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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

When writing a message do you put much thought into it?

Do you think about how it might come across, do you try to impress people with wit or charm or eloquent words?

Do you go back and proof read or do you send without checking?

I guess it also depends on what you receive?

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By *haremoreMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I should do but forget.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't do none of that cos I don't chat to people who demand to read their profile or say specific words or what ever bullshit they write

it don't think for a sec what I want say I just start normal conversation then go with the flow and it's working for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As you see from my last text no clue on what to write first!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it was a pm to someone whom I read their profile. I would take my time, make it personal and make reference to their profile malenit stand out...etc. Just because that's what everyone's advice is.

I just go with what I need to say, and hope for the best.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

It depends and varies dependent on the recipient - if it's an unsolicited 'cold' message to someone I don't know (which I rarely send) then yes I'll proof read it and cross-check with their profile before sending.

If it's part of an on going back and forth with someone I know then I may cross check against their last message (if it's a long one) as I go along but will generally not proof read before sending.

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

I attempt to bedazzle with pretentious verbiage whereupon my intended invariably runs a mile on account that I am a pompous arsehole

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I very rarely write the first message I'm kind of old fashioned and wait for the guy to message

On the rare occasion that I have it's always thought out and a bit of whit added

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I attempt to bedazzle with pretentious verbiage whereupon my intended invariably runs a mile on account that I am a pompous arsehole "

Twat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah, I just say 'fancy a fuck' and knickers drop before you could say dislob......discblubulat......discombuble.......oh you know the word.

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East


"When writing a message do you put much thought into it?

Do you think about how it might come across, do you try to impress people with wit or charm or eloquent words?

Do you go back and proof read or do you send without checking?

I guess it also depends on what you receive? "

I overthink it to hell. How the other person perceives you in this case matters more than any other time. As the saying goes you only get one chance to make a first impression. I don't go out to impress in any form. I want the reciever to think I am a genuinely normal nice person. Take me as I am attitude and get across that I am all those things. I proof read as I am going then at the end.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest


"When writing a message do you put much thought into it?

Do you think about how it might come across, do you try to impress people with wit or charm or eloquent words?

Do you go back and proof read or do you send without checking?

I guess it also depends on what you receive? "

I put quite an effort into my messaging, particularly when making first contact. I do check for grammar and sentence structure, but i'll admit to being slightly ocd in that department.

I'd say I receive a reply back a good 75% of the time, though sometimes the response is so short and cryptic i'm left scratching my head

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just my usual random rambling

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By *lue NarwhalMan
over a year ago

Iceland, but Aldi is closer..

I do tend to procrastinate over what to write and eventually give up and just put down any old shit..

It's usually so random that it gets a reply..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just say the first thing that comes into my head, or I like to tell them the first thing I thought when I saw their profile...doesn't always work out though

Peach x

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By *orthatry84Couple
over a year ago

cardiff

I don’t want to see a message that’s been thrown out with no thought and with nothing to reply to, get lots of single word messages or things that don’t really need a reply, are just a statement and I rarely even open them. At the same time, I try to reply to most sensible, thought out messages, even just to say not at this time but good luck, out of politeness!

E x

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Depends if I'm being a meanie or not.

I tend to confuse people somewhat.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I just say the first thing that comes into my head, or I like to tell them the first thing I thought when I saw their profile...doesn't always work out though

Peach x"

This is me. I figure I want them to like me for me so I should write as I think.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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I just do a stream of consciousness now. I do try and rein it in slightly but I realised when I thought too much about things it became stilted and odd sounding, so yeah. I do apologise in advance though but they will have to deal with my atypical behaviour when we meet so fuck it.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"I just do a stream of consciousness now. I do try and rein it in slightly but I realised when I thought too much about things it became stilted and odd sounding, so yeah. I do apologise in advance though but they will have to deal with my atypical behaviour when we meet so fuck it."

Exactly.

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By *ty31Man
over a year ago

NW London

Yes. As a guy on here you've got to really try and stand out (in a good way) and make the effort to impress

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I just do a stream of consciousness now. I do try and rein it in slightly but I realised when I thought too much about things it became stilted and odd sounding, so yeah. I do apologise in advance though but they will have to deal with my atypical behaviour when we meet so fuck it."

this is actually where this topic popped up from. I was telling someone about a conversation I was having with someone who wrote much more eloquently and concise than me and it was making me think about my replies, I felt like it was making me lose myself a bit as I wanted to impress them.

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By *orthatry84Couple
over a year ago

cardiff

However, it’s also worth noting that a stream of further messages after a polite “Thanks but not for us right now” will not help your case!

Always better if there is personality in the messages, want to be able to chat with people we meet too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rarely send the first message these days cos I'm not actively looking to meet new people...but when I do, I reference their profile and throw in a compliment, past that I just let it flow naturally and try not to overtaking it (one of my many bad habits)

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