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How to pull on a Vanilla night out?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How do you pull in a pub? Or similar place.

My question is quite genuine, I really don't know how to.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Just stand there for a woman isn't it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Watching this with eyes wide open... Help us plz

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to be standing with my mates or dancing.

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

No idea it's been over 24 yrs since I tried but I do know it was successful ..married over 19yrs now so must of done something right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Make eye contact give a smile and act coy when they return your smile and see if they got the courage to engage you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes i'd spot a man across a nightclub and they would literally shimmy across. Doing the whole arm out thing. That made me laugh. They were in

Those were the days

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By *eather_Loves_SexWoman
over a year ago

Halfway Between London and Brighton

I just get on with what I’m doing and let them come to me if they don’t then I’m happy socialising or dancing x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Say hello and take it from there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you pull in a pub? Or similar place.

My question is quite genuine, I really don't know how to.

"

i bloody manage to pull in my local supermarket lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you pull in a pub? Or similar place.

My question is quite genuine, I really don't know how to.

i bloody manage to pull in my local supermarket lol"
do u do the galaxy bar in front of trolley thing lol

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.


"How do you pull in a pub? Or similar place.

My question is quite genuine, I really don't know how to.

"

You just go up to them and initiate a conversation, simples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I talk to anyone and everyone on a night out, so I'd not be worried about chatting to someone I found attractive. I don't go out to pull though, so I've never asked anyone for their number.

I assume they would be after sex that night anyway, which isn't what I would want.

Best way is to have a chat and find out if they're single.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you looking for sex or a potential boyfriend?

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I find taking off my engagement ring before I go out helps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you pull in a pub? Or similar place.

My question is quite genuine, I really don't know how to.

i bloody manage to pull in my local supermarket loldo u do the galaxy bar in front of trolley thing lol"

nah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just stand there for a woman isn't it? "

Pretty much, yes.

If I want to be a little more proactive I actually let the guy I like see I’m looking and give him a smile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find taking off my engagement ring before I go out helps."

I never take my wedding ring off. Never seems to put anyone off chatting me up.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Are you looking for sex or a potential boyfriend?"
Good question: Sex!

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

My wife simply sits at a table in her own , and before long she is approached and it goes from there .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Best way is to have a chat and find out if they're single. "

Makes sense.

Step two, eliminate all those still living with their mum!

Sometimes I think single men over 35 who still live at home should be banned from going out at all! It's like false advertising, isn't it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're good at it, dancing is the best way... An indication of how you would be, at other things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think eye contact is good and always get noticed if dressed sexy and classy .men don't like women who look pissed .so no nice men with pull someone who looks pissed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Best way is to have a chat and find out if they're single.

Makes sense.

Step two, eliminate all those still living with their mum!

Sometimes I think single men over 35 who still live at home should be banned from going out at all! It's like false advertising, isn't it?"

Why living with their mom should be banned? They could be a personal caretaker for their parent...they can still have some fun don't you think?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think eye contact is good and always get noticed if dressed sexy and classy .men don't like women who look pissed .so no nice men with pull someone who looks pissed. "

Only if you show ur face, I can make eye contact

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're me ... you don't!!!!

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Best way is to have a chat and find out if they're single.

Makes sense.

Step two, eliminate all those still living with their mum!

Sometimes I think single men over 35 who still live at home should be banned from going out at all! It's like false advertising, isn't it?

Why living with their mom should be banned? They could be a personal caretaker for their parent...they can still have some fun don't you think? "

I live with my mum for this reason

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find running my finger down their arm from their shoulder sometimes helps

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

Lick your lips,wink, run your finger through your hair, shake your head, suck your finger, while running one hand over your breast which you need to expose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Best way is to have a chat and find out if they're single.

Makes sense.

Step two, eliminate all those still living with their mum!

Sometimes I think single men over 35 who still live at home should be banned from going out at all! It's like false advertising, isn't it?

Why living with their mom should be banned? They could be a personal caretaker for their parent...they can still have some fun don't you think?

I live with my mum for this reason "

I Respect girl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All about the dancing. First eye contact then dance across obviously just like the scene in the inbetweeners movie. Sure fire way of pulling anybody you want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think eye contact is good and always get noticed if dressed sexy and classy .men don't like women who look pissed .so no nice men with pull someone who looks pissed.

Only if you show ur face, I can make eye contact "

Lol I dont crop my head off in vanilla world

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By *eather_Loves_SexWoman
over a year ago

Halfway Between London and Brighton

I just get on with what I’m doing and let them come to me if they don’t then I’m happy socialising or dancing x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If you're good at it, dancing is the best way... An indication of how you would be, at other things "
I am good at dancing. I am a chatterbox too. My looks are average, so I compensate with everything else!

I think it's about 'landing the deal', if so to say. To figure out if they are available, available tonight, and have the opportunity to go home to their place (or mine).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think eye contact is good and always get noticed if dressed sexy and classy .men don't like women who look pissed .so no nice men with pull someone who looks pissed.

Only if you show ur face, I can make eye contact

Lol I dont crop my head off in vanilla world "

god but its a good idea, cropping some peoples faces out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think eye contact is good and always get noticed if dressed sexy and classy .men don't like women who look pissed .so no nice men with pull someone who looks pissed.

Only if you show ur face, I can make eye contact

Lol I dont crop my head off in vanilla world

god but its a good idea, cropping some peoples faces out "

Lol I think so as well

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"...men don't like women who look pissed .so no nice men with pull someone who looks pissed."

Here I'm quite naive too.

Because when I ask my work colleagues the all seem to have met their significant other when they were 'on the piss'. And I don't drink alcohol. So, I have sometimes thought that worked against me. Out of the assumption that being sober people might not think I am as easy to pull as I really am.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I find running my finger down their arm from their shoulder sometimes helps "
Got it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm invisible on a night out.

The joys of being tall, curvy and over 40.

Never get chatted up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you're good at it, dancing is the best way... An indication of how you would be, at other things "

Oh I like that thought. I’m super energetic on the dance floor. Dancing with everyone. I hadn’t linked the two before but I guess they are closely related after all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you're good at it, dancing is the best way... An indication of how you would be, at other things

Oh I like that thought. I’m super energetic on the dance floor. Dancing with everyone. I hadn’t linked the two before but I guess they are closely related after all. "

The vertical expression of the horizontal desire, as I think someone like Georges Bernard Shaw called it (or some similar phrase)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im a pullee not a puller.

Ive got the whole cute smiley thing going on which makes people chat to me. I think i might be a bit of a charmer, its certainly nothing I do, I tend to dance like a twat.

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By *atsun xxxMan
over a year ago

Nr LOUTH Lincolnshire


"Best way is to have a chat and find out if they're single.

Makes sense.

Step two, eliminate all those still living with their mum!

Sometimes I think single men over 35 who still live at home should be banned from going out at all! It's like false advertising, isn't it?"

What a hurtful quote

Sidesteps your table

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"do u do the galaxy bar in front of trolley thing lol"

Whats the Galaxy bar thing ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are you looking for sex or a potential boyfriend?Good question: Sex!"

That's easy then. Dance provocatively and make eye contact with the men you fancy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"do u do the galaxy bar in front of trolley thing lol

Whats the Galaxy bar thing ? "

I'd like to know this because I sometimes buy them for my son.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I just smile and when they return your smiles, nod to indicate they can join you. Or no knickers when sitting and a short skirt - but don't keep your legs closed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you pull in a pub? Or similar place.

My question is quite genuine, I really don't know how to.

"

Scan room. Identify prey. Walk over, get their attention “Hi” or tap on arm. Eye contact. Hold eye contact, smile, and say “I think I’d very much enjoy having sex with you, are you free, willing and able?” - if yes, sorted. If no, thank them and wish them a lovely evening. Re-scan room.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd like to know this because I sometimes buy them for my son. "

Maybe its similar to the no tights Tesco Tuesdays ! lol Like a secret code for people who want to meet without shouting Anyone wanna shag in the freezer aisle

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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago

Traffic land


"Sometimes i'd spot a man across a nightclub and they would literally shimmy across. Doing the whole arm out thing. That made me laugh. They were in

Those were the days "

I only ever get the ones that dance like The Inbetweeners

https://youtu.be/_1LAhm_nxWk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you pull in a pub? Or similar place.

My question is quite genuine, I really don't know how to.

"

Actually I’d like to know too!

Guys never come over anymore, unless it’s the end of the night and he’s steaming d*unk.. and I don’t want to talk to him then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Scan room. Identify prey. Walk over, get their attention “Hi” or tap on arm. Eye contact. Hold eye contact, smile, and say “I think I’d very much enjoy having sex with you, are you free, willing and able?” - if yes, sorted. If no, thank them and wish them a lovely evening. Re-scan room. "

Just like to say if you do this as a guy remember keep your mouth open for a Gin and Tonic in the face ! If you cant get a meet then at least you get a free drink lol

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By *imited 3EditionCouple
over a year ago

Live in Scotland Play in England


"Sometimes i'd spot a man across a nightclub and they would literally shimmy across. Doing the whole arm out thing. That made me laugh. They were in

Those were the days "

Haha... Reminds me of a right one who was throwing all sorts of shapes on the dance floor

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Scan room. Identify prey. Walk over, get their attention “Hi” or tap on arm. Eye contact. Hold eye contact, smile, and say “I think I’d very much enjoy having sex with you, are you free, willing and able?” - if yes, sorted. If no, thank them and wish them a lovely evening. Re-scan room.

Just like to say if you do this as a guy remember keep your mouth open for a Gin and Tonic in the face ! If you cant get a meet then at least you get a free drink lol "

You have to accept the no graciously. I’d suggest the man who doesn’t would get the swift free drink.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Scan room. Identify prey. Walk over, get their attention “Hi” or tap on arm. Eye contact. Hold eye contact, smile, and say “I think I’d very much enjoy having sex with you, are you free, willing and able?” - if yes, sorted. If no, thank them and wish them a lovely evening. Re-scan room.

Just like to say if you do this as a guy remember keep your mouth open for a Gin and Tonic in the face ! If you cant get a meet then at least you get a free drink lol

You have to accept the no graciously. I’d suggest the man who doesn’t would get the swift free drink. "

Anyway, this was my suggestion to a female

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My fella chucked a bottle at another guy and it hit me lol that's the first night we met now 5 years on we are getting married lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only way is to talk an see if they want a relationship too. Ask quite quick in . Then move on. If a man wants a relationship you’ll know. Not many do .

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York

Personally I'd say it's a lot easier than on here! Whilst I'm no Brad Pitt, I'm not that bad either and women tend to approach me

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

I have never pulled on any night out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Apparently,or so I've heard,it's always best to have an ugly friend in the group so you look better in comparison and are more likely to get pulled.

This seems to work very well for all my friends,they always pull......err.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I'd say it's a lot easier than on here! Whilst I'm no Brad Pitt, I'm not that bad either and women tend to approach me "

Alcohol is your friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh I miss those days of being a youngster

Lugging your entire wardrobe over to your mates house where you'd carefully choose outfits to either match or complement each other. Then the hair and make up.

Going out looking like the bomb (lol right, big hair and tight clothes. Well it was the 80's)

Then walking in, scanning the room for your prey. Get a drink, scan the room make eye contact. Half smile, look away. If he keeps looking then increase the flirtatious looking.

Our cue at that point would be to get up and dance. If a guy is interested he'd dance with you lol.

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own


"Apparently,or so I've heard,it's always best to have an ugly friend in the group so you look better in comparison and are more likely to get pulled.

This seems to work very well for all my friends,they always pull......err. "

I must be the ugly friend!

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By *estless nativeMan
over a year ago

near Glasgow

My mate covers himself in mashed fruit before he goes on the pull.

Thinks he's a smoothie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On a night out, I would say eye contact, smile, dance sexily- tends to work.

Day to day, again catch someone’s eye.... give them a look that says your interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Flash your boobs. Works every time

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By *icky-discoMan
over a year ago

oxford

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By *icky-discoMan
over a year ago

oxford

Fancy a fuck........ can you lay down while I have one works every time

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York


"Personally I'd say it's a lot easier than on here! Whilst I'm no Brad Pitt, I'm not that bad either and women tend to approach me

Alcohol is your friend

"

I'm also quietly confident, well dressed and groomed and can hold a conversation, it helps!

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By *oisisbackCouple
over a year ago

exeter


"Flash your boobs. Works every time "

I aint got no boobs lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Flash your boobs. Works every time

I aint got no boobs lol "

Flash your ass then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think eye contact is good and always get noticed if dressed sexy and classy .men don't like women who look pissed .so no nice men with pull someone who looks pissed.

Only if you show ur face, I can make eye contact

Lol I dont crop my head off in vanilla world

god but its a good idea, cropping some peoples faces out

Lol I think so as well "

Whoops I ment will not pull women who were pissed .missed the not out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Apparently,or so I've heard,it's always best to have an ugly friend in the group so you look better in comparison and are more likely to get pulled.

This seems to work very well for all my friends,they always pull......err.

I must be the ugly friend! "

Snap

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

I'm crap at reading signals. Women, just make it extra obvious for me please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm crap at reading signals. Women, just make it extra obvious for me please "

Why not take the initiative, then there's no need to read signals (initially at least)!

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

Not sure I’ve ever “pulled” on a vanilla night out?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't overcomplicate things,say 'hi',smile,ask if you can tell them a story lol sometimes I even wash my face before going out

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By *riskynriskyCouple
over a year ago

Essex.


"How do you pull in a pub? Or similar place.

My question is quite genuine, I really don't know how to.

i bloody manage to pull in my local supermarket loldo u do the galaxy bar in front of trolley thing lol"

Straight to the home decor isle and grab a Pappas grass in a pot, place at front of trolley...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Apparently,or so I've heard,it's always best to have an ugly friend in the group so you look better in comparison and are more likely to get pulled.

This seems to work very well for all my friends,they always pull......err. "

Theres the theory for a guy approaching the 2nd best looking girl in the group as they are probably sick of seeing guys walk up and just talk to their stunning friend and will welcome someone coming over for her. In my youth it was always at the bar while waiting to be served generally could strike up a conversation, offer to buy their drink and take it from there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh god I used to dance in a few clubs and events, that's how I met my ex is 2001 but literally would just have to walk anywhere. Would have guys all round the bootomnof the podium.

https://youtu.be/k6HnvVQoph8

Little miss Wilkes when she's 23 at tidy weekender, see if you can spot me!

Nowadays I've still got moves! I think dancing may make you look confident and fun and therefore approachable?

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan
over a year ago

Older Hot Bearded Guy


"Oh god I used to dance in a few clubs and events, that's how I met my ex is 2001 but literally would just have to walk anywhere. Would have guys all round the bootomnof the podium.

https://youtu.be/k6HnvVQoph8

Little miss Wilkes when she's 23 at tidy weekender, see if you can spot me!

Nowadays I've still got moves! I think dancing may make you look confident and fun and therefore approachable? "

With the pig-tails?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just go to the pub .. job's a good'un

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh god I used to dance in a few clubs and events, that's how I met my ex is 2001 but literally would just have to walk anywhere. Would have guys all round the bootomnof the podium.

https://youtu.be/k6HnvVQoph8

Little miss Wilkes when she's 23 at tidy weekender, see if you can spot me!

Nowadays I've still got moves! I think dancing may make you look confident and fun and therefore approachable?

With the pig-tails? "

Haha yes, but we all had pig tails!

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York


"Oh god I used to dance in a few clubs and events, that's how I met my ex is 2001 but literally would just have to walk anywhere. Would have guys all round the bootomnof the podium.

https://youtu.be/k6HnvVQoph8

Little miss Wilkes when she's 23 at tidy weekender, see if you can spot me!

Nowadays I've still got moves! I think dancing may make you look confident and fun and therefore approachable? "

I used to love Tidy events! And Goodgreef, Gatecrasher, Cream, Slinky, Promise, Judgement Sundays etc, awesome days those were! Still got all my cyberdog stuff in a cupboard somewhere

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan
over a year ago

Older Hot Bearded Guy


"Oh god I used to dance in a few clubs and events, that's how I met my ex is 2001 but literally would just have to walk anywhere. Would have guys all round the bootomnof the podium.

https://youtu.be/k6HnvVQoph8

Little miss Wilkes when she's 23 at tidy weekender, see if you can spot me!

Nowadays I've still got moves! I think dancing may make you look confident and fun and therefore approachable?

With the pig-tails?

Haha yes, but we all had pig tails!"

Shame there's no close-up of little Miss Wilkes, she looks to have the moves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh god I used to dance in a few clubs and events, that's how I met my ex is 2001 but literally would just have to walk anywhere. Would have guys all round the bootomnof the podium.

https://youtu.be/k6HnvVQoph8

Little miss Wilkes when she's 23 at tidy weekender, see if you can spot me!

Nowadays I've still got moves! I think dancing may make you look confident and fun and therefore approachable?

I used to love Tidy events! And Goodgreef, Gatecrasher, Cream, Slinky, Promise, Judgement Sundays etc, awesome days those were! Still got all my cyberdog stuff in a cupboard somewhere "

Those fluffy boot things I used to wear, oh my god, was good though cos could put them on over trainers!

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By *oisisbackCouple
over a year ago

exeter


"Flash your ass then "

God no way, If I did that it would empty the pub lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh god I used to dance in a few clubs and events, that's how I met my ex is 2001 but literally would just have to walk anywhere. Would have guys all round the bootomnof the podium.

https://youtu.be/k6HnvVQoph8

Little miss Wilkes when she's 23 at tidy weekender, see if you can spot me!

Nowadays I've still got moves! I think dancing may make you look confident and fun and therefore approachable?

I used to love Tidy events! And Goodgreef, Gatecrasher, Cream, Slinky, Promise, Judgement Sundays etc, awesome days those were! Still got all my cyberdog stuff in a cupboard somewhere

Those fluffy boot things I used to wear, oh my god, was good though cos could put them on over trainers! "

... and the flourescent tutu

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York


"Oh god I used to dance in a few clubs and events, that's how I met my ex is 2001 but literally would just have to walk anywhere. Would have guys all round the bootomnof the podium.

https://youtu.be/k6HnvVQoph8

Little miss Wilkes when she's 23 at tidy weekender, see if you can spot me!

Nowadays I've still got moves! I think dancing may make you look confident and fun and therefore approachable?

I used to love Tidy events! And Goodgreef, Gatecrasher, Cream, Slinky, Promise, Judgement Sundays etc, awesome days those were! Still got all my cyberdog stuff in a cupboard somewhere

Those fluffy boot things I used to wear, oh my god, was good though cos could put them on over trainers! "

I used to love seeing girls in those, usually with some tiny hot pants and a cyberdog sports bra type thing, but back in those days I was far too off my chops to be remotely interested in pulling, it would just be 12 hours stomping all over the dancefloor

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont underestimate the effect of a well placed slut drop

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Be there and smile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not being funny or anything but me and friends, other than getting dressed up etc, have to put in zero effort into pulling in a bar/pub/club.

It's been mentioned here earlier but all we have to do it wait at the bar and we get guys coming up to us. So, we don't really have to try. One of the perks of being a woman.

I've been on nights out with single guy friends and see how many times they get rejected, some brush it off but for others it can be a little difficult to get the courage to speak to strangers so I feel for them a little.

If I like a guy/group of guys, I'll just go over and ask to join in their conversation. Have a quick scan if I can see any wedding rings then just start chatting, it's pretty easy.

I don't get all this, I give them a smile from across the bar or meet their eye and look away crap. Just go over and have a chat if you like them.

Not enough women take the first step. Friends have said they feel awkward making the first move but then take the piss out of guys that make the first move

If you like someone, just go over and say hi.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Best way is to have a chat and find out if they're single.

Makes sense.

Step two, eliminate all those still living with their mum!

Sometimes I think single men over 35 who still live at home should be banned from going out at all! It's like false advertising, isn't it?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you pull in a pub? Or similar place.

My question is quite genuine, I really don't know how to.

"
it's been 23 years since I've had to pull in a pub or club Haha!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Apparently,or so I've heard,it's always best to have an ugly friend in the group so you look better in comparison and are more likely to get pulled.

This seems to work very well for all my friends,they always pull......err. "

I guess I’m that ugly friend

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

By not being a wall flower

Enter the room with confidence and all eyes are on you

It’s that simple

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By *ydrewMan
over a year ago

Bakewell

Ive found its easier to pull in pub than it is on here. Think first thing is eye contact. If someones intrested there will be a lot. Then i normally just introduce myself and ask if i can buy them a drink.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go out to see friends spend time with them not looking to cop off

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have never pulled on any night out. "
THANKS Wyldstyle, I feel less alone in my frustration now! If you know what I mean!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Scan room. Identify prey. Walk over, get their attention “Hi” or tap on arm. Eye contact. Hold eye contact, smile, and say “I think I’d very much enjoy having sex with you, are you free, willing and able?” - if yes, sorted. If no, thank them and wish them a lovely evening. Re-scan room. "

Aaaahah, this approach sounds so, so appealing to me! I might very well just try this out next weekend!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The thing about a night out is, you can watch someone move and articulate, and listen to how they speak, before making your move.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If I like a guy/group of guys, I'll just go over and ask to join in their conversation. Have a quick scan if I can see any wedding rings then just start chatting, it's pretty easy.

I don't get all this, I give them a smile from across the bar or meet their eye and look away crap. Just go over and have a chat if you like them.

Not enough women take the first step (...) If you like someone, just go over and say hi. "

And this too, I hear what you say guys!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

SO many good pieces of advice in this thread, thank you all!

Shame on me if I don't succeed on my next night out!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not being funny or anything but me and friends, other than getting dressed up etc, have to put in zero effort into pulling in a bar/pub/club.

It's been mentioned here earlier but all we have to do it wait at the bar and we get guys coming up to us. So, we don't really have to try. One of the perks of being a woman.

I've been on nights out with single guy friends and see how many times they get rejected, some brush it off but for others it can be a little difficult to get the courage to speak to strangers so I feel for them a little.

If I like a guy/group of guys, I'll just go over and ask to join in their conversation. Have a quick scan if I can see any wedding rings then just start chatting, it's pretty easy.

I don't get all this, I give them a smile from across the bar or meet their eye and look away crap. Just go over and have a chat if you like them.

Not enough women take the first step. Friends have said they feel awkward making the first move but then take the piss out of guys that make the first move

If you like someone, just go over and say hi. "

I wonder who would get more attention in a pub. A 28 year old athletic woman or a 46 year old ample woman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not being funny or anything but me and friends, other than getting dressed up etc, have to put in zero effort into pulling in a bar/pub/club.

It's been mentioned here earlier but all we have to do it wait at the bar and we get guys coming up to us. So, we don't really have to try. One of the perks of being a woman.

I've been on nights out with single guy friends and see how many times they get rejected, some brush it off but for others it can be a little difficult to get the courage to speak to strangers so I feel for them a little.

If I like a guy/group of guys, I'll just go over and ask to join in their conversation. Have a quick scan if I can see any wedding rings then just start chatting, it's pretty easy.

I don't get all this, I give them a smile from across the bar or meet their eye and look away crap. Just go over and have a chat if you like them.

Not enough women take the first step. Friends have said they feel awkward making the first move but then take the piss out of guys that make the first move

If you like someone, just go over and say hi.

I wonder who would get more attention in a pub. A 28 year old athletic woman or a 46 year old ample woman. "

Depends on the clientele of the pub.

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By *lmostthereMan
over a year ago

Southampton

I have no idea. Useless at pulling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not being funny or anything but me and friends, other than getting dressed up etc, have to put in zero effort into pulling in a bar/pub/club.

It's been mentioned here earlier but all we have to do it wait at the bar and we get guys coming up to us. So, we don't really have to try. One of the perks of being a woman.

I've been on nights out with single guy friends and see how many times they get rejected, some brush it off but for others it can be a little difficult to get the courage to speak to strangers so I feel for them a little.

If I like a guy/group of guys, I'll just go over and ask to join in their conversation. Have a quick scan if I can see any wedding rings then just start chatting, it's pretty easy.

I don't get all this, I give them a smile from across the bar or meet their eye and look away crap. Just go over and have a chat if you like them.

Not enough women take the first step. Friends have said they feel awkward making the first move but then take the piss out of guys that make the first move

If you like someone, just go over and say hi.

I wonder who would get more attention in a pub. A 28 year old athletic woman or a 46 year old ample woman.

Depends on the clientele of the pub."

Fair point.

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By *illy_WxmMan
over a year ago

wrexham

Feel free to send me a message if you’d like to chat sometime as I’m local to you

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Feel free to send me a message if you’d like to chat sometime as I’m local to you "

Who is this message directed to?

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham


"I'm crap at reading signals. Women, just make it extra obvious for me please

Why not take the initiative, then there's no need to read signals (initially at least)! "

Oh yeah, I've got no choice but too! Others have said women need to give eye contact, smile etc, I wouldn't notice that as flirting, so I have to do the approaching.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was out with work colleagues and the older ladies such as myself got chatted up more than the younger .I think dressed nice and look confident goes along way on pulling on a night out .

Great chat up line I say and this breaks the ice as i get a laugh.i whisper in his ear hi how ya hangin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The last guy I pulled on a night out was not long after my 31st birthday in 2014 (fuck that how long ago I went out!!) I saw him out with a few guys then saw him getting served at the busy bar and asked if to get me a strawberry&slime kopperberg if I gave him the money. He said give me your number and I'll buy it for you so he did and I did.

Asked him to come outside to the seated smoking area and sat on his lap cos the bench was cold, wiggles my bum into his groin to feel for some potential and had a bit of a snog and met him the following Thursday and fucked him. He's asked if I knew anyone that wanted to buy any chuihaha (can't spell) puppies as his mums dog just had some. He left the Friday morning and I messaged him saying my friend would come and view them, (wanted an excuse to see him again)we went down, she had a look and said if her boyfriend would let her have one she'd buy it.

He messaged me again that night and we dated for about 5 months till he went away with work. I shagged him again last year cos I was at a loose end!

Went off on a tangent there didn't I.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Slime? Lime I meant!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I saw him out with a few guys then saw him getting served at the busy bar and asked if to get me a strawberry&slime kopperberg if I gave him the money. He said give me your number and I'll buy it for you so he did and I did.

Asked him to come outside to the seated smoking area and sat on his lap cos the bench was cold, wiggles my bum into his groin to feel for some potential and had a bit of a snog and met him the following Thursday and fucked him. "

I love this!

I'm defo gonna find someone to sit on soon on a night out, sounds like a very good start!

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