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By *iew OP   Man
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

when you read about a situation that has happened from a person impacted, do you consider any other person that may have been involved... or do you make your mind up.

I have found that most times, there are usually 3 sides to any story... the authors, the other persons and the truth sits somewhere between both versions.

Do you consider or just dive right in...

Or steer clear.

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By *iew OP   Man
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I like to think I consider both...

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford

Isosceles triangle here.

And often the first tale is the short side.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I'm pretty fair minded. Truth and fair hearings are important to me.

I listen and think. I never jump in or back people without knowing the other side.

I learn quickly who to steer clear of.

The unreasonable types who will say anything - like a child - simply to have a last word.

Guess it depends on the calibre of the person i'm listening to really View x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find that as I grow older, with more work and life experience, I am less quick to judge, and am prepared to _iew a situation from as many perspectives as possible before forming an opinion.

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By *iew OP   Man
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

totally agree Granny and Pearl xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Almost always never jump to a knee jerk reaction....there is like you say...three versions of the truth...

When I was younger..I`d rush into judgement on what I was hearing..only to look foolish sometime after..I`m a little wiser these days ..mabye...

Its the things that aren`t said, that can be the more revealing...

Sometimes I just avoid..its best fer my peace of mind..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great question (especially in light of some of the threads one reads on here).

I think Granny has nailed it for me, Pearls comment around life experience also rings true.

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By *kexplorersCouple
over a year ago

Bedfordshire

When we were both younger we said we use to jump in without hearing the fully story.

As we have got older we tend to listen more and also ask a lot more questions. This tends to help us a lot as we have two kids at home who constantly argue and fight... but asking more questions the truth tends to come out.

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By *oantrimcpl2010Couple
over a year ago

Lisburn

I agree there is 3 sides to every story. In most cases i tend to stay outta of these, as i dont know the people invovled personally,(if talking about on the forums).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm naturally argumentative, erm a natural debater, so I always try to see the other side.

depending on situation I may well try to give another opinion, those whoo know me realise I'm simply trying to help.

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

I think its very easy to just jump in without really thinking about different sides to a situation,Rob is more of an instant reaction type of person whereas I think a bit before I make my mind up about anything

Nothing is as ever clear cut as it may seem at first glance

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

I am quite good at perceptual positioning…. but then I like a variety of positions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

this is essentially the heart of the timewaster debate...

'did he really break down on the way to meet me... ' ? i bet he never even left home.... etc

peoples attitudes to a story tend to become tainted over time by their own experience. (hence the popularity these days of CBT - trying to re-train the brain to default to looking for another plausible explanation)

it takes a strong character to take each situation on its individual merit every time and not rush to judgement... so whilst i endeavour to look for the second and third side, i know sometimes in truth i dont.

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By *iew OP   Man
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

and here we go again......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Trust you to dig it out!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Think we only have to look around us to get the answer to your question

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By *iew OP   Man
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

a daily occurrence sadly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Trust you to dig it out! "

*nods*

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By *iew OP   Man
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

if they can play old movies....

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