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By *nerealman100 OP   Man
over a year ago

Cambridge

Who agrees or disagrees that it's hard to make conversation on here for single men, sometimes you get blanked and sometimes you get blocked and that's for trying to make general conversation not been rude, I know there is a minority on here that are just plain rude all the time that spoil it for the rest but to get blocked is going too far don't you think also? Let me know if you agree or disagree and your thoughts thanks

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

Disagree....people block for all sorts of reasons but also I think most people are happy to chat.

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By *ilk_TrayMan
over a year ago

Hampshire

It's not hard.

Just gotta find out what's gonna separate you from the rest.

Is there something on their profile you could talk about with them.

More than one way to peel an orange

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all missed a trick, we shouldn't have replied to the Op

I understand what your saying, but people will talk if you've got something to talk about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're not what they're looking for would you really want to waste time chatting with them?

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Completely disagree with pretty much all you've said OP - I've never had a problem striking up conversations with anyone on here that is open to talking - on the rare occasions I send an unsolicited message that's not forum related I usually get a reply, even if it's a polite no thanks.

What you have to remember though is that some people, especially the ladies, get loads of messages each day and can't possibly reply to them all - so per site FAQs they don't reply as an accepted way of saying no thanks.

Some will block to save the trouble of repeat messages being sent - especially if having viewed your profile they're not interested.

As for the minority spoiling it for the rest - a complete fallacy, they only spoil it for themselves - blaming them just shows a negative attitude that is unlikely to get you very far

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

OP if someone has looked at your profile and decided they don't want to meet you they may block you to prevent you from sending them another message. They are saving themselves and you from wasting your time.

As for people not replying I would suggest you read the site FAQ's as this is covered in there.

Fab can be difficult for single men because there are just so many of you. Persevere and make sure your profile and pictures are the best you can make them. This will maximise the chances of you catching someone's eye.

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By *alpolyCouple
over a year ago

St Neots

If someone sends us a message and it is clear that they have read our profile, we will always reply.

Some people however are just plain crude and that will get them blocked.

Play nicely and just be kind to each other

v

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By *lmostthereMan
over a year ago

Southampton

I can talk nonsense until the cows come home*

*They look so adorable all walking back to the cow shed after a hard day in the field.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can talk nonsense until the cows come home*

*They look so adorable all walking back to the cow shed after a hard day in the field. "

But which ones on holiday?

The one with the wee calf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can talk nonsense until the cows come home*

*They look so adorable all walking back to the cow shed after a hard day in the field.

But which ones on holiday?

The one with the wee calf "

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By *lmostthereMan
over a year ago

Southampton


"I can talk nonsense until the cows come home*

*They look so adorable all walking back to the cow shed after a hard day in the field.

But which ones on holiday?

The one with the wee calf "

I like that! Works best with a Scottish accent though

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton

Very difficult to initiate a conversation.....just does not happen, sadly.

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By *est Wales WifeCouple
over a year ago

Near Carmarthen


"If you're not what they're looking for would you really want to waste time chatting with them? "

^ This.

Our lives are busy enough so no point chatting with people when 'it is never going to happen'.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"I can talk nonsense until the cows come home*

*They look so adorable all walking back to the cow shed after a hard day in the field.

But which ones on holiday?

The one with the wee calf

I like that! Works best with a Scottish accent though "

Or a West Country burr!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP just casually drop into the conversation that you are the son of a celebrity but can't reveal your true identity.

Later let slip that you recently inherited a lot of money and you need some ideas on how to get Miss July out of the mansion...

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Why has the OP responded to every single post on his thread? Think it's a bit rude really!

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I'm not going to chat with someone who is miles away....unless they are super hot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you giving them something to reply to?

Yes or no answers. Short replies etc they all end up being ignored in the end as I'm having to work hard to keep the conversation going.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's hard to make conversation in bars for some men, who are shy and are better at words when they write them down. Like Cyrano de Bergerac, who was not a handsome detective but a butt-ugly poet.

It's hard not to whine about not getting laid at all for some men.

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By *nerealman100 OP   Man
over a year ago

Cambridge


"Why has the OP responded to every single post on his thread? Think it's a bit rude really! "

In what way do you mean?

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Why has the OP responded to every single post on his thread? Think it's a bit rude really!

In what way do you mean?"

Your original post was suggesting that it was rude not to reply to messages - and yet you've not replied to any of the "messages" that people have left by way of forum posts in response to your thread

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By *nerealman100 OP   Man
over a year ago

Cambridge


"Why has the OP responded to every single post on his thread? Think it's a bit rude really!

In what way do you mean?

Your original post was suggesting that it was rude not to reply to messages - and yet you've not replied to any of the "messages" that people have left by way of forum posts in response to your thread "

Oh right, I had to nip out and was longer than expected so not had chance to come back on line

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By *nerealman100 OP   Man
over a year ago

Cambridge


"Completely disagree with pretty much all you've said OP - I've never had a problem striking up conversations with anyone on here that is open to talking - on the rare occasions I send an unsolicited message that's not forum related I usually get a reply, even if it's a polite no thanks.

What you have to remember though is that some people, especially the ladies, get loads of messages each day and can't possibly reply to them all - so per site FAQs they don't reply as an accepted way of saying no thanks.

Some will block to save the trouble of repeat messages being sent - especially if having viewed your profile they're not interested.

As for the minority spoiling it for the rest - a complete fallacy, they only spoil it for themselves - blaming them just shows a negative attitude that is unlikely to get you very far "

I disagree it's not negative at all you have got a lot of lady's on here that say they get sick of messages like "fancy a shag" and when they ignore them or say no they get abuse that's the minority I'm on about who do spoil it on here

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By *nerealman100 OP   Man
over a year ago

Cambridge


"Are you giving them something to reply to?

Yes or no answers. Short replies etc they all end up being ignored in the end as I'm having to work hard to keep the conversation going. "

Yes of course, I ask someone if they was feeling better today after chatting with them yesterday about them not been well and I just got blocked, wasn't what I was expecting would have been quite happy with a yes or no answer

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By *nerealman100 OP   Man
over a year ago

Cambridge


"I'm not going to chat with someone who is miles away....unless they are super hot "

That's a good enough reason I sepose xx

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Completely disagree with pretty much all you've said OP - I've never had a problem striking up conversations with anyone on here that is open to talking - on the rare occasions I send an unsolicited message that's not forum related I usually get a reply, even if it's a polite no thanks.

What you have to remember though is that some people, especially the ladies, get loads of messages each day and can't possibly reply to them all - so per site FAQs they don't reply as an accepted way of saying no thanks.

Some will block to save the trouble of repeat messages being sent - especially if having viewed your profile they're not interested.

As for the minority spoiling it for the rest - a complete fallacy, they only spoil it for themselves - blaming them just shows a negative attitude that is unlikely to get you very far

I disagree it's not negative at all you have got a lot of lady's on here that say they get sick of messages like "fancy a shag" and when they ignore them or say no they get abuse that's the minority I'm on about who do spoil it on here "

As a lady who receives a fair amount of "fancy a shag" messages and abuse I can quite categorically say these people don't spoil fab for me. They don't colour my opinion of other single men on here either.

In actual fact what they do is make the good guys stand out more.

The ones who write a polite, well thought out message that shows they have actually read my profile. Those who have made an effort on their own profile so I have some idea of what they are looking for too. These are the ones I am more likely to want to talk to.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"As for the minority spoiling it for the rest - a complete fallacy, they only spoil it for themselves - blaming them just shows a negative attitude that is unlikely to get you very far

I disagree it's not negative at all you have got a lot of lady's on here that say they get sick of messages like "fancy a shag" and when they ignore them or say no they get abuse that's the minority I'm on about who do spoil it on here "

I know who and what you were on about but how do they spoil anything for anyone other than themselves?

Blaming others for your own lack of success is a negative attitude though - if you're genuine, respectful, positive and true to yourself it will shine through and not be tainted by anyone else not connected to you.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Making conversation is, let's face it op, likely to be a euphemism for you trying to get someone to shag you. If it was just about generally chatting, then we must assume that you are messaging everyone, irrespective of whether you find them attractive.

If a single person has just their own experience to base assertions upon, then it's also potentially not representative of anything other than their approach.

So making conversation or single guy trying to get a meet? Not everyone here fancies chats or meets.

For meets, there are thousands of guys making similar comments. It's better for all if you know quickly if your move isn't going anywhere. Blocking is standard due to abuse some suffer and to prevent recurrences of contract.

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By *nerealman100 OP   Man
over a year ago

Cambridge


"As for the minority spoiling it for the rest - a complete fallacy, they only spoil it for themselves - blaming them just shows a negative attitude that is unlikely to get you very far

I disagree it's not negative at all you have got a lot of lady's on here that say they get sick of messages like "fancy a shag" and when they ignore them or say no they get abuse that's the minority I'm on about who do spoil it on here

I know who and what you were on about but how do they spoil anything for anyone other than themselves?

Blaming others for your own lack of success is a negative attitude though - if you're genuine, respectful, positive and true to yourself it will shine through and not be tainted by anyone else not connected to you. "

It's not about been successful, I would rather chat with some one and get to know them a bit more than just hop into bed and if any ladies wanted to chat I would still chat with them weather I was attracted to them or not, it's not always about putting notches on the bed post it can be about getting to know someone and just been a friend wether you meet or don't in the future.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"As for the minority spoiling it for the rest - a complete fallacy, they only spoil it for themselves - blaming them just shows a negative attitude that is unlikely to get you very far

I disagree it's not negative at all you have got a lot of lady's on here that say they get sick of messages like "fancy a shag" and when they ignore them or say no they get abuse that's the minority I'm on about who do spoil it on here

I know who and what you were on about but how do they spoil anything for anyone other than themselves?

Blaming others for your own lack of success is a negative attitude though - if you're genuine, respectful, positive and true to yourself it will shine through and not be tainted by anyone else not connected to you.

It's not about been successful, I would rather chat with some one and get to know them a bit more than just hop into bed and if any ladies wanted to chat I would still chat with them weather I was attracted to them or not, it's not always about putting notches on the bed post it can be about getting to know someone and just been a friend wether you meet or don't in the future."

I meant success in terms of getting responses - but you've missed the point about thinking that the behaviour of others is spoiling it for you - it's not, they only spoil it for themselves.

If anything it could be argued they're making it easier for someone who is genuine and respectful

Either way blaming others for you not getting responses is, as I said earlier, a negative way of viewing it

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

A conversation works both ways,but sometimes its like pulling teeth or its obviously not going anywhere.

We always reply to a decent message ,which shows they have read our profile .If not,delete or sometimes a sarky message back.

If you are finding messages are all being deleted,maybe look at whet you write or whats in your profile.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rightly or wrongly, I’ve decided to stick to the forums. If nothing else I can get involved and have a good chat with people that I otherwise would never have the pleasure of interacting with. I think you have to take this site as a bonus rather than getting to caught up on meeting numerous women right left and centre!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not going to chat with someone who is miles away....unless they are super hot "

Why? What does it matter if the person you meet travels 10 miles or 1000 miles? Why are your standards lower for people putting in less effort? Surely the guy/girl willing to travel further is more worth your time?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's astounding how many people don't read your profile before messaging you then get offended if you block or do not reply.

I will always reply to courteous messages, even if to politely decline, after all manners cost nothing...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A certain lady in Leeds turned down my approach the other day. She did so in a really courteous manner and replied rather than ignoring my message. She was under no obligation even to reply so it was appreciated even though it was a no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP a couple of weeks back I was poorly and stuck in bed. I had three options. Netflex, Porn or Fab. In the space of 7 days I received over 500 messages from 15 different women and couples most of whom I had never messaged before and most of whom messaged me first. This is on a single male profile of a bald nearly 50 year old.

Probably the reason for all this conversation was that I was poorly and not looking to meet. With sex off the table conversation was easy. My conclusion is that even on Fab starting off a conversation with sex as the subject, it is more likely to fail than succeed.

Just my thoughts on the matter.

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By *nerealman100 OP   Man
over a year ago

Cambridge


"It's astounding how many people don't read your profile before messaging you then get offended if you block or do not reply.

I will always reply to courteous messages, even if to politely decline, after all manners cost nothing...

"

I totally agree with you a polite no thank you is better than a blank or a block any day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it depends on the individual. If a lady has 5 unread messages in her inbox then she can afford to reply to each one. If a lady has 500 unread messages in her inbox and a new one comes in every 30 seconds... does she still need to reply to every one of them with the understanding that some people won't respect being declined and will need to be blocked anyway?

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