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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

If a friend said they need some space for a while so you leave it a month but they still haven't been in touch, would you contact them?

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By *iss.RedWoman
over a year ago

somewhere


"If a friend said they need some space for a while so you leave it a month but they still haven't been in touch, would you contact them?"

Yeah if they were a good friend I'd probably just drop them a message to say I hoped they were ok.

I guess it depends why they needed space in the first place

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What kind of friend? Like...a friend....or a fab friend?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a fab friend if they hid the profile i will leave until they become visible again - a friend away from here would really depends on how much you usually see or contact them i guess -

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What kind of friend? Like...a friend....or a fab friend? "

Friend in real life.

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By *oddyWoman
over a year ago

between havant and chichester

I would text asking how they were

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By *lmostthereMan
over a year ago

Southampton


"What kind of friend? Like...a friend....or a fab friend?

Friend in real life. "

Text / message them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What kind of friend? Like...a friend....or a fab friend?

Friend in real life. "

Yeah I would make contact x

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By *irestorm 500Couple
over a year ago

coventry

Definitely get in touch x storm x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would presume they would contact me when they wanted to, and if they didn't, that the objective had been to end the friendship.

This is assuming I wasn't already aware of a mental health issue - I do have a friend who disappears regularly for months at a time, I send her the odd text to let her know she's not forgotten and eventually she resurfaces.

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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago

Traffic land

I would message them asking how they were and just reminding them I’m there if they need me, no pressure.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I would text them once in a while, and let them know they could text me whenever.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

It may be slightly different depending on the reasons and if I felt they we're ok.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If a friend said they need some space for a while so you leave it a month but they still haven't been in touch, would you contact them?"
space from you or everyone?

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

A real friend yes I'd be in touch.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would presume they would contact me when they wanted to, and if they didn't, that the objective had been to end the friendship.

This is assuming I wasn't already aware of a mental health issue - I do have a friend who disappears regularly for months at a time, I send her the odd text to let her know she's not forgotten and eventually she resurfaces."

This is what I'm wondering. Maybe they just want the friendship to be over but won't say it.

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By *iss_Samantha_LovecockTV/TS
over a year ago

bmth /poole sometimes blandford

no i'd give them some space ..i gave a friend 3 years .. we hooked up the other day ..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If a friend said they need some space for a while so you leave it a month but they still haven't been in touch, would you contact them?

space from you or everyone?"

Space from me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What kind of friend? Like...a friend....or a fab friend?

Friend in real life. "

Hmmmm. I think it depends on the person (obviously). But if I had to give my generic opinion I'd drop a short message just saying I'm here if they want to talk. I wouldn't let it go more than two months without such a message.

As I said, it really depends on the person. Sometimes people want you to make contact to show you care.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Friends don't need space?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, obviously they don't want to talk with you.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

yes I would. A "friend" of mine made it clear that she needed space so I left her for a while. After some time I sent a card, then a text or two. None of them received a response so I got the message and didn't contact her again but at least I knew it wasn't because I hadn't contacted her.

The funny thing is that she will undoubtedly send a Christmas card which I find very odd.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would presume they would contact me when they wanted to, and if they didn't, that the objective had been to end the friendship.

This is assuming I wasn't already aware of a mental health issue - I do have a friend who disappears regularly for months at a time, I send her the odd text to let her know she's not forgotten and eventually she resurfaces.

This is what I'm wondering. Maybe they just want the friendship to be over but won't say it. "

You know them better than us. If you get this vibe then...maybe it's over?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If a friend said they need some space for a while so you leave it a month but they still haven't been in touch, would you contact them?

space from you or everyone?

Space from me. "
oh well just leave it until they contact you hard I know but they said it for a reason

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What kind of friend is it, platonic or romantic?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yes I would. A "friend" of mine made it clear that she needed space so I left her for a while. After some time I sent a card, then a text or two. None of them received a response so I got the message and didn't contact her again but at least I knew it wasn't because I hadn't contacted her.

The funny thing is that she will undoubtedly send a Christmas card which I find very odd."
we are a funny breed eh

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would presume they would contact me when they wanted to, and if they didn't, that the objective had been to end the friendship.

This is assuming I wasn't already aware of a mental health issue - I do have a friend who disappears regularly for months at a time, I send her the odd text to let her know she's not forgotten and eventually she resurfaces.

This is what I'm wondering. Maybe they just want the friendship to be over but won't say it.

You know them better than us. If you get this vibe then...maybe it's over? "

No there's a lot more to it that I don't want to say.

I know the forum can't properly help with no info. -Generic answers are ok.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think anyone here can know why or dynamic here and you will get multiple opinions based on other people's experience. None of them are your own.

I do know that if people don't communicate nothing ever changes.

If you do reach out to someone sometimes it changes world's.

It's a short step may even be a short message just asking if someone is OK with no expectations of what if or how they may reply.

After that there is probably little more you can do.

Good luck OP whatever you decide

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't. I'm crap at staying in contact with people anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would send a text just to say hi, and hope they were keeping well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Leave it.

Friendships are not this difficult.

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By *hortieWoman
over a year ago

Northampton

If I remembered, in your situation, I'd send a hi how are things 'blah blah etc'

Then if no reply after a couple of weeks, I'd fuck 'em off.

Ain't nobody got time fo that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I remembered, in your situation, I'd send a hi how are things 'blah blah etc'

Then if no reply after a couple of weeks, I'd fuck 'em off.

Ain't nobody got time fo that."

I didn't grab my shoes or nothing Jesus!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't think anyone here can know why or dynamic here and you will get multiple opinions based on other people's experience. None of them are your own.

I do know that if people don't communicate nothing ever changes.

If you do reach out to someone sometimes it changes world's.

It's a short step may even be a short message just asking if someone is OK with no expectations of what if or how they may reply.

After that there is probably little more you can do.

Good luck OP whatever you decide

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Thank you. I like the many different answers as it gives me a different perspective. I know I can only get a definitive answer from my friend really.

Just juggling thoughts. I appreciate all input.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

It is very hard I think when somebody needs to change a situation that you felt was working for both of you.

Maybe you could send her a seasonal card, possibly even with a photo of a happy memory you have shared, and just wish her a very happy holiday period, and let her know that if she wants to reach out to you you will always be there.

If that is of course how you do feel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it was a good friend, I would likely send a quick message, saying I hope they're okay and I'm there if they need me.

That being said, it does depend on the reason behind your friend needing space. Whichever it is, I hope it works out lovely

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

Clearly the friend decided they needed space , time or whatever , and told you to leave them to it . So it would surely be up to them to decide when or if the time is right to recommence the friendship .

If you try to re establish contact , they may well feel it’s too soon , or be angry that you couldn’t give them space .

I’d leave it and wait for them to contact you .

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

Tough one. Even if a friend of mine said they needed space, if they hadn't been in touch for a month I would be worried about them.

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