease. I hope that I don't come across too badly sometimes. I do sometimes feel I need a filter. Most of what I say is said in jest. People who know me on here, understand that. But I'm aware that others may think I'm being serious.... Apologies to anyone that I may have annoyed very slightly . "

You called me a shit. I am still traumatised

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am extremely dry and love to tease. I hope that I don't come across too badly sometimes. I do sometimes feel I need a filter. Most of what I say is said in jest. People who know me on here, understand that. But I'm aware that others may think I'm being serious.... Apologies to anyone that I may have annoyed very slightly . "
you come across lovely don't know where you got that from

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am extremely dry and love to tease. I hope that I don't come across too badly sometimes. I do sometimes feel I need a filter. Most of what I say is said in jest. People who know me on here, understand that. But I'm aware that others may think I'm being serious.... Apologies to anyone that I may have annoyed very slightly .

You called me a shit. I am still traumatised "

You called me dozy and you said I wasn't funny! I owe you one more insult

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am extremely dry and love to tease. I hope that I don't come across too badly sometimes. I do sometimes feel I need a filter. Most of what I say is said in jest. People who know me on here, understand that. But I'm aware that others may think I'm being serious.... Apologies to anyone that I may have annoyed very slightly . you come across lovely don't know where you got that from "

You're just as dry as me. I can't take that seriously

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

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"I am extremely dry and love to tease. I hope that I don't come across too badly sometimes. I do sometimes feel I need a filter. Most of what I say is said in jest. People who know me on here, understand that. But I'm aware that others may think I'm being serious.... Apologies to anyone that I may have annoyed very slightly .

You called me a shit. I am still traumatised

You called me dozy and you said I wasn't funny! I owe you one more insult "

Also dippy. So you owe me 2 lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am extremely dry and love to tease. I hope that I don't come across too badly sometimes. I do sometimes feel I need a filter. Most of what I say is said in jest. People who know me on here, understand that. But I'm aware that others may think I'm being serious.... Apologies to anyone that I may have annoyed very slightly .

You called me a shit. I am still traumatised

You called me dozy and you said I wasn't funny! I owe you one more insult

Also dippy. So you owe me 2 lol"

I also told you to fuck off, so we're back down to 1

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im the kind who takes advice from Thumper. I try to think before I say/type, it I have got anything nice to say... Etc... its much easier to blurt things out in real life too, which counts as a bit of a disadvantage

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East


"I am extremely dry and love to tease. I hope that I don't come across too badly sometimes. I do sometimes feel I need a filter. Most of what I say is said in jest. People who know me on here, understand that. But I'm aware that others may think I'm being serious.... Apologies to anyone that I may have annoyed very slightly .

You called me a shit. I am still traumatised

You called me dozy and you said I wasn't funny! I owe you one more insult

Also dippy. So you owe me 2 lol

I also told you to fuck off, so we're back down to 1 "

O yeah! 1 in the bank then. Err so to speak

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am extremely dry and love to tease. I hope that I don't come across too badly sometimes. I do sometimes feel I need a filter. Most of what I say is said in jest. People who know me on here, understand that. But I'm aware that others may think I'm being serious.... Apologies to anyone that I may have annoyed very slightly . you come across lovely don't know where you got that from

You're just as dry as me. I can't take that seriously "
ha touché

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm sure it's obvious to others and the person themselves when they're being a dick. It's easy to spot, in real life or online. Some go out of their way to make it clear.

Yes, I believe sometimes it's pre planned.

But hey, it's Christmas, fabs anyone?

*Fabs - fancy a big snog?

Fuck Christmas....faf?

Facs? Fancy a Christmas Shag.

Fuck Christmas

Does Christmas have a say in this?

Say Christmas again

Christmas

I was going to withdraw my offer of a festive shag...but I'm super horny so I'll just have to punish you in other ways

Withdraw what offer? hello

Have another read Bee

I'll be there presently...I'll bring mince pies and a flogger "

Forget the pies and flogger. Just bring yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m the same online as I am in person! I flirt (terribly) if given the opportunity. I talk to almost anyone, I have time for anyone as long as they’re not completely rude. Online I have a lot more confidence though.

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over a year ago


"Some definitely know. 100%.

Others don't see it at all, kinda like a blind spot and are oblivious to it. Revelling in the opportunity to belittle or demean someone on the forum at any opportunity. It's not banter when its done with such spite and bile.

Well... just my opinion

I would agree.

I think some also make judgements about others and then seek their evidence for their own story. Personally, I value non-judgmental approaches and deeper intellect of communication, not assuming things on face value flaming based on lack of understanding or intent to check in with another. And actually understanding what being non judgmental is. It doesn’t mean someone can’t disagree with you, or challenge or question your own self centred blindspots and over sensitivities.

In fact it’s the same people who forget Eleanor Roosevelt’s quote - “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.“

I have consented to let acid tongues hurt, but then realised, it’s ignorance, intolerance and unsolicited condemnation being dealt out, and I don’t consent. My actions or thoughts were judged not questioned. That’s not a person I respect.

I’m misread by some. I’m judged by some. But none of those people have any intent to check out if there’s miscommunication and hence, that says more about them than me.

Schoolyard intellect. And an inability to be accountable.

I made the decision, and it had to be a decision as I’m a big believer in fairness of discussion to resolve misunderstandings, but some thrive on discord so have no intent of anything but the spite and bile, as you say G, so I choose to not consent. Big it up Eleanor R. "

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

...

Some people are just spiteful sly sneaks. It isn't nice.

Those of you who know me are fully aware I speak my mind, I won't sugar the plum. Sometimes I regret it other times it is refreshing.

Estella and G3orgie your words are perfect.

Anyway. I'm actually lovely when you get to know me, if I let you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people are just spiteful sly sneaks. It isn't nice.

Those of you who know me are fully aware I speak my mind, I won't sugar the plum. Sometimes I regret it other times it is refreshing.

Estella and G3orgie your words are perfect.

Anyway. I'm actually lovely when you get to know me, if I let you. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes I apologise. I do care what people think. Sometimes it doesn't matter what I say so it's best to say nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've all got gripes about the behaviour of others on here.

Sometimes they're rude, sometimes they're overly sensitive, sometimes they're just down right crawa, but do they know?

Do you think people consciously decide to act in a certain way sometimes?

Do you ever reflect on your own behaviour on here? Do you question why you acted in a certain way? Are you ever embarrassed by something youve said or done?

No because I’m the same in real life

This.

I do think some lack self awareness regarding how they act on here

Keyboard warriors are what they are"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say what I say here face to face, and a fuck load more.

I couldn't care any less what anyone thinks of me here and I'm sure there are several that detest me. Which makes me happy

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