FabSwingers.com forum: Am I being unreasonable?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I never meet in my own home on first meet, and always insist on somewhere public. Doesn't have to be somewhere incredibly public, just somewhere neutral where it feels safe.

Last couple of guys I've been chatting to have refused this, said I'm being unreasonable, they only want a fuck buddy and need discretion.

My home is my space, I don't want a meet in their car either so surely somewhere mutually neutral is not that unreasonable?

I am just on the verge of giving up here.

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton

Seems reasonable enough to me......

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

They are being unreasonable not you.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

Not at all unreasonable.

You're putting your safety first, if they think that's unreasonable then they're not the sort of person you need to be meeting with x

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Not unreasonable at all. Those sort of guys make me

and I usually end up blocking them if they become insistent!

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By *riendly older leggy wifeCouple
over a year ago

london

Stick to your guns,

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By *ister-mischiefMan
over a year ago

Trafford

"I never meet in my own home on first meet, and always insist on somewhere public. Doesn't have to be somewhere incredibly public, just somewhere neutral where it feels safe.

Last couple of guys I've been chatting to have refused this, said I'm being unreasonable, they only want a fuck buddy and need discretion.

My home is my space, I don't want a meet in their car either so surely somewhere mutually neutral is not that unreasonable?

I am just on the verge of giving up here. "

Not unreasonable at all, that's your rules there loss..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Compleatly reasonable, yours safety comes first.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Your profile, your rules - they don't like it it's their problem not yours simple as

In short the only people being unreasonable here are them for expecting you to adjust your rules to meet them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very reasonable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd take that as a sign that they weren't really single if they wouldn't meet in a public place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Do what's right for you it's not unreasonable of you to ask that. If someone said that to me I wouldn't meet them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also no you're not being unreasonable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I never meet in my own home on first meet, and always insist on somewhere public. Doesn't have to be somewhere incredibly public, just somewhere neutral where it feels safe.

Last couple of guys I've been chatting to have refused this, said I'm being unreasonable, they only want a fuck buddy and need discretion.

My home is my space, I don't want a meet in their car either so surely somewhere mutually neutral is not that unreasonable?

I am just on the verge of giving up here. "

its how you want to do it and good on you

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By *a Fee VerteWoman
over a year ago

Limbo

Not unreasonable at all - many women would feel exactly the same.

Surely the Isle of Man isn't *that* small you can't find a mutually discreet location?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your life, your rules.

People don't like it, don't meet them ~ never feel pressurised into compromising your meeting style.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You r being more than reasonable! Do what YOU are comfortable with xx

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By *ancduoCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

We never accom. It’s our choice. Our rules. What you do is your choice. Your home. Your space. Your rules. If they can’t accept that they are not gonna respect other things. So their loss. Not your problem

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By *ugs and JunkCouple
over a year ago

Bellshill

You’re not being unreasonable at all. Safety for all involved is paramount

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By *elloIntrigueMan
over a year ago

North West UK

"I never meet in my own home on first meet, and always insist on somewhere public. Doesn't have to be somewhere incredibly public, just somewhere neutral where it feels safe.

Last couple of guys I've been chatting to have refused this, said I'm being unreasonable, they only want a fuck buddy and need discretion.

My home is my space, I don't want a meet in their car either so surely somewhere mutually neutral is not that unreasonable?

I am just on the verge of giving up here. "

Very reasonable in my eyes.

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon

Very reasonable and very sensible. While we would all like to think it’s a great bunch of likeminded people on here, sadly I guess like anywhere you get the odd nutter.

I was on POF last year and attracted a stalker. I can laugh now but at the time, scary enough to involve the police. Be careful everybody and happy swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Golden Word of Swinging = MUTUAL.

If they don't get that, then they get nuuuffing.

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight

"I never meet in my own home on first meet, and always insist on somewhere public. Doesn't have to be somewhere incredibly public, just somewhere neutral where it feels safe.

Last couple of guys I've been chatting to have refused this, said I'm being unreasonable, they only want a fuck buddy and need discretion.

My home is my space, I don't want a meet in their car either so surely somewhere mutually neutral is not that unreasonable?

I am just on the verge of giving up here. "
Don't give up OP, just give up guys who can't see things your way with this....

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By *andom2chatMan
over a year ago

A Galaxy Far, Far Away & Spain

I think you already know the answer OP.

Your Profile. Your criteria. Your Meets. Your life. Your choices.

If they are only looking for a fuck & think you’re being unreasonable tell them the can go fuck

THEMSELVES.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No your not being unreasonable I think too many nutters in this world and includes fab .Got to make sure you are safe .A social in coffee shop or bar is best .Got to trust someone if you are trusting them with your address . Don't want a man that you said sorry not my type turning up at your home after he's had a few pints .

As some men i wouldn't put it passed them .°Trust nobody until proven different .

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By *rCurious1Man
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seemstotally reasonable.and dashed safe to . Ignore the blagards and looking for much more splendid fellows

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By *rCurious1Man
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

"They are being unreasonable not you."

What this guy said. Stick to been safe. Chin up and march on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not at all unreasonable.

You're putting your safety first, if they think that's unreasonable then they're not the sort of person you need to be meeting with x"

Definitely this. The best advice I have ever been given was by my 'swinging virginity taker' ..... if you don't feel comfortable then don't let yourself be bullied into it and I have stuck to that ever since. Stick to your guns OP x

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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago

Traffic land

To be honest I think it’s basic safety! You are not unreasonable at all. I wouldn’t be meeting anyone not prepared to meet initially in public place.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Do you really need to ask?

Meet people with the same mindset as yourself. If they don't want to meet on neutral ground move on and forget them.

You don't need to justify to anyone who you invite into your space.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id avoid any man who wouldn't do a social public

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside

You are being totally reasonable OP. Safety first always if they dont like it that's their problem. Block and forget. Got to ask why they they dont accommodate or want to be seen in public.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unreasonable? Never. Ever.

Every single message in reply saying the same thing and hitting the nail on the head - they're your rules, you stick to them.

Just another part of your selection process; no matter how you chose to select who you chat with and who you meet, anyone not willing to play by your rules should be an immediate 'goodbye'.

This has to be a world of mutually agreed condition. If you don't have the same agenda then don't take the risk of trying to align yourselves. Square peg, round hole n'all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems perfectly reasonable to me nothing wrong with a coffee and chat in Costa or macdonalds.

Not saying my hands might not stray given the right signals though lol

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By *radleywigginsMan
over a year ago

northwest

Typical Manx attitude. (I worked there for a year) and it felt like everyone knows someone that knows someone.

That doesn't mean you don't have the right to a social meet, you should do whatever makes you feel more comfortable. The more comfortable you feel the better what happens next is likely to be anyway..

Is the cafe at the sound still open?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not unreasonable at all - many women would feel exactly the same.

Surely the Isle of Man isn't *that* small you can't find a mutually discreet location? "

Exactly this, just feels like an excuse not to meet.

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By *inaryGuyMan
over a year ago

Near the River

"Not unreasonable at all - many women would feel exactly the same.

Surely the Isle of Man isn't *that* small you can't find a mutually discreet location?

Exactly this, just feels like an excuse not to meet. "

You're not unreasonable at all. Stick to your guns, let them go f#!k themselves (you have control) and move to London! I'll be more than happy to meet in a neutral and discreet location

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep. You should provide an open house service for any bloke who wants to empty his balls. It’s only sex after all - completely unreasonable. Besides they don’t want to be seen just a fuck - perfectly reasonable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perfectly reasonable. I don’t invite guys around to mine either.

If a guy isn’t prepared to meet somewhere public I would either assume (a) he is married attached or (b) is incapable or can’t be bothered with conversation and therefore only wants to get straight down to conversation. Neither would appeal to me.

The whole discretion thing just doesn’t wash with me. You’re just two ordinary people having a coffee or drink. It’s hardly like you’ve got ‘swingers’ tattooed across your forehead, and even if you bump into someone you know, it’s not difficult to come up with some excuse about being a work colleague or old school friend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems perfectly reasonable to me x

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

"Not unreasonable at all - many women would feel exactly the same.

Surely the Isle of Man isn't *that* small you can't find a mutually discreet location?

Exactly this, just feels like an excuse not to meet. "

Assuming the first meet is social then discretion is irrelevant unless talking to people is banned on the IOM!

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

Nothing unreasonable about that at all. .. your house, your rules.

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

"I'd take that as a sign that they weren't really single if they wouldn't meet in a public place. "

Completely this

Married or attached and playing away.

Why not in public otherwise?

Any guy worth his salt would know that a woman is at risk anywhere else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are being totally reasonable. Sounds like these men just want a quickie with no thoughts at all for your wants and needs.

Hold out until you chat to someone who is happy to meet you on your terms.

Good luck.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I always insist on a social meet first, I've had a few guys this year trying to change my mind, guess what? I never met them!

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By *lue NarwhalMan
over a year ago

Iceland, but Aldi is closer..

As every other poster said....

Seems we have found unity on the forum finally..

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By *oubyLoverWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

Your safety rules should be respected

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No your not being unreasonable there’s a lot of weirdos on her and lots of fakes

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By *9biglicks69Woman
over a year ago

liverpool

It is important that you feel safe

It is unacceptable that they will not comply!

You know you are right!

Plenty more fish..etc etc

Your call!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I never meet in my own home on first meet, and always insist on somewhere public. Doesn't have to be somewhere incredibly public, just somewhere neutral where it feels safe.

Last couple of guys I've been chatting to have refused this, said I'm being unreasonable, they only want a fuck buddy and need discretion.

My home is my space, I don't want a meet in their car either so surely somewhere mutually neutral is not that unreasonable?

I am just on the verge of giving up here. "

Not unreasonable at all xx

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

If a Woman tried to make me go against how I met on this site I would end the conversation its as simple as that, Its one thing making suggestions but saying you're being unreasonable for not going along with what they want is not on,

I wouldn't have a first meet at my home with someone I've never met before and I wouldn't expect a Woman to meet me at her home either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I never meet in my own home on first meet, and always insist on somewhere public. Doesn't have to be somewhere incredibly public, just somewhere neutral where it feels safe.

Last couple of guys I've been chatting to have refused this, said I'm being unreasonable, they only want a fuck buddy and need discretion.

My home is my space, I don't want a meet in their car either so surely somewhere mutually neutral is not that unreasonable?

I am just on the verge of giving up here. "

Not unreasonable at all. I’m having the same issue. I just figure they are the guys for me. Don’t lower your standards as you’ll feel bad about it.

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By *eavens stairwayWoman
over a year ago

you never know

"I never meet in my own home on first meet, and always insist on somewhere public. Doesn't have to be somewhere incredibly public, just somewhere neutral where it feels safe.

Last couple of guys I've been chatting to have refused this, said I'm being unreasonable, they only want a fuck buddy and need discretion.

My home is my space, I don't want a meet in their car either so surely somewhere mutually neutral is not that unreasonable?

I am just on the verge of giving up here. "
meet socially first make it clear in your profile,if I feel safe enough with a person I would but if I dont I meet socially if they don't like it I just block them,as I kik my home to myself,so you do as you please,car fun what age are they idiots maybe just do what you feel right...they cheap skates so don't give up just yet xx

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By *arren the doggerMan
over a year ago

willenhall

Just wish I cud get a meet !!

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By *wo4FemCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

"I never meet in my own home on first meet, and always insist on somewhere public. Doesn't have to be somewhere incredibly public, just somewhere neutral where it feels safe.

Last couple of guys I've been chatting to have refused this, said I'm being unreasonable, they only want a fuck buddy and need discretion.

My home is my space, I don't want a meet in their car either so surely somewhere mutually neutral is not that unreasonable?

I am just on the verge of giving up here. "

We always meet socially in a pub for a drink and a chat first regardless of who we meet.

Mr2

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By *oncupiscentTonyMan
over a year ago

Kent

[tag]mumsnet thread[/tag]

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

We do what works best for us and the people we meet .

So no social meets , none of all this meet and see how we get on and then arrange a play meet .

But we appreciate it’s different for a single lady , safety etc.....

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

"...they only want a fuck buddy and need discretion. "

So, they are married and playing away, and want you to be their dirty little secret, and you are right to give them the elbow.

You are right, skip them and keep looking, there are decent guys out there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"[tag]mumsnet thread[/tag] "

What do you mean?

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Nope stick to your guns op

Why cant they meet at theirs?

I got this alot on my single profile,if rhey refused a social i just moved on.

Screams attached or wants a quick shag no effort.

Miss

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By *ild_oatsMan
over a year ago

the land of saints & sinners

The men on fab outnumber the women by at least 100 to 1 if not more.

Out of that the decent men are outnumbered by the mad, bad and dangerous to know ones by a similar ratio.

So you effectively have the upper hand.

So...

Your vagina, your rules...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you all so much for your feedback. I'm going to make it clearer on my profile that a social in a public place is non negotiable, if you don't like it, don't message me.

I hate feeling like I'm being a bitch about it, but I want to feel safe.

Thanks all x

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

Safety first safety second.

Also you have to assume that if they must meet at yours or in their car they probably aren't as single as they claim. Hence no meeting in public places in case they get seen.

Your home, your body, your rules. If they don't like it that's their problem.

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By *lmostthereMan
over a year ago

Southampton

Nope seems very reasonable to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perfectly reasonable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Completely reasonable. I have the same rule, and it's lights off if the guy moans about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm very sorry they have been so unreasonable to you.

I instantly know if the guy I'm talking to is very happy and understanding about my safety rules then I'm in good hands.

Any guy who had even the slightest quibble got turned down and blocked.

I think a lot of the experienced guys on here totally respect how you play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think you've got the right approach and if they can't see that then obviously they're not worth meeting at all.

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Perfectly reasonable, your safety is more important. If they don't want to meet in a neutral location then goodbye

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

"I never meet in my own home on first meet, and always insist on somewhere public. Doesn't have to be somewhere incredibly public, just somewhere neutral where it feels safe.

Last couple of guys I've been chatting to have refused this, said I'm being unreasonable, they only want a fuck buddy and need discretion.

My home is my space, I don't want a meet in their car either so surely somewhere mutually neutral is not that unreasonable?

I am just on the verge of giving up here. "

Erm forget this idiot and block him

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

They are being unreasonable. Any man who does not respect a woman's need to feel safe is a nasty man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Frankly, someone who is not willing to have a social meet prior to anything sexual isn't worth the conversation you're having.

You do what you are comfortable with and if anyone says otherwise don't even acknowledge them.

It's a more than acceptable response.

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"They are being unreasonable. Any man who does not respect a woman's need to feel safe is a nasty man

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By *oxic1998Woman
over a year ago

Belfast

No your not. Any sensible single lady would be exactly the same. Even regulars i dont bring home

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By *inglehotchickWoman
over a year ago

blackpool

I have the exact same sentiments as you OP and if any guy makes you feel you’re being unreasonable then they aren’t worth a second of your time

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By *igBlondeDommeWoman
over a year ago

middle of nowhere

They are the unreasonable ones. Your home is exactly that your home. Block and move on.

Safety always comes first.

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"I have the exact same sentiments as you OP and if any guy makes you feel you’re being unreasonable then they aren’t worth a second of your time"

It's the ones that start getting all shirty, even nasty, when you don't bow to their demands and give them exactly what they want that are the worst. The ones who try to repair their ego by slagging you off with abuse and personal comments before blocking you and running away.

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By *j48Man
over a year ago

Wigan

I'd consider your preference the norm

You're a lady and should be treated as such

There's hundreds of guys on here for you to choose from, don't waste your time and effort on those that don't respect you and your criteria for meeting someone off a website

Those guys need a reality check - block and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just lmao

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they can't be bothered to invest a little time to make you feel safe and comfortable then don't take the risk.

Not unreasonable of you at all.

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham

What's indiscreet about meeting socially for a coffee? I'd imagine it would only be a problem if they were married and couldn't risk being seen having a coffee with a female friend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hotel bar and if there decent lads they will book a room

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the isle of man every body knows each other due to the small population so probably thats why but agree meet somewhere safe for a first visit there are plenty of pubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not unreasonable at all. I NEVER invite a man to my place, Not ever...

Social meet or meets first, in public and otherwise it's No.

I broke my own rule once and he turned out to be a bit of a nut and i left.

Never again. Using an excuse that it's a small place is pathetic too. Safety first always

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

You are being perfectly reasonable , you can meet them in a club, I prefer this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I never meet in my own home on first meet, and always insist on somewhere public. Doesn't have to be somewhere incredibly public, just somewhere neutral where it feels safe.

Last couple of guys I've been chatting to have refused this, said I'm being unreasonable, they only want a fuck buddy and need discretion.

My home is my space, I don't want a meet in their car either so surely somewhere mutually neutral is not that unreasonable?

I am just on the verge of giving up here. "

You’re home is you’re home, if you don’t want to meet there then that’s completely understandable, not like you want stalkers is it...a meet in their car is middle ground but not public in the slightest, and a neutral place like a pub or coffee shop is good for a social, there’s nothing wrong with your train of thought they’re just idiots if they think otherwise

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By *xplorer13Man
over a year ago

glenrothes

Save yourself a £5 if you not happy

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

Sounds fine to me.

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By *unkydesignCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

Entirely reasonable. Why would you invite a total stranger into your house without having met?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perfectly reasonable, we only meet in clubs. Our home is just that not a sex palace.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What's indiscreet about meeting socially for a coffee? I'd imagine it would only be a problem if they were married and couldn't risk being seen having a coffee with a female friend."

Exactly! I meet males friends who are married etc often and they never feel that it's an issue. You're all right, they're probably not single. Hooray for delete and block eh!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not unreasonable in the slightest!

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By *eviantdeliteWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"They are being unreasonable not you."

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By *itmanAndHerrCouple
over a year ago

st helens

Anyone asking you to do anything that is out of your comfort zone should be treated with caution. If they're pushing to come to your home then they should be given a wide berth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Completely reasonable.

Everyone's situation and preference is different, and quite frankly if they want discression and need someone to host they'll have to wait.

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

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"Save yourself a £5 if you not happy"

And here we have the type of attitude that gives (alleged) single males a bad name.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do what makes you happy and safe no man has the right to say otherwise . It's their loss not yours

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