FabSwingers.com forum: Why am I surprised?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Everytime I realise that a man is bullshitting me on here

But every time I am!

Is it just me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are having the same problem with couples

I'm always left surprised and wondering why we bother being honest.

Think we'll just attend socials for now

Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just start by assuming someone is lying. Occasionally I'm pleasantly surprised.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always assume everyone is an asshole until they prove otherwise.

That way you are either right or presently surprised

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its what the block button is for

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We are having the same problem with couples

I'm always left surprised and wondering why we bother being honest.

Think we'll just attend socials for now

Mrs x"

As a couple at least you've got each other

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I just start by assuming someone is lying. Occasionally I'm pleasantly surprised. "

Ha yes - I think that's the way forward

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Always assume everyone is an asshole until they prove otherwise.

That way you are either right or presently surprised"

Seems to be the only way on here - but for some reason today I feel sad about it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Its what the block button is for"

True x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Always assume everyone is an asshole until they prove otherwise.

That way you are either right or presently surprised

Seems to be the only way on here - but for some reason today I feel sad about it

Hugs xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are having the same problem with couples

I'm always left surprised and wondering why we bother being honest.

Think we'll just attend socials for now

Mrs x

As a couple at least you've got each other

Exactly

we're just more suspicious of everyone now

Mrs x

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

It's the fastest way for me to cut someone off. Hate it. I tell people from the get go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Everytime I realise that a man is bullshitting me on here

But every time I am!

Is it just me?

Nope it’s not just you, the ones I think are genuine then you find out it’s all bullshit. Stupid me

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By *ancduoCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

As a couple we hetvlots of messages. But when I look on other sites to play alone (Mrs trying but we both play separately) I’ve had over 60 ghosts, drop outs and cancellations this year. 3 times more than meets.

It knocks my confidence a little more each time but I don’t give up. I’ve met some amazing guys so I’ll keep trying.

Just don’t give up.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That's exactly it!

I feel stupid.

It's not a good feeling

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By *a Fee VerteWoman
over a year ago

Limbo

"Everytime I realise that a man is bullshitting me on here

But every time I am!

Is it just me?

In a funny kind of roundabout way your surprise does you credit because it shows you like to think the best of people and/or hope that they're going to treat you with the same consideration and honesty you show them. So of course when that turns out not to be the case you're going to feel sad ... at your judgement being out, at your time being wasted, at being taken for a fool

I'm afraid I'm quite cynical on here. It takes a lot for someone to convince me they're genuinely interested and I stay rather guarded until they do. I don't like being suspicious and appreciate that might be insulting to genuine people so it's a fine line to tread. Ultimately though you do have to try and protect yourself from the BS

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hope in the human race to be decent and true is a dangerous thing to have

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By *ancduoCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

"That's exactly it!

I feel stupid.

It's not a good feeling

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i know it’s not. I feel stupid. It hurts doesn’t it. It’s meant to be fun. But it still hurts. You will get over it and move on to the next.

Just remember there are real guys out there. It’s just finding them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Always assume everyone is an asshole until they prove otherwise.

That way you are either right or presently surprised"

Definetly agree with this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its what the block button is for

True x"

I love sexy older woman. Inbox me? Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you lap it up they will keep doing it.

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"Always assume everyone is an asshole until they prove otherwise.

That way you are either right or presently surprised

Seems to be the only way on here - but for some reason today I feel sad about it

Don’t feel sad because of the knobs, there are some truly lovely ppl on here too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There must be some real fucking expert charmers on here messing you lovely ladies and couples about.

Just to be at the point of a possible meet remains a dream for me despite being a gent with all communication.

Unless it’s just me !

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By *itmanAndHerrCouple
over a year ago

st helens

Is this a guy you've known for some time? Can i ask what they lied about?

I honestly can't imagine being that emotionally involved with someone on here to the point of being upset when discovering they're telling porkies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've said this numerous times, but i just don't understand men.

They're great as friends - but romantically/sexually, i find them hard going.

Out of the sexes i thought men were supposed to be the more straight forward, least game playing types. But no. Some (not all!!) can give some (not all!!) women a run for their money.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"I've said this numerous times, but i just don't understand men.

They're great as friends - but romantically/sexually, i find them hard going.

Out of the sexes i thought men were supposed to be the more straight forward, least game playing types. But no. Some (not all!!) can give some (not all!!) women a run for their money.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hope in the human race to be decent and true is a dangerous thing to have"

But to give up hope is to let them win.

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By *heeky_subCouple
over a year ago

northampton

Tell me about it, it's a shit.

There are some nice people out there, hope you find one.

I've decided to not look any more, I have been messed about something chronic. I've made lovely friends here though.xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hope in the human race to be decent and true is a dangerous thing to have

But to give up hope is to let them win.

And that, is the toughest battle to fight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just start by assuming someone is lying. Occasionally I'm pleasantly surprised. "

Exactly this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is this a guy you've known for some time? Can i ask what they lied about?

I honestly can't imagine being that emotionally involved with someone on here to the point of being upset when discovering they're telling porkies."

That's you. There are some people on here that to enjoy their way of having sex, requires a lot of trust. It can feel quite bad when that trust was misplaced or you feel duped.

Myself, like you might be able to shake it off (I've been taught a lesson or two on here) but I do get why people get pissed off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Always assume everyone is an asshole until they prove otherwise.

That way you are either right or presently surprised"

No. I'd rather be an optimist. If that means being disappointed every now and then, I'll take that as a price for how I choose to live my life.

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By *evensnipeMan
over a year ago

Byfield

Hope! That is why you keep being surprised!

As John Cleese said in the film Clockwise- "Hope is the inability to accept defeat!"

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By *itmanAndHerrCouple
over a year ago

st helens

"Is this a guy you've known for some time? Can i ask what they lied about?

I honestly can't imagine being that emotionally involved with someone on here to the point of being upset when discovering they're telling porkies.

That's you. There are some people on here that to enjoy their way of having sex, requires a lot of trust. It can feel quite bad when that trust was misplaced or you feel duped.

Myself, like you might be able to shake it off (I've been taught a lesson or two on here) but I do get why people get pissed off. "

Yes i get that. We're all different and we're only human. The emotional fine line between NSA and getting to know someone. Made all that more difficult by being single and open to a relationship.

I was just curious as to whether this is a developed friendship/relationship or just a profile the lady has been chatting to.

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By *laytimetwoCouple
over a year ago

Staines

Know how you feel OP, even as a couple it dose knock you a bit, we just smile and carry on, all the best. X

Steve just said, bearing in mind your user name. He would never bullshit you, but he would be more than happy to turn up and sweep your chimney. Lol X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hope! That is why you keep being surprised!

As John Cleese said in the film Clockwise- "Hope is the inability to accept defeat!" "

No. It's refusing to accept defeat. There's a difference.

"Faith, hope and love. And the greatest of these is love"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Everytime I realise that a man is bullshitting me on here

But every time I am!

Is it just me?

It's because you're deep in the hope they're being honest.

I'm afraid I'm extremely cynical but neither believe or disbelieve in what they say until time sways me one way or another.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Always assume everyone is an asshole until they prove otherwise.

That way you are either right or presently surprised

Seems to be the only way on here - but for some reason today I feel sad about it

Hormones?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hope! That is why you keep being surprised!

As John Cleese said in the film Clockwise- "Hope is the inability to accept defeat!" "

I have been taught not to give people hope but not to squash hope if someone has it (palliative care - teachings change over the years).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My philosophy is to hope for the best but prepare for the worst.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is this a guy you've known for some time? Can i ask what they lied about?

I honestly can't imagine being that emotionally involved with someone on here to the point of being upset when discovering they're telling porkies.

That's you. There are some people on here that to enjoy their way of having sex, requires a lot of trust. It can feel quite bad when that trust was misplaced or you feel duped.

Myself, like you might be able to shake it off (I've been taught a lesson or two on here) but I do get why people get pissed off.

Yes i get that. We're all different and we're only human. The emotional fine line between NSA and getting to know someone. Made all that more difficult by being single and open to a relationship.

I was just curious as to whether this is a developed friendship/relationship or just a profile the lady has been chatting to. "

I imagine the sadness is the result of continuous dealing with bs rather than a personal interaction.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I imagine the sadness is the result of continuous dealing with bs rather than a personal interaction."

Exactly this!

I'm really hormonal at the moment and forgot what website this was for a moment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel for you but each time I see this type of thread I see my chances of a meet gallop further over the hills, no matter how many times I retort with not all of us do or are like that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im pretty jaded now. I just presume everyone is bullshitting me now..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im pretty jaded now. I just presume everyone is bullshitting me now.."

And when it turns out they are talking bollocks I go ha! Knew it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Everytime I realise that a man is bullshitting me on here

But every time I am!

Is it just me?

My apologies on behalf of the ungrateful, ill mannered members of my sex, we are not all like that. I wish you well and support all the comments - keep going, use the block button and when you find that polite one that does turn up, tell us all about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im pretty jaded now. I just presume everyone is bullshitting me now..

And when it turns out they are talking bollocks I go ha! Knew it.

Exactly!

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

"Im pretty jaded now. I just presume everyone is bullshitting me now..

And when it turns out they are talking bollocks I go ha! Knew it.

Exactly!

It's sad reading through this post..

Good luck to all for finding someone who doesn't bullshit.

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