FabSwingers.com forum: Breaking the ice on hotel meet.

By *heblackmac OP Man
over a year ago

Ladywell, Lewisham.

Every time i plan to meet with any couples, it's always unsuccessful. Im not here to say bad about couples.there are some wonderful, wonderful, couples out there.this is something new that I want to try and it's always turn out to be unsuccessful. Reasons is they didn't give any reason why is to they didn't turn up.i always be there at that place where we supposed to meet.well done to all of yous wonderful couple out there that always, always attend meets.thank you very much.as for I'm still counting my stars when ice is going to be broken when I successfully meet with a couple in a hotel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you arrange to meet in the hotel bar? I know a lot of people wouldn’t do hotel meets for fear of safety.

Although if they’re arranging to meet you but not turn up? Well not sure why they would do that to be honest. Specially if it’s regularly happening to you.

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By *offee with MilkCouple
over a year ago

Over the roundabout and then turn right.

Are you absolutely certain they are real couples to start with? So many fakes on this site.

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight

I'd hate to think it happens but possibly in that people who post these didn't turn up threads and others that run in a similar vein, are then targeted by other time wasters, as a twisted game.

I certainly don't know this is a fact, but nothing surprises me in regards to the low depths some of the scummier elements to this place will go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd hate to think it happens but possibly in that people who post these didn't turn up threads and others that run in a similar vein, are then targeted by other time wasters, as a twisted game.

I certainly don't know this is a fact, but nothing surprises me in regards to the low depths some of the scummier elements to this place will go.

I agree. Same with ranty profiles attracting certain types that will take the piss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd hate to think it happens but possibly in that people who post these didn't turn up threads and others that run in a similar vein, are then targeted by other time wasters, as a twisted game.

I certainly don't know this is a fact, but nothing surprises me in regards to the low depths some of the scummier elements to this place will go.

I agree. Same with ranty profiles attracting certain types that will take the piss. "

Or rants about how people are able to find workarounds to get past filters, why highlight things to people who never knew about it, or hadn't found a way yet

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

What steps are you taking to verify that these people are genuine before agreeing to meet them OP? Therein may lay your problem - sadly, as others have pointed out, there are fake profiles (usually with a single guy hiding behind them) that will "arrange" meets with no intention of turning up.

By arranging a social meet first, or talking to them on the phone/webcam, or even just taking your time messaging them on here before arranging to meet you can safeguard against having your time wasted too much.

I personally wouldn't arrange to meet anyone from here until I was 99% certain they were genuine and going to turn up - and that certainly wouldn't be after a handful of messages.

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By *heblackmac OP Man
over a year ago

Ladywell, Lewisham.

I will not mentioned the couples name,they have few pictures and they also have about 24 verification. Now everything were planned prior to the meet.we exchange messages and all.I was there at the hotel waiting for them to turn up they didn't. Well at least a message to me would probably makes sense is to why they didn't turn up.that would be much self explanatory. No hard feelings as Ive never done this type of hotel meet.its just a waste of my time to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All I can say is keep going. There are other ways to meet.

Perhaps its better to try an alternate tack.

Afternoon socials are fun.

Regional socials are better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a social is always best first .

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By *heblackmac OP Man
over a year ago

Ladywell, Lewisham.

"All I can say is keep going. There are other ways to meet.

Perhaps its better to try an alternate tack.

Afternoon socials are fun.

Regional socials are better."

Thanks for the advice

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By *heblackmac OP Man
over a year ago

Ladywell, Lewisham.

"I think a social is always best first .

Thanks sweetheart for the advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Look at the, "Meet Requests and Parties" forum page.

There'll be one that shows up local to you.

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By *heblackmac OP Man
over a year ago

Ladywell, Lewisham.

"Look at the, "Meet Requests and Parties" forum page.

There'll be one that shows up local to you."
cheers thank you

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Agree a protocol in advance that will be followed, from the period before you all meet. Eg, confirmation it's still on, starting of traveling, where specifically you meet and how, what happens if there are issues, how you proceed if yes or no etc.

Have a phone or video chat in advance with all people, to gauge interests and confirmation that they are committed.

Have a backup plan if it fails - something else to do

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Happens to me too, I seem to get so close to the meet, then something comes up or they go off line for a while. Or they say they will send the address or send the time, then that's the last I hear.

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