FabSwingers.com forum: How's you messages

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Being asked the same question irritates me. How does everyone else feel?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd feel better if I was 38 and in your age range

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

There are exceptions to every rule lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are exceptions to every rule lol

Naughty!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

No we don't mind. We have a look at the profile and if it looks ok will message back. If the following messages continue to be one liners we stop the chat. We've been pleasantly surprised on occasion

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By *accaMan
over a year ago

leicester

Its being polite I'd say, you've got to open an conversation somehow

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

I probably ask questions so random the poor person will never get asked again.

Might explain the huge percentage of 'read/deleted' that follows my efforts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a tough one as how else do you start a message without typing as if you had met in public....I always say hi how are you when I meet someone?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A how's you message is better than no message which is what i seem to be having a run of.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"Being asked the same question irritates me. How does everyone else feel? "

There's a certain irony to asking how everyone feels about "How's you?" messages

To answer the question, it depends...if it's from someone I know, then not a problem - if it's unsolicited then if the sender has a decent profile that interests me, then I may well respond and try to open the conversation out a little

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By *orthatry84Couple
over a year ago

cardiff

I do prefer it to be a bit more, I try to respond to most messages but honestly, just “Hi” I either ignore or gets “Hi” in return... they wanted to speak to me so why do I have to make all the effort?

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By *lackbird1000Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Being asked the same question irritates me. How does everyone else feel? "
totally irritates me and is on my profile! I would prefer they start to with a greeting but speak about themselves and what they are looking for! Xx

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By *oby le roneMan
over a year ago

Treorchy

"It's a tough one as how else do you start a message without typing as if you had met in public....I always say hi how are you when I meet someone?!"

This, also some profiles make it difficult to start a conversation. Sometimes I don't put the effort in because I know the message will either go unread or read and deleted. Sometimes though I've been pleasantly surprised and had some great conversations from a simple Hi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get tired of answering the same questions all the time...I tend to ignore bland messages tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Being asked the same question irritates me. How does everyone else feel? "

Especially when the title is "x" and then just 2 words...yeah... Yawn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They don't really irritate me. I much prefer them to the copy and paste job of what they're going to do to me... yeah and the hundreds of others who've had the same message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Being asked the same question irritates me. How does everyone else feel?

Especially when the title is "x" and then just 2 words...yeah... Yawn

Subject: x

2 words...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Being asked the same question irritates me. How does everyone else feel?

Especially when the title is "x" and then just 2 words...yeah... Yawn

Subject: x

2 words..."

Cheeky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not totally against it, obviously there's much better messages to send but it when the conversation moves on and all you still get is 2 words or one liners back I just give up as it gets painful!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

...and the ladies are just as bad, had one this morning that just said “Face pic?”.

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By *imply_SensualMan
over a year ago

warrington

Another question but related......

If someone opens with 'How's You?' then provides a more detailed introduction to themselves underneath, this will likely appear in your inbox as looking like a one liner - do people assume this and delete or do they open it to see if there is anything else?

For me, a simple How's you doesn't really cut it, and I prefer to add some detail about me and why I liked the person I am messaging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Being asked the same question irritates me. How does everyone else feel? "

Feels like it will be a major effort get any real conversation out of them. All the onus has been put on us to be engaging in the reply. That along with generic subjects like "X" or "Hi" and when people end every message with an 'x' kiss.

Rant over.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind so much really..long as they're not dickheads I don't mind basic hello type messages..I don't need some finely woven introduction with attached photo and c.v to start a conversation.

But....I don't get inundated with messages either so i imagine daily repetition gets a bit samey.

I'd pop up my filters i think and craft my own messages, take charge of my own conversations.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It makes me feel Stabby

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Prefer them to faf or wanna meet etc

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't mind as don't get many seems males don't get pestered as much as females.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Needs to start the conversation somehow, some people are a bit backwards in coming forwards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Being asked the same question irritates me. How does everyone else feel?

Especially when the title is "x" and then just 2 words...yeah... Yawn

Especially if those 2 words are

High

Maintenance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find having a document saved that you can copy and paste comes in handy.

A 3 page diatribe about your life in general, what's right, what's not, how the kids are, how work is, how your parents health gets you down etc.

Then say 'how's you ?'

It is rare they come back for more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most messages sent by single guys are deleted unanswered, often unread.

A hi how are you or are you having a good week doesn't seem unreasonable. A simple hi back would generally (though not always) prompt a more detailed second message I imagine?

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I ignore purely because the same amount of effort has been put into their profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"...and the ladies are just as bad, had one this morning that just said “Face pic?”."

Was that a 1st message or a reply to you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Being asked the same question irritates me. How does everyone else feel?

Especially when the title is "x" and then just 2 words...yeah... Yawn

Especially if those 2 words are

High

Maintenance

One thing this lady ain't

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By *ild_oatsMan
over a year ago

the land of saints & sinners

I'm doing fine.... Thanks everyone for asking...

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By *appyhumper123Man
over a year ago

hull

Don't get any but that's life

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By *orwegian BlueMan
over a year ago

Iceland, but Aldi is closer..

At the moment I'm getting quite a lot of "how's you?" Messages

I don't mind, it means people out there care for my wellbeing..

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By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

Are you on about these rear things people apparently get in Thar in box,s that apparently make the in box turn yellow ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"At the moment I'm getting quite a lot of "how's you?" Messages

I don't mind, it means people out there care for my wellbeing.. "

Hello fella... How's you?

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Being asked the same question irritates me. How does everyone else feel? "

Never had one

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By *appyhumper123Man
over a year ago

hull

"Being asked the same question irritates me. How does everyone else feel?

Never had one

It's not just me then, good to know

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Being asked the same question irritates me. How does everyone else feel?

Never had one

It's not just me then, good to know"

Any second now, the 'white maidens' will spring in to action and start blitzing our inboxes........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm feeling fine thanks, how's you?

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

"Being asked the same question irritates me. How does everyone else feel?

Never had one

It's not just me then, good to know

Any second now, the 'white maidens' will spring in to action and start blitzing our inboxes........

Haha. White maidens tickled me

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By *appyhumper123Man
over a year ago

hull

"Being asked the same question irritates me. How does everyone else feel?

Never had one

It's not just me then, good to know

Any second now, the 'white maidens' will spring in to action and start blitzing our inboxes........

"
how will I ever cope lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Being asked the same question irritates me. How does everyone else feel?

Never had one

It's not just me then, good to know

Any second now, the 'white maidens' will spring in to action and start blitzing our inboxes........

Just slipping into my frock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Being asked the same question irritates me. How does everyone else feel? "

To be honest I don't understand your question!

Are you complaining you get ask the same question all the time, which you haven't told us what it is? Or is

"How's your Messsges" the question you're referring to?

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By *appyhumper123Man
over a year ago

hull

"Being asked the same question irritates me. How does everyone else feel?

Never had one

It's not just me then, good to know

Any second now, the 'white maidens' will spring in to action and start blitzing our inboxes........

Just slipping into my frock

Be better if you slipped out of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But what would rather have a Hi how’s you or a Fancy a fuck ? I always try to be polite and if it progresses maybe try the second question later on but not quite the same wording

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

"Being asked the same question irritates me. How does everyone else feel? "

I see it as a waste of my time and theirs, as it only gets deleted.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It's how's you lol, how's you how's you... And then you go on chat and you get 10 pm's and guess what they say.... Yes how's f@#&ing you. I am fine ty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's how's you lol, how's you how's you... And then you go on chat and you get 10 pm's and guess what they say.... Yes how's f@#&ing you. I am fine ty

Must have a more tiring day than I thought! Is this an extract from a Welsh Pantomime?

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Being asked the same question irritates me. How does everyone else feel?

Never had one

It's not just me then, good to know

Any second now, the 'white maidens' will spring in to action and start blitzing our inboxes........

Just slipping into my frock

Well I know you have a trusty steed.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Being asked the same question irritates me. How does everyone else feel? "

how else would you start a conversation?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's how's you lol, how's you how's you... And then you go on chat and you get 10 pm's and guess what they say.... Yes how's f@#&ing you. I am fine ty

Must have a more tiring day than I thought! Is this an extract from a Welsh Pantomime?

Ooh careful you could get accused of racism for specifying it as a Welsh panto

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By *unkydesignCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

I suppose it’s just a quick way of saying “hello, I’m possibly interested in you”. If subsequent replies are equally brief we tend not to chat any further as 2-3 word replies are so annoying coming from a person who actually started the conversation.

More annoying to us are the “hows u?/wanna play?” introductory messages from people who haven’t read our profile and don’t fit our criteria. Those messages go straight in the bin without being opened.

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By *inglehotchickWoman
over a year ago

blackpool

Would rather have this than a faf or blatantly obvious cut and paste message where the sender has even forgot to change the name

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would rather have this than a faf or blatantly obvious cut and paste message where the sender has even forgot to change the name

here here. and can I just say wow!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I don't mind those messages but the same thread over and over does my tits right in x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Being asked the same question irritates me. How does everyone else feel? "

Do you mean same question from different people or same question from same person? If its the first then its understandable and maybe add the answer in ur profile to same the anguish.... If its the latter then - dump him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuck knows, never had one.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Oh really?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's how's you lol, how's you how's you... And then you go on chat and you get 10 pm's and guess what they say.... Yes how's f@#&ing you. I am fine ty

Must have a more tiring day than I thought! Is this an extract from a Welsh Pantomime?

Ooh careful you could get accused of racism for specifying it as a Welsh panto

Pleased you saw the funny side.

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

Don’t even open them, just delete them.

Profile does say that anything that unimaginative will be deleted & if someone wants to chat, please start a conversation.

If they’ve not bothered to read the profile, I don’t bother reading the message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Being asked the same question irritates me. How does everyone else feel? "

No dramas here, to be fair what would you say if you met somebody on a night out?

If they started telling you their life story before saying hi, you'd think wtf.

I think too many people want too much from a first message.

Even a plain old Hi is fine for us.

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