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Do you ladies prefer dominant or submissive men in bed?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'd put myself halfway between the two, just wondering which women prefer and why....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Obviously I'm no lady so understand if you ignore but I think it's safe to say most woman prefer the man to be dominant, I'm versatile like you bud I'll do either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like someone in balance with me. I'd get bored with dominance or submission all the time.

My long term partner is a bit of both, but never to the extremes.

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer a man that is equal...why are they the only choice?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like both. Well, I like a submissive man, it brings out my bitchy side.

I wouldn't say I like dominant men as such, im in no way submissive. I do like a confident and assertive man though.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"I'd put myself halfway between the two, just wondering which women prefer and why...."

You may be surprised to know that all women want different things. They even change their minds occasionally.

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

Just so long as you can tell the difference between confident and control freak, and sexually submissive and a meek person.

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton


"I'd put myself halfway between the two, just wondering which women prefer and why....

You may be surprised to know that all women want different things. They even change their minds occasionally. "

No....?!!! Now I know you are kidding !!!

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead

I like it all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like a bit of both. But love it when he just helps himself mmm. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like both. Well, I like a submissive man, it brings out my bitchy side.

I wouldn't say I like dominant men as such, im in no way submissive. I do like a confident and assertive man though. "

One here

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By *oubyLoverWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

Equal or at least assertive if a ‘nornal’ Meet or dominant if D/s meet. Submissive men do nothing for me sexually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dominant I think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More often than not, dominant...though I'll always favour a man who switches these days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A mix of dominant and confident. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Neither. Equality all the way for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

99% Dominant. But very very occasionally I do enjoy giving a slightly more submissive man a whole new experience

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

Depends on my mood.

Dominant, confident, assertive my main preference.

I would never be happy with a submissive partner, I'd probably break them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends on my mood.

Dominant, confident, assertive my main preference.

I would never be happy with a submissive partner, I'd probably break them. "

I'm unbreakable

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows


"Depends on my mood.

Dominant, confident, assertive my main preference.

I would never be happy with a submissive partner, I'd probably break them.

I'm unbreakable

"

No one is unbreakable you've just not met your match yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I prefer a man that is equal...why are they the only choice? "

And the fecker left dominant TV's out

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By *radleywigginsMan
over a year ago

northwest

I think in general people prefer stereotypes. I.e, if one person is going to take a more 'dominant' role than it's usually the man.

I don't think many women genuinely find submissive men to be more attractive (even considering that Fab, is not completely representative of the population as a whole).

Of course 'dominant' is a state in which a scenario can be created where another party can allow themselves to be turned on by the freedom from relinquishing control. This is by no means applicable to any abusive wannabes and should not provide an excuse for anyone wanting to take advantage of someone..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer equal....don't like doms or subs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My understanding is that submissive:

does not mean meek, (as you can get brats);

- can be a person dominant in other walks of life but obedient to his domme.

On another website on a site that can't be mentioned in regard to a similar discussion a domme put it something like this: I want my submissive to be lions that have been tamed by me they have to be special why else have them.

Think Boudicca and her warriors, or for the more old school Modesty Blaise and Willie Garvin. Because domination is not all about sex and sensuality but mainly (not in all cases) mutual respect.

Personally I think submission is a stronger characteristic than domination, in both men and women.

I would not have someone do to me what I do to some subs/bottoms. Not happenning.

Without the resilience and the giving that comes with submission, domination is nothing (unless you are and out and out sadistic f#ck and they are out there).

I accept some dommes like their submissives meek and mild. My point is that like dom's, male submissive are in different flavours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends on my mood.

Dominant, confident, assertive my main preference.

I would never be happy with a submissive partner, I'd probably break them.

I'm unbreakable

No one is unbreakable you've just not met your match yet "

I might just bend a bit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like dominant men. I hate it when men are delicate with me. And I detest men that are subs. But then i go for the whole tall, muscly arms tattoo type guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can be both any offer's. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dominant.

I hate having to decide everything or be asked what position etc. Might be laziness but I like a man to take charge.

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By *radleywigginsMan
over a year ago

northwest


"I like dominant men. I hate it when men are delicate with me. And I detest men that are subs. But then i go for the whole tall, muscly arms tattoo type guys. "

That may be a fantasy, a type, a cliche, or a whatever you want to call it. But it has nothing to do with whether someone is the right person to relinquish control to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I had to choose then dominant. I like someone who can give as good as they get...

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By *radleywigginsMan
over a year ago

northwest


"Dominant.

I hate having to decide everything or be asked what position etc. Might be laziness but I like a man to take charge. "

That is just laziness I'm afraid. What if the man asked you to do 20 sit-ups?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like dominant men. I hate it when men are delicate with me. And I detest men that are subs. But then i go for the whole tall, muscly arms tattoo type guys.

That may be a fantasy, a type, a cliche, or a whatever you want to call it. But it has nothing to do with whether someone is the right person to relinquish control to. "

Isn’t that for me to decide

Yes it’s a type and that type of men are generally more dominant in my experience.

However I have been in the fetish community for many years and I know the type of sub I classify myself as and if I was looking for a D/s relationship I would look much further than the “type” of man I go for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dominate hubby and submissive anyone else

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows


"Dominant.

I hate having to decide everything or be asked what position etc. Might be laziness but I like a man to take charge.

That is just laziness I'm afraid. What if the man asked you to do 20 sit-ups?"

I'd do 40

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dominant for me, but a naturally dominant bloke, with that self assured quality rather than play acting.

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By *a Fee VerteWoman
over a year ago

Limbo

My profile says I like 'considerately assertive' people (not just men!) I like it when they are confident enough to take control, but as I'm not naturally, or often, submissive as such, I'm just as likely to wrest that control back before too long! I quite like the 'power struggle' thing at times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both, I like when my husband does as he’s told but I love when he throws me about the room and I do as I’m told.

Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Both, I like when my husband does as he’s told but I love when he throws me about the room and I do as I’m told.

Mrs x"

Yep....in a funny kind of way, knowing that you've pushed him to the edge and he's overcome with desire, chucking you about the bedroom, means you're actually in control

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth

There can only be one captain to the people saying equal either you or the other person.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Somewhat dominant but never demeaning.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Neither tbh

Miss

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