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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hey - so this is more of a personal matter than a fab. But I'm sure there is enough people on here who can help me.

I have a friend from the US. She has visited me in the UK three times this year, ice visited her once and will again. She like traveling. And I am happy to house her while she visits. She sometimes goes on dates and stuff. But we are really good friends.

People always assume we are a couple because we get along sowell but we are not. However she feels the need to continuously state that we aren't a couple. At first it was like. Yeh I know right. But I always catch her glancing my way, she's always laughing at my jokes and impressions. And as of late there has been a little more touch *her resting her hand on my arm or shoulder*. She still states that I'm like a brother to get. But some people have pointed out that it's a bit weird she keeps coming to hang out. And I never really noticed but she has also kept nearly all out photos and funny videos on her phone yet I always delete mine after a while.

Am I wrong to possibly assume she likes me more than a friend?

I'm not fussed if not. But it's just really confusing and hopefully someone can shed a little light on the info I have given.

What I don't wanna do is ask and fuck up our friendship and make things akward.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I also apologise for grammical and spelling errors ... stupid phone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have delved into such deep friend zone even, it's called the 'gay best friend' zone. You my sir are the perfect example of what every man should avoid

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Honestly. That's a relief!! She's a great gal but I only see her as a friend. I just didn't wanna bring it up and ruin our friendship.

Long distance dating is a no go for me. That and I have commit.ent issues so I prefer to be the GBF other than anything else.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

She sounds like a right hottie, send her my way

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By *oncupiscentTonyMan
over a year ago

Kent


"And as of late there has been a little more touch *her resting her hand on my arm or shoulder*. She still states that I'm like a brother to get."

Not a Mormon is she?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My best friend was a guy. We were best friends for 8 years and lots of people assumed we were a couple but there was never any romantic notions on both our parts. I did hug him the same way I would with my female friends but never in a touchy feely way. It's maybe that's just comfortable with you and you don't see each other often that she wants to be close. As for her phone I wouldn't read too much into that.. ..i never delete anything from my phone. I personally would just carry on as normal and appreciate having such a good friend x

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By *ophieLouiseTV/TS
over a year ago

yorks


"And as of late there has been a little more touch *her resting her hand on my arm or shoulder*. She still states that I'm like a brother to get.

Not a Mormon is she? "

Haha!! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't say anything and enjoy your friendship. Friends last longer than relationships.

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By *DONToBEoNOSEYoMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

You may come home from work one day when she’s over staying at yours.

You open then front door to see “leroy” balls deep in her.

How would you feel?

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

To be honest OP the answer lies initially with yourself - do you have feelings for this lady in that way? Or do you truly see her as just a friend yourself?

If it's the latter, then carry on as you are and say nothing.

If however as I suspect you have feelings for her and that is what is causing the confusion in your head, then the only way to truly know is to talk to her about it - know you don't want to do that for fear of spoiling a friendship, but approached carefully and sensitively there are two possible answers: she tells you she feels the same way and you can take things from there, she tells you she doesn't feel that way, and if she values your friendship enough will not think any more of it and you can move on as friends. Either way at least you'll know.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have pics on my phone from 2013, so definately don't take that as a sign. Some folk are more sentimental (or lazy!)

Just do as you've been doing and enjoy the friendship.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"To be honest OP the answer lies initially with yourself - do you have feelings for this lady in that way? Or do you truly see her as just a friend yourself?

If it's the latter, then carry on as you are and say nothing.

If however as I suspect you have feelings for her and that is what is causing the confusion in your head, then the only way to truly know is to talk to her about it - know you don't want to do that for fear of spoiling a friendship, but approached carefully and sensitively there are two possible answers: she tells you she feels the same way and you can take things from there, she tells you she doesn't feel that way, and if she values your friendship enough will not think any more of it and you can move on as friends. Either way at least you'll know.

Good luck "

In all honestly. There was a little wobble I suppose. Due to this girl I was seeing bro g He'll is and she sorta put it in a convincing way that my friend liked me more than a friend. I guess ... looking at it. She would be a perfect girlfriend. But then the more I thought about it I just thought it would never work. I am content with where we are and that's that. Just needed to address the few small things which this girl I was seeing had mentioned.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey - so this is more of a personal matter than a fab. But I'm sure there is enough people on here who can help me.

I have a friend from the US. She has visited me in the UK three times this year, ice visited her once and will again. She like traveling. And I am happy to house her while she visits. She sometimes goes on dates and stuff. But we are really good friends.

People always assume we are a couple because we get along sowell but we are not. However she feels the need to continuously state that we aren't a couple. At first it was like. Yeh I know right. But I always catch her glancing my way, she's always laughing at my jokes and impressions. And as of late there has been a little more touch *her resting her hand on my arm or shoulder*. She still states that I'm like a brother to get. But some people have pointed out that it's a bit weird she keeps coming to hang out. And I never really noticed but she has also kept nearly all out photos and funny videos on her phone yet I always delete mine after a while.

Am I wrong to possibly assume she likes me more than a friend?

I'm not fussed if not. But it's just really confusing and hopefully someone can shed a little light on the info I have given.

What I don't wanna do is ask and fuck up our friendship and make things akward. "

Only you know this answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every time my phone memory card gets full, I buy another card with double the capacity and transfer it all across. It is memories of good times, sometimes bad times, but all taken in the moment. Handy for when my fragile humam memory gives up.

Don't read anything into it.

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