FabSwingers.com forum: What see or what you read

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So, you get a message, you look at the profile of the sender before reading the message, the pics are amazing, as hot as they get, but then you read the profile text (let’s assume they’ve put a few lines in here), and it’s a total turn off, doesn’t sound like some one you’d gel with.

You get another message from some one else, the pics aren’t great, but the profile text is well written and gives you a little insight into the person, you even find what they’ve written quite appealing, someone you could enjoy being around but visually not the best looking.

My question is, do you make your choice on the pics you see or what’s written in the profile, would you ignore some bits of it if they were drop dead gorgeous?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely go for text over pics.

Loads of people are much better in real life than in photos!

If the text grabs you then it’s caught a bit of your mind

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By *aelawMan
over a year ago

Paisley

Profile text wins everytime for me. I'm wired strangely, love a decent profile though

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By *eneathTheDiamondSkyWoman
over a year ago

East Anglia

Yes. The text every time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably text. Simply because if I met both people, they're away from

What their pics show, and basically they're 2 women, plainly stood in front of me. We can be creative however much we want, in here, but you can't filter in real life.

If the text is more appealing, that could literally speak volumes for an attraction in the end.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Snuggles in to watch this thread verrry closely

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

If you found the text appealing, then odds are good that the chemistry will be there, and that is so important for a successful meet. Attraction is a complex thing and not merely based on looks alone

And yes, people often look better in person than in their photos. Option 2 definitely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can I speak to both and make judgment after?

I find sometimes that a profile isn't all it's cracked up to be.

I've gotten to know people via forums or chat who quite honestly have crap profiles, if they had messaged me without chatting first then I probably wouldn't have replied.

Some people just find it hard to see themselves or have been here a elwhile and gotten a bit fed up and ranty.

There's also the opposite-sometimes you get chatting with someone whose profile is well written and witty but their conversation is as dull as dishwater.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If there's something there either great pics or something in the profile then I'd look further. I don't need both. I've met people in the past with really crap profile text, or no decent pics, but something sparked my interest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I probably wouldn't reply to either. If I'm not instantly intrigued enough then I don't bother. I guess if the one with the nice sounding profile had sent decent pics that i found attractive with his message, then that would be the one. Likewise if Mr pictures sent a message that piqued my interest I'd reply. There's no hard and fast rule to be honest... and my default setting is to ignore all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would go for the one with the good text XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rely on the conversation more than the pics, but there still has to be some kind of visual attraction.

At the end of the day we're here to have a laugh and enjoy some good sex, so personality may get us to the bedroom, physical attraction may get us into bed

Peach x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I probably wouldn't reply to either. If I'm not instantly intrigued enough then I don't bother. I guess if the one with the nice sounding profile had sent decent pics that i found attractive with his message, then that would be the one. Likewise if Mr pictures sent a message that piqued my interest I'd reply. There's no hard and fast rule to be honest... and my default setting is to ignore all

Actually yeah there is, not so much a rule more a profile avoidance system, but I have never met anyone with a ranty profile. The type of person that feels the need to rant on a site designed for fun isn't someone I'd gel with.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I would go with text over pics initially but if there are any pics that make me cringe, on a good or poor profile, then I wouldn’t be interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can I speak to both and make judgment after?

I find sometimes that a profile isn't all it's cracked up to be.

I've gotten to know people via forums or chat who quite honestly have crap profiles, if they had messaged me without chatting first then I probably wouldn't have replied.

Some people just find it hard to see themselves or have been here a elwhile and gotten a bit fed up and ranty.

There's also the opposite-sometimes you get chatting with someone whose profile is well written and witty but their conversation is as dull as dishwater. "

This for me too.

I'd probably chat to both and decide from our messages if I wanted a social.

Profiles don't prove whether we'd get on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The profile wins over the pictures.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Got to be the profile. Prefer my mind to be attracted and stimulated first x

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Text over pictures for me.

Can't answer for Dick

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

The profile thats well written,if the text does nothing for me,them being hot is irrelevant.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A splendid mix of both . It's good to see a well written profile it proves that the person is more genuine . It also helps to find out peoples wants and desires

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pics over text. Some people are crap at conveying themselves on a social media profile. Besides if I was meeting it would be for a great fuck not a nice read.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I've never actually come across such a thing... I tend to find that the message and the profile works for me at the same time or doesn't.

The profile can have a few lines or a novella - sometimes the best ones capture a person's personality in a succinct manner. With regards to photos, a couple of good ones are always appreciated but people aren't necessarily the most photogenic!

I'm another one who's not a fan of the ranty profiles - I've yet to meet anyone who does have one for a similar reason to Scarlet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

After reading some of the comments I think I need to look at my own profile text, can’t do anything about the pics though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read profile first then look at pics, you can tell alot about a person by their words,, granted some can lie but thats a chance you take,,,.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it funny really my profile tells people to avoid me, but they still come knocking

Less people are interested in profile text than it would appear from this thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The people I really like on here don’t necessarily have profile text that attracts me. It’s almost irrelevant compared to their photos and their online persona.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

I read the message first then peruse pics and profile ..then answer message accordingly ...if their profile clearly states they are looking for something im not then i will point that out and give them a right of reply ..sometimes ive found there are exceptions to rules on profiles and had some lovely meets with ladies who going by their profile i wouldnt have messaged in the first place

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think some ones humour, intelligence or outlook can make them more attractive than they may seem just by looking at them. I'll go for the person that I will get on with when I'm not inside them. Laughter is an amazing aphrodisiac.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So, you get a message, you look at the profile of the sender before reading the message, the pics are amazing, as hot as they get, but then you read the profile text (let’s assume they’ve put a few lines in here), and it’s a total turn off, doesn’t sound like some one you’d gel with.

My question is, do you make your choice on the pics you see or what’s written in the profile, would you ignore some bits of it if they were drop dead gorgeous?"

Profile ,messages over pics every time you have to make it interesting good looks alone arnt enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can I speak to both and make judgment after?

I find sometimes that a profile isn't all it's cracked up to be.

I've gotten to know people via forums or chat who quite honestly have crap profiles, if they had messaged me without chatting first then I probably wouldn't have replied.

Some people just find it hard to see themselves or have been here a elwhile and gotten a bit fed up and ranty.

There's also the opposite-sometimes you get chatting with someone whose profile is well written and witty but their conversation is as dull as dishwater. "

This is such a god damn true statement. I've spoken to people on sites before whose profile is pretty much stripped bare and has little on it and they have been great.

I messaged a woman whose photos really appealed to me and I was extremely physically attracted to, and she could barely put a sentence together.

I think that there is a tableau rather than a black and white approach. Sometimes, with lack of text, you just got to bite the bullet and hope for the best

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By *inglehotchickWoman
over a year ago

blackpool

Pics first. Has to be a physical attraction. If there isn’t that then I probably wouldn’t even read the text. If I’m attracted to the pics then I read the text to see if that’s interesting too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always check photos then profile text and I've never been deterred by what I've read.... that usually comes after we get to the message stage

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By *ulfilthmentMan
over a year ago

Just around the corner

Text every time for me. You can tell so much from how someone expresses themselves on the page.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been told by plenty that my profile write up is great... but maybe I need to get new pics?

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