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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Is anyone else lonely?

I've been feeling this way for so long now, no friends, at work I'm the outsider and am isolated from being involved.

I think I'm a decent person, with decent social skills, I'm just a little shy and find it hard to trust people but I'm constantly alone.

Does anyone else feel this way?

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull

"Is anyone else lonely?

I've been feeling this way for so long now, no friends, at work I'm the outsider and am isolated from being involved.

I think I'm a decent person, with decent social skills, I'm just a little shy and find it hard to trust people but I'm constantly alone.

Does anyone else feel this way? "

This was I felt for a large part of the last year and a lot of my adult life. I have made a couple of friends on here though which has made all the difference recently. I’d be lost without two in particular.

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

I think we can all feel that way at times. I have lots of friends to an extent but most are really just acquaintances these days. I often feel like the outsider in social situations. Lacking confidence doesn't help.

I have two close friends and I'd be lost without them. However I feel lonely all the time. Its like the whole world is coupled up I'm not. Guess the time of year doesn't help though.

I hope you manage to find some confidence to put yourself out there more OP xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As daft as it sounds you are not alone in your loneliness, it's especially bad around this time of year, but things have a way of improving, take a look at what and who you want in your life and make moves towards it, hope things improve for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are not the only one that feels this. I suffer with this every now and than and this time of year is really bad but id sooner be on my own and lonely than in a relationship and feel lonely and believe you me plenty out there. Xmas highlights family and coupledom but you know what embrave your lonely time dance around the house naked. Sit on ur couch naked etc and if you want to do something ring a mate or acquaintance and ask worse they can say is no and maybe they sat at home naked feeling the same. Hugs xx

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London

Have you considered getting some therapy for your trust issues? It's hard to be friends with someone if you have those kind of barriers up automatically.

I honestly don't mean this patronisingly, I've had therapy myself for different issues and it's been a big help.

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

"You are not the only one that feels this. I suffer with this every now and than and this time of year is really bad but id sooner be on my own and lonely than in a relationship and feel lonely and believe you me plenty out there. Xmas highlights family and coupledom but you know what embrave your lonely time dance around the house naked. Sit on ur couch naked etc and if you want to do something ring a mate or acquaintance and ask worse they can say is no and maybe they sat at home naked feeling the same. Hugs xx"

Excellent thoughts although not really wanting to think about my mates naked when I'm calling them.. Save that one for the sexy ladies I'm thinking..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep. Been alone my whole life.

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By *ancduoCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

We all feel like this at times. I have no friends (no not asking for a giant AWW lol) because I’m a bit of a hermit and the only friends I did have we’re strictly vanilla and moved away. I have hubby and sons but a special friend or two are always welcome. Sometimes you just need to talk to someone outside your family.

So chat to us here if you need to. Someone will always reply I’m sure. And you may make new friends here with the same lifestyle you can have a giggle with cxxx

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"Is anyone else lonely?

I've been feeling this way for so long now, no friends, at work I'm the outsider and am isolated from being involved.

I think I'm a decent person, with decent social skills, I'm just a little shy and find it hard to trust people but I'm constantly alone.

Does anyone else feel this way? "

Works work and throws all sorts of people together who might not have any common interests.

Try a club for something you're passionate about like a sport or dancing or photography or trains it doesn't really matter what it is but you'll have some common ground

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is anyone else lonely?

I've been feeling this way for so long now, no friends, at work I'm the outsider and am isolated from being involved.

I think I'm a decent person, with decent social skills, I'm just a little shy and find it hard to trust people but I'm constantly alone.

Does anyone else feel this way? "

Same as you mate. I feel more alone than lonely.

Wkrk colleagues are mainly crap, some are ok.

I prefer socialising with happy, grateful people, not the petty minded cynical people and feel better for that.

Xmas is shit as i lost people at this time. My gf for seeing something in a useless bugger like me. I am comfortable with myself, and don't feel like I'ma reject or anything, just cruise along and be yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do hence why I am on here the dating site stuff didn't work out to well can be a bit serious and also hard to tell who's really genuine on them

enjoy it on fab a lot more most I talk to are very friendly and have meet some great people and made some good friends in the process

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lonely gal here...

I keep myself busy and make sure I always have at least one event to look forward to. But it still creeps in, on the sofa alone, in bed alone, eating alone.. it overwhelms me sometimes.

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By *ex mad ladMan
over a year ago

Sussex

Count your blessings as most people are cunts anyway

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By *aisyDDWoman
over a year ago

North West

It’s a lonely time of year hun. There will be loads of people in the same boat.

Most of the time I do ok, lived on my own for the best part of 15 years.

Just focus on the positive things in your life. There’s always good stuff xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Lonely gal here...

I keep myself busy and make sure I always have at least one event to look forward to. But it still creeps in, on the sofa alone, in bed alone, eating alone.. it overwhelms me sometimes. "

And me, yesterday I was at the works Xmas party observing everyone laughing and having fun. I didn't get spoken to and at the meal ended up with an empty chair beside me.

It's hard at times. Sometimes it doesn't bother me but it would be nice to have a friend to meet for drinks, food and have a laugh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is anyone else lonely?

I've been feeling this way for so long now, no friends, at work I'm the outsider and am isolated from being involved.

I think I'm a decent person, with decent social skills, I'm just a little shy and find it hard to trust people but I'm constantly alone.

Does anyone else feel this way? "

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can be surrounded by people and still feel alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You can be surrounded by people and still feel alone. "

And even appear to be happy and joking as well but miserable inside.

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By *appy squirrelWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

so many people are lonely... I don't trust people easy and am very picky with friends. but if you really struggle try to change it. if you are too shy- set yourself goals to work on it, if its other issues- work on it. it's not going to change without putting some work in it. and I truly don't try to patronize I know these things can be a fucking bitch.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many people experience feelings of loneliness.

Unfortunately OP, (and anyone else who is feeling lonely) there is only yourself that can take the steps to change your feelings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is anyone else lonely?

I've been feeling this way for so long now, no friends, at work I'm the outsider and am isolated from being involved.

I think I'm a decent person, with decent social skills, I'm just a little shy and find it hard to trust people but I'm constantly alone.

Does anyone else feel this way? "

I feel like this most of the time in real life, with fab I have a different persona though. The compliments, however insincere give me a boost and I can chat online 24/7 lol but in reality I can sit home for a week and not leave the house or have a decent verbal conversation and that's soul destroying. I've tried dating sites with no joy but could get a hell of alot of meets a day if I wanted but found after a meet I ended up feeling low and empty after the initial high

Nice ass tho OP x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your not alone buddy, there are loads of people out there in the same boat, the time of year doesn’t help I know but we should all be thankful for small mercies, if you’ve got your health then what more do you need, anyway we are all your friends & your never alone when you on fab! You’ve got an opportunity to make some very special friends on here, fill your boots old son

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I spend nearly every weekend alone.

I work till late Mon - Fri and I live alone.

I don't have many friends or family either.

I'm one of those people

I'm mostly OK with it.

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By *lmostthereMan
over a year ago

Southampton

Yes. To an extent. I don't have many friends. I am not terribly good at friendship. That said I am also a miserable fuck on occasion. You see tonight I could be out with people but instead I am staying in and making focaccia and milk loaf.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My wife died in 2010 and at the time i felt very alone even though i was surrounded by family and friends. To be honest i didn't know or even think about how the rest of my life would go. But what i did have was a lifetime of good close friends and they still are just that. OP,regardless of feeling alone, surely you are not actually alone because you mention your "mates" in a latter post ?

Mates, especially as a bloke is what it's all about. Without my mates i don't know where i'd be now. Yes they are all married, but we always go out once a week for a drink and go out once a week on the bikes...............it keeps us sane and keeps us who we are. It also meant that i did eventually come back on here as a single guy rather than the couple we were...............never looked back since. The only time i'm "alone" is when i get home from work..................and thank fuck for that lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes. To an extent. I don't have many friends. I am not terribly good at friendship. That said I am also a miserable fuck on occasion. You see tonight I could be out with people but instead I am staying in and making focaccia and milk loaf.

Sounds like me, apart from the focaccia and milk loaf, I’m more likely to have toast!

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

You're not the only one. being single can do that to you and it's more common than you think nowadays. No one really makes an effort to know anyone anymore due to social media. So far today I have visited 3 elderly people on their own for a chat to bridge their loneliness. I find this so rewarding for them and myself. Don't stay alone forever OP it's not good for your mental health. "friends" on sites like this are not bonafide you need some real ones.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

As much as I enjoy the company of others the older I get the more I enjoy my own company.

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By *lmostthereMan
over a year ago

Southampton

Sounds like me, apart from the focaccia and milk loaf, I’m more likely to have toast!"

Toast is good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At times I do. I’ve lost my mum this year and moved away from my home partner and friends so it makes me feel lonely at times but lucky for me I get lots of messages abd phone calls. I do feel lost with out my mum though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Loneliness is awful and I think it hits us all at some points in our life's and to many out there this is the loneliest time of the year.

I have been lonely and will be again no doubt op...but life is full of twists and turns. So hopefully you will get a chance of being happy with someone in the future.

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By *oubyLoverWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

I often feel lonely. It doesn’t help that I rarely let people in. Ive paid a great price for letting the wrong people in in the past so I’m very cautious now. Some may say too cautious. Christmas is always a particularly bad time for me, but I don’t think I’m unusual in that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"At times I do. I’ve lost my mum this year and moved away from my home partner and friends so it makes me feel lonely at times but lucky for me I get lots of messages abd phone calls. I do feel lost with out my mum though "

hugs

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By *DFL6828Man
over a year ago

Leicester

Ive been having alot of ups and downs over the last 3 or 4 weeks.. Im the same as i dont really have alot of friends but i do know lots of people through work, partying etc. This time of year always gets me down.. I dont know why but its really got me this year.. still, 23rd December is the winter solstice (Shortest day of the year) and the days start getting longerafter that, so spring will be on its way and not log till the bike season starts..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Need some excitement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great post

I feel lonely quite regularly and it's not down to the time of year.

As a man its always up to us to be strong, you can only be strong for so long.

I ve really felt it in 2017

Thanks for reading

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is anyone else lonely?

I've been feeling this way for so long now, no friends, at work I'm the outsider and am isolated from being involved.

I think I'm a decent person, with decent social skills, I'm just a little shy and find it hard to trust people but I'm constantly alone.

Does anyone else feel this way? "

I feel the same hun, and often ask myself how when I'm in a room full of people(whom I know) can I feel so lonely. Xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People do

You’re not alone

There’s a lot to be said for hobbies, if I wasn’t part of the sports club I am I do believe I’d be a completely different person.

I’m not saying joining in a sport Is the answer but .... it works for me

Don’t use your life up wishing to be someone else pal, do something before if ebbs away.

Best wishes

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By *aisyDDWoman
over a year ago

North West

"You're not the only one. being single can do that to you and it's more common than you think nowadays. No one really makes an effort to know anyone anymore due to social media. So far today I have visited 3 elderly people on their own for a chat to bridge their loneliness. I find this so rewarding for them and myself. Don't stay alone forever OP it's not good for your mental health. "friends" on sites like this are not bonafide you need some real ones."

You bloody superstar! Bet you feel better for it as well x

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By *oubyLoverWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

I could have written this exact thing. Hugs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Xxx

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By *irestorm 500Couple
over a year ago

coventry

I have 2 wonderful children who are always here for me but I miss that closeness only a relationship can bring when at the end of the day someone to cuddle with on the sofa or roll over and cuddle in bed x storm x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I felt like that when I moved to Harlow a year and a half ago and it’s only the past few months I have felt content, I don’t have friends at I go out with (I’ve been out a few times with them but as a newbie in the group I didn’t really gel) but I have people I can talk to at work I think.

I might be a social flower at work because I have to be light and cheerful the whole time but away from work I struggle to talk to people. Ads keeps telling me to find a club to join or go and play his nerd game with him but talking to actual people and trying to find ‘my people’ is hard, sometimes I sit at his mums and not say much, it’s not because I don’t like them but I find conversation hard.

I had my kind of friends where I used to live, they knew my quirks and I miss them terribly, my best friend passed away in June and that just added to everything but I’m getting there slowly.

Geeky x

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By *lmostthereMan
over a year ago

Southampton

"I have 2 wonderful children who are always here for me but I miss that closeness only a relationship can bring when at the end of the day someone to cuddle with on the sofa or roll over and cuddle in bed x storm x "

This.

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By *_89Man
over a year ago

Here and there

Maybe you're just very independent, and the right type of people (for you) haven't come along yet?? Personally I would rather be alone than with a crowd that didn't tickle my fancy. Just believe in yourself and understand what makes you happy on your own (i.e. not basing your happiness on other people). If you treat others well I'm sure the right people will come along.

The wolf roams the wild with a thirst for freedom, having powerful instinct and intuition. Thrives in a social environment, yet fearless enough to take on the world alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I too have felt lonely most of my life and I have no idea why ? I’ve had family , friends but am a introvert don’t know if that makes a big difference , but have never got close to anyone or let anyone know me fully .. maybe if I could fully open up to people I could feel less lonely ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel the same..: at work I’m the little weirdo in the corner who knows how to fix the IT stuff barely have any conversations so I countered that with listening to podcasts but last January I discovered Dungeons & Dragons. I do know it’s nerdy and uncool but I feel I’ve finally found people who don’t judge me for not knowing or caring about football (although I did get a little chocked up when my daughter ran on the pitch this morning) we meet up every few weeks have a chat nerd out then and bonds are slowly forming (although I’m cautious this time) I consider the guys I play with now are more my friends than some a lot of people have pretended to be since I’ve been in my mid-late 20s

So I guess my advice is find something you enjoy doing then find a way to incorporate that into a group activity

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I've felt lonely for years, and I mean years. This last 6 months have been a little different due to friends I've made from the forums. I'm not sure they realise just how much of a difference they've made to me. They're my rocks, my laughter, my therapists and my heroes in their own way.

They love me for me, not what I can offer and that means a huge amount.

I admit I get sad and scared at times when I think about the future. I worry that if I were to get properly ill, I'd have nobody here to support me or hug me and tell me I'll be ok. I would love to have someone to snuggle up to, I adore contact whether it be holding hands or resting my head on a shoulder.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It sounds like you need a new environment, to open opportunities and some alternative approaches to relating with people op. You'll know deep down what it is that's holding you back, so consider how you may be able to change some habits. Take small steps, as you've been in this pattern for some time, so you can incrementally arrive at a different point.

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By *lottaslagginMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Lonely people are generally lonely for a reason. I woke up one day to news of my then partner having died in a tragic accident. I went to the wake... hundreds of people..... I felt totally confined tof my own despair. Since then loneliness still creeps in but in a different format. Thankfully christmas gives me hope each year when I meet up with family.

As Dumbledore said happiness can be found in the darkest of places if we only remember to turn on the light.

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By *ngel clawsWoman
over a year ago

Hull

I feel like this most of the time, yes ive got friends, have a laugh at parties but never seem to fully connect, and going home to an empty house is the hardest part x

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By *ax1971Man
over a year ago

St helens

"I feel like this most of the time, yes ive got friends, have a laugh at parties but never seem to fully connect, and going home to an empty house is the hardest part x"

Yes you need to come home to some hugs and snuggles and fall asleep in someones arms. Feel your pain. .xx

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By *ungmagic10Man
over a year ago

Northampton

Every one gets lonely sometimes, worse yet when you're lonely and in a relationship

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By *ngel clawsWoman
over a year ago

Hull

"Every one gets lonely sometimes, worse yet when you're lonely and in a relationship

Feel your pain hunni, I've been there too x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've got to the point now where I'm beginning to dislike being around people and look for an excuse to leave situations and be alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s the worst isn’t it. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s horrible. Being lonely is just one of the worst things x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am so glad you started this thread OP as I could have written exactly the same ... feeling lonely and alone is horrible and sometimes however hard you try to change it, it makes no difference ... sometimes I think if you're a genuinely nice, caring, considerate individual it makes it all the more difficult.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am so glad you started this thread OP as I could have written exactly the same ... feeling lonely and alone is horrible and sometimes however hard you try to change it, it makes no difference ... sometimes I think if you're a genuinely nice, caring, considerate individual it makes it all the more difficult."

Did try to send you a pm...bally filters eh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did try to send you a pm...bally filters eh

Just sent you one - hope you can reply to that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im just getting used to being single and living alone after a 3 year relationship, enjoy it alot sometimes but also can be tough sometimes and need to get myself out there more so gonna be trying new things and even considering going on one of these experiences abroad with strangers if anyones done anything like that would love to hear about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On the whole alone but not lonely but then it sneaks in especially when the dance is over and the crowd are gone and all I wanna do is talk music or dance some more... And someone to curl up next to hmmmph??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey minxyrelly, you re spot on, the more caring the harder it hits... It's the silence, it actually can scream louder than the noise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are so right. People say get out and do stuff but when you’ve got children and family already help out lots, it’s hard trying to arrange a babysitter. I’m sure if I was worthy of an appearance on Jeremy Kyle I’d have loads of people in my life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Last one before I'm slung out for hogging it??I m a dancer, jive, blues, contemporary... Why not give a dance group a crack, believe me it is my anchor, without it I would be screwed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Every one gets lonely sometimes, worse yet when you're lonely and in a relationship

This is the one of the worst type of loneliness. Lots of people are in marriages and relationships yet are so extremely lonely. In one sense when you're single you're more able to easily take steps to avoid that lonely feeling. In a marriage/relationship it's incredibly diificult with no easy solution.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

I have of moments where I think ooh a cuddle would be nice right now but they’re few and far between I’m on the whole quite happy in my own company

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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman
over a year ago

'tween PontyCarlo & CasVegas in West Yorks

All of this resonates so much with me.

I feel like ive been alone my entire life since my father died when i was just 10.

I have lots of friends, a large family, and am the bubbly go-to person at work yet I still feel like half a person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Got 'only the lonely' stuck in my head now

Youre welcome to anyone who now catches this haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've got to the point now where I'm beginning to dislike being around people and look for an excuse to leave situations and be alone. "

Hope you dont mind me saying as I don't want to cause upset, but this genuinely concerns me. Whar you've said is a downward spiral to a dark and very lonely place.

I really would try and force yourself to stay around people for your own health and happiness.

Angel

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Last one before I'm slung out for hogging it??I m a dancer, jive, blues, contemporary... Why not give a dance group a crack, believe me it is my anchor, without it I would be screwed"

Yes, I was going to say 'Learn to swing dance and you'll never be alone again!', good male leads are always in great demand. Plus you get good exercise and uplifting music - win win!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unbelievably lonely for another Xmas

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey minxyrelly, you re spot on, the more caring the harder it hits... It's the silence, it actually can scream louder than the noise"

Couldn't have put that better myself ... x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have children either but most of my mates do so getting out is difficult for them too.

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By *tephenBunChowMan
over a year ago

Haywards heath/Waterlooville

Join meetup.com tonnes of events for singles etc.

Walking, badminton, wine club, singles dating nights, charity, mentoring etc.

I was in your shoes once, pulled myself out of it.

There are plenty of thing to do that doesn't have to include your circle of friends. Create new networks and get involved.

It's more rewarding that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey frisky mare, so right, love the dancing and there's always something going on somewhere... Oh BTW.. Love your pics????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey minxyrelly.. Boredom and silence... They re the buggers.. Stay active n busy folks

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've always felt this way since a child and always wanted to be someone else. The last few years have gotten harder and ive sought numerous solutions, counselling, hypnotherapy, medication and nothing helps. After several suicide attempts I'm still feeling the same and even more lonely x

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By *iss_Samantha_LovecockTV/TS
over a year ago

bmth /poole sometimes blandford

sometimes i do tho im a bit of a loner anyway and i often work on my own .

even when i had a GF i often felt lonely.. because she didnt know the real me ..i do sometimes feel that i spend too much time alone on the dam internet and that i should get out more as ive become a bit of a recluse and cant be bothered to go out if i have no one to go with ..

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"I've always felt this way since a child and always wanted to be someone else. The last few years have gotten harder and ive sought numerous solutions, counselling, hypnotherapy, medication and nothing helps. After several suicide attempts I'm still feeling the same and even more lonely x"

OP, it sounds like you've tried everything to overcome this. Lots of great suggestions here, to join clubs, take up activities, is this something you would consider?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm staying positive for the new year and will try some of the suggestions posted. Maybe they'll change how I feel and felt

OP, it sounds like you've tried everything to overcome this. Lots of great suggestions here, to join clubs, take up activities, is this something you would consider?

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

I'm staying positive for the new year and will try some of the suggestions posted. Maybe they'll change how I feel and felt

OP, it sounds like you've tried everything to overcome this. Lots of great suggestions here, to join clubs, take up activities, is this something you would consider?

Hope you do OP and good luck and hugs to you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pm'd you, hope that's ok. Delete our message if you wish.

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By *oubyLoverWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

My mum died a few months ago and when I walked into my dads yesterday the radio was blaring out ‘it’ll be lonely this Christmas without you’

Christmas isn’t going to be the same for me or the rest of my family. Christmas was always a bad time anyway for me in particular but this year will be harder.

Big hugs to those who’ve lost someone close to them and this is the first Christmas without them x

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By *elloIntrigueMan
over a year ago

North West UK

"My mum died a few months ago and when I walked into my dads yesterday the radio was blaring out ‘it’ll be lonely this Christmas without you’

Christmas isn’t going to be the same for me or the rest of my family. Christmas was always a bad time anyway for me in particular but this year will be harder.

Big hugs to those who’ve lost someone close to them and this is the first Christmas without them x"

Sending thoughts and hugs your way

I'm not very christmassy these days, I generally have to keep myself busy as otherwise I start thinking about the people and family members no longer here to share it with me.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"My mum died a few months ago and when I walked into my dads yesterday the radio was blaring out ‘it’ll be lonely this Christmas without you’

Christmas isn’t going to be the same for me or the rest of my family. Christmas was always a bad time anyway for me in particular but this year will be harder.

Big hugs to those who’ve lost someone close to them and this is the first Christmas without them x"

Gosh, I know exactly how you feel, we lost my mum last year. Spoke to my dad this morning, as he was snowed in, he normally walks out everyday. He struggles with loneliness, without my mum, although we all spend as much time as we can with him. He still wakes up alone and goes to bed alone

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over a year ago

"My mum died a few months ago and when I walked into my dads yesterday the radio was blaring out ‘it’ll be lonely this Christmas without you’

Christmas isn’t going to be the same for me or the rest of my family. Christmas was always a bad time anyway for me in particular but this year will be harder.

Big hugs to those who’ve lost someone close to them and this is the first Christmas without them x"

Sending loads of virtual hugs xx

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By *oubyLoverWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

"My mum died a few months ago and when I walked into my dads yesterday the radio was blaring out ‘it’ll be lonely this Christmas without you’

Christmas isn’t going to be the same for me or the rest of my family. Christmas was always a bad time anyway for me in particular but this year will be harder.

Big hugs to those who’ve lost someone close to them and this is the first Christmas without them x

Yes it’s hard. My dad was with my mum over 50 years and now he doesn’t know what to do with himself.

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By *oubyLoverWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

"My mum died a few months ago and when I walked into my dads yesterday the radio was blaring out ‘it’ll be lonely this Christmas without you’

Christmas isn’t going to be the same for me or the rest of my family. Christmas was always a bad time anyway for me in particular but this year will be harder.

Big hugs to those who’ve lost someone close to them and this is the first Christmas without them x

Sending loads of virtual hugs xx"

Thank you xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I still have lonely days, I spent many years feeling lonely even though I was married. Now though I have mr even though we don’t live together just knowing he’s there for me helps the days I don’t get to see him. X

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over a year ago

"My mum died a few months ago and when I walked into my dads yesterday the radio was blaring out ‘it’ll be lonely this Christmas without you’

Christmas isn’t going to be the same for me or the rest of my family. Christmas was always a bad time anyway for me in particular but this year will be harder.

Big hugs to those who’ve lost someone close to them and this is the first Christmas without them x

Give him a big hug from me _amiss

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

If you think someone you know is lonely, reach out to them. Don’t wait to be asked because when someone is feeling alone they often won’t want to ask for help.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"My mum died a few months ago and when I walked into my dads yesterday the radio was blaring out ‘it’ll be lonely this Christmas without you’

Christmas isn’t going to be the same for me or the rest of my family. Christmas was always a bad time anyway for me in particular but this year will be harder.

Big hugs to those who’ve lost someone close to them and this is the first Christmas without them x

Yes it’s hard. My dad was with my mum over 50 years and now he doesn’t know what to do with himself. "

It's difficult, as a child of a bereaved parent, isn't it. We all have our own lives and others to consider, but he likes to be independent, also and is very set in his routine, which is a good thing! He is 88 next week!

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"My mum died a few months ago and when I walked into my dads yesterday the radio was blaring out ‘it’ll be lonely this Christmas without you’

Christmas isn’t going to be the same for me or the rest of my family. Christmas was always a bad time anyway for me in particular but this year will be harder.

Big hugs to those who’ve lost someone close to them and this is the first Christmas without them x

Give him a big hug from me _amiss

Oh thank you! Feeling a bit tearful talking about this.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My mum died a few months ago and when I walked into my dads yesterday the radio was blaring out ‘it’ll be lonely this Christmas without you’

Christmas isn’t going to be the same for me or the rest of my family. Christmas was always a bad time anyway for me in particular but this year will be harder.

Big hugs to those who’ve lost someone close to them and this is the first Christmas without them x

Give him a big hug from me _amiss

Oh thank you! Feeling a bit tearful talking about this.

Big hugs for you and your dad. I hope the season will pass with fond memories for you both.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"My mum died a few months ago and when I walked into my dads yesterday the radio was blaring out ‘it’ll be lonely this Christmas without you’

Christmas isn’t going to be the same for me or the rest of my family. Christmas was always a bad time anyway for me in particular but this year will be harder.

Big hugs to those who’ve lost someone close to them and this is the first Christmas without them x

Give him a big hug from me _amiss

Oh thank you! Feeling a bit tearful talking about this.

Big hugs for you and your dad. I hope the season will pass with fond memories for you both. "

Thank you, lovely, sorry for hijacking your thread. It does highlight how many people are lonely out there. He will be spending Christmas with us all, but there's still that void there, but we will make some more happy memories with him!

{{Hugs}} to you.xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My mum died a few months ago and when I walked into my dads yesterday the radio was blaring out ‘it’ll be lonely this Christmas without you’

Christmas isn’t going to be the same for me or the rest of my family. Christmas was always a bad time anyway for me in particular but this year will be harder.

Big hugs to those who’ve lost someone close to them and this is the first Christmas without them x

Give him a big hug from me _amiss

Oh thank you! Feeling a bit tearful talking about this.

Big hugs for you and your dad. I hope the season will pass with fond memories for you both.

{{Hugs}} to you.xx"

No need for sorry you've not hijacked. I'm glad it's allowed people to express their feelings. Being lonely is horrible. Xx

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By *aughtyLittleMissWoman
over a year ago

Aberdeen

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Hey frisky mare, so right, love the dancing and there's always something going on somewhere... Oh BTW.. Love your pics????"

I noticed, thanks lol!

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By *ribsaMan
over a year ago

A box at end of your bed

You are not the only one feeling lonely at this time of year or any other time for that matter. I am a married man and I have never felt more alone in my life.

All my true friends live hundreds of miles away as I moved from my hometown some years ago.

My wife was my lover and best friend back then, now we hardly speak to one another never mind make love, we don’t go out anywhere together. She goes out with her friends shopping, on nights out & the last two years running on holidays abroad. Me get to stay home and look after our son. Like you I'm a decent person, with decent social skills, I like you find it hard to make new friends and I too feel constantly alone.

I have work colleges but I would not class them as true friends no one I can have that true heart to heart with or go for a pint with. If I got to the local pub I am the one sat at the end of the bar on my own on his phone reading the Fab forums.

So no Hide the sausage your not the only one feeling lonely I feel your pain.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"My mum died a few months ago and when I walked into my dads yesterday the radio was blaring out ‘it’ll be lonely this Christmas without you’

Christmas isn’t going to be the same for me or the rest of my family. Christmas was always a bad time anyway for me in particular but this year will be harder.

Big hugs to those who’ve lost someone close to them and this is the first Christmas without them x

Give him a big hug from me _amiss

Oh thank you! Feeling a bit tearful talking about this.

Big hugs for you and your dad. I hope the season will pass with fond memories for you both.

{{Hugs}} to you.xx

No need for sorry you've not hijacked. I'm glad it's allowed people to express their feelings. Being lonely is horrible. Xx"

Ah, thank you

xx It is horrible.

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By *irestorm 500Couple
over a year ago

coventry

"Yes I still have lonely days, I spent many years feeling lonely even though I was married. Now though I have mr even though we don’t live together just knowing he’s there for me helps the days I don’t get to see him. X "

Same here but there are times when you need that hug and cuddle in those lonely moments ..that's what I miss x storm x

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

Mate I had a shite Christmas last year after a bad break up. I embraced being lonely until it wasn’t healthy.

I had a good couple of meets from here and some friends who dragged me out of it. I can hold a conversation and can chat for hours. I went on a few Tinder dates and just forced myself to get out and about.

Work on the conversational skill and then busy yourself with something. A club a group or even volunteer.

It’s a shit time of year mate I was in a terrible place last year at this time and now I’m sat her chilling with a lovely Blonde ball of positivity who has made my world awesome again.

Hope you get through this in style.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So am curious, how many will be spending their Xmas day alone... I m one for sure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I understand this . Hugs . Even though I have my 2 girls living at home some of the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can still have a partner and feel lonely and empty, I know I do!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I got divorced almost 3 years a go I suddlenly lost my social circle that I moved around in as a couple, suddenly the single guy was out in the cold. It took a while to get used to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Loneliness and the feeling of being unwanted is the most terrible poverty.

Mother Teresa

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey Kitty Kat, you are right, my sympathies, in my case it was better to split than live a fallen love, we only get this one life so it must be pushed.. But as I said that was my individual opinion on my case.. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're a parent and feeling alone/lonely, there's an app out called mush. Shows up all the other lonely parents within your area. Great way to make new friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I spend a lot of time on my own.

Other than being at work - I don't have children a partner or close family - my parents died years ago - and I don't have close friends nearby.

I'm usually Ok with it and I make myself busy and try and enjoy my weekends.

But today I feel painfully lonely.

I think it's because yesterday I was trapped in my house all day because of the weather.

I was hungover after a meet and spent the whole day alone and didn't speak to a single soul.

I had a nice time on Saturday - but a meet is empty - it still left me alone on Sunday.

So I went to work today an heard all the stories of everyone playing in the snow with their families,snowed in and watching films - and it has made me so fucking sad!

And that I haven't even got anyone else to share this emotion with than a swinging internet forum is even sadder!

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains

Yup, even though I have quite a busy life I find myself lonely a lot of the time. I have friends who I can invite places, but I never seem to be invited in return so unless I do all the organising I’d never do anything! I waste my weekends rather than get out and do the stuff I want to, cos the thought of doing it alone seems a bit sad really.

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By *aisyDDWoman
over a year ago

North West

It really does seem to be the time of year that being lonely hits home.

Not really bothered about having anyone in my life most of the time but it really would be nice to have someone to snuggle up in bed with.

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By *un4meanduMan
over a year ago

STOTFOLD

Married for a lot of years with no love anymore, just kids and business to run no friends, that's why I joined on here for some fun, so as others have said loneliness isn't just when you are single ,but I hope every single one of you have a positive memory from this year and lets hope we all feel a but less lonely very soon

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By *ammyDodgaMan
over a year ago

Nottingham/and everywhere my location says i am ;)

This time of year never helps either. Not that I would ever begrudge happiness but the whole unity and family etc is rammed at you.

5 weeks ago, woke up in hospital after major surgery. People all around. Wives, husbands etc all showing affection to loved ones and the loneliness hit then. It's tough at times. It's how you cope that matters. Chin up, smile and keep going forwards.

A change has gotta come

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'Lonely in Manchester.'

I work alone and have done for ten year. Social media is an outlet, but I do miss the friendly banter of work mates.

I don't get out as much as we all did when younger. So yes, feelings of loneliness crerps in.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How ironic that as I read this thread "A Winter's Tale" comes on the radio ...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How ironic that as I read this thread "A Winter's Tale" comes on the radio ...

Hate that song

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By *eviantdeliteWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"Many people experience feelings of loneliness.

Unfortunately OP, (and anyone else who is feeling lonely) there is only yourself that can take the steps to change your feelings.

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By *eviantdeliteWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham

I was hungover after a meet and spent the whole day alone and didn't speak to a single soul.

I had a nice time on Saturday - but a meet is empty - it still left me alone on Sunday.

You have to get pissed to meet?? Not sure that is a good thing.....the problem, and it is only my opinion so I hope I don’t cause offence, I would suggest may lie in the alcohol then.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How ironic that as I read this thread "A Winter's Tale" comes on the radio ...

Hate that song "

I don't like it either but it did seem ironic...

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By *oreverHorny69Man
over a year ago

Milnrow

Having a hidden disability ( epilepsy) makes all aspects of my life extremely hard. I find socialising very difficult as my shyness is also an issue. The epilepsy makes people not want to chat to me on here, to such an extent that I removed it from my profile. It doesn’t help when a lady who was a good friend said quite openly in front of a crowd of other people “ if we were in a relationship I would dump you as I couldn’t cope with your epilepsy” I was upset and felt an inch high. Doesn’t do a lot for ones confidence and as a consequence no meets socially or naughty. Still I live in hope that one day it may happen ??????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Join some local facebook groups or meetup dot com. Plenty of other people who are socially isolated for various reasons.

Voluntary work is also good for meeting new people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I own a coffee shop and it amazes me how many people will come in on their own just to chat with me as I will be the only person they speak to all day, but that's why I opened it, to give the community a warm safe place where they are always welcome. If we can make one person's day a little brighter we've done our job

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By *lmostthereMan
over a year ago

Southampton

"I own a coffee shop and it amazes me how many people will come in on their own just to chat with me as I will be the only person they speak to all day, but that's why I opened it, to give the community a warm safe place where they are always welcome. If we can make one person's day a little brighter we've done our job

Aww that is lovely. Do you wear your welcoming 'I will cut you' t shirt? Cos that might put some people off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Right now I feel lonely in Cute's bed, because he has to be at work.

But in general yes, I feel lonely most of the time. As a foreigner I don't know many people in my age here and I also need quite a long time to trust people and feel relaxed with them. So when I'm off I spend most of the time in my bed literally just wasting my time.

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over a year ago

Reckon we should chat Xmas day, our own Lil party.. I think the coffee shop mentioned above is great must admit i go places sometimes just to see if I can speak English, I work alone all the time... And reading about the epilepsy, it's so sad but that is today's world, people don t like their perfect worlds ruined, even though in actual fact these perfect worlds are shams, is the image they would sooner preserve. I announced to my friends lately that I have PTSD and I explained I don t need treatment as such I just need people to say hello now and again.... They re almost all stone silent with me now, the one thing I told them makes it worse. I find the only caring people are those that have or are lonely or that are or were in a rough road themselves... To all of you out there, I ll always be glad to say hi or just listen????

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over a year ago

Yes. But I've managed to learn to ignore the feelings and convince myself I'm good on my own.

Medication helps keep everything level, and I've accepted I'm one of those people who isn't meant to have friends. At times it sucks, mostly I've learnt to live with it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes. But I've managed to learn to ignore the feelings and convince myself I'm good on my own.

Medication helps keep everything level, and I've accepted I'm one of those people who isn't meant to have friends. At times it sucks, mostly I've learnt to live with it. "

This thread has surprised Me, there is a common misconception that isolation tends to hit men more than women.

I wonder if it's an increasing social problem or whether it's always been a pattern in human nature. Has technology opened the world but caused isolation at the same time?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes. But I've managed to learn to ignore the feelings and convince myself I'm good on my own.

Medication helps keep everything level, and I've accepted I'm one of those people who isn't meant to have friends. At times it sucks, mostly I've learnt to live with it.

This thread has surprised Me, there is a common misconception that isolation tends to hit men more than women.

I wonder if it's an increasing social problem or whether it's always been a pattern in human nature. Has technology opened the world but caused isolation at the same time?"

Possibly. But I've never had 'friends' so this was way before technology became as prevalent as it is today.

If it wasn't for technology, and certain social platforms, I know I could very easily slip into being a complete recluse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree sind Arellano, technology enables us to at least find someone to chat to, like minded or with similar things going on... Things are so much quieter and harder without, for instance we, on this thread, would all be feeling pretty darned isolated... Love your pics BTW.. Gorgeous.. Stay well??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Above... Sin Darella autocorrect is gonna give me a meltdown??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aww that is lovely. Do you wear your welcoming 'I will cut you' t shirt? Cos that might put some people off.

No that's for on my days off when I want to be left alone, as an introvert, being friendly and welcoming is fecking exhausting!

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over a year ago

I was hungover after a meet and spent the whole day alone and didn't speak to a single soul.

I had a nice time on Saturday - but a meet is empty - it still left me alone on Sunday.

You have to get pissed to meet?? Not sure that is a good thing.....the problem, and it is only my opinion so I hope I don’t cause offence, I would suggest may lie in the alcohol then......."

No I don't have to get pissed to meet - we got pissed together.

It's not really the point though is it

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Nah not really, I'm happy to be a lone wolf, I would gladly live in the countryside and not see people for weeks at a time. In fact, that sounds great!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree sind Arellano, technology enables us to at least find someone to chat to, like minded or with similar things going on... Things are so much quieter and harder without, for instance we, on this thread, would all be feeling pretty darned isolated... Love your pics BTW.. Gorgeous.. Stay well??"

Thank you.

I've left most social media, because for the most part I had no interaction with anyone and had nothing to in common with them. Here, at least we all have something in common, and I'm pretty much always in the forums which most days is as much interaction I have with anyone outside of my very immediate family.

But it's not all doom and gloom. I've come to be content being on my own and being self reliant. And every now and then, I make myself go out and meet people so I'm not completely socially inept, and so far it seems to be enough to stop me becoming a complete hermit

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By *eviantdeliteWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"Nah not really, I'm happy to be a lone wolf, I would gladly live in the countryside and not see people for weeks at a time. In fact, that sounds great! "

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By *lmostthereMan
over a year ago

Southampton

Thank you.

I can certainly identify with this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thank you.

I can certainly identify with this. "

It's a bit shit isn't it. But suppose we just have to make the best of what seems to be our lot I suppose.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I already live the solitary lone wolf life, I have no home, no family and my only friends are dance partners on the floor... So here's my brief communication

. Thing is, I m happy this way but I do interact because though living lone wolf is good you also end up outside of everything and everyone, believe me people start to avoid because your persona changes.. Just saying... Love to yawl from homeless in Cornwall??

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

I did all the time . Believe it or not what changed it for me is Pooch. He may be a dog but he loves me unconditionally and gives me a reason to get up in the morning

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over a year ago

I know how you feel OP, I've had incredibly lonely times in the past... there was a stage when I wasn't working and I dreaded Saturdays as that was the worse day. Luckily I'm in a nice job now with decent people where I'm forced to interact with them and the public each day.

I'm still alone the rest of the time but that's through choice and I have my own things to occupy that time - walks, watching films, reading, adult colouring - and my friends are often available to talk to via WhatsApp, and fab's come in helpful at times too. Have you looked into volunteering or social activities like ju jitsu and things? I find that if there's a group of people with a common interest then you're more likely to bond.

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By *eviantdeliteWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"I did all the time . Believe it or not what changed it for me is Pooch. He may be a dog but he loves me unconditionally and gives me a reason to get up in the morning

You are never lonely with a dog x

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"I did all the time . Believe it or not what changed it for me is Pooch. He may be a dog but he loves me unconditionally and gives me a reason to get up in the morning

You are never lonely with a dog x

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Cheers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I did all the time . Believe it or not what changed it for me is Pooch. He may be a dog but he loves me unconditionally and gives me a reason to get up in the morning

You are never lonely with a dog x

I'm thinking about getting a cat...they are more interesting

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By *entle giraffeMan
over a year ago

Minehead

"You can still have a partner and feel lonely and empty, I know I do! "

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By *tephanjMan
over a year ago

Kettering

I'm always lonely I work on my own for 12hrs a day I don't have any friends since I moved away from London. I am a shy person and find it hard to get friends and keep them

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"I did all the time . Believe it or not what changed it for me is Pooch. He may be a dog but he loves me unconditionally and gives me a reason to get up in the morning

You are never lonely with a dog x

I'm thinking about getting a cat...they are more interesting

Cats bum...

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By *irestorm 500Couple
over a year ago

coventry

"You can still have a partner and feel lonely and empty, I know I do!

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By *urlesque!Woman
over a year ago

Gloucester

Loneliness as opposed to (welcome) solitude can feel really sad and like you are missing out in life.

Loneliness is often associated with or even caused by an inability to trust easily and to open up about the real person inside, whatever that may be like.

Trust comes with accepting risk - how risky is it to trust a person, what are the chances my trust will get broken and how will I feel when it does get broken, again perhaps.

If we take chances and the risk of being hurt, we can open up about ourselves and that is attractive to others. I don t mean endless stories about your own misery and problems so far but sharing some of your stories might build a relationship of trust with another person.

The other key thing is being a good listener. A good listener does not give advice nor does he/she tell his or her own story while listening. Being listened to and feeling genuinely "heard" is a wonderful experience and it will make you attractive.

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By *aisyDDWoman
over a year ago

North West

"Reckon we should chat Xmas day, our own Lil party.. I think the coffee shop mentioned above is great must admit i go places sometimes just to see if I can speak English, I work alone all the time... And reading about the epilepsy, it's so sad but that is today's world, people don t like their perfect worlds ruined, even though in actual fact these perfect worlds are shams, is the image they would sooner preserve. I announced to my friends lately that I have PTSD and I explained I don t need treatment as such I just need people to say hello now and again.... They re almost all stone silent with me now, the one thing I told them makes it worse. I find the only caring people are those that have or are lonely or that are or were in a rough road themselves... To all of you out there, I ll always be glad to say hi or just listen????"

Omg!!!! I also have ptsd and depression. I run my own business so have a profile on Instagram and I’m very open about my mental health issues on there. People need to talk more. I can’t believe your friends would just sit in silence rather than ask about it or offer support. Think you actually have to be mental to be a mate of mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey Daisy, talking outside of the circle tends to disrupt perfect suburbia??an urban myth really but it's where people like to dwell... I tend to write to myself through poetry and it, at times clears the air??

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By *ifestoooooshortMan
over a year ago

Middle Earth

"Is anyone else lonely?

I've been feeling this way for so long now, no friends, at work I'm the outsider and am isolated from being involved.

I think I'm a decent person, with decent social skills, I'm just a little shy and find it hard to trust people but I'm constantly alone.

Does anyone else feel this way? "

Christmas can highlight loneliness and we can all be lonely even if surrounded by people!

These days life is so fast paced people forget what's important sometimes and friendships fade ..it's important to try and not let them?

Sometimes people don't have time to get to know someone so never think people don't care...it's just this fast pace of life we are engulfed in!

Nowadays we seem to think people we work with are friends but really they're just colleagues...

Life's so short so just enjoy it is my take...with or without people around you!

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By *ifestoooooshortMan
over a year ago

Middle Earth

"I did all the time . Believe it or not what changed it for me is Pooch. He may be a dog but he loves me unconditionally and gives me a reason to get up in the morning

You are never lonely with a dog x

100% Agree!!! NEVER alone with your dog...mans truly best friend! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too many people feel alone, and especially around this period

As hard as it can be, we are biologically a social creature, so feelings of awkwardness around people, shyness and ‘not part of the gang’ can really hit hard.

I work the majority of my time alone, seeing the odd person here and there. So I make ‘friends’ via texts and kik just to keep me sane. It makes my day go quicker.

I suffered from PTSD from my time in the armed forces, and after leaving, not able to ‘pull up the sandbag’ it really hit me, the feeling of ‘nobody understands me’.

I had professional help, and am now quite mindful of my own self.if I get lonely I have a quick chat to somebody, anybody and then I don’t feel so alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well said Tonythetiger, sometimes that's all that's needed, same for me... Stay well buddy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes very lonely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well said Tonythetiger, sometimes that's all that's needed, same for me... Stay well buddy"

Agreed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know the feeling i have friends but they all have partners and i feel abit lost when around them would be nice to have a female friend i think ime a nice person but clearly fenales dont think ime goodlooking

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

People can be very selfish and absorbed in their own world. I had a near fatal accident a few years ago and was in a bad way. None of the people i called friend visited me or even sent a text to make sure I was ok. I suffered from PTSD and was isolated. Since then none of those people have been welcome in my life, having said that I'm sure they must have thought I actually died as I've not heard from them since the day after the accident.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not lonely as such. I have lots of friends. Recently I have been thinking that it would be nice to be in a relationship that’s not solely revolving around sex.

I guess I’m looking for a girlfriend. Do you think I’m looking in the right place. I wonder how many couples have met on here.

I think I’ll post this as a separate subject.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You are not the only one feeling lonely at this time of year or any other time for that matter. I am a married man and I have never felt more alone in my life.

All my true friends live hundreds of miles away as I moved from my hometown some years ago.

So no Hide the sausage your not the only one feeling lonely I feel your pain.

Perhaps it's time to get out of your marriage. Not many places more lonelier than a 'dead' marriage. Hope you manage to find comfort and happiness in your life at some point.

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By *eviantdeliteWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham

It is amazing how a life changing event sorts out who your real friends are....I thought I had friends....until my stroke in Dec 2015..... and then I realised they were merely acquaintances.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is amazing how a life changing event sorts out who your real friends are....I thought I had friends....until my stroke in Dec 2015..... and then I realised they were merely acquaintances....."
that's very young to have a stroke

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do I interest anyone?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do I interest anyone?"

Bit random after 15 hours that weren't it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do I interest anyone?

Bit random after 15 hours that weren't it"

Just a bit

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By *eviantdeliteWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham

Not at all...anyone of any age can have a stroke...Google it!!!

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