FabSwingers.com forum: Women more selective than men

By *hillout OP Man
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

I like reading profiles here from both women and men as they can often give us some insight into the person's personality and wants, especially if it's a well written one.

I've noticed that in general, women on fab are much more demanding in their requirements for a potential match (sexual) than men are. Women are more likely to specifically state characteristics they want, such as a body type, height, personality, cock size etc.

Conversely, most male profiles won't spell out these requirements in detail at all.

Is this a natural.consequence of the male to female ratio of fab that allows women to be much more selective than men?

Or is it something more base at work? In the animal kingdom males mate with anyone to propagate their seed far and wide, where as females are choosy and want the ones with the better genes for procreation.

Does this subconsciously exist in people when looking for a purely sexual liason? Thoughts?

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

Personally I don’t want to exclude someone that might be great to be with because they are 2 inches too short or whatever.

But from a woman’s point of view they probably need a few filters in there or they would get ten times the messages

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

A horny man will fuck anything, is that what you're saying?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If men make any comment about 'types' they like, the opposite types have a melt down!

I like many different types of people so can't specify. Also it would probably sound like I'd fuck anyone that asked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If men make any comment about 'types' they like, the opposite types have a melt down!

I like many different types of people so can't specify. Also it would probably sound like I'd fuck anyone that asked. "

Types annoy me. Preferences sounds better. Saying that one has a "type" basically cuts out them meeting someone who could be wonderful, but has passed them by because of one little benign thing. I think people who say they only have this one type they go for need to get over themselves and stop fetishizing things so much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am permanently horny but I am still very selective and have preferences. Which is probably why I haven't met anyone......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just don't have a type! A face and personality are what do it for me. If those two things are click for me body shape and size to a certain extent are irrelevant. So there's no point in specifying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have a type.

I'm much more complicated than that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, I am selective but I don't specify details like how you men should look / cock size etc etc, I "judge" my men on their approach, if they make me laugh and if we can talk as well as find each other attractive (which of course IS important) and my approach has worked well for me this far

I just don't/won't fuck "anyone" ... and there's nowt wrong with that in my opinion

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I don't have a 'type'. But logically it would make sense to state it on my profile if I did, purely in an attempt to save everyone time and effort; if I were one of the in demand girls who got hundreds of messages, that is. Anything that could narrow down the fab options would surely help in such instances - whether or not people would read it is a different matter entirely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am not selective on requirements, I don't have strict specifications on height, cock size etc but I know what I want in terms of their behavior and attitude, and I don't see a problem with that.

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By *oubyLoverWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

A nice person who's funny and sexy can come in all kinds of shapes, sizes, height, colours. I only discriminate on the basis of someone being an arsehole

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope I’m very selective but I don’t have specific requirements. I know what I like and know when I see it in a person. It can be very different depending on the person though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If men make any comment about 'types' they like, the opposite types have a melt down!

I like many different types of people so can't specify. Also it would probably sound like I'd fuck anyone that asked.

Or maybe they just fancy that type.

I won't fuck people for many 'little benign things'. Any tiny thing puts me off.

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By *ty31Man
over a year ago

NW London

Generalising, I think women are more likely to have less sexual partners than males because (generally) they need more of a mental connection to be sexually attracted whereas male sexuality is more based on physical attraction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Obviously, like anything in life, if you've got a vast selection to choose from you can afford to be picky.

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

If guys were to start recieving the volume of mail women do im sure you would start seeing mens profiles becoming more specific ..just because it isnt stated im sure some guys are selective in who they want to meet

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight

By and large we try not to attach labels on people and prefer to see the people for who they are.

There are filters that some are adamant to include on their profile /messages that see us press delete.

It isn't difficult, the clues are there, yet some just fuck up even before they may spark an interest.

There have been meetings with people who do fall outside of our "listed" demographics, but they've achieved this through imagination, courtesy and a respectful appreciation of who we are based on reading our profile. All of this is the currency with us, we like people and like listening to what those who pique our interest have to say.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

We think like others said,its because woman can be choosy on here,as they are so in demand.

Be interesting to see the roles reversed and men receiving tonnes of mail,which women do even without profile txt or pics

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why wouldn't anyone be choosy according to their own personal preferences? I expect most women on here to be choosy as a minimum.

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

First of all, In fab land the stats are heavily skewed in favour of women.

There was a interesting post on the OKC blog regarding this. Broadly summarized that women would reject 80% of available men as unsuitable, whereas men rejected 50% of available women as unsuitable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've always always had the same preferences, I have more than the ones mentioned in my profile but some I'll bend on, things like penis size is something I won't compromise on. If that makes me picky I don't really care.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If there is more choices, then you can be more selective, but when you don't have much choice then you go with the flow.

You decide who has more choices here in fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If there was only 1 man in the world that would fuck me, I still wouldn't if I didn't fancy him.

Men are different. Hence the constant butthurt on the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do think that it's down to the individual with what they want .there are traits in a man i don't like .I won't meet any who have what I don't like .

I do think some men's brains are in there cock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Obviously, like anything in life, if you've got a vast selection to choose from you can afford to be picky.

It's about numbers. That's why many of the men on here are more picky away from Fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If there was only 1 man in the world that would fuck me, I still wouldn't if I didn't fancy him. "

Same here

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By *hillout OP Man
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Very interesting feedback so far. Do you feel that people who are more choosy in the virtual realm will be more flexible say, in a club setting, where a lot more dynamics come into play?

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

The most asked question I receive from the ladies is; “What’s your type?” Which is the most loaded question a man can receive lol. My answer, which is genuinely true, is; “A woman confident, and comfortable with herself. That is what I find attractive”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Very interesting feedback so far. Do you feel that people who are more choosy in the virtual realm will be more flexible say, in a club setting, where a lot more dynamics come into play?"

I don't think it's necessarily being choosy online, it's just having different information. A single pic and a bit of text might put someone off but in a club they see a happy smiley person and feel attraction.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I think we all (men and women alike) have our preferences and are selective, to a greater or lesser degree, as a result of them - sure there are some on here for whom "any hole's a goal" to use an it phrase, but I think the vast majority of us apply our own levels of selectiveness.

Now how we state those preferences may well differ from person to person, and potentially from gender to gender - but I don't think it's limited to just one specifically.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Very interesting feedback so far. Do you feel that people who are more choosy in the virtual realm will be more flexible say, in a club setting, where a lot more dynamics come into play?"

My preferences are the same wherever I am.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes they are as women needs a connection more, men would fuck anything lol.

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight

"Very interesting feedback so far. Do you feel that people who are more choosy in the virtual realm will be more flexible say, in a club setting, where a lot more dynamics come into play?

The thing that falls flat for most approach's is that sender is being ruled by their loins and generally they don't see past this and invest time and thought into their who fab personality. Thank goodness in many cases as the self filter is almost as good a tool, as the one writing it

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

As a general rule (to which there are many exceptions). Men will try to appeal to the widest possible fab audience. Hence the many claims that personality is more important than looks and age, race and size are immaterial followed by the accusations they are basically saying they'll have sex with anybody.

Men are more inclined too, to start a thread asking what women want hoping that there will be one magic phrase that will bring them flocking. This suggests to me that men want choice as much as women do but due to numbers need to work harder to obtain it.

In answer to the question are people less picky in clubs I'd say they are moztly. You can't always tell how old, tall, married a person is in a club.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

It’s different for us as my wife loves to please me , and that ultimately means she will go with guys for that reason , rather than her personal type .

I on the other hand , am way more choosy than she is as there really does have to be something that does it for me , or I simply can’t perform .

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

"Yes they are as women needs a connection more, men would fuck anything lol."

Maybe when I was younger.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I stated earlier that I don't have a particular body type, that I am am more drawn by some ones face or smile and personality. This is still clearly a preference. Even when preferences aren't stated, for most people there is some thing happening on a subconscious level.

I think it's important that peoples stated preferences, no matter how much we agree or disagree with them, shouldn't be seen as some thing negative and should be respected.

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By *osmosgirlWoman
over a year ago

Wetherby

When I first joined the site I thought I knew what 'type' I was attracted to but I never say never and, as a result, have had some very diverse and enriching experiences.

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By *londieddWoman
over a year ago

fife

"It’s different for us as my wife loves to please me , and that ultimately means she will go with guys for that reason , rather than her personal type .

I on the other hand , am way more choosy than she is as there really does have to be something that does it for me , or I simply can’t perform ."

very generous of her!

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

"It’s different for us as my wife loves to please me , and that ultimately means she will go with guys for that reason , rather than her personal type .

I on the other hand , am way more choosy than she is as there really does have to be something that does it for me , or I simply can’t perform .

very generous of her!

My thoughts too , I’m one lucky fella

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Very interesting feedback so far. Do you feel that people who are more choosy in the virtual realm will be more flexible say, in a club setting, where a lot more dynamics come into play?"

What more dynamics come in to play in a club setting? In a club, you have the choice of whoever is there at the same time as you, and out of those, you choose who appeals the most, surely? Online, you have any amount of profiles which take your fancy, then you choose between those who actually reply to your messages. And don’t forget, when they were choosing for the football team at school, being the last person chosen because that’s who was left, was a bitter pill to swallow. So when your messages in here are ignored, it’s not as brutal as being ignored in a club

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By *hillout OP Man
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"Very interesting feedback so far. Do you feel that people who are more choosy in the virtual realm will be more flexible say, in a club setting, where a lot more dynamics come into play?

It can sometimes be very different meeting someone in person and i've experienced this in clubs. Often times a person looks better than their pics when you actually see them "live".

I've had ladies tell me that they've played with men in clubs that if they had been judged purely by what's in the virtual realm, they would've given them a pass.

Often times someone's personality shines more in person than through messaging as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know I've got more and more particular the longer im on fab. I don't have a type just little things will put me off someone now when I would have looked past them before, not sure if that's really a good thing or not.

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By *rs C and Mr CCouple
over a year ago

North East

As this is a sex site most men on here would f—k anything. You only have to read the verifications of the not so attractive woman on here to see that.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

My "type" is "I like you". That can be for various reasons, but the common denominator seems to be intelligence and a certain...um..."intellectual robustness".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As this is a sex site most men on here would f—k anything. You only have to read the verifications of the not so attractive woman on here to see that."

I agree with this... a lot of men (and some women to be fair) are here to rack up numbers. Good for them...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My "type" is "I like you". That can be for various reasons, but the common denominator seems to be intelligence and a certain...um..."intellectual robustness". "

I like you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As this is a sex site most men on here would f—k anything. You only have to read the verifications of the not so attractive woman on here to see that."

Which not so attractive woman? Only hot people ever get laid.

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By *hillout OP Man
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"As this is a sex site most men on here would f—k anything. You only have to read the verifications of the not so attractive woman on here to see that.

Which not so attractive woman? Only hot people ever get laid. "

Not necessarily. Ron jeremy, one of the greatest porn actors of all time, who got more p***y than men get in 50 lifetimes, was the antithesis of someone you'd consider "hot". He obviously knew something a lot of "hotter" men didn't

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I think the profile narrowing down of guys that women want in contrast to guys who do this less is just reflective of women having more choice here. All genders are fussy but if you are getting tons of inappropriate messages, spelling out who you want to hear from is an option to reduce the effort from unsuitable people. I'm really selective and think most of us here are the same

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Very interesting feedback so far. Do you feel that people who are more choosy in the virtual realm will be more flexible say, in a club setting, where a lot more dynamics come into play?

It can sometimes be very different meeting someone in person and i've experienced this in clubs. Often times a person looks better than their pics when you actually see them "live".

I've had ladies tell me that they've played with men in clubs that if they had been judged purely by what's in the virtual realm, they would've given them a pass.

Often times someone's personality shines more in person than through messaging as well."

I bow down to your club experiences, they’ve been far better than mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As this is a sex site most men on here would f—k anything. You only have to read the verifications of the not so attractive woman on here to see that.

Which not so attractive woman? Only hot people ever get laid.

Exactly.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I suppose I do have a type but it’s more about personality, rather than looks. I know what floats my boat in terms of chat and interests etc and I’m very clear about what I don’t like.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"If men make any comment about 'types' they like, the opposite types have a melt down!

I like many different types of people so can't specify. Also it would probably sound like I'd fuck anyone that asked.

We are all here for our own reasons, and it's the height of arrogance to be so dismissive as to how others choose their sexual partners!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Why wouldn't anyone be choosy according to their own personal preferences? I expect most women on here to be choosy as a minimum. "

Words like "choosy" and "picky" offend some if they're excluded.

Most of us have preferences: not everyone you meet you want to fuck, but for some, if they're not balls deep a minute after asking then dummies get thrown out of prams.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are all allowed to be as selective as we want Op.

maybe women feel the need to be upfront with rules/demands/requirements because they want you to read there profile before we mail them, they use them to filter. Where I don't think men have to.

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