FabSwingers.com forum: Too many verifications?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just wondering if that amount of verifications a person has affects how you judge them. A couple of women have mentioned it to me and I'm not sure if this put them off.

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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago

Leeds

"Just wondering if that amount of verifications a person has affects how you judge them. A couple of women have mentioned it to me and I'm not sure if this put them off. "

Really good post. Ok so I know one person on here who has over 200 veris. And adds at least 1 or 2 every day. For me I like the person to chat to but would never meet. The veris only show what they want you to see. I would imagine for every veri thier May be another one or two that has not given a verification. Ok so I’ve got verifications. But they are from people I know and meet regularly so even though I may look and act like a slut. I’m really not. Yes I love to play. But not with every Tina Debbie or harriot. Verifications are just an indicator that you are somewhat genuine but you will find from this me to time people with multiple Account’s verifying them selves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had someone say it to me. I think I had 10 at the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just because you have lots of veris doesn’t mean you’ve slept with every single one of them, may have seen people at clubs had a little chat not played but they all verified you are genuine ??

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just wondering if that amount of verifications a person has affects how you judge them. A couple of women have mentioned it to me and I'm not sure if this put them off.

I have wondered if some people verify themselves haha because sometimes I've looked at a person's veris and the profiles are hidden.

I agree with you though, I suppose veris prove a person is who they say they are which is useful. But having loads can seem like medal collecting even.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just because you have lots of veris doesn’t mean you’ve slept with every single one of them, may have seen people at clubs had a little chat not played but they all verified you are genuine ?? "

Yes that's the case with me. Most of mine were from people meeting me at a club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just because you have lots of veris doesn’t mean you’ve slept with every single one of them, may have seen people at clubs had a little chat not played but they all verified you are genuine ?? "

I've had two women verify me several times due to them leaving and rejoining. That said, I've met others that havnt verified me? So? Who's to know who's met who and how many?

In my mind it means very little

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not bothered about amount of veris. The only thing I look for in veris is any indication that the person plays in a way I wouldn't want to eg. bareback, humiliation.

What you do in your own time and who with, is your business, same as my time and who I spend it with, is mine .

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By *ammyharrogateWoman
over a year ago

Harrogate

I don’t see the point of too many but too many wouldn’t put me off if that makes sense ? Most veri’s are the same anyway ? Nice guy, treat well, great cock and so on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t see the point of too many but too many wouldn’t put me off if that makes sense ? Most veri’s are the same anyway ? Nice guy, treat well, great cock and so on "

Same with women.

"Best blowjob ever" "treat with respect"

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By *ammyharrogateWoman
over a year ago

Harrogate

"I don’t see the point of too many but too many wouldn’t put me off if that makes sense ? Most veri’s are the same anyway ? Nice guy, treat well, great cock and so on

Same with women.

"Best blowjob ever" "treat with respect"

Yes it is !! And never a bad one would anyone dare post a bad one ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t see the point of too many but too many wouldn’t put me off if that makes sense ? Most veri’s are the same anyway ? Nice guy, treat well, great cock and so on

Same with women.

"Best blowjob ever" "treat with respect"

Yes it is !! And never a bad one would anyone dare post a bad one ? "

What would be the point? They'd only hide it?

"Turned up, looked at least 10 years older than her photos and stank of stale cat piss"

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By *ammyharrogateWoman
over a year ago

Harrogate

"I don’t see the point of too many but too many wouldn’t put me off if that makes sense ? Most veri’s are the same anyway ? Nice guy, treat well, great cock and so on

Same with women.

"Best blowjob ever" "treat with respect"

Yes it is !! And never a bad one would anyone dare post a bad one ?

What would be the point? They'd only hide it?

"Turned up, looked at least 10 years older than her photos and stank of stale cat piss"

If you knew it was accurate about you, if it said turned up stinking of booze. Drank three more bottles of wine then vomited. Just a question ?

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London

If you think to satisfy everybody, you wont be able to. Always too little or too many.

The best is to do what you want and display what you want.

It's your profile anyway.

If someone decided not to meet you because of anything that they dont like..so what? Meet someone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A pussy to die for! Really??

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By *annooWoman
over a year ago

Hastings

you cant please everybody on here

some people wont meet if you dont have veri's , some people will not meet if you have loads,,,,dont worry about anyone else....

you wont please everyone

and not all veris are for actual meets or for non socials so dont worry

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

I try to get at least one a year, just to prove that I'm still alive, but I seem to have become somewhat of a social whore this year

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By *ilk_TrayMan
over a year ago

South

No such thing as too many verifications.

As mentioned before, some can come from socials and people leave the site which means the verification is also taken off so always good to have them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t see the point of too many but too many wouldn’t put me off if that makes sense ? Most veri’s are the same anyway ? Nice guy, treat well, great cock and so on

Same with women.

"Best blowjob ever" "treat with respect"

Yes it is !! And never a bad one would anyone dare post a bad one ?

What would be the point? They'd only hide it?

"Turned up, looked at least 10 years older than her photos and stank of stale cat piss"

If you knew it was accurate about you, if it said turned up stinking of booze. Drank three more bottles of wine then vomited. Just a question ? "

Well, personally I'd not get a bad one as I'm awesome

but should I ever get one like that then I don't know what I'd do with it. Probably close my account and run away lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More than 300 a month gives me an inferiority complex.

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By *inglehotchickWoman
over a year ago

blackpool

"Just because you have lots of veris doesn’t mean you’ve slept with every single one of them, may have seen people at clubs had a little chat not played but they all verified you are genuine ?? "

This

I have quite a lot but majority are from clubs or socials

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside

"Just wondering if that amount of verifications a person has affects how you judge them. A couple of women have mentioned it to me and I'm not sure if this put them off.

I have wondered if some people verify themselves haha because sometimes I've looked at a person's veris and the profiles are hidden.

I agree with you though, I suppose veris prove a person is who they say they are which is useful. But having loads can seem like medal collecting even. "

People with hidden profiles can still meet. Can't understand why anyone would be knocked back for having 8 veris OP. It's hardly excessive. Sounds like an excuse to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wondering if that amount of verifications a person has affects how you judge them. A couple of women have mentioned it to me and I'm not sure if this put them off. "
8 in 5 days is excessive now 60 in 6 years is also quite excessive ,who knows how anyone percieves it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had it said to me that I have too many. Most of them are from socials but people think I'm some sort of tartlet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wondering if that amount of verifications a person has affects how you judge them. A couple of women have mentioned it to me and I'm not sure if this put them off. "

I don't think the amount would put me off but the content!

You've been a luck guy (or should I say the ladies have been lucky). You haven't been on here long and you have a fair amount of veri's. You have also had re verifications because you've met more than once.

What bothers me is when someone has only been veri'd by one woman 5+ times!! "I'd keep this one for myself" really?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only seem to have too many for people I would never play with anyway...I think most are reveris from guys going unlos multiple times tbh...pretty sure one guy has verified me on one meet but at least 5 different new accounts...pilchard! I rarely get a new one these days tho as what I am looking for has changed quite a bit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The amount of veris doesn't bother me at all. I don't see how anyone can refuse to meet someone based on how many people they have been with.

Maybe they need to feel special or something,

I don't know.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

Has the magic ten appeared yet. I recall on a similar thread someone saying anymore is too much. The funny thing was that they displayed 8 but had a summary showing 10 anyway.

All very odd.

I pay little attention to them really apart from it’s encouraging if they have been verified. If they are popular good for them. Oh and pssst are verification summary does not reflect at all the meets we’ve had over the years and I’m not talking socials. I imagine between us it reflects a fiftieth of the truth. Shocking isn’t it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The more the better

Or whatever really..I don't care.

Fab is the only place I've seen people put so much stock into what other folk say about their potential sexual partners..you don't seek to canvas opinion on someone you might pull in say a pub..and that person might well be an escort specialising in bb sex and had done four clients that day...doesn't even cross ones mind. On here suddenly people suddenly need their hands holding

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By *oftandGentle2Couple
over a year ago

leeds

I think it's nice to see repeats in veris, you do see some profiles with lots on, but if you take the time to read them, you can pick out the ones who have "bonked" half the site (even when they say that's not what they want) or have been veri's for socials etc.

Also, if they have been on for years they are spread out (like ours) as we dabble then rest then dabble again! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Speaking as a guy, verifications are important, as I find posting a verification means i get more views of my profile, therefore more responses to messages, leading to more meets, which leads to more verifications. Like the opposite of a vicious circle, let's call it the verification circle!

As to bad verifications, i cant help but feel that not getting a verification almost equates to a bad one? And a couple of people have not verified me.

Sometimes too, the content of a verification can be a little generic, same old phraseology.

When i write a verification I am always honest, and certainly try to make it individual, highlighting the best of that person, so it is a about them not just anyone.

If ever someone gives me a bad verification, I am going to post it too, hopefully the good will outweigh the bad.x

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"Speaking as a guy, verifications are important, as I find posting a verification means i get more views of my profile, therefore more responses to messages, leading to more meets, which leads to more verifications. Like the opposite of a vicious circle, let's call it the verification circle!

As to bad verifications, i cant help but feel that not getting a verification almost equates to a bad one? And a couple of people have not verified me.

Sometimes too, the content of a verification can be a little generic, same old phraseology.

When i write a verification I am always honest, and certainly try to make it individual, highlighting the best of that person, so it is a about them not just anyone.

If ever someone gives me a bad verification, I am going to post it too, hopefully the good will outweigh the bad.x"

Our last meet didn’t verify us, despite us verifying him and we’ve messaged ever since to try to rearrange. I guess some people just aren’t bothered. I’m okay with that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some of mine are sexual meets some just social, plus some have been on here years and go to social events to the verifications stack up.

I care more about getting to know the person rather by what's been said!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never been a fan of verifications and never judge anyone by what others may say them.

It's no indication of if or how I may connect with them.

If you can't make your own decisions about someone are you really going to be swayed by the judgement of third party you may not know simply because they have given the target of your attentions a good or bad veri, or vice versa?

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

We just use veris as a guide,that they meet and the type of people they meet.

Many will only show the ones they want to,so could look like they have only a few and have lots more hidden.

Miss

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

No, it doesn't put me off. The content and who from can at times but the amount hasn't.

Besides, I think people probably do what I do (when I can't see the summary) and hide the majority of them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No, it doesn't put me off. The content and who from can at times but the amount hasn't.

Besides, I think people probably do what I do (when I can't see the summary) and hide the majority of them.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Just wondering if that amount of verifications a person has affects how you judge them. A couple of women have mentioned it to me and I'm not sure if this put them off. "

100 from 100 people: no problem. 100 from the same person: wouldn't touch with someone else's.

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

"No, it doesn't put me off. The content and who from can at times but the amount hasn't."

Same for me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wondering if that amount of verifications a person has affects how you judge them. A couple of women have mentioned it to me and I'm not sure if this put them off.

100 from 100 people: no problem. 100 from the same person: wouldn't touch with someone else's."

Can I ask why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's nice to see repeats in veris, you do see some profiles with lots on, but if you take the time to read them, you can pick out the ones who have "bonked" half the site (even when they say that's not what they want) or have been veri's for socials etc.

Also, if they have been on for years they are spread out (like ours) as we dabble then rest then dabble again! Lol"

So you're saying having lots of partners for sex is wrong? Or, there should be a maximum amount you meet every year?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The OP was talking about the amount of verifications, not the content.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just because you have lots of veris doesn’t mean you’ve slept with every single one of them, may have seen people at clubs had a little chat not played but they all verified you are genuine ??

Yes that's the case with me. Most of mine were from people meeting me at a club"

I wouldn’t have thought 8 would be classed as too many?

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By *orthatry84Couple
over a year ago

cardiff

We are new to all this and currently have 2 verifications from socials, one said I looked like a potato with sexy eyes - will teach me for wearing a massive jumper but I will post it as I have a sense of humour about it all!

As for reading others, a use them as a brief guide but nothing more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are new to all this and currently have 2 verifications from socials, one said I looked like a potato with sexy eyes - will teach me for wearing a massive jumper but I will post it as I have a sense of humour about it all!

As for reading others, a use them as a brief guide but nothing more."

That's brilliant!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wondering if that amount of verifications a person has affects how you judge them. A couple of women have mentioned it to me and I'm not sure if this put them off. "

Yes I judge on verifications. Amount and content.

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By *orthatry84Couple
over a year ago

cardiff

"Just wondering if that amount of verifications a person has affects how you judge them. A couple of women have mentioned it to me and I'm not sure if this put them off.

Yes I judge on verifications. Amount and content. "

Especially spud based content

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think verifications are great. I'm really not interested in meeting anyone who is put off by what mine do or don't say about me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe it should be compulsory to show all verifications as I have to see that says

“The house was minging the photos were from 1970 and the whole meeting was an unmitigated disaster”

So they are what they are! Just a point of clarification ladies I can actually breathe through my ears and I don’t have a dyson!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just because you have lots of veris doesn’t mean you’ve slept with every single one of them, may have seen people at clubs had a little chat not played but they all verified you are genuine ??

Yes that's the case with me. Most of mine were from people meeting me at a club

I wouldn’t have thought 8 would be classed as too many?"

In such a short space of time though

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By *havenbabe01Couple
over a year ago

bedfordshire

It has been mentioned to us on occasions that we have too many verifications and must be really hardcore, which is simply not true. We have been around a long time, and the veris are not all for playing, lots are for having actually met in a social way, be it at a club or private party, and show that we are genuine and just nice normal folk, who will turn up if a meet is arranged. We do look for positive veris when looking to meet, not bothered how many, as long as there are some, so we know we are not wasting our time with someone who will not turn up as it is pure fantasy to them. Just our opinion.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Just wondering if that amount of verifications a person has affects how you judge them. A couple of women have mentioned it to me and I'm not sure if this put them off.

100 from 100 people: no problem. 100 from the same person: wouldn't touch with someone else's.

Can I ask why?"

I would see it as territory marking. Who needs the potential hassle?

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

We have more than most , all play meets .

We used to display at least half of them , and our summary , but got fed up of the judgemental brigade , and those who thought that as we had met so many people we would obviously meet them too .

We have well over 100 play veris , but have the same exacting standards as anyone else oh here . Now we don’t bother with them unless they’re asked for .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"We have more than most , all play meets .

We used to display at least half of them , and our summary , but got fed up of the judgemental brigade , and those who thought that as we had met so many people we would obviously meet them too .

We have well over 100 play veris , but have the same exacting standards as anyone else oh here . Now we don’t bother with them unless they’re asked for ."

Nowt wrong with a bit of experience

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By *eliciousladyWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes U.K

"I've had someone say it to me. I think I had 10 at the time"

It’s not the number, but if it’s 10 within the space of perhaps 15-20 days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wondering if that amount of verifications a person has affects how you judge them. A couple of women have mentioned it to me and I'm not sure if this put them off. "

Couldn't give a flying fuck to be honest

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

The amount doesn't bother me at all. Shows they meet and turn up regularly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

God forbid someone joins a swinging site,a site to meet other liberated adults,and enjoys themselves meeting others.

What are they thinking?

Don't they realise the small minded will judge them disfavourably

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By *educedWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The amount doesn't bother me at all. Shows they meet and turn up regularly

Good way of looking at it hehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been told I have too many and that it's off-putting, I'm approaching 40 now in about 18 months which I understand may seem a lot but I wish people would understand that doesn't mean I fucked 40 different women in that time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been told I have too many and that it's off-putting, I'm approaching 40 now in about 18 months which I understand may seem a lot but I wish people would understand that doesn't mean I fucked 40 different women in that time."

Yeh yeh that's what they all say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find people with lots of verifications intimidating lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

TART!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

TART!"

Swingers site lol we are all tarts just a little

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By *hamboy69Man
over a year ago

huddersfield

Good on you at least your making the best of Fab

I’ve initially met nearly all of my femme friends at clubs socials or parties and none have ever asked me how many veris I have but I guess that’s the difference with genuine swingers they aren’t judgemental

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly don't care about the number. Or how many it is in a certain time frame.