FabSwingers.com forum: People's reason's for being overweight...

By *gnitemybody OP Woman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

I was speaking to someone who says there's no excuse,I don't agree with him whatsoever,as there can be many reasons.

Although I personally prefer someone to be relatively fit,it seems to me though that a few men are not tolerant of a person's size. I say this from experience as the last few guy's I dated were pretty vocal in their thought's.

I realise I have to look at my choice of men. I just hate it when people judge others without knowing them.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

people's reasons are their own and they have no obligation to air them to others.

Others simply need to be more accepting of people whether they find them attractive or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally my preference is for curvy women, not necessarily massively overweight but shapely. That being said, it's all about personal preference and I would never have a go at anyone for their own personal shape/size.

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By *gnitemybody OP Woman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Others simply need to be more accepting of people whether they find them attractive or not."

Wholeheartedly agree!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"people's reasons are their own and they have no obligation to air them to others.

Others simply need to be more accepting of people whether they find them attractive or not."

thanks for saying what i was gonna

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains

I think most of the time there is no excuse! I'm fat because I'm lazy and I eat too much! Although I don't know if I'm lazy BECAUSE I'm fat but anywho it's a difficult circle to break.

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By *ullswapcouple30Couple
over a year ago

Valleys

I eat too much and don't exercise enough. I'm fuller figured and if that's not to someone's taste that's fine and dandy. There's plenty of people who do find it attractive. I agree, no need for judgement. Don't like don't look !

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I was speaking to someone who says there's no excuse,I don't agree with him whatsoever,as there can be many reasons.

I realise I have to look at my choice of men. I just hate it when people judge others without knowing them."

Judging people without knowing them goes on all the time, in fact I'd go so far as to say we all do it.

Some people ask to be judged albeit favourably, by playing into the very trait they don't want to be negatively judged on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens, it's not something that people set out to achieve. But no one needs to know my reasons why, they're my own demons I'm fighting.

People have a choice of accepting me as I am or not. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was speaking to someone who says there's no excuse,I don't agree with him whatsoever,as there can be many reasons.

I realise I have to look at my choice of men. I just hate it when people judge others without knowing them."

There are hormonal causes. These three can cause weight loss or weight gain - diabetes, thyroid dysfunction and polycystic ovaries.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I eat when I'm stressed. I also lose all motivation to exercise. I've had a tremendously stressful couple of months and now I need to shift at least a stone. Time to get back on the bike...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone judges. Doesn't bother me. I'm fat because I eat too much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I eat when I'm stressed. I also lose all motivation to exercise. I've had a tremendously stressful couple of months and now I need to shift at least a stone. Time to get back on the bike...

Just make sure not to open that trap door...

Sorry, your username took me back to my childhood

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I'm overweight because of a high-pressure job that gives me very little time to eat relatively healthily - living out of a suitcase often means living in a restaurant/takeaway.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

My reason

I like my food

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was speaking to someone who says there's no excuse,I don't agree with him whatsoever,as there can be many reasons.

I realise I have to look at my choice of men. I just hate it when people judge others without knowing them.

There are hormonal causes. These three can cause weight loss or weight gain - diabetes, thyroid dysfunction and polycystic ovaries."

There are psychological reasons too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was speaking to someone who says there's no excuse,I don't agree with him whatsoever,as there can be many reasons.

I realise I have to look at my choice of men. I just hate it when people judge others without knowing them."

It's the food

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

I skip meals and I comfort eat with crap. Its therefore not rocket science that I'm fat. I hate myself enough without others doing it too

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By *gnitemybody OP Woman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

One of my ex's when my kids were younger would openly criticise someone in the street infront of my kid's. When his child who was the same age as my youngest came out with a mocking remark about a women I knew it was time to get out.

I didn't want mine thinking that was an acceptable thing to do and that they're any better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like eating chocolate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was speaking to someone who says there's no excuse,I don't agree with him whatsoever,as there can be many reasons. "

Working 6+ days a week in a sedentary job

Combined with a fondness for chips and a beer was my downfall.

Now with 40 looming I’m working hard to get back down to a healthier weight - not too bad in summer as can get out

In bike, but i detest the gym which my only option in winter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I skip meals and I comfort eat with crap. Its therefore not rocket science that I'm fat. I hate myself enough without others doing it too "

You shouldn't hate yourself. You are a stunning lady with a stunning body. If others have an issue then it says more about them than you.

I couldn't give a crap about how people see me.... I think we should concentrate on loving ourselves and building our own confidence rather than analyse why others react so negatively towards the fuller lady.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was speaking to someone who says there's no excuse,I don't agree with him whatsoever,as there can be many reasons.

I realise I have to look at my choice of men. I just hate it when people judge others without knowing them."

Problem with places like this, and also generally how people perceive people, looks first, everything else after. We have become a more judgemental society. Perfection is everything, social media is a poison.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just fucking love food, that's my excuse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each to their own, but from personal experience I decided to let a shall we say very shapely woman go on top years ago. And it put me off of the "larger" lady for life. Claustrophobia kicked in and not only that, I couldn't breathe. So I'm now partial to the petite or curvy woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine is I have no will power to say no, also can't get off my arse to get out on the bike to exercise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As for reasons of being overweight, I like a few too many beers.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Each to their own, but from personal experience I decided to let a shall we say very shapely woman go on top years ago. And it put me off of the "larger" lady for life. Claustrophobia kicked in and not only that, I couldn't breathe. So I'm now partial to the petite or curvy woman

You just need a woman more skilled in the art

Although to be honest I am not a fan of face sitting as I'd worry I'd suffocate the guy

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By *oubyLoverWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

Physical, hormonal, emotional, psychological, age, lots of reasons. If someone doesn’t like it or has an attitude as heard by the OP it’s a great filter. We all do the best we can with what we have

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You just need a woman more skilled in the art

Although to be honest I am not a fan of face sitting as I'd worry I'd suffocate the guy

I love face sitting, but that's not what she was doing. She just went on top. Cowgirl and cuddles me as she did. It was like being mounted by a hairless bear.

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By *oubyLoverWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

You just need a woman more skilled in the art

Although to be honest I am not a fan of face sitting as I'd worry I'd suffocate the guy

Several women have been horrified when I’ve asked this (seems to be my go to chat up line

) and most of the responses are about being too heavy etc. There’s nothing more sexy than giving the woman the confidence she’s lovely as she is while give her pleasure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s no one else’s business why someone is overweight

Got the rage now

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

You just need a woman more skilled in the art

Although to be honest I am not a fan of face sitting as I'd worry I'd suffocate the guy

Several women have been horrified when I’ve asked this (seems to be my go to chat up line

) and most of the responses are about being too heavy etc. There’s nothing more sexy than giving the woman the confidence she’s lovely as she is while give her pleasure

Oooh now you make it sound a bit more fun!

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

There are lots of reasons a person can be overweight, not just down to overeating or being lazy.

Injuries, medications, hormones, stress can all cause weight gain.

I gained nearly 13st due to serious medical issues, spent a decade being called fatty, and have people making snide comments, before I was physically able to make the changes to lose the weight.

Never judge a person just by appearance, you don't know their story, what they've been through, what battles they maybe fighting on a daily basis.

Some of us win those battles, some don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One of my ex's when my kids were younger would openly criticise someone in the street infront of my kid's. When his child who was the same age as my youngest came out with a mocking remark about a women I knew it was time to get out.

I didn't want mine thinking that was an acceptable thing to do and that they're any better."

I see that as a general disregard for human beings. Not an issue with fat people. I don't like thought police, people can think whatever they like. Foot in mouth happens sometimes. Outright saying stuff to their face is just fucking rude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You just need a woman more skilled in the art

Although to be honest I am not a fan of face sitting as I'd worry I'd suffocate the guy

I love face sitting, but that's not what she was doing. She just went on top. Cowgirl and cuddles me as she did. It was like being mounted by a hairless bear.

Nice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like my ale and unfortunately most of my social events revolve around visiting pubs

Although I do walk about six miles a day.

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By *eather_Loves_SexWoman
over a year ago

Halfway Between London and Brighton

"I was speaking to someone who says there's no excuse,I don't agree with him whatsoever,as there can be many reasons.

I realise I have to look at my choice of men. I just hate it when people judge others without knowing them.

There are hormonal causes. These three can cause weight loss or weight gain - diabetes, thyroid dysfunction and polycystic ovaries."
yup! I have two of these and constantly fighting against my weight still a lot heavier than ai ought to be or want to be! Suspect some of it is inflammation too but that will hopefully go when I start my exclusion diet!

Saying all that I don’t seem to have any trouble ‘pulling’ either whilst out or at a club so maybe my personality wins out?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do my best not to judge people for anything as I know there are many contributing factors in life when it comes to weight and health, and normally someone's size doesn't bother me.

The only time I get annoyed or start to judge is when someone is unhappy about their weight or size and they constantly bring it up negatively and complain about it but they aren't willing to do anything about it.

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

Body size in a partner has never been an issue for me, although I do admit that I prefer cuddling a dad bod than an overly muscular one. We all have our preferences and ideals.... God knows my shape is definitely not everyone's cup of tea, and I've also noticed a monumental decline in interest since I turned 46 and aged out of the 18-45 bracket (not enough to start lying about my age though lol), but as long as someone's personality intrigues me there's potential, and being made to feel wanted is the clincher... Not just blowing smoke (the forums need serious ventilation lol), but actually telling you how wanted and appreciated you are is probably the biggest turn on of all. We all want to feel special

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are lots of reasons a person can be overweight, not just down to overeating or being lazy.

Injuries, medications, hormones, stress can all cause weight gain.

I gained nearly 13st due to serious medical issues, spent a decade being called fatty, and have people making snide comments, before I was physically able to make the changes to lose the weight.

Never judge a person just by appearance, you don't know their story, what they've been through, what battles they maybe fighting on a daily basis.

Some of us win those battles, some don't. "

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London

"I was speaking to someone who says there's no excuse"

Why would there even need to be am excuse? Someone being overweight is their own business and doesn't need justification to others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are lots of reasons a person can be overweight, not just down to overeating or being lazy.

Injuries, medications, hormones, stress can all cause weight gain.

I gained nearly 13st due to serious medical issues, spent a decade being called fatty, and have people making snide comments, before I was physically able to make the changes to lose the weight.

Never judge a person just by appearance, you don't know their story, what they've been through, what battles they maybe fighting on a daily basis.

Some of us win those battles, some don't. "

I've always been the bigger girl in any group, from the tallest at age 7 to being 9 stone and 5'6 at 11 (if I was that now I'd be hot!!) called fat most days at school, by strangers in the street, by people on the internet just for fun....part of the reason I'm so defensive when a thread turns nasty, or has the potential to. I've never had trouble attracting guys and being on here has mostly improved my confidence, who doesn't like a fit 20 year old showing you attention? Not me! Unfortunately the abuse over the years is still there in the back of my mind...I try to give myself a good talking to now and again but sometimes my feelings get the better of me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How I put on weight.

I was 9 and a half stone when I suddenly got very ill. Previous to that my weight had gone up a bit and down to 8st 4 (I'm 5ft 8).

I woke up one night dripping with sweat and my heart beating very fast. I ended up in a&e where they said it was some kind of virus. Great, I thought, I'll be better in a few days.

After a few weeks of not being able to eat or sleep I became severely depressed and didn't want to live. I went to my gp who said it was my nerves and prescribed me Lorazepam and then various anti-depressants, but I still struggled to eat and was spending hours laying on the sofa, barely able to do anything. I was crying constantly,feeling physically weak and getting fevers, with my whole body shaking. My depression got worse and I told my husband I wanted to die. I was sent to a psychiatrist at the mental health hospital. I was under 8 stone by then and still struggling to eat. My meals were a couple of spoons of rice pudding and a nibble on a biscuit twice a day.

At the hospital I was told the chemicals in my brain were out of sorts and prescribed Paroxetine. As the doctor handed me the prescription he said you will put on weight.

After a couple of weeks of taking the medication I started to feel better and the hunger hit. I was like a starved wolf. I wanted to eat constantly. I was craving chips, curry, chocolate, fizzy drinks-all things I rarely ate or drank before I was ill. I would drink custard out of the carton and make my husband stop the car so I could buy Coke and a Mars Bar.

Within a year I had gone from under 8 stone up to 17 stone. That's 9 stone weight gain in a year. My head still wasn't right, and still isn't after 18 years.

I have lost some of the weight but I don't do diets, as you can't keep up a diet. I've had arthritis all my life, which isn't helped by the extra weight-I'm 4 stone over my top weight range for my height. I'm healthy in all other aspects, at the moment -my blood tests (apart from my folates being a bit low at the moment) are all normal; blood sugar, thyroid,cholesterol etc.

When I think back to how ill I was I think I'm doing ok. When I look in the mirror I think I need to do better, especially as my knees and neck bones aren't doing too great.

During all of this my husband cheated on me, abused me in every way,(his new name for me was fat, doughnut-eating cunt), divorced me and got a new girlfriend; my twin sister-who had cerebral palsy and I cared for 24/7 died;my dad was already dead.

The bottom line is, I went through all that and came out of it fat, but I'm smiling as I write this, because, in general, I'm happy

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By *hekaiserMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

My weight goes up and down like a yo-yo!

I was a "healthy" baby and been overweight ever since. None of my ex girlfriends had an issue with my weight..well one did but that is a topic for another day.

Really hate the way I look..took up running and trying to get back i to a gym routine. I work long hours and tend to eat chocolate for the sugar rush. I know it is not right but Im working on it....Rome was not built in a day.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was always "average" until I got ill a few years ago. I almost doubled my weight in a year and getting it back off has been really hard work.

People automatically judge. I get comments over how little I eat. Ive never been a big eater but people assume because im bigger I must stuff my face.

I guess the same can be said for really slim people though, I have a friend who people assume has an eating disorder when in reality she eats about 4 times as much as me. Our metabolisms just work differently.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Well I wouldn’t call them excuses, because I can and am loosing weight regardless of them, but I have PCOS, underactive thyroid and I’m on strong steroids for my asthma, these are all health issues known for causing weight issues, because of the hormonal imbalances they cause, so they did make loosing and maintaining weight losses difficult I do have to be very strict with myself in my food choices, as I do do a fair bit of exercise, always walk to work then run round like a twat all day while I’m there, I have kettle bells on Tuesdays, Zumba on Thursday, swim with the kids on Saturday and I have my running club Sunday (if I’m not rota’d on duty shift on those days) as well as going on my cross trainer at home while watching the soaps, but I have to do all that or I don’t loose any weight

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By *gnitemybody OP Woman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"I was speaking to someone who says there's no excuse

Why would there even need to be am excuse? Someone being overweight is their own business and doesn't need justification to others. "

Exactly,I just hate it when guy's feel the need to say something in a negative way.

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By *gnitemybody OP Woman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Just to make it clear I wasn't actually asking why people put on weight,that's not my business nor anyone else's.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My weight goes up and down like a yo-yo!

I was a "healthy" baby and been overweight ever since. None of my ex girlfriends had an issue with my weight..well one did but that is a topic for another day.

You look hot in your picture.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just to make it clear I wasn't actually asking why people put on weight,that's not my business nor anyone else's."

No, but it os a good platform to state it anyway. It'll inform those numbnuts that weight gain is not only a result of overeating and lack of exercise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

why should overweight people give reasons. do slim people do the same

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By *gnitemybody OP Woman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"How I put on weight.

I was 9 and a half stone when I suddenly got very ill. Previous to that my weight had gone up a bit and down to 8st 4 (I'm 5ft 8).

I woke up one night dripping with sweat and my heart beating very fast. I ended up in a&e where they said it was some kind of virus. Great, I thought, I'll be better in a few days.

At the hospital I was told the chemicals in my brain were out of sorts and prescribed Paroxetine. As the doctor handed me the prescription he said you will put on weight.

Within a year I had gone from under 8 stone up to 17 stone. That's 9 stone weight gain in a year. My head still wasn't right, and still isn't after 18 years.

When I think back to how ill I was I think I'm doing ok. When I look in the mirror I think I need to do better, especially as my knees and neck bones aren't doing too great.

The bottom line is, I went through all that and came out of it fat, but I'm smiling as I write this, because, in general, I'm happy

Bugger that's a hell of a lot to go through

and that's my point there's many reasons.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"why should overweight people give reasons. do slim people do the same

Why so so many overweight people get upset over being asked the question?

And I don’t believe the OP said that we should as in must explain ourselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was speaking to someone who says there's no excuse

Why would there even need to be am excuse? Someone being overweight is their own business and doesn't need justification to others. "

This. They are bodies to do with as you will. To assume a whole bunch of stuff based on anyone's weight is as ridiculous as judging on hair colour.

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By *ugga81Man
over a year ago

West Malling

I generally give it little thought, and have no issues with how others look or live their lives.

However, when on a plane I develop an instant and irrational dislike for over weight people that cause me discomfort due to their size. I once asked cabin crew if I could be moved to another seat as a ladies fat was seaping over to my side.....

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"I generally give it little thought, and have no issues with how others look or live their lives.

Erm the second paragraph contradicted the first

You do realise that right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think most of the time there is no excuse! I'm fat because I'm lazy and I eat too much! Although I don't know if I'm lazy BECAUSE I'm fat but anywho it's a difficult circle to break."

Yes you are probably lazy because of being fat, my weight has gone up and down 2 stone for the last few years. When I am at 14+ stone I am much more inactive, don't want to do much around the house and sit on my arse a lot. When I am around 12 1/2 stone, I am much more active, do more around the house more and am happier. There's definitely a link between being overweight and doing less for me.

I get fat because I binge eat in evenings XXX

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By *ugga81Man
over a year ago

West Malling

"I generally give it little thought, and have no issues with how others look or live their lives.

Erm the second paragraph contradicted the first

You do realise that right? "

Yes, that was kind of my point.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind meeting overweight but I,m not into very obese people. It doesn't turn me on for sex, they are less sexually active in bed (can't fk too long), sweat much more ect. How they look is up to them of course and I,m not judging them .

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By *.A.MGUY55Man
over a year ago

Rochdale

If there's something from the pas abuse

To present stress of money an life it's self it's not just food

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"I generally give it little thought, and have no issues with how others look or live their lives.

Erm the second paragraph contradicted the first

You do realise that right?

Yes, that was kind of my point....."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How I put on weight.

I was 9 and a half stone when I suddenly got very ill. Previous to that my weight had gone up a bit and down to 8st 4 (I'm 5ft 8).

I woke up one night dripping with sweat and my heart beating very fast. I ended up in a&e where they said it was some kind of virus. Great, I thought, I'll be better in a few days.

At the hospital I was told the chemicals in my brain were out of sorts and prescribed Paroxetine. As the doctor handed me the prescription he said you will put on weight.

Within a year I had gone from under 8 stone up to 17 stone. That's 9 stone weight gain in a year. My head still wasn't right, and still isn't after 18 years.

When I think back to how ill I was I think I'm doing ok. When I look in the mirror I think I need to do better, especially as my knees and neck bones aren't doing too great.

The bottom line is, I went through all that and came out of it fat, but I'm smiling as I write this, because, in general, I'm happy

Bugger that's a hell of a lot to go through

and that's my point there's many reasons. "

Before that happened I was mostly under weight, and probably not healthy on a cellular level. My older sisters used to take the piss out of me because I was so skinny.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A person could give their reason and someone will come along and rip that reason to shreds. There is no understanding, sensitivity or reasoning with some, especially on here, so i wouldn't even bother to try to explain.

I have never, in the world outside fab, had negative comments about my weight. I'm sure some have looked at me and thought negative things, but my height is quite intimadating and i although i am shy, i am no pushover and can give as good as i take in the mouthing off stakes.

All i will say, is that i once went to my GP for an MOT and mentioned my weight to him. His answer?

"Not everyone is mean't to be slim."

And you know what? I think he has a point.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I was extremely overweight up until March if last year when my circumstances changed. I'm under 5ft and at my heaviest was just over 13 stone. Doesn't sound stupidly heavy but for my height, yes, it was.

I didn't think I are a lot, was relatively active (probably walked about 6 miles a day)

It was only once I kicked my ex out I realised I was comfort eating.

I'm under 9 stone now and still considered overweight for my height according to the BMI thingy. If I had my way, I would never eat again. I almost feel like if I eat he has control over me. I do eat though, then I have guilt for letting myself down ( not all the time, but I do today - I had leftover pizza for breakfast and ice cream for lunch)

I think a trip to the supermarket is in order for fruit.

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By *relanddirectMan
over a year ago

cheshire

I think it's more important to be healthy, we owe it to ourselves and our loved ones to look after ourselves. Shape doesn't come into it for me, curves or big or small are irrelevant so long as u make an effort to stay fit and healthy. And I don't mean u have to go to the gym every day, run marathons or be a vegan, just enjoy good food and the outdoors, make a little effort and that's enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I generally give it little thought, and have no issues with how others look or live their lives.

Maybe there should be separate aeroplanes for fat people and 'fit athletic' people. That way we wouldn't have to sit next to judgemental, up their own arse perfect people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"why should overweight people give reasons. do slim people do the same

Exactly! Why do people start giving their life stories?

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"why should overweight people give reasons. do slim people do the same

Exactly! Why do people start giving their life stories?"

Perhaps because they’re the ones comfortable in their own skin or the ones that can be honest with themselves about their weight and therefore honest to others about them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"why should overweight people give reasons. do slim people do the same

Exactly! Why do people start giving their life stories?"

To explain how easy it is for something to put on weight. I'm not apologising for being fat and I don't give a toss what people on here, or in my real life think about me being fat. The OP spoke about reasons; I explained how it happened for me; someone who was naturally skinny and not bothered about food and eating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"why should overweight people give reasons. do slim people do the same

Exactly! Why do people start giving their life stories?

And my story was a tiny bit of that part of my life; the whole story could fill a book.

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By *gnitemybody OP Woman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"How I put on weight.

I was 9 and a half stone when I suddenly got very ill. Previous to that my weight had gone up a bit and down to 8st 4 (I'm 5ft 8).

I woke up one night dripping with sweat and my heart beating very fast. I ended up in a&e where they said it was some kind of virus. Great, I thought, I'll be better in a few days.

At the hospital I was told the chemicals in my brain were out of sorts and prescribed Paroxetine. As the doctor handed me the prescription he said you will put on weight.

Within a year I had gone from under 8 stone up to 17 stone. That's 9 stone weight gain in a year. My head still wasn't right, and still isn't after 18 years.

When I think back to how ill I was I think I'm doing ok. When I look in the mirror I think I need to do better, especially as my knees and neck bones aren't doing too great.

The bottom line is, I went through all that and came out of it fat, but I'm smiling as I write this, because, in general, I'm happy

Bugger that's a hell of a lot to go through

and that's my point there's many reasons.

Before that happened I was mostly under weight, and probably not healthy on a cellular level. My older sisters used to take the piss out of me because I was so skinny. "

and that's not right either,I used to get as that well not so much being laughed at,but made to feel bad for being skinny/slim. Like they could insult me even though it was my natural build,yes it probably was to skinny,but that was me.

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By *lacksausageMan
over a year ago

Birmingham Airport

I think some guys will say anything to get a shag. If they got sights set on a bbw, then bbws are the best things on earth. If they see a size zero, then they swear to the high heavens they will not even piss on a size 18 etc.

In general terms ( not necessarily sex or swinging) I think all body types can lend the owners a good quality of life if they applied themselves. Enjoy what you got and make the most of it, I'd say.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"why should overweight people give reasons. do slim people do the same

Exactly! Why do people start giving their life stories?

And my story was a tiny bit of that part of my life; the whole story could fill a book. "

Well I find people's experience interesting, thanks for sharing

I'm not overweight, but have put a bit on, as have just been diagnosed with under active thyroid, now on meds and adjusting my diet to try and control the weight gain.

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By *ugga81Man
over a year ago

West Malling

"I generally give it little thought, and have no issues with how others look or live their lives.

Maybe there should be separate aeroplanes for fat people and 'fit athletic' people. That way we wouldn't have to sit next to judgemental, up their own arse perfect people "

I do think there should be seat size options available for the comfort of others in this scenario at the least. I have broad shoulders so I'm sure other people would rather not sit next to me too.

I did quantity my earlier statement by saying it was irrational so I fully accept this could be a defect of my own.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"why should overweight people give reasons. do slim people do the same

Exactly! Why do people start giving their life stories?"

So because we're on a swingers site are we only allowed to talk about fantasies and sex?

Is the fact there's a real person behind the profile too distressing?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I think I've just crossed one off, on my lounge bingo card with the likely topic contents.

Body weight - specially over healthy levels - is a hugely complex issue, with no one solution or cause. It should remain a private and personal matter, for those who are experts and the person concerned about their weight.

Society levels of weight have influenced things upwards but that's just a tiny element of our wider issues here.

Our body is intelligent and adaptive to maintain high weight levels and genetic predispositions make people unequal.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"I generally give it little thought, and have no issues with how others look or live their lives.

Maybe there should be separate aeroplanes for fat people and 'fit athletic' people. That way we wouldn't have to sit next to judgemental, up their own arse perfect people

I do think there should be seat size options available for the comfort of others in this scenario at the least. I have broad shoulders so I'm sure other people would rather not sit next to me too.

I did quantity my earlier statement by saying it was irrational so I fully accept this could be a defect of my own."

They do have those options but you have to pay to fly first class or privately for them

Other than that you but your ticket and take a gamble on who your sat next to like the rest of us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I generally give it little thought, and have no issues with how others look or live their lives.

I agree that no one should be caused discomfort in a situation like that. If you've paid for a seat then you should get the full seat.

That said, at least part of your 'irrational dislike' should be directed towards the airline for cramming too many seats onto a plane and therefore making it such a tight fit.

I'm not overweight but im tall and often end up sitting with my legs apart on a plane to avoid my knees pressing into the seat in front. You'd definitely have an irrational dislike of me because my legs would be encroaching into your space.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In general people make a whole lot of assumptions based on how someone looks. Personally, personality and mental connection is way more important.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My good lady put on quite a bit of weight through no fault of her own ,medication but since her op lost over a stone already and still going ,soon be even sexier she says lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"why should overweight people give reasons. do slim people do the same

Exactly! Why do people start giving their life stories?

But nobody asked for an explanation, the Op certainly didn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think some guys will say anything to get a shag. If they got sights set on a bbw, then bbws are the best things on earth. If they see a size zero, then they swear to the high heavens they will not even piss on a size 18 etc.

In general terms ( not necessarily sex or swinging) I think all body types can lend the owners a good quality of life if they applied themselves. Enjoy what you got and make the most of it, I'd say."

That first paragraph sounds about right

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"I generally give it little thought, and have no issues with how others look or live their lives.

Maybe there should be separate aeroplanes for fat people and 'fit athletic' people. That way we wouldn't have to sit next to judgemental, up their own arse perfect people "

To be honest... I'm a fattie and hate people getting into my personal space as well so can totally see where he is coming from. He isn't judging the reasons why they are fat, he is simply saying it is annoying having his space encroached upon, which it is. He didn't say he was perfect, you're just projecting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"why should overweight people give reasons. do slim people do the same

Exactly! Why do people start giving their life stories?

But nobody asked for an explanation, the Op certainly didn't. "

To give the reason I have to explain. If I said I got ill, people would think excuse, not reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"why should overweight people give reasons. do slim people do the same

Exactly! Why do people start giving their life stories?

But nobody asked for an explanation, the Op certainly didn't.

To give the reason I have to explain. If I said I got ill, people would think excuse, not reason. "

The same as your explanation about your long legs.

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham

You just need a woman more skilled in the art

Although to be honest I am not a fan of face sitting as I'd worry I'd suffocate the guy

I love face sitting, but that's not what she was doing. She just went on top. Cowgirl and cuddles me as she did. It was like being mounted by a hairless bear.

This comment literally made me laugh out loud... and that's coming from a larger than large woman

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"why should overweight people give reasons. do slim people do the same

Exactly! Why do people start giving their life stories?

But nobody asked for an explanation, the Op certainly didn't. "

Same as no one asked you to explain about your long legs in the above situation yet you still did it, so why did you feel the need to do it?

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By *entenTeaCouple
over a year ago

Buckley North Wales

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I generally give it little thought, and have no issues with how others look or live their lives.

Maybe there should be separate aeroplanes for fat people and 'fit athletic' people. That way we wouldn't have to sit next to judgemental, up their own arse perfect people

Indeed I am

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

Yes there are some people who are overweight for medical reasons, but as quite a number of people have quite honestly said here, most people who are overweight are like that because they eat too much and exercise too little.

That's not to criticise overweight people. We all make our life choices and if you like your food and don't mind being overweight, then that's great.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Greed laziness. Or possible health issues

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By *entenTeaCouple
over a year ago

Buckley North Wales

Though we both consider our selves very fortunate to be natually slim. We realise that some people have a natural predisposition for various reasons to be chubby. This isn't entirely all about choice. Its about how our bodies process and handle the inputs and people's realtionship with food and role, beyond pure sustanance, it plays in their lives.

We both gladly and happily enjoy the company of people of all shapes sizes.

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By *lacksausageMan
over a year ago

Birmingham Airport

"why should overweight people give reasons. do slim people do the same

Exactly! Why do people start giving their life stories?

So because we're on a swingers site are we only allowed to talk about fantasies and sex?

Is the fact there's a real person behind the profile too distressing?

If it wasn't Sunday, I would have put it this way, " life is not merely about dicks, pussies and arseholes; there is so much more"

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By *ork10Man
over a year ago

York

I have an underactive thyroid now it's properly treated I've lost 3 stone

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By *ugga81Man
over a year ago

West Malling

"I generally give it little thought, and have no issues with how others look or live their lives.

I agree that no one should be caused discomfort in a situation like that. If you've paid for a seat then you should get the full seat.

That said, at least part of your 'irrational dislike' should be directed towards the airline for cramming too many seats onto a plane and therefore making it such a tight fit.

Most definitely. But like another poster said, if you buy economy that's the risk you take. I'm a few inches taller than you so share your legs issue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"why should overweight people give reasons. do slim people do the same

Exactly! Why do people start giving their life stories?

But nobody asked for an explanation, the Op certainly didn't.

Same as no one asked you to explain about your long legs in the above situation yet you still did it, so why did you feel the need to do it? "

I did it to illustrate that the issue wasnt my height or body which im more than happy with but the airlines profit motive.

It was an attempt to show that people are often too quick to turn on each other than think through the bigger picture reason of why they can be put into uncomfortable positions.

I wouldn't ever feel the need to give a reason or excuse about my height, I just question why many feel the need to give reasons for their size or weight.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"why should overweight people give reasons. do slim people do the same

Exactly! Why do people start giving their life stories?

But nobody asked for an explanation, the Op certainly didn't.

Same as no one asked you to explain about your long legs in the above situation yet you still did it, so why did you feel the need to do it?

I did it to illustrate that the issue wasnt my height or body which im more than happy with but the airlines profit motive.

It was an attempt to show that people are often too quick to turn on each other than think through the bigger picture reason of why they can be put into uncomfortable positions.

I wouldn't ever feel the need to give a reason or excuse about my height, I just question why many feel the need to give reasons for their size or weight."

just Like those that have explained their stories have illustrated the issue then, At least for their personal experience

it was no different its merely how you view each illustration that makes it different in your eyes

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By *icky-discoMan
over a year ago

oxford

"I was speaking to someone who says there's no excuse,I don't agree with him whatsoever,as there can be many reasons.

I realise I have to look at my choice of men. I just hate it when people judge others without knowing them."

What do you class as being overweight?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"why should overweight people give reasons. do slim people do the same

Why so so many overweight people get upset over being asked the question?

And I don’t believe the OP said that we should as in must explain ourselves "

excatly i dont get upset by the question

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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I used to be overweight, mainly because I was a greedy and miserble lazy cow. It was my own fault.

Now I am slimmer, happier and fitter but only because I worked hard for it.

My friend is overweight and fitter than me...so anyone who says fat folk are unfit etc shouldn't make that presumption.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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Oh and bodyshaming works both ways.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love sweets and sweets love me, and I also have horrible eating habits, I live on my own and when I don't have anything planned for my day off I will spend it in bed lazy to cook so I don't eat at all, but sometimes I eat too much. But Cute seems to be a good motivation for me so I hope he will help me to fight with it

Kitten

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Well I for one am happy to talk about my "reasons/excuses"

It's called my life experience.

If a single person reads anything about my experience that a) opens their eyes

b) sees a person behind the profile that they could connect with and maybe want to talk to regarding said experiences in a non judgemental way, then I'm all for it

Forums are a talking platform, a way of breaking down walls and barriers. Surely that's a good thing?

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"Well I for one am happy to talk about my "reasons/excuses"

It's called my life experience.

If a single person reads anything about my experience that a) opens their eyes

b) sees a person behind the profile that they could connect with and maybe want to talk to regarding said experiences in a non judgemental way, then I'm all for it

Forums are a talking platform, a way of breaking down walls and barriers. Surely that's a good thing?"

Exactly. We have been the fatties who couldn't stop shoveling food in.

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By *gnitemybody OP Woman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"I was speaking to someone who says there's no excuse,I don't agree with him whatsoever,as there can be many reasons.

I realise I have to look at my choice of men. I just hate it when people judge others without knowing them.

What do you class as being overweight?"

I suppose someone who looks like they're struggling with their weight,difficult to get out of a chair,run up the stairs,breathing heavily etc

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"Well I for one am happy to talk about my "reasons/excuses"

It's called my life experience.

If a single person reads anything about my experience that a) opens their eyes

b) sees a person behind the profile that they could connect with and maybe want to talk to regarding said experiences in a non judgemental way, then I'm all for it

Forums are a talking platform, a way of breaking down walls and barriers. Surely that's a good thing?

Exactly. We have been the fatties who couldn't stop shoveling food in."

And it doesn't end there. I still have a pretty toxic relationship with food, and lack of motivation when it comes to eating healthily and exercising.

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By *elnkazCouple
over a year ago

cheshire

Metabolism,depression,lack of motivation,anxiety,cost of gym.other mental health issues all contribute to obesity.

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By *icky-discoMan
over a year ago

oxford

"I was speaking to someone who says there's no excuse,I don't agree with him whatsoever,as there can be many reasons.

I realise I have to look at my choice of men. I just hate it when people judge others without knowing them.

What do you class as being overweight?

I suppose someone who looks like they're struggling with their weight,difficult to get out of a chair,run up the stairs,breathing heavily etc"

That’s my sister she’s 35 stone

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

As someone who used to weigh over 20 stones and now is many, many stones lighter, I had no reason, I just was.

The cause of my obesity was following the low fat mantra still touted around as a healthy diet. Once I actually did some proper research and understood human physiology better, I changed to a full fat, low carb diet which has resulted in amazing improved health and I’m fitter and healthier now than I was in my 30’s.

Nobody wakes up one day and chooses to be fat.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

If God didn't want me to be a fattie he fucked up giving us steak and jd so not my fault go see the big guy up stairs

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

Why should anyone need an excuse or reason to be anything .. if someone wants a reason tell me to fuck off

just my opinion on the matter

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

There are a few reasons for being overweight (technically I am overweight).

1) Your parents allowed you to become overweight as a child. This weight is really really really hard for someone to lose. It's so hard to lose whole branches of study popped up around it.

2) You never learned how to regulate the amount of calories you need for the amount of calories you use.

Researchers followed people able to "eat anything", you know the type we say have high metabolisms, they found they were about 10 times more active than they realised.

That children who are active never learn how to regulate their calories and end up eating a lot as office workers and put on weight.

3) lazy, using premade meals or takeaways that add fat to make it taste nicer. Very hard for your body to do anything but store theses meals as 100% fat.

Simple fact is, none of us are made properly ready. Schools dont teach this stuff, parents dont. We don't get told that carbs on their own are fine, to avoid premade foods with fat/carbs. That a diet of carbs/protein will lose you weight, that sugars wont cause diabetes, that we need to eat less on some days and more on others.

There are more reasons to be overweight in this day and age than to not be.

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

Its all very well for strangers on the internet to be full of false flattery or even the ones who openly insult. That doesn't really bother me as much as it used to. What hurts is when your friends openly tell you they think you are too big. Truth does hurt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was speaking to someone who says there's no excuse,I don't agree with him whatsoever,as there can be many reasons.

I realise I have to look at my choice of men. I just hate it when people judge others without knowing them.

What do you class as being overweight?

I suppose someone who looks like they're struggling with their weight,difficult to get out of a chair,run up the stairs,breathing heavily etc"

Difficulty getting out of a chair

- maybe they just need a new sofa

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Metabolism,depression,lack of motivation,anxiety,cost of gym.other mental health issues all contribute to obesity.

And since this is a national epidemic - cost of food. Processed food tends to be cheaper than other forms.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"why should overweight people give reasons. do slim people do the same

Exactly! Why do people start giving their life stories?

But nobody asked for an explanation, the Op certainly didn't.

Same as no one asked you to explain about your long legs in the above situation yet you still did it, so why did you feel the need to do it?

I did it to illustrate that the issue wasnt my height or body which im more than happy with but the airlines profit motive.

It was an attempt to show that people are often too quick to turn on each other than think through the bigger picture reason of why they can be put into uncomfortable positions.

I wouldn't ever feel the need to give a reason or excuse about my height, I just question why many feel the need to give reasons for their size or weight."

I answered the OP, the same as I do other threads. You said what you did, even though it had nothing to do with the OP.

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By *icky-discoMan
over a year ago

oxford

I just got 2 tiramisus from Sainsbury’s and I plan to eat both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its all very well for strangers on the internet to be full of false flattery or even the ones who openly insult. That doesn't really bother me as much as it used to. What hurts is when your friends openly tell you they think you are too big. Truth does hurt"

My friends told me I've put a load of weight on and I was really pleased they told me. I feel it shows they care and that they can be honest with me. Maybe try and see it as a positive rather than a bad thing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are on a site that is for sex. Of course I'm going to chose Mr buff six pack over someone who's larger. He's not going to become my life partner. There are some men on here that will fuck anything with a pulse on here.

I'm carrying a few extra pounds at the moment and I hate it. My confidence as dropped and I also feel sluggish and tired.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just fucking love food, that's my excuse. "

Same here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are a few reasons for being overweight (technically I am overweight).

1) Your parents allowed you to become overweight as a child. This weight is really really really hard for someone to lose. It's so hard to lose whole branches of study popped up around it.

2) You never learned how to regulate the amount of calories you need for the amount of calories you use.

Researchers followed people able to "eat anything", you know the type we say have high metabolisms, they found they were about 10 times more active than they realised.

That children who are active never learn how to regulate their calories and end up eating a lot as office workers and put on weight.

3) lazy, using premade meals or takeaways that add fat to make it taste nicer. Very hard for your body to do anything but store theses meals as 100% fat.

There are more reasons to be overweight in this day and age than to not be."

"That a diet of carbs/protein will lose you weight" - no, for the general populus, the five food groups are necessary. For others the groups need to be tailored - I have polycystic ovaries which results in a sensitivity to carbs. I need a ketogenic diet which reduces the carbs, raises proteins. Sadly my new HRT treatment regime raises my desire for carbs, specifically simple carbs (sweet stuff).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are a few reasons for being overweight (technically I am overweight).

1) Your parents allowed you to become overweight as a child. This weight is really really really hard for someone to lose. It's so hard to lose whole branches of study popped up around it.

2) You never learned how to regulate the amount of calories you need for the amount of calories you use.

Researchers followed people able to "eat anything", you know the type we say have high metabolisms, they found they were about 10 times more active than they realised.

That children who are active never learn how to regulate their calories and end up eating a lot as office workers and put on weight.

3) lazy, using premade meals or takeaways that add fat to make it taste nicer. Very hard for your body to do anything but store theses meals as 100% fat.

There are more reasons to be overweight in this day and age than to not be.

Same here since having a hysterectomy and going onto HRT I crave sweet stuff all the time.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"I have an underactive thyroid now it's properly treated I've lost 3 stone "

I hope I can lose a few pounds now mine is being treated

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By *icky-discoMan
over a year ago

oxford

"I have an underactive thyroid now it's properly treated I've lost 3 stone

I hope I can lose a few pounds now mine is being treated

Just looked at your pics you look fine to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thyroid.

Polycystic ovaries.

Food.

Medication.

I'm lazy.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

There really is only one way to put weight on.

Reasons though are too many to list....

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"I have an underactive thyroid now it's properly treated I've lost 3 stone

I hope I can lose a few pounds now mine is being treated

Just looked at your pics you look fine to me

Ah thank you, I am a few pounds heavier, which I want to lose, before it gets out of hand

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Loks, size , age to me is not important id rather have a personality that you could to and get on with and relax. I find it more enjoyable to play etc then along with making friends.

Therrs too many reasons why weight gain i think mine is meds and then because of them its hard to lose it.

Its not always because someone is lazh and just eats.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm fat cause I have a massive sweet tooth, I'm a night mare.

I'm the type of person to go out and order 2 desserts instead of a main. Or have crisps and chocolate for dinner.

I've calmed down a lot lately but I was really bad at one point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im overweight because i genuinely think i have a sugar addiction.

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By *gnitemybody OP Woman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"I was speaking to someone who says there's no excuse,I don't agree with him whatsoever,as there can be many reasons.

I realise I have to look at my choice of men. I just hate it when people judge others without knowing them.

What do you class as being overweight?

I suppose someone who looks like they're struggling with their weight,difficult to get out of a chair,run up the stairs,breathing heavily etc

That’s my sister she’s 35 stone

How does she feel about?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Technically I am overweight by a considerable amount and will continue to gain weight all through personal choice for my goals in strongman.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

We are both carrying a few extra pounds .

The reason is simple - we eat more calories than we burn .

Oh well

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By *issT35Woman
over a year ago

Cambridge

My excuse is that I love cake!

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By *icky-discoMan
over a year ago

oxford

"I was speaking to someone who says there's no excuse,I don't agree with him whatsoever,as there can be many reasons.

I realise I have to look at my choice of men. I just hate it when people judge others without knowing them.

What do you class as being overweight?

I suppose someone who looks like they're struggling with their weight,difficult to get out of a chair,run up the stairs,breathing heavily etc

That’s my sister she’s 35 stone

How does she feel about?"

I never ask

she’s basically incapable of doing virtually anything I just find it sad to be honest

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By *ancduoCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

I’m fat cos I love food. Saying that. Hubby and I have been on diets this year and have both lost about 3 stone each and still losing. But. We don’t care about age or size. It’s the personality and what they can do in bed

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By *un17Man
over a year ago

Ennis

I absolutely hate the taught of being fat but find curvy women really hot weird or what?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My weight comes from non stop steroids for brittle asthma.

On 7-8 heavy courses a year so it’s lose weight gain weight lose weight.

Very hard, but hey I can breathe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My reason

I like my food

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By *gnitemybody OP Woman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"I was speaking to someone who says there's no excuse,I don't agree with him whatsoever,as there can be many reasons.

I realise I have to look at my choice of men. I just hate it when people judge others without knowing them.

What do you class as being overweight?

I suppose someone who looks like they're struggling with their weight,difficult to get out of a chair,run up the stairs,breathing heavily etc

That’s my sister she’s 35 stone

How does she feel about?

I never ask

she’s basically incapable of doing virtually anything I just find it sad to be honest

That must be hard to see her like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Everyone judges. Doesn't bother me. I'm fat because I eat too much.

This is the simple fact. Overweight/fat because calorie intake exceeds those used.

The real reason is why people do this or find it difficult not to..... there are thousands of reasons for that....not ours to judge!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m overweight and i go the gym, i also diet as well, i can only do weights in the gym as when i do cardio i end up with a severe migraine a bit like a mini stroke and i have to take injections, so when people say go the gym i already do but no cardio, doesn’t mean i’m not a good guy with a great sense of humour, it is what it is and i’m still cool as fuck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m overweight and i go the gym, i also diet as well, i can only do weights in the gym as when i do cardio i end up with a severe migraine a bit like a mini stroke and i have to take injections, so when people say go the gym i already do but no cardio, doesn’t mean i’m not a good guy with a great sense of humour, it is what it is and i’m still cool as fuck

Yes you are.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

I'm overweight because I like my food and hate exercise.

My weight yo-yos up and down alot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well it's because..., oops, sorry, wrong thread!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fizzy pop is my reason. Around exam period I drink Christ knows how much and stuff when studying. Then when I start to lose it, exams come round again.

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By *arrasicMan
over a year ago

birmingham

"I was speaking to someone who says there's no excuse,I don't agree with him whatsoever,as there can be many reasons.

I realise I have to look at my choice of men. I just hate it when people judge others without knowing them.

There are hormonal causes. These three can cause weight loss or weight gain - diabetes, thyroid dysfunction and polycystic ovaries."

When i was at school there was always a fat lad in class.now it must be three quarters of the class wasn't diabetes, thyroid dysfunction ovaries about then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Smoking a fat one before you go to bed and then getting the munchies .... not good!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're older, less active, comfortable with each other and like pizza... Simple life choices really

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth

There is no reason to be fat for the majority of the people who are over-weight especially men but I can understand women who have given birth, however, no one should be judged or shamed from being themselves or their weight. Generally, healthy eating is about education and exercise. Nothing is wrong with a little bit of weight but if you are obese a helping hand and support might be needed and the same goes for an anorexic person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

**disclaimer I get great photo angles lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm chubby, round arsed, thick thighed because I eat too much chocolate and chips! I ride, swim and jog tho so it's firm fat lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've always been a bit over weight

- I spent the most of my 30s on a diet and feeling shit about myself.

After every diet I always came back to a size 16.

I love food and booze - but I'm a very active person.

I'm on my feet all day and walk and cycle everywhere.

I'm starting to accept myself now at 42 years old!

I wish I had done it sooner - I would have freed up time to think and worry about other things that were more important!

My self worth is about so much more than my dress size now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m overweight, I think my bmi puts me as obese

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m overweight, I think my bmi puts me as obese "

Behave!

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By *inkerbell67Woman
over a year ago

Clacton on sea essex

Ok people who are small minded on here , not all people are over weight throu over eating ,some have medical conditions ..being diabetic can make you put on weight ..under active thyroid can give you weight problems ,people with disabilities put on weight ,steriods make you put on weight ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m overweight, I think my bmi puts me as obese

Behave!

I’m serious! My pictures are current also, not from years ago, I’m just too short for my weight!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m overweight, I think my bmi puts me as obese

Behave!

I’m serious! My pictures are current also, not from years ago, I’m just too short for my weight!

Purely for research purposes, just checked, can't see anything wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m overweight, I think my bmi puts me as obese

Behave!

I’m serious! My pictures are current also, not from years ago, I’m just too short for my weight!

Purely for research purposes, just checked, can't see anything wrong.

thanks, I’m happyish with my body, I could do with losing a couple of stone but I can’t be arsed!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Ok people who are small minded on here , not all people are over weight throu over eating ,some have medical conditions ..being diabetic can make you put on weight ..under active thyroid can give you weight problems ,people with disabilities put on weight ,steriods make you put on weight .."

As a fat, pcos cyster, type 2 diabetic I can say that these are reasons it is harder to lose weight, not reasons to put it on. Research what diets work.... Often ditching carbs etc and you can lose or simply not gain weight despite having medical conditions.

Steroids increase your appetite but don't have to make you gain weight if you eat the right things or drink water to satiate the feeling of hunger.

Before you think I'm preaching o clearly am not as i am obese a d struggling to lose weight due to lack of will power at the moment. I know what I need to do. I lost consistently when I focused on my carb intake and ate to my meter I just need to give my head a shake and get back on it.

I know many people who have lost weight despite of medical problems. It's hard Fucking work bit it can be done.

I am also a big believer in the psychological issues behind over eating. I know I have them stemming back to my childhood. Feelings of fairness, having to clear my plate, eating too fast, secret eating etc. I am trying to work on these also.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was speaking to someone who says there's no excuse,I don't agree with him whatsoever,as there can be many reasons.

I realise I have to look at my choice of men. I just hate it when people judge others without knowing them.

There are hormonal causes. These three can cause weight loss or weight gain - diabetes, thyroid dysfunction and polycystic ovaries.

When i was at school there was always a fat lad in class.now it must be three quarters of the class wasn't diabetes, thyroid dysfunction ovaries about then "

Did i say they were the only causes ffs?

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"I was speaking to someone who says there's no excuse,I don't agree with him whatsoever,as there can be many reasons.

I realise I have to look at my choice of men. I just hate it when people judge others without knowing them.

There are hormonal causes. These three can cause weight loss or weight gain - diabetes, thyroid dysfunction and polycystic ovaries.

When i was at school there was always a fat lad in class.now it must be three quarters of the class wasn't diabetes, thyroid dysfunction ovaries about then "

You’re in your 60s, A lots changed since your were at school, socially, economically, medically and in regards to mental health issues like depression, they are all factors that contribute to the issue.

Most schoool children are under much more pressure at school nowadays and that pressure starts getting piled on at primary school level and just gets worse one of the biggest coping mechanisms for stress is comfort eating so it’s not really that surprising

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to be cuddly, I still exercise and have stamina for when it matters.

We all like different shapes so it's all good

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By *ork10Man
over a year ago

York

"I have an underactive thyroid now it's properly treated I've lost 3 stone

I hope I can lose a few pounds now mine is being treated

It takes time for them to get the dose right then the weight comes of slowly it took 2 years for me to loose 3 stone then levelled out but I've not put any back on for 2 years now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's in your genes / metabolism

I can eat anything and like a horse and don't gain weight

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By *eryBigGirlWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

Problem is society is programmed into believing that if you’re overweight then you’re just eating crap and lazy. If I went to my gp about a frigging ingrowing toenail the discussion would be around to my weight despite the fact he knows I have an official diagnosis of lipoedema which is a genetic fat disorder that isn’t curable, treatable and doesn’t respond to diet and exercise!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a fat, pcos cyster, type 2 diabetic I can say that these are reasons it is harder to lose weight, not reasons to put it on. Research what diets work.... Often ditching carbs etc and you can lose or simply not gain weight despite having medical conditions.

Steroids increase your appetite but don't have to make you gain weight if you eat the right things or drink water to satiate the feeling of hunger.

I know many people who have lost weight despite of medical problems. It's hard Fucking work bit it can be done.

Excellent post

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over a year ago

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"As someone who used to weigh over 20 stones and now is many, many stones lighter, I had no reason, I just was.

Nobody wakes up one day and chooses to be fat."

This

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

Where to start with this one! About 7 years ago I lost 3 stones. In the last three years or so it’s crept back on. Age, menopause, plantar fasciitis, torn calf muscle, mirena coil and now recently complications with mesh.

My weight has gone down 7lbs in a week just due to fluid retention but it can just as easily go back up.

I can’t exercise as much as I used to as my feet hurt despite insoles from the podiatrist.

It’s a viscious circle and I know I’m not alone. It’s hard enough being confident with your own body without people having a go at you because of your size. Some days I’m fine with it other days I’m not. Fortunately I have good fab friends who keep me going.

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By *ancduoCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

What’s sad is we feel we need to justify our weight which in turn makes us feel worse about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I generally give it little thought, and have no issues with how others look or live their lives.

Maybe there should be separate aeroplanes for fat people and 'fit athletic' people. That way we wouldn't have to sit next to judgemental, up their own arse perfect people "

Hes not up his own arse I had a guy who was overweight sitting next to me on the bus. I hardly had any room hes just making a point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love cheese ,chocolate and cock. Life is short eat what you like and exercise in ways you enjoy and manage .

People can have ailments that make them depressed and eat or medication that's make them feel hungry such as steroids .My dad is slim and he was put on steroids for his chest and ended up putting 2 stone on as he was always hungry .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m fat. Still totally fuckable though.

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