FabSwingers.com forum: Lower your standards

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Boys, did you have to lower your standards in order to meet people on here?

Asking for a friend

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By *lmostthereMan
over a year ago

Southampton

No. Whether those that meet me are lowering theirs is another question...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Define "lowering your standards"........

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By *ilent.KnightMan
over a year ago

Swindon

"Define "lowering your standards"........"
define standards. I’ve not come across this word...

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Desperation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't lower your standards if you never had any in the first place

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Desperation

So generous coming from a female on fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. Whether those that meet me are lowering theirs is another question..."

Sweet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Desperation

I smell it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope we don’t and wouldn’t

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By *rsTrellisWoman
over a year ago

Cambridge

"Boys, did you have to lower your standards in order to meet people on here?

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The lowering-your-standards question is dripping with arrogance and self-deception.

You’ve mentally ranked the women and decided what “level” you’re worthy of?

When you get no responses you “drop your standards” to deign to consider the lesser women but, all the while, reassure yourself that you’re out of their league and doing them a favour?

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By *ack_at_the_farm....Man
over a year ago

woodhall spa

I don’t get what the rush for meeting is all about. Just enjoy the experience, mingle and in good time it will happen with fun compatible people. Waiting is half the fun imo

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Boys, did you have to lower your standards in order to meet people on here?

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The lowering-your-standards question is dripping with arrogance and self-deception.

You’ve mentally ranked the women and decided what “level” you’re worthy of?

When you get no responses you “drop your standards” to deign to consider the lesser women but, all the while, reassure yourself that you’re out of their league and doing them a favour?

It’s a no then

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside

"Desperation

So generous coming from a female on fab

So the females on here are desparate is sub standard. Is that what you are implying OP?

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

"Boys, did you have to lower your standards in order to meet people on here?

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The regular squeeze might have done when he chose to message me but luckily I turned out to be fantastic so it was a punt worth taking. So tell your 'friend' nothing ventured, nothing gained.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Desperation

So generous coming from a female on fab

Well it is isn't it? Desperate to get your dick wet you lower your standards! What else is it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Desperation

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By *osmicplusMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Everyone's different...some will some won't...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Standards or preferences???

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Not a chance, compromise isn’t a word I use, especially around values.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

I get so many messages here that I’ve had to narrow my acceptance criteria significantly.

If you’re not getting that many offers you’re doing it wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can't lower your standards if you never had any in the first place

Great answer

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By *ustalittleKinkWoman
over a year ago

in the shadows

Happy to lower my knickers but standards? No

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By *ineMan
over a year ago

In cave behind a waterfall on a hill

Wanders in reads thread...

Where do I start.

Perhaps it's a good job your friend didn't come and ask the question himself!...

Still perhaps with friends like that....

Wanders back to man cave shaking head in bemusement...

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By *osmicplusMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Happy to lower my knickers but standards? No "

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get so many messages here that I’ve had to narrow my acceptance criteria significantly.

If you’re not getting that many offers you’re doing it wrong

Wow ... so men on here tell fibs ... they usually say they don't get many (or any!) messages.

I'll not be writing to Adam anymore

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

If you lower your standards you’re not being true to yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one on here will every lower your standards because most of them think they are better than anyone else on here which is why its so hard on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you lower your standards you’re not being true to yourself.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you lower your standards you’re not being true to yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Boys, did you have to lower your standards in order to meet people on here?

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The lowering-your-standards question is dripping with arrogance and self-deception.

You’ve mentally ranked the women and decided what “level” you’re worthy of?

When you get no responses you “drop your standards” to deign to consider the lesser women but, all the while, reassure yourself that you’re out of their league and doing them a favour?

This thread could make an excellent filter for exactly the reasons outlined above.

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

My standards for who I will meet on fab are different to the standards I use on dating sites where I am looking for a long-term relationship.

Because I don't care if my fab friend is or isn't a vegan who watches soaps, what he, she or they do at weekends etc.

My interest is for the time we will spend together, which is probably an evening, as opposed to a life time (hopefully)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Perhaps it's a good job your friend didn't come and ask the question himself!...

Still perhaps with friends like that..."

Even funnier!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My standards for who I will meet on fab are different to the standards I use on dating sites where I am looking for a long-term relationship.

Because I don't care if my fab friend is or isn't a vegan who watches soaps, what he, she or they do at weekends etc.

My interest is for the time we will spend together, which is probably an evening, as opposed to a life time (hopefully) "

That’s what I meant before everyone who jumped on the desperation band wagon.

Thank you bud. Top man but will you get a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My standards for who I will meet on fab are different to the standards I use on dating sites where I am looking for a long-term relationship.

Because I don't care if my fab friend is or isn't a vegan who watches soaps, what he, she or they do at weekends etc.

My interest is for the time we will spend together, which is probably an evening, as opposed to a life time (hopefully) "

thats more prefrences thou

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My standards for who I will meet on fab are different to the standards I use on dating sites where I am looking for a long-term relationship.

Because I don't care if my fab friend is or isn't a vegan who watches soaps, what he, she or they do at weekends etc.

My interest is for the time we will spend together, which is probably an evening, as opposed to a life time (hopefully)

thats more prefrences thou"

Grammar police

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My standards for who I will meet on fab are different to the standards I use on dating sites where I am looking for a long-term relationship.

Because I don't care if my fab friend is or isn't a vegan who watches soaps, what he, she or they do at weekends etc.

My interest is for the time we will spend together, which is probably an evening, as opposed to a life time (hopefully)

thats more prefrences thou

Grammar police

no not at all

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

"My standards for who I will meet on fab are different to the standards I use on dating sites where I am looking for a long-term relationship.

Because I don't care if my fab friend is or isn't a vegan who watches soaps, what he, she or they do at weekends etc.

My interest is for the time we will spend together, which is probably an evening, as opposed to a life time (hopefully)

That’s what I meant before everyone who jumped on the desperation band wagon.

Thank you bud. Top man but will you get a meet

I'm fairly happy with the number of meets I've had in my time here.

As for the difference between standards and preferences, I'd say my standards are fairly low.

Safe sex, honesty and being a decent person. When I'm hoping to spend a long time with a person, I can be more picky.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"My standards for who I will meet on fab are different to the standards I use on dating sites where I am looking for a long-term relationship.

Because I don't care if my fab friend is or isn't a vegan who watches soaps, what he, she or they do at weekends etc.

My interest is for the time we will spend together, which is probably an evening, as opposed to a life time (hopefully)

That’s what I meant before everyone who jumped on the desperation band wagon.

Thank you bud. Top man but will you get a meet

Should have explained yourself better then.

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

Nah I don't. That's why I don't meet a lot.

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By *oubyLoverWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

Why would you? I can’t say it would be satisfying or enjoyable in the slightest and likely leave me with regret.

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London&Dublin

"No. Whether those that meet me are lowering theirs is another question..."

Exactly this.

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By *lmostthereMan
over a year ago

Southampton

"No. Whether those that meet me are lowering theirs is another question...

Sweet!"

And the punching above my weight issue?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Forget Fab. Lots of guys lower their preferences when it's getting to the end of the night in a night club!

Maybe they're not as attractive to the women they aspire to as they think or there's not many women.

These things usually come down to numbers and competition.

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

Anyone who says that if they lined up Ten potential meets they wouldn't work down in order of attractivness until they got a result is kidding themselves. The other factors like personality and compatibility will alter placings obviously. But essentially you're subconciously ranking everyone you potentially wish to meet.

When you join a site like this the first thing you have got to do is find your feet. Part of that process may very well include learning that you have less chance of meeting the ladies that should really be risiding in the playboy mansion than you thought. Or one of many other characteristics.

I don't see this as lowering your standards at all. I see it more about learning about yourself and discovering who you find attractive to the point of wanting to have sex with them.

You can call bullshit on me. But I will tell you now if I go with someone who I don't find attractive I am not going to enjoy the experience and neither are they.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't believe in lowering standards just to get a meet, I'd prefer to be patient and meet people that are on my wavelength and have chemistry with.

Now I don't have many meets and I'd prefer it that way, it's about quality and not quantity

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Yeah, I've definitely lowered mine coming on here, even shagged a couple of arrogant pricks I wouldn't have given the time of day down the pub...........!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. I have been told to lower my standards a few times on here but I like to keep true to me, it keeps you feeling good about your self, I'd rather not meet anyone than settle for less, still not met anyone yet though lol but iam fine with it, just know when I do get a meet it will be unreal!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope ! Won’t lower mine even if frustration kicks in ! Hang on in there and talk with manners ,respect & fun and it will happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haven't and won't, would rather not meet anybody than meet under a lie, not fair on the lady.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No. I have been told to lower my standards a few times on here but I like to keep true to me, it keeps you feeling good about your self, I'd rather not meet anyone than settle for less, still not met anyone yet though lol but iam fine with it, just know when I do get a meet it will be unreal!

We will in hope

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We live in hope

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex

"Boys, did you have to lower your standards in order to meet people on here?

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Oh dear ... pity any poor lady that ‘your friend’ might or has met being made to feel that she was a lower standard grading

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By *ampWithABrainWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Boys, did you have to lower your standards in order to meet people on here?

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The lowering-your-standards question is dripping with arrogance and self-deception.

You’ve mentally ranked the women and decided what “level” you’re worthy of?

When you get no responses you “drop your standards” to deign to consider the lesser women but, all the while, reassure yourself that you’re out of their league and doing them a favour?

This!

You won't be for everyone, don't assume you are. however amazing you think you are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We live in hope

always hopeful man, they day will come eventually!

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

NEVER. I would rather do without than lower my standards. Imagine how shit you would feel about yourself if you lowered your standards to meet someone...fuck that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anyone who says that if they lined up Ten potential meets they wouldn't work down in order of attractivness until they got a result is kidding themselves. The other factors like personality and compatibility will alter placings obviously. But essentially you're subconciously ranking everyone you potentially wish to meet.

I don't see this as lowering your standards at all. I see it more about learning about yourself and discovering who you find attractive to the point of wanting to have sex with them.

You can call bullshit on me. But I will tell you now if I go with someone who I don't find attractive I am not going to enjoy the experience and neither are they."

Completely, totally and utterly agree with this xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm looking for something meaningful so my standards are high. Whether the guys are dropping thiers to meet me I don't know. They all cum in the end anyway.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I think if you lower your standards you must be getting a bit desperate for a shag tbh. I'd be gutted if I found out someone had lowered theirs to meet me.

I rather get the Doxy out than lower mine!!

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By *unkydesignCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

I assume you really mean preferences? We all have different preferences whether it be a certain body type, age range etc etc. We personally wouldn’t choose to play with somebody outside our preferences as we wish to play with people that we find attractive.

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