FabSwingers.com forum: kissing: make or break!

By *exy-licker OP Man
over a year ago

wolverhampton

so i'm in a bit of a predicament, i've been dating a girl for a few weeks now and i really like her, i'm close to coming off here to get in a relationship with her but there's one problem, she's not a great kisser and kissing is very important to me

so my question is... how do i tel a girl that her kissing isn't good? or do i just buck up because everything else is so good?

i don't want to hurt her feelings in any way but id like it to improve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any relationship should start out with good communication, so talk to her. If you can't do it for something as simple as kissing, then how do you discuss more important things later down the line?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"so i'm in a bit of a predicament, i've been dating a girl for a few weeks now and i really like her, i'm close to coming off here to get in a relationship with her but there's one problem, she's not a great kisser and kissing is very important to me

so my question is... how do i tel a girl that her kissing isn't good? or do i just buck up because everything else is so good?

i don't want to hurt her feelings in any way but id like it to improve "

How is her kissing not good?

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By *exy-licker OP Man
over a year ago

wolverhampton

"Any relationship should start out with good communication, so talk to her. If you can't do it for something as simple as kissing, then how do you discuss more important things later down the line?"

i totally agree but i've never had this problem before so i'm a bit unsure

i know i need to do something i just want some advice on how to go about it without hurting her feelings

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By *exy-licker OP Man
over a year ago

wolverhampton

so my question is... how do i tel a girl that her kissing isn't good? or do i just buck up because everything else is so good?

i don't want to hurt her feelings in any way but id like it to improve

How is her kissing not good?"

it's kind of hard to explain but it's like she leaves her tongue out too much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Any relationship should start out with good communication, so talk to her. If you can't do it for something as simple as kissing, then how do you discuss more important things later down the line?"

Wise words.

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

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I’ve had boyfriends who I didn’t like the way they kissed to start off with. I managed to subtly coach them til I got the desired technique. Wouldn’t dream of telling anyone they were rubbish at anything. It’s personal taste after all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd just talk to her. Id hope if I was naff or just not doing something the way someone liked that they would tell me... although if it was something that didnt work for me I'd have to consider my options.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try a different way of kissing, see if she picks up on it and follows.

I.e., if you kiss fast and hard, maybe she can't keep up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Communication is the key

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By *exy-licker OP Man
over a year ago

wolverhampton

"I’ve had boyfriends who I didn’t like the way they kissed to start off with. I managed to subtly coach them til I got the desired technique. Wouldn’t dream of telling anyone they were rubbish at anything. It’s personal taste after all. "

i've been trying to subtly coach her but nothing's changed yet, shal i just be more persistent?

yeah i'd be gutted if anyone said anything like that to me, that's why i havnt said anything lol

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

There are ways and there are ways of telling someone something like that though OP - if you go in telling her her kissing is "rubbish" then of course it's going to be upsetting, but if you sensitively explain to her how you prefer to be kissed then it's different.

Thinking about it another way, perhaps she thinks the way you kiss is not to her liking- so the only way to change it is to discuss it

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By *exy-licker OP Man
over a year ago

wolverhampton

"There are ways and there are ways of telling someone something like that though OP - if you go in telling her her kissing is "rubbish" then of course it's going to be upsetting, but if you sensitively explain to her how you prefer to be kissed then it's different.

Thinking about it another way, perhaps she thinks the way you kiss is not to her liking- so the only way to change it is to discuss it

thanks, i've never thought about it that way

be nice to hear off people who have gone through this and what they did

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

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Suggest that you experiment with doing some things differently, one of which is kissing, so it's less singled out if you think you can't discuss it.

Try the things so that you have to be guided by the partner in how you do it - and the recipient feedbacks how it is for them. The guide could even demonstrate first just what the other can subsequently try out.

She may not rate your kissing or other behavior, so it's for you both to suggest what you will experiment doing differently.

Once you are both in the swing of giving feedback and coaching to your partner, it can become a regular thing. Your habits can be reformulated into those that work for the other.

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By *exy-licker OP Man
over a year ago

wolverhampton

"Suggest that you experiment with doing some things differently, one of which is kissing, so it's less singled out if you think you can't discuss it.

thankyou that's actually a really good idea

i'm a lot more experienced than her sexually so i suppose i can bundle it together with a few other things i want her to try with me

She may not rate your kissing or other behavior, so it's for you both to suggest what you will experiment doing differently.

Once you are both in the swing of giving feedback and coaching to your partner, it can become a regular thing. Your habits can be reformulated into those that work for the other. "

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