FabSwingers.com forum: Ptu is very disappointed

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've been mugged off by someone who I've been chatting with off tinder.

Why I'm disappointed is not because I've been mugged off. I'm disappointed because he hasn't actually told me he's not interested he's just stopped chatting n blocked me on all social media. Wouldn't it be easier/nicer/politer to say hey thanks for the wank fodder but I'm not interested anymore.

On fab it's the law that a delete means not intrested but is a block in the real world the same or is it not polite to let a *cough lady down nicely?

What are your thoughts?

Ptu xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is a cowardly way to end something, but it’s easy to and people won’t think at all about doing it. Sadly online media have made us all more easily expendable — but it’s also made making new connections quicker and easier again. Move on. Don’t take it personally. xx

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

Welcome to the guys’ side of the fence lol! This is what we deal with all the time in here, and we’re told to ‘Suck it up, Buttercup!’ Just move on to someone who wants to meet you

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Usually happens to me! Even with girls I've been out with a few times!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It is a cowardly way to end something, but it’s easy to and people won’t think at all about doing it. Sadly online media have made us all more easily expendable — but it’s also made making new connections quicker and easier again. Move on. Don’t take it personally. xx"

Yes! This is my thoughts exactly. He was mak8n all the rite noises n the suddenly stopped talking with no explanation. I saw social media differently to fab. Seams it's just the same. It's hard work this courting lark

I might just go back to wanking hahaha xxx

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By *.gerri.xTV/TS
over a year ago

North west

Hunt him down ....... Get a bit stabby.

Then take a deep breath and check out some other dead wood ...... Oops I mean Tinder.

It's a sly way to bail on someone though , probably had his wank and felt guilty on the Mrs.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Welcome to the guys’ side of the fence lol! This is what we deal with all the time in here, and we’re told to ‘Suck it up, Buttercup!’ Just move on to someone who wants to meet you

But what about in the real world? Would you do/expect the same. Xxx

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By *dventurous fellaMan
over a year ago

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"I've been mugged off by someone who I've been chatting with off tinder.

On fab it's the law that a delete means not intrested but is a block in the real world the same or is it not polite to let a *cough lady down nicely?

What are your thoughts?

Ptu xxx "

Probably a total cunt you’ve had a let off !!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Usually happens to me! Even with girls I've been out with a few times! "

Mad isn't it! I expected a bit of politeness in the real world lol.

I know the mistake I made was sending him wank fodder. I do find that men who I send wank fodder to on here don't meet but if I just chat normal they do meet. X

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

It's fucking annoying more when you've actually met someone a couple of time's and they do that,then have the cheek a year later to get in contact and apologise. I mean seriously a year later!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hunt him down ....... Get a bit stabby.

Then take a deep breath and check out some other dead wood ...... Oops I mean Tinder.

It's a sly way to bail on someone though , probably had his wank and felt guilty on the Mrs. "

tbf I know he isn't attached cos I've been stalking him hahaha x

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Welcome to the guys’ side of the fence lol! This is what we deal with all the time in here, and we’re told to ‘Suck it up, Buttercup!’ Just move on to someone who wants to meet you

But what about in the real world? Would you do/expect the same. Xxx"

In all honesty; yes. Life’s too short mate

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've been mugged off by someone who I've been chatting with off tinder.

On fab it's the law that a delete means not intrested but is a block in the real world the same or is it not polite to let a *cough lady down nicely?

What are your thoughts?

Ptu xxx

Probably a total cunt you’ve had a let off !! "

Nah think that's a bit strong. I think he just wanted a wank.

xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's fucking annoying more when you've actually met someone a couple of time's and they do that,then have the cheek a year later to get in contact and apologise. I mean seriously a year later!

Ffs that's bad. Hope you told him where to get off. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Welcome to the guys’ side of the fence lol! This is what we deal with all the time in here, and we’re told to ‘Suck it up, Buttercup!’ Just move on to someone who wants to meet you

But what about in the real world? Would you do/expect the same. Xxx

In all honesty; yes. Life’s too short mate

Interesting and thank you xxx

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"It's fucking annoying more when you've actually met someone a couple of time's and they do that,then have the cheek a year later to get in contact and apologise. I mean seriously a year later!

Ffs that's bad. Hope you told him where to get off. Xxx"

I do recall meeting him just the once again

. We were too far apart anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Welcome to the guys’ side of the fence lol! This is what we deal with all the time in here, and we’re told to ‘Suck it up, Buttercup!’ Just move on to someone who wants to meet you

But what about in the real world? Would you do/expect the same. Xxx"

Did you meet him in the flesh?

If not, then it’s not in the real world and if men are expected to accept a delete as meaning not interested, then I’m afraid this is what you should accept on any dating/hook up site too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Welcome to the guys’ side of the fence lol! This is what we deal with all the time in here, and we’re told to ‘Suck it up, Buttercup!’ Just move on to someone who wants to meet you

But what about in the real world? Would you do/expect the same. Xxx

Did you meet him in the flesh?

If not, then it’s not in the real world and if men are expected to accept a delete as meaning not interested, then I’m afraid this is what you should accept on any dating/hook up site too."

Chatted daily for just over a month. So yea gave the impression I was doing good lol. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Welcome to the guys’ side of the fence lol! This is what we deal with all the time in here, and we’re told to ‘Suck it up, Buttercup!’ Just move on to someone who wants to meet you

But what about in the real world? Would you do/expect the same. Xxx

Did you meet him in the flesh?

If not, then it’s not in the real world and if men are expected to accept a delete as meaning not interested, then I’m afraid this is what you should accept on any dating/hook up site too.

Chatted daily for just over a month. So yea gave the impression I was doing good lol. Xxx"

But you didn’t meet him?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Welcome to the guys’ side of the fence lol! This is what we deal with all the time in here, and we’re told to ‘Suck it up, Buttercup!’ Just move on to someone who wants to meet you

But what about in the real world? Would you do/expect the same. Xxx

Did you meet him in the flesh?

If not, then it’s not in the real world and if men are expected to accept a delete as meaning not interested, then I’m afraid this is what you should accept on any dating/hook up site too.

Chatted daily for just over a month. So yea gave the impression I was doing good lol. Xxx

But you didn’t meet him?"

Nope. X

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

It must be really disheartening for singles when this sort of thing happens.

I presume you were talking to him with a view to 'dating?'

Chalk it down to experience and don't overthink it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Welcome to the guys’ side of the fence lol! This is what we deal with all the time in here, and we’re told to ‘Suck it up, Buttercup!’ Just move on to someone who wants to meet you

Correct sir

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It must be really disheartening for singles when this sort of thing happens.

I presume you were talking to him with a view to 'dating?'

Chalk it down to experience and don't overthink it x"

Dating in a very loss scence. More like fwb n he knew that. X

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By *.gerri.xTV/TS
over a year ago

North west

Sod em , do something nice to forget it.

Perhaps get out to Talacre ( think that's how it's spelt ) beach club , have a cocktail with some Balearic beats and watch the sunset . Then go clubbing in Towyn till the early hours , somewhere with a world class Dj ......Main st perhaps.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sod em , do something nice to forget it.

xxx xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've been chatting for barely a month and your already sending him wank fodder before you've even met him. Don't know what you expected really x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You've been chatting for barely a month and your already sending him wank fodder before you've even met him. Don't know what you expected really x"

Yes I do suspect that was the mistake xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's utterly childish on here or anywhere. An adult would talk to you to finish it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's utterly childish on here or anywhere. An adult would talk to you to finish it. "

Yes that's why I'm disappointed I would of thought he would of just said I'm not interested anymore esp as he told me personal info like his address and family stuff.

Oh well. Xxx

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

When I was internet dating I used to find it was best to go from messages to meet pretty quickly. You don't want to be stuck in message zone for too long as the problem with internet dating, someone new and shiny can distract them.

Plus going for a meet quickly too s out the online chatters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I was internet dating I used to find it was best to go from messages to meet pretty quickly. You don't want to be stuck in message zone for too long as the problem with internet dating, someone new and shiny can distract them.

Plus going for a meet quickly too s out the online chatters. "

I don't bother with internet dating anymore to be honest they use the sites for sex anyway. Even the women do it.

Your advice is spot on as well

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

"...is it not polite to let a *cough lady down nicely?

What are your thoughts?

Ptu xxx "

You're absolutely right. The problem is, this guy didn't see you as a "lady".

Be honest with yourself. If somebody else (who didn't fancy this guy) looked through your past correspondence with this chap, would they see him as a gentleman?

I think the saying "don't hate the player, hate the game" can be applied here. It can be really frustrating when you don't understand the rules. Even worse when you don't even realise the game has started!

Some you win some you learn... X

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

"Welcome to the guys’ side of the fence lol! This is what we deal with all the time in here, and we’re told to ‘Suck it up, Buttercup!’ Just move on to someone who wants to meet you

But what about in the real world? Would you do/expect the same. Xxx

Did you meet him in the flesh?

If not, then it’s not in the real world and if men are expected to accept a delete as meaning not interested, then I’m afraid this is what you should accept on any dating/hook up site too.

Chatted daily for just over a month. So yea gave the impression I was doing good lol. Xxx

But you didn’t meet him?"

I really should add you to my hotlist sometime...

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By *hips n FursMan
over a year ago

Huddersfield

This is what happens in the virtual world,with all the virtual friends....this is virtual reality. Welcome to the modern life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did you counter block PTU?

I know I do when this happens to me..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately it's the nature of the beast. Forget him and move on. Remember for some people (not us) these internet dating/hook up sites are all just a game to them. Never get your hopes up until you've met people in the flesh a few times, only then you will start to have an idea if they are genuine.

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By *arklordMan
over a year ago

rugeley

he probably got found out by his wife

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Plus going for a meet quickly too s out the online chatters. "

Thank you that's good advice xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"...is it not polite to let a *cough lady down nicely?

What are your thoughts?

Ptu xxx

You're absolutely right. The problem is, this guy didn't see you as a "lady".

Be honest with yourself. If somebody else (who didn't fancy this guy) looked through your past correspondence with this chap, would they see him as a gentleman?

Some you win some you learn... X"

Thank you. Yes I think I possibly applied fab rules to a none fab game.

xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plus going for a meet quickly too s out the online chatters. "

Spot on

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"This is what happens in the virtual world,with all the virtual friends....this is virtual reality. Welcome to the modern life."

Sucks doesn't it. Although thinking back to my teen years before the internet courting sucked just as much.

xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Did you counter block PTU?

I know I do when this happens to me.."

Yes I did thank you. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Unfortunately it's the nature of the beast. Forget him and move on. Remember for some people (not us) these internet dating/hook up sites are all just a game to them. Never get your hopes up until you've met people in the flesh a few times, only then you will start to have an idea if they are genuine. "

Very true thank you. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Welcome to the guys’ side of the fence lol! This is what we deal with all the time in here, and we’re told to ‘Suck it up, Buttercup!’ Just move on to someone who wants to meet you

But what about in the real world? Would you do/expect the same. Xxx"

Why should it be ok to behave differently on here? Rude or cowardly is the same whether on here on in the real world.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"he probably got found out by his wife "

I know that not to be true as i have a mutual friend who at the beginning reassured me that he is single. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Welcome to the guys’ side of the fence lol! This is what we deal with all the time in here, and we’re told to ‘Suck it up, Buttercup!’ Just move on to someone who wants to meet you

But what about in the real world? Would you do/expect the same. Xxx

Why should it be ok to behave differently on here? Rude or cowardly is the same whether on here on in the real world."

Because it's in the fab rules a delete means no thank you. Xxx

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