FabSwingers.com forum: Men stating that BBW are welcome

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I know I maybe letting myself in for abuse.

But why do they feel the need to put that bbw's/big women are welcome. Is this not segregating them out (yes I am classed as obese). I can understand the one stating no bigger people.

I suspect this has been asked before.

Polite answers welcome.

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By *unshine05Man
over a year ago

Sherborne

Maybe they put that because thats what they prefer or they think that it makes them more welcoming to bbws etc, I personally prefer the fuller figure but I'm not sure I'd be comfortable stating that on my profile, yeah some people wouldn't be upset by it,but I think wouldn't want someone to read it and be upset by it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know I maybe letting myself in for abuse.

But why do they feel the need to put that bbw's/big women are welcome. Is this not segregating them out (yes I am classed as obese). I can understand the one stating no bigger people.

I suspect this has been asked before.

Polite answers welcome.

They don't want big UGLY women

(P.S. I'm large too so I'm allowed to laugh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Isn’t this exactly the same as anyone saying ‘big cocks welcome’ ?

Or lots of other ...welcomes ?

I personally don’t see any issue with it at all. We’re here to hopefully meet people that we like. Stating things like this in a profile, to me, is an expression of their wish.

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple
over a year ago

Maidstone

I personally find it pretentious. They make it sound like they’re providing a service for the larger lady.

Ed x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Isn’t this exactly the same as anyone saying ‘big cocks welcome’ ?

Or lots of other ...welcomes ?

I personally don’t see any issue with it at all. We’re here to hopefully meet people that we like. Stating things like this in a profile, to me, is an expression of their wish."

Exactly this

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

I always complain about people who want to meet me as well. Fucking oddballs.....

#neverfuckinghappy

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"Isn’t this exactly the same as anyone saying ‘big cocks welcome’ ?

Or lots of other ...welcomes ?

I personally don’t see any issue with it at all. We’re here to hopefully meet people that we like. Stating things like this in a profile, to me, is an expression of their wish."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it not a preference like any other..? Some like blondes....some slim....some voluptuous..? There are plenty women stating black only or BBC.. ..are white guys to be offended.. .? Some guys like are full figured girl as I usually do...!

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

I've changed my profile in honour of this thread.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

" I've changed my profile in honour of this thread.

You da man

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I personally find it pretentious. They make it sound like they’re providing a service for the larger lady.

Ed x"

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

Should i be putting "BBW not welcome" on my profile?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So many people are so offended on here!

Why do you care how other people run their profiles OP?

It's their profile - they an put whatever they want on there.

If anything you can decide who you don't want to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesn't bother me in the least, it's no different from other preferences people put on there profile

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

" Should i be putting "BBW not welcome" on my profile?"

Nah, the petite with big tits says enough

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

" Should i be putting "BBW not welcome" on my profile?

Nah, the petite with big tits says enough

any day now.....

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Because in the regular dating world, fat does not have a high ratio of demand (low) to supply (high). Therefore, they are simply making a statement that their preferences are different to the norm, which is logical.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because in the regular dating world, fat does not have a high ratio of demand (low) to supply (high). Therefore, they are simply making a statement that their preferences are different to the norm, which is logical. "

I get my fair share of dates in the real world.

So ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A BBW isn't their first choice but they'll do them a favour and lower their standards, so they're welcome to message.

Different from saying I find different body types attractive or I prefer larger women.

In my own (neither wrong nor right) opinion

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

I get my fair share of dates in the real world.

So ..."

So what?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plenty of women's profiles saying - "Big cocks only" & "no fatties" - so being welcomed is hardly something to complain about, in fact it's a pretty original complaint!

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By *r Man.Man
over a year ago

London

"A BBW isn't their first choice but they'll do them a favour and lower their standards, so they're welcome to message.

Different from saying I find different body types attractive or I prefer larger women.

In my own (neither wrong nor right) opinion "

Your so right, I like my baby cat with fur on it.

So anybody that has a furry baby cat, let me do you a favor

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Isn’t this exactly the same as anyone saying ‘big cocks welcome’ ?

Or lots of other ...welcomes ?

I personally don’t see any issue with it at all. We’re here to hopefully meet people that we like. Stating things like this in a profile, to me, is an expression of their wish."

Exactly!!! It seems people take issue no matter what!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know I maybe letting myself in for abuse.

But why do they feel the need to put that bbw's/big women are welcome. Is this not segregating them out (yes I am classed as obese). I can understand the one stating no bigger people.

I suspect this has been asked before.

Polite answers welcome.

I guess it works just as well as "fat fuckers welcome

" - says a fat fucker

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By *hortieWoman
over a year ago

Northampton

People put on their profile what they like. Or what they don't like.

Their profile. They can put what the hell they like on it.

If I don't like whats on their profile, I tend to move on to the next perving opportunity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get my fair share of dates in the real world.

So ...

So what?"

So you don't really have much of a point do you.

You're implying that only slim people get dates in the real world.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"I know I maybe letting myself in for abuse.

But why do they feel the need to put that bbw's/big women are welcome. Is this not segregating them out (yes I am classed as obese). I can understand the one stating no bigger people.

I suspect this has been asked before.

Polite answers welcome.

My assumption is that they're confident that anyone who isn't a catwalk model would look at their profile and think "I'm wasting my time here, they're too good for me".

Cal

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

I get my fair share of dates in the real world.

So ..."

You're not a BBW. You're just woman shape. Bbw starts at size 20-22 depending on height.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

I get my fair share of dates in the real world.

So ...

So what?

So you don't really have much of a point do you.

You're implying that only slim people get dates in the real world."

What i said is quoted and clearly it does not say BBWs don't get any dates.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

I get my fair share of dates in the real world.

So ..."

I wouldn't call you fat to be honest. I on the other hand am far and when looking in dating sites find it very difficult to find genuine people.

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

"I personally find it pretentious. They make it sound like they’re providing a service for the larger lady.

Ed x"

I know what you mean. It's the word 'welcome'.

If you're looking for BBW, say you are. Saying 'BBW welcome' sounds like a pub saying 'children welcome'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get my fair share of dates in the real world.

So ...

You're not a BBW. You're just woman shape. Bbw starts at size 20-22 depending on height."

I'm not BBW then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know I maybe letting myself in for abuse.

But why do they feel the need to put that bbw's/big women are welcome. Is this not segregating them out (yes I am classed as obese). I can understand the one stating no bigger people.

I suspect this has been asked before.

Polite answers welcome.

Perhaps they prefer larger women to slim women. I'd talk to them and see how their attitude was. I know men that genuinely prefer larger women.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

I get my fair share of dates in the real world.

So ...

You're not a BBW. You're just woman shape. Bbw starts at size 20-22 depending on height."

Is this an official starting point only it's been the subject of many a thread before so would be good to have a definitive answer for once

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get my fair share of dates in the real world.

So ...

You're not a BBW. You're just woman shape. Bbw starts at size 20-22 depending on height."

I'm big fat belly and arse shape

I don't like the term BBW and personally don't give a fuck who wants to fuck them - but some people can't resist commenting on every fat thread - just like you Clem

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By *orwegian BlueMan
over a year ago

Iceland, but Aldi is closer..

"I personally find it pretentious. They make it sound like they’re providing a service for the larger lady.

Ed x

I know what you mean. It's the word 'welcome'.

If you're looking for BBW, say you are. Saying 'BBW welcome' sounds like a pub saying 'children welcome'.

It is that exactly.. "welcome" makes it sound like "I'm making an exception"

I can understand why some would take umbrage at the use of the term, however it's a well embedded part of Fab speak, only it's use here does not quite fit it's context.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

I get my fair share of dates in the real world.

So ...

You're not a BBW. You're just woman shape. Bbw starts at size 20-22 depending on height.

I'm big fat belly and arse shape

I don't like the term BBW and personally don't give a fuck who wants to fuck them - but some people can't resist commenting on every fat thread - just like you Clem

Fish in a barrel

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

I get my fair share of dates in the real world.

So ...

You're not a BBW. You're just woman shape. Bbw starts at size 20-22 depending on height.

Is this an official starting point only it's been the subject of many a thread before so would be good to have a definitive answer for once

Anything below that is just a curvy woman. Bbw in my opinion is when the curves start to fill out. But this is an entirely different subject. Let's not get down in the s with it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you to all that replied and to those who took unbridge. My opinion counts as much as yours !!! If you didn't like the question you didn't need to reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's probably just a way of high lighting their preference.

I only meet slim men and have that on my profile, hasn't seem to be an issue with anyone as yet.

I find women who feel the need to announce they are bigger/bbw is a bit weird, slim women don't announce it on their profiles, surely your pictures speak for themseleves?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah I've just read the rest of the thread, it's the term "welcome" that's the problem, yeah does almost sound like theyre doing us a favour lol.

Have yet to see a profile that says "prefer bigger women but slim women are welcome"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know I maybe letting myself in for abuse.

But why do they feel the need to put that bbw's/big women are welcome. Is this not segregating them out (yes I am classed as obese). I can understand the one stating no bigger people.

I suspect this has been asked before.

Polite answers welcome.

"
its just a message limitation thing I suppose but I agree not needed just makes you feel bad for no reason

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

It’s just badly worded IMO ... and there are a lot of profiles on Fab with awful wording, spelling, grammar etc!!

As for the ‘BBW’ label, does it matter? You are the size you are & you’re either comfortable with it or you’re not. Anyone attracted to bigger women isn’t going to stop & check your weight/height/size/BMI to see whether you’re classed as BBW or not!!

The fashion world classes size 12 as ‘plus size’. High street stores class size 16 as ‘XL’, some even start that at size 14. The ‘plus size’ brands like SimplyBe start at size 14. I’m an 18 in some stores/brands & a 22 in others!

It’s just a label & it’s completely subjective.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, not in the numbers on a tape measure!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Double standards as per..

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Think we might be over thinking this. 'Society' says fat people are unattractive, they're just stating that they do find find fat people attractive.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

"So many people are so offended on here!

Why do you care how other people run their profiles OP?

It's their profile - they an put whatever they want on there.

If anything you can decide who you don't want to meet.

This

Miss

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ah I've just read the rest of the thread, it's the term "welcome" that's the problem, yeah does almost sound like theyre doing us a favour lol.

Have yet to see a profile that says "prefer bigger women but slim women are welcome"

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

no different than women saying bbc welcome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Their profile, their rules. If I don't like what someone has to say, I just move along. But personally, that statement doesn't bother me

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Everyone's a snowflake now a days

As a fatty I ain't offended

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s not the most flattering wording however it wouldn’t deter me if I liked the rest of the profile. Larger ladies aren’t everyone’s tastes and in my case I’m not easy to please nor eager to please so I’m actually bloody hard work too. It’s easier to find someone who may fit what I need if they indicate that they don’t mind a bit of chub.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"no different than women saying bbc welcome"

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I'm not really into labels and wouldn't use the term. I don't like it to be honest. But if people want to use it that's fine with me. I think its sometimes a little divisive so may help people come together or stay away from the wrong match.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couldn't care less tbh.

Some people feel the need to be offended by anything these days, usually attention seeker's.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Think we might be over thinking this. 'Society' says fat people are unattractive, they're just stating that they do find find fat people attractive. "

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

Does it make any difference? No women is EVER gonna message him first anyway!

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

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I like larger ladies generally due to the fact that i find chubby cheeks bloody cute. They also are more likely to have bigger boobs. This is something I unashamedly love.

I am fully aware that what I have just said could cause someone to take offence despite that not being my intention. Thus I wouldn't put it on my profile. That and it isn't a deal breaker anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At least you know. I don't particularly like being rejected so if I know what body types are preferred then all is good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s how it’s said that’s more of the issue. As long as I’m not made to feel like he’s doing me a favour by asking for a meet then saying he likes a curvy or BBW Woman is ok x

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

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"It’s how it’s said that’s more of the issue. As long as I’m not made to feel like he’s doing me a favour by asking for a meet then saying he likes a curvy or BBW Woman is ok x "

As long aa you wear that bow of course

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

"At least you know. I don't particularly like being rejected so if I know what body types are preferred then all is good. "

Yeah good point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s how it’s said that’s more of the issue. As long as I’m not made to feel like he’s doing me a favour by asking for a meet then saying he likes a curvy or BBW Woman is ok x

As long aa you wear that bow of course

Oh I could soon pop that on. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Think we might be over thinking this. 'Society' says fat people are unattractive, they're just stating that they do find find fat people attractive. "

Pretty much this. There are men who genuinely find all body types attractive, depending on the individual. If they understand that the larger woman has been conditioned by society to feel that nobody could find them attractive, and as such may be reluctant to message anyone, then stating they are open to all body sizes seems sensible. But as always with weight and size issues, people can be really touchy, some will take even the best attempt at inclusivity as an insult.

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

Im happy to be called fat but dont patronise me by labelling me a BBW. I dont want to be objectified or somebodys tick on a list "done a fat bird".

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

"It’s how it’s said that’s more of the issue. As long as I’m not made to feel like he’s doing me a favour by asking for a meet then saying he likes a curvy or BBW Woman is ok x

As long aa you wear that bow of course

Oh I could soon pop that on. X

And i could soon undo it

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

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"Im happy to be called fat but dont patronise me by labelling me a BBW. I dont want to be objectified or somebodys tick on a list "done a fat bird"."

If I am attracted to someone I will shag them. Regardless of their size.

See the issue. It doesn't sound any better put like that does it lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s how it’s said that’s more of the issue. As long as I’m not made to feel like he’s doing me a favour by asking for a meet then saying he likes a curvy or BBW Woman is ok x

As long aa you wear that bow of course

Oh I could soon pop that on. X

And i could soon undo it

Promises, promises x

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