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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Nothing to do with swinging i know- sorry, but just need to vent a little.

24yrs ago my Dad went to sleep,, hardest day i ever had to get through,, had to be strong for my mum, help with bruv/sis,(disabled)sympathy cards had family names on- but not mine,, no one to speak too as mum sadly passed few year after,,theres no worse feeling when people ask how bruv/sis are-- i was their child too,may come across selfish- but i need someone to ask if i'm ok i'm the youngest and because i dont have a disability no one seems to care... it hurts..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nothing to do with swinging i know- sorry, but just need to vent a little.

24yrs ago my Dad went to sleep,, hardest day i ever had to get through,, had to be strong for my mum, help with bruv/sis,(disabled)sympathy cards had family names on- but not mine,, no one to speak too as mum sadly passed few year after,,theres no worse feeling when people ask how bruv/sis are-- i was their child too,may come across selfish- but i need someone to ask if i'm ok i'm the youngest and because i dont have a disability no one seems to care... it hurts.."

Well *I* care ... that's awful that you feel that way ... sending some virtual )))))hugs((((( your way x

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By *icearmsMan
over a year ago

KIDLINGTON

Sometime people do forget about the strong one in many circumstances. Maybe because at the time you put a strong front on in public.

Sending hugs on this day and I hope you are ok xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nothing to do with swinging i know- sorry, but just need to vent a little.

24yrs ago my Dad went to sleep,, hardest day i ever had to get through,, had to be strong for my mum, help with bruv/sis,(disabled)sympathy cards had family names on- but not mine,, no one to speak too as mum sadly passed few year after,,theres no worse feeling when people ask how bruv/sis are-- i was their child too,may come across selfish- but i need someone to ask if i'm ok i'm the youngest and because i dont have a disability no one seems to care... it hurts..

Well *I* care ... that's awful that you feel that way ... sending some virtual )))))hugs((((( your way x"

Thank you xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sometime people do forget about the strong one in many circumstances. Maybe because at the time you put a strong front on in public.

Sending hugs on this day and I hope you are ok xx"

?xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The Samaritans are fabulous for listening and understanding. Give them a call, they will help and I'm certain you'll feel better.

It's hard being the one that everyone turns to in their hour of need. They forget that you need a shoulder sometimes too.

You're not alone and people do care so never feel isolated. You just need to open up to someone and, if there's no one close, pick up the phone and dial 116 123 xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The Samaritans are fabulous for listening and understanding. Give them a call, they will help and I'm certain you'll feel better.

It's hard being the one that everyone turns to in their hour of need. They forget that you need a shoulder sometimes too.

You're not alone and people do care so never feel isolated. You just need to open up to someone and, if there's no one close, pick up the phone and dial 116 123 xxx"

Thank you xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People are sadly just misguided when it comes to things like this. They see you as the strong one and assume you're just doing OK.

You're never alone when you have us lot, so please talk when you need to, you don't have to be brave or strong if you don't want to, let us help dry the tears and offer hugs and tea.

Sending you the biggest squishy hug and my last pack of jaffa cakes x

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By *blasiansCouple
over a year ago

Wakefield

So sorry to hear. You've done a amazing job and stay strong. The world is full of many good people and your certainly on that list.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"People are sadly just misguided when it comes to things like this. They see you as the strong one and assume you're just doing OK.

You're never alone when you have us lot, so please talk when you need to, you don't have to be brave or strong if you don't want to, let us help dry the tears and offer hugs and tea.

Sending you the biggest squishy hug and my last pack of jaffa cakes x "

Aaaw thank you, bought a tear xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So sorry to hear. You've done a amazing job and stay strong. The world is full of many good people and your certainly on that list. "

I took over role as carer because they are my family,, will do till the day i no longer can. Thank you xx

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

Just to add to above. I'm a middle child and when we lost my mum, last year, I was the strong one, who dealt with everything. My siblings are not as strong. So I was and still do get the same comments as you. So it's a normal reaction from people. Take care and {hugs} to you sweetie

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Being the strong one does wear you out eventually. I hope you find time for yourself and that people begin to realise that you need time for you and that you can let go of the reigns at least some of the time.

I've always been the strong one here when times get tough.

Take time off ......... be missed xxxx

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"So sorry to hear. You've done a amazing job and stay strong. The world is full of many good people and your certainly on that list.

I took over role as carer because they are my family,, will do till the day i no longer can. Thank you xx"

Bless you, they are very lucky to have you care for them

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just to add to above. I'm a middle child and when we lost my mum, last year, I was the strong one, who dealt with everything. My siblings are not as strong. So I was and still do get the same comments as you. So it's a normal reaction from people. Take care and {hugs} to you sweetie"

Thank you- and same to you xx

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Perhaps you'd benefit from some professional help? It's a horrible thing that you have been through and you deserve to be more settled and content.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sorry to read of the sad loss

its always a shit time and this time of year makes it harder.

if you need someone to talk to feel free to pm me x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Being the strong one does wear you out eventually. I hope you find time for yourself and that people begin to realise that you need time for you and that you can let go of the reigns at least some of the time.

I've always been the strong one here when times get tough.

Take time off ......... be missed xxxx "

Sound advice.

Hope you find the strength to occasionally not be strong.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Being the strong one does wear you out eventually. I hope you find time for yourself and that people begin to realise that you need time for you and that you can let go of the reigns at least some of the time.

I've always been the strong one here when times get tough.

Take time off ......... be missed xxxx "

My kids are great- oldest daughter takes youngest when she can, even if to just let me have a long soak- its just these days that get on top of me,, hopefuly planning a little break in the new year- just me and my youngest xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So sorry to hear. You've done a amazing job and stay strong. The world is full of many good people and your certainly on that list.

I took over role as carer because they are my family,, will do till the day i no longer can. Thank you xx

Bless you, they are very lucky to have you care for them "

Thank you x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"sorry to read of the sad loss

its always a shit time and this time of year makes it harder.

if you need someone to talk to feel free to pm me x"

Thank you xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Being the strong one does wear you out eventually. I hope you find time for yourself and that people begin to realise that you need time for you and that you can let go of the reigns at least some of the time.

I've always been the strong one here when times get tough.

Take time off ......... be missed xxxx

Sound advice.

Hope you find the strength to occasionally not be strong."

Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even strong people cry....

Often when they are alone.

It's good to cry to feel to your pain.

Don't ever be sad about the person you are. Your strong because they need you. Because you change their lives.

Today if only for a few minutes you can change your own...

Sit reflect remembet laugh cry feel what you try to hide...

Today your Dad is proud of you he watches over you...and he always will.

I send hugs... but you change lives.... don't ever forget that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Even strong people cry....

Often when they are alone.

It's good to cry to feel to your pain.

Don't ever be sad about the person you are. Your strong because they need you. Because you change their lives.

Today if only for a few minutes you can change your own...

Sit reflect remembet laugh cry feel what you try to hide...

Today your Dad is proud of you he watches over you...and he always will.

I send hugs... but you change lives.... don't ever forget that."

Thank you so much for that xx

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