FabSwingers.com forum: Void of any kind of intimacy...

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

....and the implications that go with that. What do you know about this? Have you been for long stretches of time without any human touch let alone sex or a hug? If yes how did it make you feel?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a small child so I never go without hugs.

I do miss intimacy with a guy though. Single 8 years now and winter always seems to make me want a boyfriend.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"....and the implications that go with that. What do you know about this? Have you been for long stretches of time without any human touch let alone sex or a hug? If yes how did it make you feel? "

Yes I have, and it sucks, I am very affectionate and tactile and like to have lots of physical contact every day.

I have a hug deficit!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

30 years with a husband who didn't kiss, and a cuddle (when it happened) that felt like I was cuddling a corpse.

I can only feel real intimacy with someone I have emotional ties to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I went without it for almost a year. It’s a great sense of freedom but it wears off, as said above there’s parts of the year (usually the darker months) when you need some warmth and someone to brighten up the darker days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been single for 10 years. Sex is not difficult to achieve if you are female. I am a touchy feely person, and fortunately my neighbours/friends/work colleagues, are happy to be hugged at any excuse

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

"....and the implications that go with that. What do you know about this? Have you been for long stretches of time without any human touch let alone sex or a hug? If yes how did it make you feel? "

I have and do in fact, my child has grown up, I get a kiss on the forehead 'goodnight' and other than that no human contact for a long time.

I don't feel any different and until now haven't stopped to think about it. I don't feel cold or cut off. Writing this I do feel lucky that it dosent bother me.

Too ashamed to admit how long without touch though.

I haven't patted a dog for a while but that don't feel weird either though.

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

"I have a small child so I never go without hugs.

I do miss intimacy with a guy though. Single 8 years now and winter always seems to make me want a boyfriend. "

Like a television or hoover, January or even boxing day is the best time to pick up a new boyfriend.

You'll save a few hundred quid

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

This is something I've been missing for nearly 3 years and it's the biggest thing I crave

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes and no, I was married for over 22 years and for over 18 years of those he never kissed me. We did have sex in a fashion as it was completely void of emotion for me. But I have my children and always get cuddles off them. Also now I have mr and he gives great cuddles x

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

Yes, and it hurts like hell

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not since having kids, they will grab you anytime for a hug but have in the past. Only a couple of weeks at a time, but along with mental blocking too is bloody painful. Tend to develop a thick skin and a reliance on yourself for comfort

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

I went 9 years in a relationship without intimacy. It was so painful and made me feel incredibly low at times. I got hugs from friends, kids and family but it just isn’t the same as cuddles and kisses with 2 ppl who love each other. I need affection and intimacy, both giving and receiving. It’s better than any medicine, the whole world disappearing and only the 2 of you exist in that moment

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Pretty empty,I have that side fullfilled at the moment though so all's good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My dog gives me cuddles and my girlfriends give me hugs. I've not been intimate for months and it doesn't feel great. It actually bothers me lots.

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By *irestorm 500Couple
over a year ago

coventry

Was in a loveless sexless marriage for the last 10years until I moved out last year and it was the intimate times I missed more ..I am lucky to have Si now who gives wonderful kisses and hugs but due to circumstances we aren't always together and that's what I miss the most having that someone to share things with x storm x

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham

Maybe set up some 'cuddle meets'

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

Yes, for almost 10yrs with my ex, and made to feel like it was my fault.

Took a long time after we split to begin to realise it was never me.

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By *irestorm 500Couple
over a year ago

coventry

"Maybe set up some 'cuddle meets'

sounds a good idea for all x storm x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes all I see is darkness

And my tears they flow

Like rivers in the night

Then she comes to me and puts her arms around me...

Reading this thread reminded me of that. It's an old blues song.

Guess it proves that we all need someone who puts their arms around us understands us and accepts a us as we are...

It's hard to find but that connection that starts in the mind where everything else follows including the physical intimacy that goes with it.

It's always worth looking for ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im not naturally touchy feely. I can be affectionate at times but its generally at my initiation.

I moved to the other side of the country a few months ago.

I was ill over the weekend and its been the first time in months Ive craved intimacy. I wanted to be home with my mum looking after me and snuggled up with my dad on the sofa.

I have fab friends who offered to come see me but feeling ill and vulnerable meant I just didn't want it from them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes, for almost 10yrs with my ex, and made to feel like it was my fault.

Took a long time after we split to begin to realise it was never me.

Some men are very good at manipulating the situation. My ex was emotionally abusive so my feelings were used as a weapon against me. It's hard to realise you weren't the problem x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was in a crap and abusive marriage for over 20 years with very little intimacy after i had my children. Apart from them i got no hugs, kisses etc which was hard as i longed for a proper adult partner who loved me. Thankfully i have that now though and life is good and i no longer feel worthless

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Reading your openess to the subject has been refreshing in its own weird way. You know a baby can hardly survive without being held and loved. Then something huge happens along the way and touch can fall by the way side. It's quite something to experience and I definitely do not think it's healthy at all. There are ways of getting around it but it's not always as simple. I've asked certain people to just hug me and I'll hug them back. I know it's not the same as hugging someone you love. I go for massages which can be absolutely amazing. Normally I go to the Thai ladies as they're very talented (and no not like that hehe). I've had quite intense self loving moments and make sure I masturbate regularly. You know that expression...it takes a village to raise a child...well, the village should still exist. We should still be reaching out as much as we can. Thank you Fab for the potential possibilities x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love the sex with my fwb but the 3.5 minutes of spooning that she allows me after is almost as nice.

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By *D40Couple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

"....and the implications that go with that. What do you know about this? Have you been for long stretches of time without any human touch let alone sex or a hug? If yes how did it make you feel?

Yes I have, and it sucks, I am very affectionate and tactile and like to have lots of physical contact every day.

I have a hug deficit!

I remember dry spells of intimacy - not nice...

I like my kiss hello & goodbye, i like the hugging too, whether it's my fella or my friends or my family....

We all need human contact

LMP

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By *ampWithABrainWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Ex only touched me if he wanted sex, then was celibate for 5 years after we split. Had my daughter but missed affection from an adult.

Now have lovely friends that are cuddly.

Did affect my mood.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not a huggy feely sort of person with people I'm not intimate with anyway but I really miss it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I love the sex with my fwb but the 3.5 minutes of spooning that she allows me after is almost as nice."

Aaaw you lucky lucky two xx

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