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Do you ever message a profile you have no intention of meeting?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I very occasionally do...to compliment them on the way their profile is written!

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By *relanddirectMan
over a year ago

cheshire

Very rarely, would be a pleasure to receive a message from I though op! Have a great day x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d like to on the odd occasion, but never have because I wouldn’t want to give the wrong impression

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I chat with people who I am unlikely to meet due to time and distance but enjoy a chat and a laugh.

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By *aelawMan
over a year ago

Paisley

That's pretty awesome. Putting smiles on people's faces *fist bump*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s always nice to send a nice message to make someone smile even though you may never meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I Chat to lots of people who I'm probably not going to meet. I enjoy the talk and a laugh. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I agree - I receive messages from guys as far as Plymouth I am unlikely to meet but will always say hi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only ever chat to people I’m highly unlikely to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I only ever chat to people I’m highly unlikely to meet"

Me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That said I don’t send the first message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I only ever chat to people I’m highly unlikely to meet

Me too "

So much in common

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Only in reference to a forum post, I don't chat for the sake of it otherwise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh gosh, yes.

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

If I message someone first it's because I'm interested in talking to them with a view to possibly meeting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I talk to them if that what you mean.

But I'd never lead anyone in with no intention of following anything through.

Compliments and just general chit chat maybe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh gosh, yes. "

Dreams.... shattered

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight

I (Mr) tend to respond to status comments, those that make me laugh I will tell them so, why not? It usually makes the poster feel pretty good too if they don't reply it's no great shakes either.

I did reply to status post that was a bit of a misunderstanding. We ended up having a bit of a chat and the poster being invited to share a bottle of wine with us if she was going to an event in our area next weekend. I had always liked her style, strong women the put up with no nonsense type, seems she has more in common with us than I thought. Hope she goes to the event.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I very occasionally do...to compliment them on the way their profile is written!"

Yes I've fond that or to compliment on their body hair or how they look

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Forum users, yes.

I've chatted about lots of random things or about a post/thread. I've also messaged to compliment them on their pics etc, with no ulterior motive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah - it’s nice to be polite huh?

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

I regularly message females I don't fancy but on the rare occasion I do message ones I do fancy.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I certainly would and do - just because the underlying idea behind the site is meeting for NSA sex, doesn't mean that friendships and bonds can't develop that sit outside of that premise - although I do understand why some people would be wary of giving the wrong impression by sparking a conversation in that way.

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"I very occasionally do...to compliment them on the way their profile is written!"

I do - usually if they have great pics but are logistically too far away to meet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not often but yes I have done. Usually if they have made me smile with a forum post or status update.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats actually how I got involved in the forums, I messaged someone to say great profile even though they are the other end of the country

They were very gracious and we had a chat and they told about the wonderful world of fab forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some one messaged me the other day to say thank you after I stuck up for them in a forum post. I wasn't expecting it but it was a nice thing for her to do and it made me feel appreciated. I will hold onto that feeling and do it myself if it's appropriate. It doesn't matter if there's no other intention it's nice to spread a little friendliness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah if I feel they're deserving of a compliment, I don't expect a reply or anything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I very occasionally do...to compliment them on the way their profile is written!

I do - usually if they have great pics but are logistically too far away to meet! "

The bain of my life

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By *tarbeckCouple
over a year ago

york

yes and have made some good friends in the forum

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

Yes sometimes i'm a friendly lad ..just because im not meeting someone doesnt mean we cant chat ..its not all about sex

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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Yes, I do, as a result of a forum post or to compliment photos. I don't just message those I want to fuck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes, I do, as a result of a forum post or to compliment photos. I don't just message those I want to fuck. "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I send most my messages to people who I am unlikely to ever meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Occasionally. Who knows where a friendly greeting will lead?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a woman (I am straight) maybe, but not to a man, would not want him to take it the wrong way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes,but not really from having no intention of meeting more through the distance after having looked at their photo gallery or forum posts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely everything starts with words so I do send and do receive messages from peeps everywhere, conversations are good, especially those that put a smile on your face for whatever reason

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest


"Yes, I do, as a result of a forum post or to compliment photos. I don't just message those I want to fuck.

This "

I do this as well and the response is normally favourable. I like to praise and compliment when its due

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By *G LanaTV/TS
over a year ago

Gosport

It is very rare that I initiate messaging, speculative messaging women and couples seems utterly pointless, even when I match everything stated on their profile and then send a clearly bespoke response it's almost unheard of to get a response. Therefore virtually all of my site messages are with people who have messaged me. A large percentage of people I am never going to meet but depending on what they have said I often respond as quiet alot of them are privately asking about one or other of my kinks.

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By *ulfilthmentMan
over a year ago

Just around the corner

Yes, but usually in reply to a status update or profile line I’ve found interesting or amusing. I’ve had some goood chats along the way as a result.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I very occasionally do...to compliment them on the way their profile is written!"

Yes I do like you sometimes mail to say I like your pic or pfrofike, I most likely won’t meet with most of the people I chat to due to distance & time but there’s no harm in being social that said I can’t and don’t talk to everyone that message.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury


"I very occasionally do...to compliment them on the way their profile is written!"

Yes frequently.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

..

On occasion, yes.

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By *0tt0nSu3Woman
over a year ago

London

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I very occasionally do...to compliment them on the way their profile is written!"

I do the same. Credit where credits due. Sometimes it sparks up a conversation, which usually starts with "pity your so far away" lol. X

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By *0tt0nSu3Woman
over a year ago

London

I complimented someone on their legs once. He never responded.

Just because I compliment someone on their legs does not mean I fancy a roll in the dark with them. Add to that, I VERY rarely arrange meets on Fab, and I don't meet people outside London anyway. I'm quite happy to message, no more than that.

(Shrugs shoulders)

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By *0tt0nSu3Woman
over a year ago

London


"I complimented someone on their legs once. He never responded.

Just because I compliment someone on their legs does not mean I fancy a roll in the dark with them. Add to that, I VERY rarely arrange meets on Fab, and I don't meet people outside London anyway. I'm quite happy to message, no more than that.

(Shrugs shoulders)

"

Roll in the dark? I meant roll in the SACK!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I very occasionally do...to compliment them on the way their profile is written!"

I have a few times and even funny ones to new profiles about messages. Never get a reply back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I very occasionally do...to compliment them on the way their profile is written!"

Yes...many times. if their profile is interesting or photos are particularly good then I will compliment them on it.

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By *ady-LoverMan
over a year ago

swindon


"Yes, I do, as a result of a forum post or to compliment photos. I don't just message those I want to fuck. "

This!!

some people are very funny

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By *sThunderThighsWoman
over a year ago

Toy Land

Yes occasionally made some good banter friends who often put a smile on my face . It's actually nice to talk to someone who has no agenda other than liking your cheeky chat !

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By *oxesMan
over a year ago

Southend, Essex

Almost all the time, i like to have conversations with people, sometimes that gets misconscrude and get messages back saying not interested or no thanks, that's not what I asked Oh dear.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only in relation to a forum post. I'm here to meet, not chat to randoms online...I have enough friends in the real world.

I rarely send a first message, but if I do it's because I want to meet the guy

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows


"Forum users, yes.

I've chatted about lots of random things or about a post/thread. I've also messaged to compliment them on their pics etc, with no ulterior motive.

"

This

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

If they sound interesting ... yes why not .....theres lots of people who ill never get to meet .....

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I do sometimes for a variety of reasons - just a social chat, to expand on forum discussions, possibly offer advice, encouragement, or something else - it's always clear it's not about sexual interest in them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah, usually because of a forum post or because they have amused or interested me in some way. But I rarely send the first message.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

I like to chat, so I never message with the intent of a meet, if things develop, well thats another matter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I very occasionally do...to compliment them on the way their profile is written!"

truth a few message me if im not in the area criterias or likewise but for me here is for social as well as meets.

and u never know

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"I very occasionally do...to compliment them on the way their profile is written!"
yes but sadly they then presume you want to meet them then they get all arsey about it when you dont

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Only in response to a forum post.

Compliment a guy in my area for their profile? You're having a laugh!

The fact of being able to string together 3 words is no celebratory matter

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

I wouldnt go out of my way to,no

If they mailed us and seemed ok we may continue chatting.

Miss

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By *ngel n tedCouple
over a year ago

maidstone

Oh god no, we don't even message people we want to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only when answering a forum question or request, generally no x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I very occasionally do...to compliment them on the way their profile is written!

I do - usually if they have great pics but are logistically too far away to meet!

The bain of my life "

Patience is the key

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Only in response to a forum post.

Compliment a guy in my area for their profile? You're having a laugh!

The fact of being able to string together 3 words is no celebratory matter "

LOL you always keep smiling xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Only in reference to a forum post, I don't chat for the sake of it otherwise. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes i do if its a hot woman,i like to give compliments

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By *pice of life 79Man
over a year ago

lincoln, sleaford , grantham , nottingham

I do give compliments out to ones I know I would never stand a chance of meeting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get loads every day. I would rather not receive them as it just clogs up my inbox with noise.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"Only in response to a forum post.

Compliment a guy in my area for their profile? You're having a laugh!

The fact of being able to string together 3 words is no celebratory matter

LOL you always keep smiling xx"

It comes naturally to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I message some people some times and im always polite and funny etc banter wise as there is some real nice decent people on here aswell as the fair share of idiots.

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By *owdyboy 890Man
over a year ago

Country West

Yea but there are different reasons for it xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the time, have the odd random chat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Often message people I have no plan on meeting or at least going for a 'meet' with. Sometimes they're out of my league and sometimes I natter with an intent to meet socially and nothing more. Tends to be with forumites or in a response to a status though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at the moment particularly no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Only in reference to a forum post, I don't chat for the sake of it otherwise. "

Same here. Or a cracking profile.

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"I very occasionally do...to compliment them on the way their profile is written!

I do - usually if they have great pics but are logistically too far away to meet!

The bain of my life "

Yup - it’s a bugger isn’t it!

I’m waiting for the invention of the teleporter - there’ll be no stopping us all then!

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"I very occasionally do...to compliment them on the way their profile is written!

I do - usually if they have great pics but are logistically too far away to meet!

The bain of my life

Patience is the key "

Hasn’t Shag copyrighted that phrase?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We do as we are more keen to chat and cam than meet at the moment.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

Occasionally, when answering a forum post

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By *easingtessWoman
over a year ago

waterford


"I very occasionally do...to compliment them on the way their profile is written!"

Likewise

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By *ighland gentlemanMan
over a year ago

Ardgay

Due to geography if I only messaged those in my vicinity who I might meet then my already quiet inbox would be completely empty most days.

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By *ooby birdWoman
over a year ago

North West

Yes - I like a natter

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Due to geography if I only messaged those in my vicinity who I might meet then my already quiet inbox would be completely empty most days. "

I feel your pain fella

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

Yes I do. Often to compliment them on a picture I liked on their profile, or their funny profile header.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do occasionally do if the owner has a great profile even if he is hundreds of miles away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will if the profile and pictures are good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have if the status was particularly thought provoking - typically in a lazy messaged though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never, anyone I message I have full intention of meeting even if it’s for a social...

If the profile isn’t full enough, the pics don’t show the person as whole or there is anything that makes me raise an eyebrow in a bad way then I won’t send a message!!!

Vague profiles and close up pics aren’t a ‘tease’ they’re just shit :D

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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Lots of times, but I make it clear from the outset that i have no intention to meet. Usually to say that a forum comment of theirs, or their profile made me smile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. Mad hatter to compliment him on his beautiful Hair! If we lived closer, I'd offer him a cup of tea! I'd even dress up as Alice lol. .

Distance is a killer. Not something that interests me. However I think sending a random compliment to a guy that somehow stands out from the rest, is a nice welcomed gesture.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Forum users, yes.

I've chatted about lots of random things or about a post/thread. I've also messaged to compliment them on their pics etc, with no ulterior motive.

"

This

I also compliment them on a well written, humorous, witty profile. Especially if something catches my eye.

I don't lead people on, but on occasions things have just clicked and we met

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh gosh, yes.

Dreams.... shattered "

Daft buggers.

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By *rLucky777Man
over a year ago

Leeds

Just pm’d you.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

...

Often

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By *ondon-guy68Man
over a year ago

London

Yes

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

No but a single guy messages us frequently and we chat have a laugh, talking about everything under the sun. We made it clear at the start that we wouldn't meet him and he is happy with that.

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