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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Does anyone else have trouble making or keeping Friendships. Do people get to a certain age and they become isolated, alone and unfriendable?

Currently I have none, in any walk of life. I have colleagues and acquaintances but that's it.

I suffered a near fatal accident a few years back and was left alone during my recovery. No friends at the time called or visited or even sent a text. Safe to say they are no longer in my life, but since then I've been isolated and unable to make new friends.

Surely it cant just be me, can It?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This sounds awful OP, sorry to hear this.

Do you have activities? I’ve made friends through the group Socials on here, dancing salsa and Ceroc and parkrun on a Saturday morning. Surprisingly I’ve found an amazing friend on here I’d say he’s my best friend, it’s taken a while and lots of communication, it was just pure luck though

I hope you make some friends op.

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By *icky-discoMan
over a year ago

oxford


"Does anyone else have trouble making or keeping Friendships. Do people get to a certain age and they become isolated, alone and unfriendable?

Currently I have none, in any walk of life. I have colleagues and acquaintances but that's it.

I suffered a near fatal accident a few years back and was left alone during my recovery. No friends at the time called or visited or even sent a text. Safe to say they are no longer in my life, but since then I've been isolated and unable to make new friends.

Surely it cant just be me, can It?"

Mate you sound like you’re having a shit time at the moment maybe look up some local counselling services after the last 2 threads you’ve started don’t feel lonely mate get it sorted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone else have trouble making or keeping Friendships. Do people get to a certain age and they become isolated, alone and unfriendable?

Currently I have none, in any walk of life. I have colleagues and acquaintances but that's it.

I suffered a near fatal accident a few years back and was left alone during my recovery. No friends at the time called or visited or even sent a text. Safe to say they are no longer in my life, but since then I've been isolated and unable to make new friends.

Surely it cant just be me, can It?

Mate you sound like you’re having a shit time at the moment maybe look up some local counselling services after the last 2 threads you’ve started don’t feel lonely mate get it sorted "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have few friends and I am pretty much anti social

I hate parties and organised gatherings. I dislike attention being placed on me. I am much better 1 on 1 or in small groups.

Any more than that and I start to feel overwhelmed.

I don't have issues meeting people but I don't want them close to me long term

It does become isolating at times, but as I understand it is largely of my own making, I don't make a big deal of it.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Friends are very important, we are supposed to accrue them through our lives, not lose them.

I meet few people that I want to befriend nowadays, I get you there, but luckily I have made one or two recently who I love and who love me back, and who I know will be my friend the rest of my life. I value them extremely highly and give them my unswerving loyalty.

It's also good to reconnect with old friends eg. from college days. I have done that with one or two recently and it feels like no time has elapsed when I am with them, that is very precious too.

Treasure your true friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have never been one who needs loads of friends . I have a best friend who is my soul mate and a group of women who I like and are fun but that's all I need really x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have two friends.

I'm a loner, shy, socially awkward and introverted. Social gaeity is not my thing. I also am not a people person, i find most folk have greater potential to be a bellend and a drama queen than a comfort and support in a crises. - but that's me, it's not for everyone.

You don't have to have lots of friends in life, but if you feel you are missing out on fun, feel lonely or isolated, then get checking out some of those apps that let you know whats on in your area and go along and see what happens.

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By *icky-discoMan
over a year ago

oxford


"Friends are very important, we are supposed to accrue them through our lives, not lose them.

I meet few people that I want to befriend nowadays, I get you there, but luckily I have made one or two recently who I love and who love me back, and who I know will be my friend the rest of my life. I value them extremely highly and give them my unswerving loyalty.

It's also good to reconnect with old friends eg. from college days. I have done that with one or two recently and it feels like no time has elapsed when I am with them, that is very precious too.

Treasure your true friends. "

I can count on 1 hand my true friends and I treasure them they would do anything for me and likewise me for them. This was proved in the last 2 years as I had some awful stuff going on and they would text phone whatever just for a chat that’s what proper friends are all about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t have any apart from ads, I have a couple of people at work I chat too but they aren’t friends.

I moved a year and a half ago miles and miles away and I left all my friends, so many people came to my leaving party and I felt loved, since then I speak to a handful of them and up until now it’s always been me messaging first and at Christmas I thought I’d let them message me. Nothing and then Boxing Day I messaged to say merrry Christmas and nothing back, even my maid of honour I text on Christmas Day (normally Facebook messenger) no response, Boxing Day night comes and she text back ‘merry Christmas????’ She didn’t even have my number, I text back it was me and nothing back.

So I’m kinda accepting that this is me from now on, even my hen do I invited tons of girls from work (as I thought if I invited quite a few hopefully I’d get a couple) not one single person, the only people going are Ads family, not my families thing and apparently two of my old friends are coming but considering neither have made the effort to come over to see me despite me going there every other week we will see.

Geeky x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a bit of a shitty year with a group of women I thought were my friends, apparently I was wrong. Fortunately I have a few different circles of friends and when we've had a few bumps in the road to deal with the ones who I can really rely on have become clear.

I personally think there's no sense in staying friends with people who are the source of negativity and stress and would much rather a few great friends. It's inevitable that as you go through different stages of life and interests change you drift from some people and there's nothing wrong with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have few friends and I am pretty much anti social

I hate parties and organised gatherings. I dislike attention being placed on me. I am much better 1 on 1 or in small groups.

Any more than that and I start to feel overwhelmed.

I don't have issues meeting people but I don't want them close to me long term

It does become isolating at times, but as I understand it is largely of my own making, I don't make a big deal of it."

Thats exactly how i am. Im happy as i am but others have a different approach to life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have one wonderful friend though, my hubby.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have two friends.

I'm a loner, shy, socially awkward and introverted. Social gaeity is not my thing. I also am not a people person, i find most folk have greater potential to be a bellend and a drama queen than a comfort and support in a crises. - but that's me, it's not for everyone.

You don't have to have lots of friends in life, but if you feel you are missing out on fun, feel lonely or isolated, then get checking out some of those apps that let you know whats on in your area and go along and see what happens.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi OP, I’m sorry to read that things are not as you had hoped. Friendships, relationships and interactions with others takes effort and are leaps of faith because we can never place conditions or expectations on them as they’re a gift we give and receive. If you purposefully and actively give but don’t expect back, you might find you manage expectations (yours) and when (not if, when) you strike upon someone who reciprocatea it will be all the more a delight. Friendships for reason, season or lifetime find us in the oddest of ways. Have faith and keep on being the friend to others that you’d like to find for you.

Hugs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi OP, I’m sorry to read that things are not as you had hoped. Friendships, relationships and interactions with others takes effort and are leaps of faith because we can never place conditions or expectations on them as they’re a gift we give and receive. If you purposefully and actively give but don’t expect back, you might find you manage expectations (yours) and when (not if, when) you strike upon someone who reciprocatea it will be all the more a delight. Friendships for reason, season or lifetime find us in the oddest of ways. Have faith and keep on being the friend to others that you’d like to find for you.

Hugs."

reciprocates*

Excuse all the typos!!

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By *rank n BettyCouple
over a year ago

Not meeting


"Does anyone else have trouble making or keeping Friendships. Do people get to a certain age and they become isolated, alone and unfriendable?

Currently I have none, in any walk of life. I have colleagues and acquaintances but that's it.

I suffered a near fatal accident a few years back and was left alone during my recovery. No friends at the time called or visited or even sent a text. Safe to say they are no longer in my life, but since then I've been isolated and unable to make new friends.

Surely it cant just be me, can It?"

This happened to Frank last summer when he was diagnosed with cancer. You really do find out who cares & who doesn’t. I have 2 really good friends who are more like sisters really. Quality over quantity always. We don’t see much of each other but they are always there. Not sure if that’s a girl thing though?

B x

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By *rank n BettyCouple
over a year ago

Not meeting


"Does anyone else have trouble making or keeping Friendships. Do people get to a certain age and they become isolated, alone and unfriendable?

Currently I have none, in any walk of life. I have colleagues and acquaintances but that's it.

I suffered a near fatal accident a few years back and was left alone during my recovery. No friends at the time called or visited or even sent a text. Safe to say they are no longer in my life, but since then I've been isolated and unable to make new friends.

Surely it cant just be me, can It?"

This happened to Frank last summer when he was diagnosed with cancer. You really do find out who cares & who doesn’t. I have 2 really good friends who are more like sisters really. Quality over quantity always. We don’t see much of each other but they are always there. Not sure if that’s a girl thing though?

B x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have friends with social anxiety and they struggle to make new friends.

Try taking some valerian root. It's a herbal remedy. You may then find youll have confidence.

Personally I don't have trouble cause I'm very confident and generally take the piss out of myself when I first meet people. They tend to think you're alright if you do that

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Due to the nature of my work I have never had close friends, I have no trouble getting to know people and am pretty much always liked wherever I work but when I move on never keep in contact that has how it has always been. Mrs says I am comfortable in my own company which she assures me is a compliment lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your not alone chap. I dont have any real friends to speak of. Fake friends yes. Im also an introvert. My dog is my best friend and hes good company.

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