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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I am curious to find out why there is so much hatred shown towards men on this site. Not only that but any recommendations made by a man are instantly dismissed. So I honestly would like to know why there is such a hateful culture towards men on here and why do you get off on making someone else feel shit. I also would like to know why Admin are hiding in the corner and not dealing with this situation. This site was meant to be fun and social what happened to make it this.

Some are decent people on here however unfortunately most aren’t. I honestly can say I have had a dreadful experience and definitely wouldn’t recommend this site as it currently operates.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I'm sorry to hear that you've had bad experiences.

Admin will always deal with verifiable, reported instances of abuse and forum moderators will deal with poor behaviour on the forum.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Sorry to hear you've had a dreadful experience OP although as you've not provided detail of what it was it's difficult to comment.

As for the rest of your post, I can honestly say in 18 months of using the site I've not seen a general hatred of men at all, in fact quite the opposite - sure some men (usually those with an entitled attitude that expect sex just for signing up) get a tough time on here, but usually deservedly so.

You've not provided detail of why you think the way you do,so again difficult to comment objectively.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems OP didnt want to stick around for an answer to his rant

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

I have suffered no hatred on here OP, a few weird messages sometimes perhaps

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Rant and go it seems!!

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By *ancduoCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

That was short lol

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

And some guys do very well. Input and attitude go a long way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone catch who he was?

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Anyone catch who he was?"

Not a regular forumite

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Shame he didn't stick around to get replies on his own thread,some men are just rude

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By *orwegian BlueMan
over a year ago

Iceland, but Aldi is closer..

Seems he got that off his ches.... oh look, squirrel...

Moving on...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone catch who he was?

Not a regular forumite "

Ah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seems he got that off his ches.... oh look, squirrel...

Moving on..."

That’s funny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seems he got that off his ches.... oh look, squirrel...

Moving on..."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone catch who he was?

Not a regular forumite

Ah "

And therefore to be derided by the forum clique at any and every opportunity. It's no wonder some people don't stick around.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone catch who he was?

Not a regular forumite

Ah

And therefore to be derided by the forum clique at any and every opportunity. It's no wonder some people don't stick around. "

I think you take things far to seriously....no one is deriding the op.

It's a case of getting stuck in on the forums and people will eventually connect and talk more.

That is not a clique it is people who have come to notice each other and chat a little.

If the op was a regular perhaps he would have recognised this in time.

As it was it seems he used the forum to have a rant on his experience of the whole site.

Just how I read it in that brief post you quoted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t you just hate it when they post and go.

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By *ax1971Man
over a year ago

St helens


"Don’t you just hate it when they post and go. "

Makes a change from fuck and go. .xx

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"Don’t you just hate it when they post and go. "

He's obviously got bigger fish to fry and will be venting his anger at some poor souls on another site

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By *mallcock43Man
over a year ago

blackpool

Hate is a bit strong but had a few nasty comments. So I just block for the most part I enjoy fab

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Posts removed. If you quoted them your post will be gone too.

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

Just today on another post there was somone banging on about a man having to earn his way into a ladies knickers. The OP might have over exaggerated a bit but....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love men, I just need one to love me back!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry to hear you've had a dreadful experience OP although as you've not provided detail of what it was it's difficult to comment.

As for the rest of your post, I can honestly say in 18 months of using the site I've not seen a general hatred of men at all, in fact quite the opposite - sure some men (usually those with an entitled attitude that expect sex just for signing up) get a tough time on here, but usually deservedly so.

You've not provided detail of why you think the way you do,so again difficult to comment objectively."

Completely agree. Shame your time typing appears to have been for nothing (at least as OP is concerened)

Anyone who has thought the same as the original post; take note here.

Wise words indeed.

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East


"Sorry to hear you've had a dreadful experience OP although as you've not provided detail of what it was it's difficult to comment.

As for the rest of your post, I can honestly say in 18 months of using the site I've not seen a general hatred of men at all, in fact quite the opposite - sure some men (usually those with an entitled attitude that expect sex just for signing up) get a tough time on here, but usually deservedly so.

You've not provided detail of why you think the way you do,so again difficult to comment objectively.

Completely agree. Shame your time typing appears to have been for nothing (at least as OP is concerened)

Anyone who has thought the same as the original post; take note here.

Wise words indeed. "

Took note and disagreed with it lol.

It's not as bad as mr unlos made out obviously. But there is plenty of anti male sentiment. Always has been in the 4 years I have been around. Granted some bring it on themselves but not in all cases. I could point you in the direction of a couple of users who you would easily see via green arrow what I am in about. I'll avoid the forum holiday though ta haha.

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East


"I love men, I just need one to love me back!"

Aw wilkesy. I love you in a forum sweetheart way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just another mard arse that sulks because they are having no luck in getting a meet

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

^^^^^^^^^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone catch who he was?"

Given his rant....is anyone bothered? I’ve never come across this so-called “hatred”.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love men, I just need one to love me back!"

If I was 99 I’d message you Wilkes..... but your age filters prevent this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are part of the accepted group on here then of course you wouldn't understand the OPs comments ,sometimes the new people get ignored or get negative comment and obviously some are affected by it more than others ,you have to have a tough skin to venture into the chat rooms on these sites

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just another mard arse that sulks because they are having no luck in getting a meet "

Yup

Thats precisely it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you are part of the accepted group on here then of course you wouldn't understand the OPs comments ,sometimes the new people get ignored or get negative comment and obviously some are affected by it more than others ,you have to have a tough skin to venture into the chat rooms on these sites "

If you haven't got a tough skin, then perhaps Fab isnt the place for you

Alot of people seem to moan that they cant get layed, and try and dress their moan up as something else

I somehow doubt that OP experienced any 'hate'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've nowwt but ppppositive exxxperiences on here, on here and hhhavve never seen any mmmalice towards mennnn (I've said what you wanted, please let me go, no not that aggggainnn!)

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"Just another mard arse that sulks because they are having no luck in getting a meet "

Well to be fair I think I'd turn into a mard arse if I was getting nowhere as well. I would hate to be a single man on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's disdain more than hatred. The attitudes of some women come about because of their own ability to use filters, manage their accounts and accept that, on a site where people are offering sex, they are going to get sexual messages.

And, we all know, women love a moan.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you are part of the accepted group on here then of course you wouldn't understand the OPs comments ,sometimes the new people get ignored or get negative comment and obviously some are affected by it more than others ,you have to have a tough skin to venture into the chat rooms on these sites

If you haven't got a tough skin, then perhaps Fab isnt the place for you

Alot of people seem to moan that they cant get layed, and try and dress their moan up as something else

I somehow doubt that OP experienced any 'hate'"

The women who constantly whinge about men could also do with toughening up a bit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The forums can appear as cliques.

Important for we single, unverified males, not to equate other people's indifference to dislike.

Even if we know we are nice chaps, who have flaws like everyone else, and are failing to find sex; and nobody seems to notice...

Hello?

Echo......

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By *nSeeNMan
over a year ago

Z'ha'dum


"Anyone catch who he was?

Not a regular forumite

Ah

And therefore to be derided by the forum clique at any and every opportunity. It's no wonder some people don't stick around. "

Indeed, but obviously on the main , those on the inside will disagree with those on the outside.

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East


"Just another mard arse that sulks because they are having no luck in getting a meet

Well to be fair I think I'd turn into a mard arse if I was getting nowhere as well. I would hate to be a single man on here."

Some people make it worthwhile. You included.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Sorry to hear you've had a dreadful experience OP although as you've not provided detail of what it was it's difficult to comment.

As for the rest of your post, I can honestly say in 18 months of using the site I've not seen a general hatred of men at all, in fact quite the opposite - sure some men (usually those with an entitled attitude that expect sex just for signing up) get a tough time on here, but usually deservedly so.

You've not provided detail of why you think the way you do,so again difficult to comment objectively.

Completely agree. Shame your time typing appears to have been for nothing (at least as OP is concerened)

Anyone who has thought the same as the original post; take note here.

Wise words indeed.

Took note and disagreed with it lol.

It's not as bad as mr unlos made out obviously. But there is plenty of anti male sentiment. Always has been in the 4 years I have been around. Granted some bring it on themselves but not in all cases. I could point you in the direction of a couple of users who you would easily see via green arrow what I am in about. I'll avoid the forum holiday though ta haha."

I didn't say it doesn't exist - which is why I said I haven't seen a "general" hatred of men (although to be honest "hatred" is a little strong - think someone else used the word disdain, which is probably more accurate) although whatever word you use, I honestly don't think it's as widespread as is often suggested.

I think part of the problem with the single guys on here that feel they are not having a good experience, is that they look for something to blame (apart from themselves) rather than looking for reasons as to why it might not be what they expected and taking action to address those reasons - which then ends up in rant posts like the OP's on this thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry to hear you've had a dreadful experience OP although as you've not provided detail of what it was it's difficult to comment.

As for the rest of your post, I can honestly say in 18 months of using the site I've not seen a general hatred of men at all, in fact quite the opposite - sure some men (usually those with an entitled attitude that expect sex just for signing up) get a tough time on here, but usually deservedly so.

You've not provided detail of why you think the way you do,so again difficult to comment objectively.

Completely agree. Shame your time typing appears to have been for nothing (at least as OP is concerened)

Anyone who has thought the same as the original post; take note here.

Wise words indeed.

Took note and disagreed with it lol.

It's not as bad as mr unlos made out obviously. But there is plenty of anti male sentiment. Always has been in the 4 years I have been around. Granted some bring it on themselves but not in all cases. I could point you in the direction of a couple of users who you would easily see via green arrow what I am in about. I'll avoid the forum holiday though ta haha.

I didn't say it doesn't exist - which is why I said I haven't seen a "general" hatred of men (although to be honest "hatred" is a little strong - think someone else used the word disdain, which is probably more accurate) although whatever word you use, I honestly don't think it's as widespread as is often suggested.

I think part of the problem with the single guys on here that feel they are not having a good experience, is that they look for something to blame (apart from themselves) rather than looking for reasons as to why it might not be what they expected and taking action to address those reasons - which then ends up in rant posts like the OP's on this thread."

Yeah, basically they get no interest, because their attitudes stink

And then they blame everyone else

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By *nSeeNMan
over a year ago

Z'ha'dum

Go to the Introductions forum

Have a look at the following two thread's

Newbie

New too this

One posted by a man and one by a women. See the initial reactions to the threads. You'll notice a difference in attitude towards them.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Go to the Introductions forum

Have a look at the following two thread's

Newbie

New too this

One posted by a man and one by a women. See the initial reactions to the threads. You'll notice a difference in attitude towards them.

"

Yeah the one posted by the woman is mainly full of single guys falling over themselves to grab attention

The one posted by the single guy doesn't have anything derogatory and he didn't exactly give people much to work on (which the lady who posted did).

Either way don't think that necessarily proves anything to be honest

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Go to the Introductions forum

Have a look at the following two thread's

Newbie

New too this

One posted by a man and one by a women. See the initial reactions to the threads. You'll notice a difference in attitude towards them.

Yeah the one posted by the woman is mainly full of single guys falling over themselves to grab attention

The one posted by the single guy doesn't have anything derogatory and he didn't exactly give people much to work on (which the lady who posted did).

Either way don't think that necessarily proves anything to be honest "

Yup, I just looked at both threads and you are spot on.

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East


"Sorry to hear you've had a dreadful experience OP although as you've not provided detail of what it was it's difficult to comment.

As for the rest of your post, I can honestly say in 18 months of using the site I've not seen a general hatred of men at all, in fact quite the opposite - sure some men (usually those with an entitled attitude that expect sex just for signing up) get a tough time on here, but usually deservedly so.

You've not provided detail of why you think the way you do,so again difficult to comment objectively.

Completely agree. Shame your time typing appears to have been for nothing (at least as OP is concerened)

Anyone who has thought the same as the original post; take note here.

Wise words indeed.

Took note and disagreed with it lol.

It's not as bad as mr unlos made out obviously. But there is plenty of anti male sentiment. Always has been in the 4 years I have been around. Granted some bring it on themselves but not in all cases. I could point you in the direction of a couple of users who you would easily see via green arrow what I am in about. I'll avoid the forum holiday though ta haha.

I didn't say it doesn't exist - which is why I said I haven't seen a "general" hatred of men (although to be honest "hatred" is a little strong - think someone else used the word disdain, which is probably more accurate) although whatever word you use, I honestly don't think it's as widespread as is often suggested.

I think part of the problem with the single guys on here that feel they are not having a good experience, is that they look for something to blame (apart from themselves) rather than looking for reasons as to why it might not be what they expected and taking action to address those reasons - which then ends up in rant posts like the OP's on this thread."

Yeah absolutely. Hate is far too strong a word for it. But trust me a quick search will show you anti male rethoric on posts other than single male look at my profile threads. Not a huge issue by any means but you can see some posters turn to man bashing quite quickly. Some of said posters are men but that's a whole diffetent kettle of fish!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I kind of wonder why women sign up here if they hate men (unless I course they're only looking for women)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I kind of wonder why women sign up here if they hate men (unless I course they're only looking for women) "

Well there's a fab guys site...maybe they should have the same for the women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I kind of wonder why women sign up here if they hate men (unless I course they're only looking for women)

Well there's a fab guys site...maybe they should have the same for the women "

You might be right there!

There are few - shall we say - odd men on here but I'm bloody sure there are as many odd women!

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"Just another mard arse that sulks because they are having no luck in getting a meet

Well to be fair I think I'd turn into a mard arse if I was getting nowhere as well. I would hate to be a single man on here.

Some people make it worthwhile. You included."

Aw ta

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I kind of wonder why women sign up here if they hate men (unless I course they're only looking for women)

Well there's a fab guys site...maybe they should have the same for the women

You might be right there!

There are few - shall we say - odd men on here but I'm bloody sure there are as many odd women! "

There's some strange TV's too...but we won't go there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Odd men!! Don't get me started!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I kind of wonder why women sign up here if they hate men (unless I course they're only looking for women)

Well there's a fab guys site...maybe they should have the same for the women

You might be right there!

There are few - shall we say - odd men on here but I'm bloody sure there are as many odd women!

There's some strange TV's too...but we won't go there "

OK I'll keep schhtum!

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I see far more misogyny expressed than misandry on fabs to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you are part of the accepted group on here then of course you wouldn't understand the OPs comments ,sometimes the new people get ignored or get negative comment and obviously some are affected by it more than others ,you have to have a tough skin to venture into the chat rooms on these sites

If you haven't got a tough skin, then perhaps Fab isnt the place for you

Alot of people seem to moan that they cant get layed, and try and dress their moan up as something else

I somehow doubt that OP experienced any 'hate'"
I have a tough skin and I think the OP hated his experience on this site ,he said so,I don't think he hated people maybe disliked the way they reacted to him and yes their are FAQs to alleviate and consider message levels for women and couples but it doesn't get around the complacency that the popularity and message levels create hence why so many women and couples use the forums solely to communicate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you are part of the accepted group on here then of course you wouldn't understand the OPs comments ,sometimes the new people get ignored or get negative comment and obviously some are affected by it more than others ,you have to have a tough skin to venture into the chat rooms on these sites

If you haven't got a tough skin, then perhaps Fab isnt the place for you

Alot of people seem to moan that they cant get layed, and try and dress their moan up as something else

I somehow doubt that OP experienced any 'hate'I have a tough skin and I think the OP hated his experience on this site ,he said so,I don't think he hated people maybe disliked the way they reacted to him and yes their are FAQs to alleviate and consider message levels for women and couples but it doesn't get around the complacency that the popularity and message levels create hence why so many women and couples use the forums solely to communicate "

What do you mean by complacency? Who is complacent? And why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you are part of the accepted group on here then of course you wouldn't understand the OPs comments ,sometimes the new people get ignored or get negative comment and obviously some are affected by it more than others ,you have to have a tough skin to venture into the chat rooms on these sites

If you haven't got a tough skin, then perhaps Fab isnt the place for you

Alot of people seem to moan that they cant get layed, and try and dress their moan up as something else

I somehow doubt that OP experienced any 'hate'I have a tough skin and I think the OP hated his experience on this site ,he said so,I don't think he hated people maybe disliked the way they reacted to him and yes their are FAQs to alleviate and consider message levels for women and couples but it doesn't get around the complacency that the popularity and message levels create hence why so many women and couples use the forums solely to communicate

What do you mean by complacency? Who is complacent? And why?"
many women get so many messages that they can't physically answer them i know this because one woman in particular I've known a while rarely reads my messages I send her i hasten to add she likes me ,I now have her kik but their has to be a complacency because some are concerned about being rude and not replying where some have come to terms with the fact its impossible to keep everyone happy so don't care anymore ,a bit like a nurse or doctor who deals with death and illness everyday they can't physically show the emotion and commitment that drove them to that profession in the first place

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry to hear you've had a dreadful experience OP although as you've not provided detail of what it was it's difficult to comment.

As for the rest of your post, I can honestly say in 18 months of using the site I've not seen a general hatred of men at all, in fact quite the opposite - sure some men (usually those with an entitled attitude that expect sex just for signing up) get a tough time on here, but usually deservedly so.

You've not provided detail of why you think the way you do,so again difficult to comment objectively.

Completely agree. Shame your time typing appears to have been for nothing (at least as OP is concerened)

Anyone who has thought the same as the original post; take note here.

Wise words indeed.

Took note and disagreed with it lol.

It's not as bad as mr unlos made out obviously. But there is plenty of anti male sentiment. Always has been in the 4 years I have been around. Granted some bring it on themselves but not in all cases. I could point you in the direction of a couple of users who you would easily see via green arrow what I am in about. I'll avoid the forum holiday though ta haha.

I didn't say it doesn't exist - which is why I said I haven't seen a "general" hatred of men (although to be honest "hatred" is a little strong - think someone else used the word disdain, which is probably more accurate) although whatever word you use, I honestly don't think it's as widespread as is often suggested.

I think part of the problem with the single guys on here that feel they are not having a good experience, is that they look for something to blame (apart from themselves) rather than looking for reasons as to why it might not be what they expected and taking action to address those reasons - which then ends up in rant posts like the OP's on this thread."

I agree. There are a handful of women and couples who post regularly on any thread that berates men, and cheer each other on. It makes it seem like there is a lot of hate for men, on here.

Some of them aren't even meeting any more.

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville


"Anyone catch who he was?

Not a regular forumite

Ah

And therefore to be derided by the forum clique at any and every opportunity. It's no wonder some people don't stick around. "

There is no clique. Just people who join in the silly conversations and threads, rather than just moan about the lack of sex...

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East


"Sorry to hear you've had a dreadful experience OP although as you've not provided detail of what it was it's difficult to comment.

As for the rest of your post, I can honestly say in 18 months of using the site I've not seen a general hatred of men at all, in fact quite the opposite - sure some men (usually those with an entitled attitude that expect sex just for signing up) get a tough time on here, but usually deservedly so.

You've not provided detail of why you think the way you do,so again difficult to comment objectively.

Completely agree. Shame your time typing appears to have been for nothing (at least as OP is concerened)

Anyone who has thought the same as the original post; take note here.

Wise words indeed.

Took note and disagreed with it lol.

It's not as bad as mr unlos made out obviously. But there is plenty of anti male sentiment. Always has been in the 4 years I have been around. Granted some bring it on themselves but not in all cases. I could point you in the direction of a couple of users who you would easily see via green arrow what I am in about. I'll avoid the forum holiday though ta haha.

I didn't say it doesn't exist - which is why I said I haven't seen a "general" hatred of men (although to be honest "hatred" is a little strong - think someone else used the word disdain, which is probably more accurate) although whatever word you use, I honestly don't think it's as widespread as is often suggested.

I think part of the problem with the single guys on here that feel they are not having a good experience, is that they look for something to blame (apart from themselves) rather than looking for reasons as to why it might not be what they expected and taking action to address those reasons - which then ends up in rant posts like the OP's on this thread.

I agree. There are a handful of women and couples who post regularly on any thread that berates men, and cheer each other on. It makes it seem like there is a lot of hate for men, on here.

Some of them aren't even meeting any more.

"

Thst's a very valid point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry to hear you've had a dreadful experience OP although as you've not provided detail of what it was it's difficult to comment.

As for the rest of your post, I can honestly say in 18 months of using the site I've not seen a general hatred of men at all, in fact quite the opposite - sure some men (usually those with an entitled attitude that expect sex just for signing up) get a tough time on here, but usually deservedly so.

You've not provided detail of why you think the way you do,so again difficult to comment objectively.

Completely agree. Shame your time typing appears to have been for nothing (at least as OP is concerened)

Anyone who has thought the same as the original post; take note here.

Wise words indeed.

Took note and disagreed with it lol.

It's not as bad as mr unlos made out obviously. But there is plenty of anti male sentiment. Always has been in the 4 years I have been around. Granted some bring it on themselves but not in all cases. I could point you in the direction of a couple of users who you would easily see via green arrow what I am in about. I'll avoid the forum holiday though ta haha.

I didn't say it doesn't exist - which is why I said I haven't seen a "general" hatred of men (although to be honest "hatred" is a little strong - think someone else used the word disdain, which is probably more accurate) although whatever word you use, I honestly don't think it's as widespread as is often suggested.

I think part of the problem with the single guys on here that feel they are not having a good experience, is that they look for something to blame (apart from themselves) rather than looking for reasons as to why it might not be what they expected and taking action to address those reasons - which then ends up in rant posts like the OP's on this thread.

I agree. There are a handful of women and couples who post regularly on any thread that berates men, and cheer each other on. It makes it seem like there is a lot of hate for men, on here.

Some of them aren't even meeting any more.

"

Arent even meeting anymore?

How do you determine that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry to hear you've had a dreadful experience OP although as you've not provided detail of what it was it's difficult to comment.

As for the rest of your post, I can honestly say in 18 months of using the site I've not seen a general hatred of men at all, in fact quite the opposite - sure some men (usually those with an entitled attitude that expect sex just for signing up) get a tough time on here, but usually deservedly so.

You've not provided detail of why you think the way you do,so again difficult to comment objectively.

Completely agree. Shame your time typing appears to have been for nothing (at least as OP is concerened)

Anyone who has thought the same as the original post; take note here.

Wise words indeed.

Took note and disagreed with it lol.

It's not as bad as mr unlos made out obviously. But there is plenty of anti male sentiment. Always has been in the 4 years I have been around. Granted some bring it on themselves but not in all cases. I could point you in the direction of a couple of users who you would easily see via green arrow what I am in about. I'll avoid the forum holiday though ta haha.

I didn't say it doesn't exist - which is why I said I haven't seen a "general" hatred of men (although to be honest "hatred" is a little strong - think someone else used the word disdain, which is probably more accurate) although whatever word you use, I honestly don't think it's as widespread as is often suggested.

I think part of the problem with the single guys on here that feel they are not having a good experience, is that they look for something to blame (apart from themselves) rather than looking for reasons as to why it might not be what they expected and taking action to address those reasons - which then ends up in rant posts like the OP's on this thread.

I agree. There are a handful of women and couples who post regularly on any thread that berates men, and cheer each other on. It makes it seem like there is a lot of hate for men, on here.

Some of them aren't even meeting any more.

"

Perhaps they just dont broadcast their sex life to the world?

Perhaps?

A possibility maybe?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry to hear you've had a dreadful experience OP although as you've not provided detail of what it was it's difficult to comment.

As for the rest of your post, I can honestly say in 18 months of using the site I've not seen a general hatred of men at all, in fact quite the opposite - sure some men (usually those with an entitled attitude that expect sex just for signing up) get a tough time on here, but usually deservedly so.

You've not provided detail of why you think the way you do,so again difficult to comment objectively.

Completely agree. Shame your time typing appears to have been for nothing (at least as OP is concerened)

Anyone who has thought the same as the original post; take note here.

Wise words indeed.

Took note and disagreed with it lol.

It's not as bad as mr unlos made out obviously. But there is plenty of anti male sentiment. Always has been in the 4 years I have been around. Granted some bring it on themselves but not in all cases. I could point you in the direction of a couple of users who you would easily see via green arrow what I am in about. I'll avoid the forum holiday though ta haha.

I didn't say it doesn't exist - which is why I said I haven't seen a "general" hatred of men (although to be honest "hatred" is a little strong - think someone else used the word disdain, which is probably more accurate) although whatever word you use, I honestly don't think it's as widespread as is often suggested.

I think part of the problem with the single guys on here that feel they are not having a good experience, is that they look for something to blame (apart from themselves) rather than looking for reasons as to why it might not be what they expected and taking action to address those reasons - which then ends up in rant posts like the OP's on this thread.

I agree. There are a handful of women and couples who post regularly on any thread that berates men, and cheer each other on. It makes it seem like there is a lot of hate for men, on here.

Some of them aren't even meeting any more.

Perhaps they just dont broadcast their sex life to the world?

Perhaps?

A possibility maybe?"

They must be lying on their profiles or on threads then. I'm not surmising.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry to hear you've had a dreadful experience OP although as you've not provided detail of what it was it's difficult to comment.

As for the rest of your post, I can honestly say in 18 months of using the site I've not seen a general hatred of men at all, in fact quite the opposite - sure some men (usually those with an entitled attitude that expect sex just for signing up) get a tough time on here, but usually deservedly so.

You've not provided detail of why you think the way you do,so again difficult to comment objectively.

Completely agree. Shame your time typing appears to have been for nothing (at least as OP is concerened)

Anyone who has thought the same as the original post; take note here.

Wise words indeed.

Took note and disagreed with it lol.

It's not as bad as mr unlos made out obviously. But there is plenty of anti male sentiment. Always has been in the 4 years I have been around. Granted some bring it on themselves but not in all cases. I could point you in the direction of a couple of users who you would easily see via green arrow what I am in about. I'll avoid the forum holiday though ta haha.

I didn't say it doesn't exist - which is why I said I haven't seen a "general" hatred of men (although to be honest "hatred" is a little strong - think someone else used the word disdain, which is probably more accurate) although whatever word you use, I honestly don't think it's as widespread as is often suggested.

I think part of the problem with the single guys on here that feel they are not having a good experience, is that they look for something to blame (apart from themselves) rather than looking for reasons as to why it might not be what they expected and taking action to address those reasons - which then ends up in rant posts like the OP's on this thread.

I agree. There are a handful of women and couples who post regularly on any thread that berates men, and cheer each other on. It makes it seem like there is a lot of hate for men, on here.

Some of them aren't even meeting any more.

Arent even meeting anymore?

How do you determine that?"

I have answered above.

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

Nor everyone chooses to display their veris. The tick tells you they have been verified. Who, how many and how often is their business.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nor everyone chooses to display their veris. The tick tells you they have been verified. Who, how many and how often is their business."

What you on about woman? He's talking about hatred for men.

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By *ornylittlesubWoman
over a year ago

Grangemouth


"Sorry to hear you've had a dreadful experience OP although as you've not provided detail of what it was it's difficult to comment.

As for the rest of your post, I can honestly say in 18 months of using the site I've not seen a general hatred of men at all, in fact quite the opposite - sure some men (usually those with an entitled attitude that expect sex just for signing up) get a tough time on here, but usually deservedly so.

You've not provided detail of why you think the way you do,so again difficult to comment objectively.

Completely agree. Shame your time typing appears to have been for nothing (at least as OP is concerened)

Anyone who has thought the same as the original post; take note here.

Wise words indeed.

Took note and disagreed with it lol.

It's not as bad as mr unlos made out obviously. But there is plenty of anti male sentiment. Always has been in the 4 years I have been around. Granted some bring it on themselves but not in all cases. I could point you in the direction of a couple of users who you would easily see via green arrow what I am in about. I'll avoid the forum holiday though ta haha.

I didn't say it doesn't exist - which is why I said I haven't seen a "general" hatred of men (although to be honest "hatred" is a little strong - think someone else used the word disdain, which is probably more accurate) although whatever word you use, I honestly don't think it's as widespread as is often suggested.

I think part of the problem with the single guys on here that feel they are not having a good experience, is that they look for something to blame (apart from themselves) rather than looking for reasons as to why it might not be what they expected and taking action to address those reasons - which then ends up in rant posts like the OP's on this thread.

I agree. There are a handful of women and couples who post regularly on any thread that berates men, and cheer each other on. It makes it seem like there is a lot of hate for men, on here.

Some of them aren't even meeting any more.

"

I see this too. But if you dare to speak out, then your next! But "All that is necessary for the triumph of eveil is that good people do nothing"....ok, evil maybe too far, but you get the gist.

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville


"Nor everyone chooses to display their veris. The tick tells you they have been verified. Who, how many and how often is their business.

What you on about woman? He's talking about hatred for men. "

We don't all hate men.

Job done!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whilst not an overt hatred on here for men, there are enough people who like to boost their egos by having a go at an easy target. That target is usually single men because nobody jumps to theirs defence. Indeed, many men also kick the single man because they think it makes them look better. That combined with the general ignoring of single men could lead to the feeling that they aren't particularly welcome, especially in the forums.

Is there a clique? I dunno. Maybe. There are so many people that freeze out others, or derail threads through their tail chasing of their forum friends, it might well look like a clique.

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

Ladies I understand TheBrain is referring to members of the forum who make it obvious they are not meeting. Both on their profiles and their forum activity. When one posts one is sick of men and I don't meet them anymore you can only really come to one conclusion. Lot of people are very forward about the fact they are just here for the forums and to keep in contact with friends.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Can we get back to the OP getting a bit off topic here x

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By *ornylittlesubWoman
over a year ago

Grangemouth


"Whilst not an overt hatred on here for men, there are enough people who like to boost their egos by having a go at an easy target. That target is usually single men because nobody jumps to theirs defence. Indeed, many men also kick the single man because they think it makes them look better. That combined with the general ignoring of single men could lead to the feeling that they aren't particularly welcome, especially in the forums.

Is there a clique? I dunno. Maybe. There are so many people that freeze out others, or derail threads through their tail chasing of their forum friends, it might well look like a clique."

Oh i think we know there is a clique...and usually the ones that me thinks the lady doth protest too much, are of course in said clique!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whilst not an overt hatred on here for men, there are enough people who like to boost their egos by having a go at an easy target. That target is usually single men because nobody jumps to theirs defence. Indeed, many men also kick the single man because they think it makes them look better. That combined with the general ignoring of single men could lead to the feeling that they aren't particularly welcome, especially in the forums.

Is there a clique? I dunno. Maybe. There are so many people that freeze out others, or derail threads through their tail chasing of their forum friends, it might well look like a clique.

Oh i think we know there is a clique...and usually the ones that me thinks the lady doth protest too much, are of course in said clique! "

If it looks like a duck, walks like a duck and quacks like a duck.....

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By *ornylittlesubWoman
over a year ago

Grangemouth


"Whilst not an overt hatred on here for men, there are enough people who like to boost their egos by having a go at an easy target. That target is usually single men because nobody jumps to theirs defence. Indeed, many men also kick the single man because they think it makes them look better. That combined with the general ignoring of single men could lead to the feeling that they aren't particularly welcome, especially in the forums.

Is there a clique? I dunno. Maybe. There are so many people that freeze out others, or derail threads through their tail chasing of their forum friends, it might well look like a clique.

Oh i think we know there is a clique...and usually the ones that me thinks the lady doth protest too much, are of course in said clique!

If it looks like a duck, walks like a duck and quacks like a duck..... "

I was actually going to say "if it looks like shit...smells like shit...lol...But your's was much more eloquent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone catch who he was?

Not a regular forumite

Ah

And therefore to be derided by the forum clique at any and every opportunity. It's no wonder some people don't stick around.

There is no clique. Just people who join in the silly conversations and threads, rather than just moan about the lack of sex... "

I agree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone catch who he was?

Not a regular forumite

Ah

And therefore to be derided by the forum clique at any and every opportunity. It's no wonder some people don't stick around.

There is no clique. Just people who join in the silly conversations and threads, rather than just moan about the lack of sex...

I agree. "

Same here....though some on here reserve that for status updates

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ladies I understand TheBrain is referring to members of the forum who make it obvious they are not meeting. Both on their profiles and their forum activity. When one posts one is sick of men and I don't meet them anymore you can only really come to one conclusion. Lot of people are very forward about the fact they are just here for the forums and to keep in contact with friends."

I'm not talking about them posting that they are sick of men. It's the jumping on threads or posts made by men purely to put them down or take the piss out of them. I commented on one yesterday.

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East


"Ladies I understand TheBrain is referring to members of the forum who make it obvious they are not meeting. Both on their profiles and their forum activity. When one posts one is sick of men and I don't meet them anymore you can only really come to one conclusion. Lot of people are very forward about the fact they are just here for the forums and to keep in contact with friends.

I'm not talking about them posting that they are sick of men. It's the jumping on threads or posts made by men purely to put them down or take the piss out of them. I commented on one yesterday."

Aye to be clear that was just a throw away comment I was using to refer to how it's clear some people are obviously not meeting or it would suggest they wern't. Sorry.

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