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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Here goes.... maybe you fab lot are the best people to ask or possibly the worst..but I'll ask any way

And please no dick head replies

Do you stay with someone out of duty and for kids who are just about grown up and dare I say it financial reasons. .

Or

Do yo choose unconditional love u a rocky road.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only you can make that choice.

However, I took the second option.

Oooooooorrrrrrr at least I though I did and now I'm divorced and single and not as well off as I could be. But at least I'm not miserable!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Here goes.... maybe you fab lot are the best people to ask or possibly the worst..but I'll ask any way

And please no dick head replies

Do you stay with someone out of duty and for kids who are just about grown up and dare I say it financial reasons. .

Or

Do yo choose unconditional love u a rocky road....."
go for love

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By *irestorm 500Couple
over a year ago

coventry

Stayed for financial reasons for 8years then moved out last year and though it's been hard best decision I made to finally move out x storm x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Only you can make that choice.

However, I took the second option.

Oooooooorrrrrrr at least I though I did and now I'm divorced and single and not as well off as I could be. But at least I'm not miserable! "

Ha I took the second option, I chose to stay true to myself, I can’t live a lie, I’m happy as I am

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I left and am happier than ever being single

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By *r C Miss CCouple
over a year ago

llanelli

Tell her you are unhappy and see if you can sort it out sonehow..

Good luck

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Here goes.... maybe you fab lot are the best people to ask or possibly the worst..but I'll ask any way

And please no dick head replies

Do you stay with someone out of duty and for kids who are just about grown up and dare I say it financial reasons. .

Or

Do yo choose unconditional love u a rocky road....."

If you were going to choose unconditional love (I think that only exists for your children but that's another thread) I think you would have chosen it by now. If it's unconditional you wouldn't be placing conditions like financial considerations on it would you?

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

I don't understand the unconditional love bit?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is a decision only you can make for yourself OP, but personally, I don't believe unconditional love can or should exist between adults - we all have a limit to what we will tolerate unless we're doormats.

Unrealistic expectations are bound to lead to disappointment.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury


"Here goes.... maybe you fab lot are the best people to ask or possibly the worst..but I'll ask any way

And please no dick head replies

Do you stay with someone out of duty and for kids who are just about grown up and dare I say it financial reasons. .

Or

Do yo choose unconditional love u a rocky road....."

No you never stay with someone for the children it's not good for them to see unhappy parents imo.

I stayed far too long with my ex and it screwed the kids up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't rush this decision, I left my ex after 11 years !

I was left homeless with our son for 8 weeks, thankfully friends took us in till I sorted a place out.

It's taken me over 18 months to sort my head out and I know I made the right choice but it was not an easy path !

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By *ilent.KnightMan
over a year ago

Swindon


"I don't understand the unconditional love bit?"
i don’t stand the love bit.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Never stay with someone for children or money when you're unhappy

Chances are the other person and kids will be miserable too.

Life is too short. .

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Only you can make that choice.

However, I took the second option.

Oooooooorrrrrrr at least I though I did and now I'm divorced and single and not as well off as I could be. But at least I'm not miserable!

Ha I took the second option, I chose to stay true to myself, I can’t live a lie, I’m happy as I am "

If you can't be happy with you, who can you be happy with? Am I right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Money cant be taken to your grave and life is too short to be unhappy.. children pick up on vibes and athmosphere and even though at the time they may not understand when adults themselves they will and surely would want thier parents to be happy....

However i have never been in this situation

I lost my best friend aged 22 and that taught me life is too short to be miserable.. tomorrow is not granted..

Dare to love dare to live..

However if you are debating if the person your leaving for is worth the risk? Chances are they are not.

Only you can decide this one though op

X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

people stay & leave relationships for a multitude of reasons, I’d be surprised if it was solely down to one reason or another.*

*excluding cases of DV

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never stay with someone for children or money when you're unhappy

Chances are the other person and kids will be miserable too.

Life is too short. .

Miss"

I would view this completely differently based on my circumstances. I conclude we can only base advice on what we have done in a similar situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never stay with someone for children or money when you're unhappy

Chances are the other person and kids will be miserable too.

Life is too short. .

Miss"

I totaly agree with this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally i dont think its worth being with someone if your not happy.

The kids will pick up on stuff and would benefit more from happy estranged parents than a unhappy household. Thats my opinion, having had a complexed family life as a kid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Took the 2nd option, best decision I ever made!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I left. Best thing I ever did, for me and the kids, and for him! We are all happier now

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the comments thus far. .. insightful to say the least nd very concidered thanks guys x

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

When the relationship is beyond repair and improvement, then I get out. I prefer to be single than in the wrong relationship.

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By *utual InterestsMan
over a year ago

Kent

I am in 1st option both here for kids and financially tied with big mortgage but contemplating 2nd .....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kids should come first...

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle


"Kids should come first..."

And if that means leaving a destructive relationship then so be it, also your own sanity is quite important at the end of the day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I left my previous marriage and very lovely life style because I just couldn't anymore. Didn't love him and only there because we were married. It was a hard decision but I did it and I've never looked back since. So happy I'm free and in marriage now where it's open.

Never stay for the kids or money only for you!!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I left. Best thing I ever did, for me and the kids, and for him! We are all happier now "

Me too!

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