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Is a wink a cop out?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’m a fan of winking but is it a bit of a cop out?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sign of interest

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By *ammyharrogateWoman
over a year ago

Harrogate

I don’t look at winks I think I have about 600 so maybe they just get ignored ? It does seem to be a sign of interest though

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I kinda thought that women get like 100 a day! - I’ll msg but a wink is like saying hi in a bar walking past and gauging a reaction - like eye contact before a chat?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you're confusing it with a wank

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to receive a wink

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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I don’t think it’s a cop out but the sender should be aware that a lot of people never look at winks, so if they are doing it to show interest it could be missed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Winks are ok, I never remember to look at them. They are pretty low priority if your dealing with messages though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A wink is OK. But if the winker has an empty photoless one-line profile, they really shouldn't expect a wink back.

I rarely look at who has winked me in all honesty as I am entertained enough getting through my messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sign of interest "

So is repeat looking...

Both kinda just cop out as it doesn't take any imagination... Much like a right swipe 'yeah might be interesting but cant be bothered to make the effort and message something that sets me apart from all the other winks'. One step below... a message that says 'Hi'...

I don't look if I've any winks...which I just did and seen a few.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people see it as an ice breaker, to show you’re interested, other see it as being lazy, most people don’t even look at them though, it’s one of the many tools of Fab that can either be embraced or just glossed over.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

If you're really interested in someone I would say to message them,I don't even think to look at my winks.

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester

We get winks, if we wink back would ecpect them to start convo but rarely this happens - its like they wink and run. Dont wink back to single males but if they message and polite will chat but make it clear no meeting as our profile says.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

I use winks in one of two ways;

One is the “Bloody Hell I would if I could but we’re miles apart so it’s never going to happen unfortunately”

Two is the “This is a knowing wink to a forum friend and I just read your cheeky comment in a thread”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Winks are ok but not in isolation.

I often get winks where the profile is either hidden or there's no pics or maybe just one rubbish pic and no or very little text on the profile. What am I meant to do with that?, I have no idea about the person at all. If that's how you want to run your profile that's fine but if you want a wink back you need to give me something to go on.

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

I wink people (mainly couples) that I really fancy but I'm unsure if im what they looking for. So rather than spending time and effort writing a really good message that may just get deleted; so, I send a wink, it's my is way of testing the water. It rarely works but when it does...

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Winks are a sign of interest. If we get one and are interested we will respond with a message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't know, I don't get any

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

To some yes,we don't mind a wink ,if they match what we are after and have been known to wink back.

Miss

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By *londieddWoman
over a year ago

fife

never look at them, just delete when I'm tidying up!

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By *ungmagic10Man
over a year ago

Northampton

I like it. My statistics are probably 2 replies to every 10 msgs I send so a wink just saves a lot of time instead of writing to all of em to get most the msgs deleted. Obviously as I can see some people get a lot of winks so don't even bother with them but hey.. I'm doing alright so I'll stick to what I do lol can you imagine sending a msg to everyone you like though ? Looooong ting

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By *ungmagic10Man
over a year ago

Northampton

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to have a wink now and again

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

Thing is for every person that looks at winks they'll be one that doesn't. So you don't know what the outcome of sending a wink is. This was confirmed to us when we sent a wink with no response only to get an opening message from them months later, they didn't look at winks, too many, but didn't delete them either.

No different to fabbing pics, some do it because they like the pic, others do it to hopefully get your attention.

The only real way to be sure is a message, so pull your big boy/girl socks up & blooming send one!

S

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch


"I’m a fan of winking but is it a bit of a cop out? "

I'll wink people if they haven't put much effort into their profile.

Eg "I'm a woman looking for men between 18 & 99"

To see if they look at my profile and want to take it further.

If they actually write a profile, saying what they hope to find, I'll email (if I fit their likes and dislikes, or nearly. If she likes beards, it may be just a preference or might be a prerequisite, so I might ask)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only if you don’t back it up with a message at some point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t think it’s a cop out but the sender should be aware that a lot of people never look at winks, so if they are doing it to show interest it could be missed. "
I tend to just mass delete them

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By *_Yeah19Couple
over a year ago

Lincoln

It is a bit useless for single guys (was for 10 years) as fems and couples get enough messages to not need them. But between cpls it’s proven to be very eventful for us

SSS

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm finding winks a bit irritating lately

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

No. I think it's a wise preservation of your energy to wink, so that you'd reserve investment of messaging for those who have a more likely reciprocal interest.

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By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

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By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea


"Sign of interest "

I allways thort it wos this ^^^^

Onley problem is my wink in box keeps filling up with guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i often go on a winkathon - never offended if its ignored - i delete plenty but i do mostly look at profile of those who wink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Blocked

Apparently I can't even wink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind receiving winks at all but I don't send them generally. I have done by accident as it's next to the message button, so my first message is apologising for the unintentional wink!

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


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The only real way to be sure is a message, so pull your big boy/girl socks up & blooming send one!

S"

You can go a month in here, sending well-crafted, polite, respectful messages, to profiles you genuinely match, to receive ‘message read’ but no reply, or ‘message deleted’. It should be easy to appreciate how people fall back on winks as an easier ‘opener’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m a fan of winking but is it a bit of a cop out? "

We like to wink to express an interest. We've found that most couples and single ladies expect to be messaged and pursued like mad though.

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By *K430Man
over a year ago

Tipperary

Just see winks as mild expressions of interest , no more , so in no way legally binding ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No impact. Don’t check them. Think if you really want my attention you’ll message.

So maybe it’s like a...‘think you look nice but not that interested’

Or a..,‘I’m interested but...’

I know I don’t fit what you’re looking for.... I live a million miles away.

Or a...,I’m just too lazy (also file under not that interested)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got talking to a lady after i winked at her. . It can work to get someone's attention,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't look at my winks

I discover they've winked at me when I look at there profile as it says when they winked and if you have had a conversation also

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never look at winks i even forget that option is available

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely nothing wrong with a wink I think. To me it’s a virtual smile at someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just see winks as mild expressions of interest , no more , so in no way legally binding ?? "

They can make me look at a profile ... depends what sort of mood I'm in

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By *estmidscoupleCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

Not of interest, way prefer a well crafted message as a first contact

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