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"By not scaring them off That can be difficult I know but if someone new is trying to join in, not to ignore there posts I'll get me coat " Good tip. Newbies posting hello I’m new threads are always welcomed (from what I’ve seen). But yes, perhaps those that post topical threads for the first time aren’t in the same way  | |||
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"How do regular posters better include non-regular posters? " Faf? | |||
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"How do regular posters better include non-regular posters? Faf?" Are you agreeing to fuck all non-regular posters? | |||
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"By not scaring them off That can be difficult I know but if someone new is trying to join in, not to ignore there posts I'll get me coat Good tip. Newbies posting hello I’m new threads are always welcomed (from what I’ve seen). But yes, perhaps those that post topical threads for the first time aren’t in the same way "Yes that's what I meant  | |||
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"By treating them the same as regular posters. Sometimes a new face starts a thread and gets a hard time, where a more recognised profile starting the same thread would not. " Agreed. I can be guilty of this for sure. Although I’d say what I say to a regular poster if they wrote the same thing. But yes, you make a point. | |||
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"By not scaring them off That can be difficult I know but if someone new is trying to join in, not to ignore there posts I'll get me coat Good tip. Newbies posting hello I’m new threads are always welcomed (from what I’ve seen). But yes, perhaps those that post topical threads for the first time aren’t in the same way
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"Appoint an Inspector of Forum Inclusivity? " Hahahahaha. Love it. | |||
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"How do regular posters better include non-regular posters? " Don't be a bitch. It prevents new guys from posting and is the end of the forums because if there is no new blood, and todays regular users move on, who will post? | |||
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"How do regular posters better include non-regular posters? Don't be a bitch. It prevents new guys from posting and is the end of the forums because if there is no new blood, and todays regular users move on, who will post?" Agreed.
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"By not scaring them off That can be difficult I know but if someone new is trying to join in, not to ignore there posts I'll get me coat " Forget the coat...you look just fine | |||
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"Not give them the "who the fuck are you" vibe? " How do you do that? Does it mean not responding to a post that might be a new poster who writes something you want to challenge? | |||
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"How do regular posters better include non-regular posters? " By being nice and including them in posts not just passing them by | |||
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"Not give them the "who the fuck are you" vibe? " Hello yummy. | |||
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"How do regular posters better include non-regular posters? By being nice and including them in posts not just passing them by " Yes. Good point | |||
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"Who are ya? Who are ya? I'm jesting. I like to think I'm welcoming, although I sometimes struggle with newbies as I'm aware they might not quite get my jest. Like, I can be serious, but not always. As we all know... I'm a knob 'ed " How should you better include then? | |||
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"How do regular posters better include non-regular posters? By being nice and including them in posts not just passing them by Yes. Good point "Thank you . I remember being a new poster and being ignored until I posted my own thread. I still get ignored / missed now but I'm aware of friendships and the follow of the forums | |||
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"Lol im off! X" What are your thoughts on how to better include non-regular posters? | |||
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"Even some regulars give up posting on here, so I understand why newbies would be put off. To much LPP and private conversations being eluded to and that is extremely mild compared to when I first joined, some of the posters 10 years ago would have scared the pants off the lot of you! "How do you prevent that? If that’s a product of friendship and frequent interactions? | |||
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"Even some regulars give up posting on here, so I understand why newbies would be put off. To much LPP and private conversations being eluded to and that is extremely mild compared to when I first joined, some of the posters 10 years ago would have scared the pants off the lot of you!
How do you prevent that? If that’s a product of friendship and frequent interactions?"Being aware? | |||
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"By treating them the same as regular posters. Sometimes a new face starts a thread and gets a hard time, where a more recognised profile starting the same thread would not. " Yeah you see that countless time's. | |||
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"I think it's more in which the way us newbies interact with you guys than the other way round. I started by introducing myself and was very warmly welcomed, involved myself in the games on a weekly basis and messaged a few forum regulars to build friendships and I've never felt excluded. Had I have come straight in with a "whose got the biggest tits (hint hint me) thread I can imagine it would have been eyerolling a plenty..... As with every community based group, being the newbies is hard but you have to be respectful of the players already in situ and act accordingly... In my opinion anyway "You certainly seemed to blend in quickly- I don’t think of you as a Newbie | |||
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"How do regular posters better include non-regular posters? By being nice and including them in posts not just passing them by Yes. Good point "Was always nice when I was new to have had a reply. X | |||
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"How do regular posters better include non-regular posters? By being nice and including them in posts not just passing them by Yes. Good point
Thank you .
I remember being a new poster and being ignored until I posted my own thread.
I still get ignored / missed now but I'm aware of friendships and the follow of the forums "Nods. It’s funny how even when you’re regular as a poster, you’re still just a person with feels. I failed to reply to someone and they decided I was no longer their friend. And at times I feel picked on and ganged up on, or ignored. I wish people would realise it is rare that anyone intentionally excludes another on here. We all get bored of the samey same and welcome new people and more topics and discussions in reality. It’s just also some have built genuine online (and offline) friendships with people and it’s sad if they’re not allowed to enjoy them. | |||
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"Please help the cause against the loneliness... Would you like to note my home address? " Don’t mock me. I so want to come to the farm. | |||
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"Even some regulars give up posting on here, so I understand why newbies would be put off. To much LPP and private conversations being eluded to and that is extremely mild compared to when I first joined, some of the posters 10 years ago would have scared the pants off the lot of you!
How do you prevent that? If that’s a product of friendship and frequent interactions?
Being aware?"Aware and then.... | |||
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"Even some regulars give up posting on here, so I understand why newbies would be put off. To much LPP and private conversations being eluded to and that is extremely mild compared to when I first joined, some of the posters 10 years ago would have scared the pants off the lot of you!
How do you prevent that? If that’s a product of friendship and frequent interactions?"Take conversations to PM rather than keep derailing a thread! Simple, if you want to flirt, flirt privately, it's not difficult! And not rocket science......it really is as easy as that  | |||
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"I think it's more in which the way us newbies interact with you guys than the other way round. I started by introducing myself and was very warmly welcomed, involved myself in the games on a weekly basis and messaged a few forum regulars to build friendships and I've never felt excluded. Had I have come straight in with a "whose got the biggest tits (hint hint me) thread I can imagine it would have been eyerolling a plenty..... As with every community based group, being the newbies is hard but you have to be respectful of the players already in situ and act accordingly... In my opinion anyway "Yaaaaaaaay
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"I think it's more in which the way us newbies interact with you guys than the other way round. I started by introducing myself and was very warmly welcomed, involved myself in the games on a weekly basis and messaged a few forum regulars to build friendships and I've never felt excluded. Had I have come straight in with a "whose got the biggest tits (hint hint me) thread I can imagine it would have been eyerolling a plenty..... As with every community based group, being the newbies is hard but you have to be respectful of the players already in situ and act accordingly... In my opinion anyway "Thank you. I think that’s a refreshing view. I think there is accountability on both sides. | |||
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"By treating them the same as regular posters. Sometimes a new face starts a thread and gets a hard time, where a more recognised profile starting the same thread would not. Yeah you see that countless time's. " And similarly, a new person makes a comment which is ignored, then a more well known person says basically the same thing and gets lots of thumbs up and agreement. Yes to an extent that's just friends responding to friends, but not very inclusive! | |||
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"By treating them the same as regular posters. Sometimes a new face starts a thread and gets a hard time, where a more recognised profile starting the same thread would not. Yeah you see that countless time's. " You do. Should we all call each other out on this more then? | |||
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"How do regular posters better include non-regular posters? " Why would you want to? It isn’t about “bettering”, is it? | |||
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"How do regular posters better include non-regular posters? By being nice and including them in posts not just passing them by Yes. Good point
Was always nice when I was new to have had a reply. X"I made a conscious effort that I’d acknowledge all posts to the OP whenever I start a thread, because I felt more welcomed when I joined by getting a reply. | |||
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"Even some regulars give up posting on here, so I understand why newbies would be put off. To much LPP and private conversations being eluded to and that is extremely mild compared to when I first joined, some of the posters 10 years ago would have scared the pants off the lot of you!
How do you prevent that? If that’s a product of friendship and frequent interactions?
Being aware?
Aware and then...."By simply being conscious of the interactions with friends and looking to ensure that they don’t drown out the stil small voice of someone new trying to get a word in edgewise  | |||
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"How do regular posters better include non-regular posters? By being nice and including them in posts not just passing them by Yes. Good point
Was always nice when I was new to have had a reply. X
I made a conscious effort that I’d acknowledge all posts to the OP whenever I start a thread, because I felt more welcomed when I joined by getting a reply. "You are invariably inclusive in your threads and role model inclusivity most of the time | |||
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"Not give them the "who the fuck are you" vibe? Hello yummy. " Hello 
*see this is me being inclusive*
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"Even some regulars give up posting on here, so I understand why newbies would be put off. To much LPP and private conversations being eluded to and that is extremely mild compared to when I first joined, some of the posters 10 years ago would have scared the pants off the lot of you!
How do you prevent that? If that’s a product of friendship and frequent interactions?
Take conversations to PM rather than keep derailing a thread! Simple, if you want to flirt, flirt privately, it's not difficult! And not rocket science......it really is as easy as that "So no one flirts on the forum? I am more comfortable flirting in the forum than on PM, so I think that’s where we also need to appreciate diversity and different people's comfort levels too. Derailing someone else’s thread is different to posting your own, I get that though. | |||
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"Not give them the "who the fuck are you" vibe? How do you do that? Does it mean not responding to a post that might be a new poster who writes something you want to challenge? " Firstly say hello 
Then do this
Then challenge and do this
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"By treating them the same as regular posters. Sometimes a new face starts a thread and gets a hard time, where a more recognised profile starting the same thread would not. Yeah you see that countless time's. You do. Should we all call each other out on this more then? " I remember getting severely roasted calling out forum regulars for unwelcoming behaviour - haven’t bothered since | |||
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"By treating them the same as regular posters. Sometimes a new face starts a thread and gets a hard time, where a more recognised profile starting the same thread would not. Yeah you see that countless time's. And similarly, a new person makes a comment which is ignored, then a more well known person says basically the same thing and gets lots of thumbs up and agreement. Yes to an extent that's just friends responding to friends, but not very inclusive! " Do you call it out when you see it? And big up the new poster? Is that what we should do? | |||
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"Even some regulars give up posting on here, so I understand why newbies would be put off. To much LPP and private conversations being eluded to and that is extremely mild compared to when I first joined, some of the posters 10 years ago would have scared the pants off the lot of you!
How do you prevent that? If that’s a product of friendship and frequent interactions?
Take conversations to PM rather than keep derailing a thread! Simple, if you want to flirt, flirt privately, it's not difficult! And not rocket science......it really is as easy as that
So no one flirts on the forum?
I am more comfortable flirting in the forum than on PM, so I think that’s where we also need to appreciate diversity and different people's comfort levels too. Derailing someone else’s thread is different to posting your own, I get that though. "Again it’s being aware when flirting turns into a thread hijack. There are loads of threads where overt flirting is perfectly acceptable anyway | |||
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"By treating them the same as regular posters. Sometimes a new face starts a thread and gets a hard time, where a more recognised profile starting the same thread would not. Yeah you see that countless time's. And similarly, a new person makes a comment which is ignored, then a more well known person says basically the same thing and gets lots of thumbs up and agreement. Yes to an extent that's just friends responding to friends, but not very inclusive! " Nail on the head | |||
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"How do regular posters better include non-regular posters? Why would you want to? It isn’t about “bettering”, is it?" Because people complain about it and as a regular poster I’d rather see practical solutions as I don’t like the idea of being tagged as actively non-inclusive. It’s up to you if you would want to or not, it’s not compulsory. | |||
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"Even some regulars give up posting on here, so I understand why newbies would be put off. To much LPP and private conversations being eluded to and that is extremely mild compared to when I first joined, some of the posters 10 years ago would have scared the pants off the lot of you!
How do you prevent that? If that’s a product of friendship and frequent interactions?
Being aware?
Aware and then....
By simply being conscious of the interactions with friends and looking to ensure that they don’t drown out the stil small voice of someone new trying to get a word in edgewise "Acknowledging everyone at every post you make? | |||
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"Personally I don’t reply to peoples post because of who posted them. I quote and/or reply to posts because something in it caught my eye. It may have made me laugh. Said what I was thinking. Triggered an emotion. Usually I see a post and it triggers something funny in my head and I post that thought. "I post like that quite often when I’m not polluting the internet with my verbal diarrhoea | |||
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"How do regular posters better include non-regular posters? By being nice and including them in posts not just passing them by Yes. Good point
Was always nice when I was new to have had a reply. X
I made a conscious effort that I’d acknowledge all posts to the OP whenever I start a thread, because I felt more welcomed when I joined by getting a reply.
You are invariably inclusive in your threads and role model inclusivity most of the time"I know I don’t get it right all the time. I’m quick to respond to posts and say what I think. That is often me trying to be inclusive by posting to another’s thread but could easily be everyone’s version of not being inclusive if it’s read a different way. I will actively think about my posts in this way more | |||
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"How do regular posters better include non-regular posters? " Reintroduction of fun? | |||
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"Even some regulars give up posting on here, so I understand why newbies would be put off. To much LPP and private conversations being eluded to and that is extremely mild compared to when I first joined, some of the posters 10 years ago would have scared the pants off the lot of you!
How do you prevent that? If that’s a product of friendship and frequent interactions?
Being aware?
Aware and then....
By simply being conscious of the interactions with friends and looking to ensure that they don’t drown out the stil small voice of someone new trying to get a word in edgewise
Acknowledging everyone at every post you make? "I don’t think that’s possible but it is possible to notice a pattern and break it | |||
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"Not give them the "who the fuck are you" vibe? How do you do that? Does it mean not responding to a post that might be a new poster who writes something you want to challenge? Firstly say hello
Then do this
Then challenge and do this
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The only way to become a 'regular poster' is to post regularly. It's really that simple | |||
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"By treating them the same as regular posters. Sometimes a new face starts a thread and gets a hard time, where a more recognised profile starting the same thread would not. Yeah you see that countless time's. You do. Should we all call each other out on this more then? " Most definitely. I just find it annoying when a new person starts a thread and everyone just ignores them or takes the piss and then starts their own in-house chat's. | |||
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"How do regular posters better include non-regular posters? Reintroduction of fun?" When did the fun disappear? Who nicked it? Bloody thieves | |||
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"By treating them the same as regular posters. Sometimes a new face starts a thread and gets a hard time, where a more recognised profile starting the same thread would not. Yeah you see that countless time's. You do. Should we all call each other out on this more then? I remember getting severely roasted calling out forum regulars for unwelcoming behaviour - haven’t bothered since" I can imagine! | |||
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"By treating them the same as regular posters. Sometimes a new face starts a thread and gets a hard time, where a more recognised profile starting the same thread would not. Yeah you see that countless time's. And similarly, a new person makes a comment which is ignored, then a more well known person says basically the same thing and gets lots of thumbs up and agreement. Yes to an extent that's just friends responding to friends, but not very inclusive! Do you call it out when you see it? And big up the new poster? Is that what we should do? " The skipping comments thing, no I don't call that out I must admit. I wouldn't feel I had the right to say "you shouldve replied to this person, not this one". It's just something I've observed that I think may make newbies a bit reluctant to post. But if I see someone getting a hard time unfairly then yes, I do say something. | |||
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"Even some regulars give up posting on here, so I understand why newbies would be put off. To much LPP and private conversations being eluded to and that is extremely mild compared to when I first joined, some of the posters 10 years ago would have scared the pants off the lot of you!
How do you prevent that? If that’s a product of friendship and frequent interactions?
Take conversations to PM rather than keep derailing a thread! Simple, if you want to flirt, flirt privately, it's not difficult! And not rocket science......it really is as easy as that
So no one flirts on the forum?
I am more comfortable flirting in the forum than on PM, so I think that’s where we also need to appreciate diversity and different people's comfort levels too. Derailing someone else’s thread is different to posting your own, I get that though. "So you have a thread that is derailed by two people who continually post the emoji's 
Really helpful and encourages others to join in NOT! So are we really looking for a genuine way to help people join in, or just another thread to see how popular to OP is? Not that I am cynical in ant way  | |||
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"Okay this might not translate very well but... I sometimes view comments / threads started by newbies and I think - uh oh that ain't going to go well. Not because they're trolling but because they haven't worded it in a way that others do, it gets 'nit picked' by a regular, others join in and it snowballs. The newbie either gets defensive or disheartened and doesn't bother again. I've said on numerous threads for people not to give up, keep posting... "Yes, I can see that. And that translates really well. This is definitely one for me to ponder as I can be quick in on a new thread and can be blunt in my view. Thanks. | |||
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"It's a great sentiment but no one made me feel included or anything. I came I saw and I joined in. And I kept going. Not everyone likes me, listens to me or knows I exist, but I know I'm here and I make the effort
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"I consider myself a relative newcomer, I like the forums a lot, I appreciate that many posters have been here a lot longer than me and things get mentioned that I have no clue about. I comment on threads and if I am included in someone's response then it serves as acknowledgement. I don't feel excluded or welcomed but I certainly don't feel ostracised in any way. I have enjoyed reading the obvious bonhomie between friends that goes on and on the whole your all a good crowd with a collective wealth of humour, experience and in the grand scheme of things not much negativity. So here's to the forum collective... Thanks for being who you are and does anyone have any ice cream? X "I’ve got some Belgian chocolate and Salted Caramel | |||
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"I was actually talking about this with someone earlier today. Ive been posting on the forums for a while now but its only recently Ive started to "feel part of it". I guess familiarity helps and newbies can't do anything about that. It takes time for people to get to know your personality a bit and to make a judgment about you. I think it would've been easier for me if more people made sure they hadn't missed people on the "person above" type threads and if OP's made sure that if they were commenting on replies they took time to involve newbies more. " I agree wholeheartedly. If I join a person above post I immediately go back to see if my timing was off and I missed someone and repost if I have. I got missed twice on one recently and I’d forgotten how it makes you go “oh” even though I know it’s rarely on purpose. | |||
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"Even some regulars give up posting on here, so I understand why newbies would be put off. To much LPP and private conversations being eluded to and that is extremely mild compared to when I first joined, some of the posters 10 years ago would have scared the pants off the lot of you!
How do you prevent that? If that’s a product of friendship and frequent interactions?
Take conversations to PM rather than keep derailing a thread! Simple, if you want to flirt, flirt privately, it's not difficult! And not rocket science......it really is as easy as that
So no one flirts on the forum?
I am more comfortable flirting in the forum than on PM, so I think that’s where we also need to appreciate diversity and different people's comfort levels too. Derailing someone else’s thread is different to posting your own, I get that though.
So you have a thread that is derailed by two people who continually post the emoji's
Really helpful and encourages others to join in NOT! So are we really looking for a genuine way to help people join in, or just another thread to see how popular to OP is? Not that I am cynical in ant way "I’ve never noticed your cynicism | |||
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"Personally I don’t reply to peoples post because of who posted them. I quote and/or reply to posts because something in it caught my eye. It may have made me laugh. Said what I was thinking. Triggered an emotion. Usually I see a post and it triggers something funny in my head and I post that thought. "Nods. | |||
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"I consider myself a relative newcomer, I like the forums a lot, I appreciate that many posters have been here a lot longer than me and things get mentioned that I have no clue about. I comment on threads and if I am included in someone's response then it serves as acknowledgement. I don't feel excluded or welcomed but I certainly don't feel ostracised in any way. I have enjoyed reading the obvious bonhomie between friends that goes on and on the whole your all a good crowd with a collective wealth of humour, experience and in the grand scheme of things not much negativity. So here's to the forum collective... Thanks for being who you are and does anyone have any ice cream? X
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"Even some regulars give up posting on here, so I understand why newbies would be put off. To much LPP and private conversations being eluded to and that is extremely mild compared to when I first joined, some of the posters 10 years ago would have scared the pants off the lot of you!
How do you prevent that? If that’s a product of friendship and frequent interactions?
Being aware?
Aware and then....
By simply being conscious of the interactions with friends and looking to ensure that they don’t drown out the stil small voice of someone new trying to get a word in edgewise
Acknowledging everyone at every post you make?
I don’t think that’s possible but it is possible to notice a pattern and break it"It's not possible to reply to all, it's capped at 175 and would make for a boring disjointed thread. I agree noticing a pattern & thinking I won't automatically reply / requote friend I'll do the lesser known person who has said the exact same thing. | |||
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How do you prevent that? If that’s a product of friendship and frequent interactions?
Take conversations to PM rather than keep derailing a thread! Simple, if you want to flirt, flirt privately, it's not difficult! And not rocket science......it really is as easy as that
So no one flirts on the forum?
I am more comfortable flirting in the forum than on PM, so I think that’s where we also need to appreciate diversity and different people's comfort levels too. Derailing someone else’s thread is different to posting your own, I get that though.
Again it’s being aware when flirting turns into a thread hijack. There are loads of threads where overt flirting is perfectly acceptable anyway"Yes | |||
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"I consider myself a relative newcomer, I like the forums a lot, I appreciate that many posters have been here a lot longer than me and things get mentioned that I have no clue about. I comment on threads and if I am included in someone's response then it serves as acknowledgement. I don't feel excluded or welcomed but I certainly don't feel ostracised in any way. I have enjoyed reading the obvious bonhomie between friends that goes on and on the whole your all a good crowd with a collective wealth of humour, experience and in the grand scheme of things not much negativity. So here's to the forum collective... Thanks for being who you are and does anyone have any ice cream? X
I’ve got some Belgian chocolate and Salted Caramel
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"Even some regulars give up posting on here, so I understand why newbies would be put off. To much LPP and private conversations being eluded to and that is extremely mild compared to when I first joined, some of the posters 10 years ago would have scared the pants off the lot of you!
How do you prevent that? If that’s a product of friendship and frequent interactions?
Being aware?
Aware and then....
By simply being conscious of the interactions with friends and looking to ensure that they don’t drown out the stil small voice of someone new trying to get a word in edgewise
Acknowledging everyone at every post you make?
I don’t think that’s possible but it is possible to notice a pattern and break it"Nods | |||
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"Though one way someone can influence inclusion is when you start your own thread and you try to respond to everyone. But it's not always possible/easy. And if you are responding you don't pay attention to how long anyone has been on here, just the comments themselves. "Curating threads isn’t easy sometimes but it is a good way to ease people in. If the OP is responding to them fairly they will feel part of that thread and hopefully be encouraged to join in more But to echo others you have to get stuck in as a newbie until you become part of the furniture | |||
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"Though one way someone can influence inclusion is when you start your own thread and you try to respond to everyone. But it's not always possible/easy. And if you are responding you don't pay attention to how long anyone has been on here, just the comments themselves. "It’s tough doing it. I’ve tried it a few times but having the time and energy to do it consistently is beyond me | |||
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"I consider myself a relative newcomer, I like the forums a lot, I appreciate that many posters have been here a lot longer than me and things get mentioned that I have no clue about. I comment on threads and if I am included in someone's response then it serves as acknowledgement. I don't feel excluded or welcomed but I certainly don't feel ostracised in any way. I have enjoyed reading the obvious bonhomie between friends that goes on and on the whole your all a good crowd with a collective wealth of humour, experience and in the grand scheme of things not much negativity. So here's to the forum collective... Thanks for being who you are and does anyone have any ice cream? X "Ice cream for this lovely!! | |||
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"Curating threads isn’t easy sometimes but it is a good way to ease people in. If the OP is responding to them fairly they will feel part of that thread and hopefully be encouraged to join in more But to echo others you have to get stuck in as a newbie until you become part of the furniture " Or you can offer to do the Annual Fab Forum Awards and then everyone will know who you are | |||
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"It's a great sentiment but no one made me feel included or anything. I came I saw and I joined in. And I kept going. Not everyone likes me, listens to me or knows I exist, but I know I'm here and I make the effort
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Ice cream for this lovely!! "With sauce and a Flake I say | |||
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"Even some regulars give up posting on here, so I understand why newbies would be put off. To much LPP and private conversations being eluded to and that is extremely mild compared to when I first joined, some of the posters 10 years ago would have scared the pants off the lot of you!
How do you prevent that? If that’s a product of friendship and frequent interactions?
Take conversations to PM rather than keep derailing a thread! Simple, if you want to flirt, flirt privately, it's not difficult! And not rocket science......it really is as easy as that
So no one flirts on the forum?
I am more comfortable flirting in the forum than on PM, so I think that’s where we also need to appreciate diversity and different people's comfort levels too. Derailing someone else’s thread is different to posting your own, I get that though.
So you have a thread that is derailed by two people who continually post the emoji's
Really helpful and encourages others to join in NOT! So are we really looking for a genuine way to help people join in, or just another thread to see how popular the OP is? Not that I am cynical in any way
I’ve never noticed your cynicism"You wouldn't have, I'm too subtle (and corrected my own typos) | |||
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"Curating threads isn’t easy sometimes but it is a good way to ease people in. If the OP is responding to them fairly they will feel part of that thread and hopefully be encouraged to join in more But to echo others you have to get stuck in as a newbie until you become part of the furniture Or you can offer to do the Annual Fab Forum Awards and then everyone will know who you are "Offer? I still don’t know how I ended up involved last year | |||
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"Though one way someone can influence inclusion is when you start your own thread and you try to respond to everyone. But it's not always possible/easy. And if you are responding you don't pay attention to how long anyone has been on here, just the comments themselves.
Curating threads isn’t easy sometimes but it is a good way to ease people in. If the OP is responding to them fairly they will feel part of that thread and hopefully be encouraged to join in more
But to echo others you have to get stuck in as a newbie until you become part of the furniture "It’s easier for some personalities to get stuck in than others though. We don’t all interact in the same way. There are those that need to feel heard and encouraged. | |||
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"I consider myself a relative newcomer, I like the forums a lot, I appreciate that many posters have been here a lot longer than me and things get mentioned that I have no clue about. I comment on threads and if I am included in someone's response then it serves as acknowledgement. I don't feel excluded or welcomed but I certainly don't feel ostracised in any way. I have enjoyed reading the obvious bonhomie between friends that goes on and on the whole your all a good crowd with a collective wealth of humour, experience and in the grand scheme of things not much negativity. So here's to the forum collective... Thanks for being who you are and does anyone have any ice cream? X
Ice cream for this lovely!! "Ahhh thanks... No nuts though please. X | |||
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"By treating them the same as regular posters. Sometimes a new face starts a thread and gets a hard time, where a more recognised profile starting the same thread would not. Yeah you see that countless time's. You do. Should we all call each other out on this more then? Most definitely. I just find it annoying when a new person starts a thread and everyone just ignores them or takes the piss and then starts their own in-house chat's." Yes, I often think the time of night makes a difference sometimes too. Late evening becomes a bit of a friends jump from thread to thread madhouse, I’ve been guilty of this. | |||
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"This may be a bit controversial but this is a 2 way thing, you get out what you put in. I’m still relatively new to Fab and the forum, I just posted frequently and got stuck in. Oh and tried not to be a knob, some may find this concept challenging if it’s their default setting "This is a good point | |||
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"I think it's more in which the way us newbies interact with you guys than the other way round. I started by introducing myself and was very warmly welcomed, involved myself in the games on a weekly basis and messaged a few forum regulars to build friendships and I've never felt excluded. Had I have come straight in with a "whose got the biggest tits (hint hint me) thread I can imagine it would have been eyerolling a plenty..... As with every community based group, being the newbies is hard but you have to be respectful of the players already in situ and act accordingly... In my opinion anyway
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"Curating threads isn’t easy sometimes but it is a good way to ease people in. If the OP is responding to them fairly they will feel part of that thread and hopefully be encouraged to join in more But to echo others you have to get stuck in as a newbie until you become part of the furniture Or you can offer to do the Annual Fab Forum Awards and then everyone will know who you are
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"By treating them the same as regular posters. Sometimes a new face starts a thread and gets a hard time, where a more recognised profile starting the same thread would not. Yeah you see that countless time's. And similarly, a new person makes a comment which is ignored, then a more well known person says basically the same thing and gets lots of thumbs up and agreement. Yes to an extent that's just friends responding to friends, but not very inclusive! Do you call it out when you see it? And big up the new poster? Is that what we should do? The skipping comments thing, no I don't call that out I must admit. I wouldn't feel I had the right to say "you shouldve replied to this person, not this one". It's just something I've observed that I think may make newbies a bit reluctant to post. But if I see someone getting a hard time unfairly then yes, I do say something. " Perhaps we need to gently prod each other. And the call out can be you acknowledging the new poster’s comment that was missed with a well done for making this point first, rather than a pull down of the person that missed it. | |||
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"It's a great sentiment but no one made me feel included or anything. I came I saw and I joined in. And I kept going. Not everyone likes me, listens to me or knows I exist, but I know I'm here and I make the effort
The only way to become a 'regular poster' is to post regularly. It's really that simple "This is exactly the same as I feel about the forums. I probably get ignored a lot but hey ho I will still keep on putting my twopenneth in | |||
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"Yes, I often think the time of night makes a difference sometimes too. Late evening becomes a bit of a friends jump from thread to thread madhouse, I’ve been guilty of this." I only come in here in the evenings so I probably don't know a whole bunch of day people | |||
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"Even some regulars give up posting on here, so I understand why newbies would be put off. To much LPP and private conversations being eluded to and that is extremely mild compared to when I first joined, some of the posters 10 years ago would have scared the pants off the lot of you!
How do you prevent that? If that’s a product of friendship and frequent interactions?
Take conversations to PM rather than keep derailing a thread! Simple, if you want to flirt, flirt privately, it's not difficult! And not rocket science......it really is as easy as that
So no one flirts on the forum?
I am more comfortable flirting in the forum than on PM, so I think that’s where we also need to appreciate diversity and different people's comfort levels too. Derailing someone else’s thread is different to posting your own, I get that though.
So you have a thread that is derailed by two people who continually post the emoji's
Really helpful and encourages others to join in NOT! So are we really looking for a genuine way to help people join in, or just another thread to see how popular to OP is? Not that I am cynical in ant way "Sorry, was I flirting with someone on this thread or posting it for popularity? Is that what you’re asking? | |||
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"Even some regulars give up posting on here, so I understand why newbies would be put off. To much LPP and private conversations being eluded to and that is extremely mild compared to when I first joined, some of the posters 10 years ago would have scared the pants off the lot of you!
How do you prevent that? If that’s a product of friendship and frequent interactions?
Take conversations to PM rather than keep derailing a thread! Simple, if you want to flirt, flirt privately, it's not difficult! And not rocket science......it really is as easy as that
So no one flirts on the forum?
I am more comfortable flirting in the forum than on PM, so I think that’s where we also need to appreciate diversity and different people's comfort levels too. Derailing someone else’s thread is different to posting your own, I get that though.
So you have a thread that is derailed by two people who continually post the emoji's
Really helpful and encourages others to join in NOT! So are we really looking for a genuine way to help people join in, or just another thread to see how popular the OP is? Not that I am cynical in any way
I’ve never noticed your cynicism
You wouldn't have, I'm too subtle (and corrected my own typos) "Subtlety? A subtle cynic - don’t see many of them do ya? | |||
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"Even some regulars give up posting on here, so I understand why newbies would be put off. To much LPP and private conversations being eluded to and that is extremely mild compared to when I first joined, some of the posters 10 years ago would have scared the pants off the lot of you!
How do you prevent that? If that’s a product of friendship and frequent interactions?
Being aware?
Aware and then....
By simply being conscious of the interactions with friends and looking to ensure that they don’t drown out the stil small voice of someone new trying to get a word in edgewise
Acknowledging everyone at every post you make?
I don’t think that’s possible but it is possible to notice a pattern and break it
It's not possible to reply to all, it's capped at 175 and would make for a boring disjointed thread.
I agree noticing a pattern & thinking I won't automatically reply / requote friend I'll do the lesser known person who has said the exact same thing."Gotcha | |||
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"Not give them the "who the fuck are you" vibe? This. A thousand times: this. I’m an infrequent poster but a regular reader. Where’s that ‘eye roll’ emoji?! " But how? How do you not give them that vibe? | |||
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A lot of the forum members have met and seem cliqey - but they're a friendly bunch really.
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"It's a great sentiment but no one made me feel included or anything. I came I saw and I joined in. And I kept going. Not everyone likes me, listens to me or knows I exist, but I know I'm here and I make the effort
The only way to become a 'regular poster' is to post regularly. It's really that simple
This is exactly the same as I feel about the forums. I probably get ignored a lot but hey ho I will still keep on putting my twopenneth in"Well I definitely noticed you, although I hadn’t acknowledged the fact until now  | |||
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"I guess one’s reason for using the forums at any given could have some sort of bearing in their inclusivity. Perhaps we should avoid posting when we’re in dickish moods. Either way, it’s nice this thread recognises it and hopefully it’ll improve. " Sometimes I *need* the forums when I’m in a dickish mood! | |||
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"Okay this might not translate very well but... I sometimes view comments / threads started by newbies and I think - uh oh that ain't going to go well. Not because they're trolling but because they haven't worded it in a way that others do, it gets 'nit picked' by a regular, others join in and it snowballs. The newbie either gets defensive or disheartened and doesn't bother again. I've said on numerous threads for people not to give up, keep posting...
I suspect that’s because newbies haven’t been reading the forums long enough to know what will or won’t go well. That gut feeling only comes with time I guess.
And, as a newbie, I’ll watch with interest tovsee what reaction this gets "It’s a good point, how do you tune in with a group if you’re new... | |||
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"Though one way someone can influence inclusion is when you start your own thread and you try to respond to everyone. But it's not always possible/easy. And if you are responding you don't pay attention to how long anyone has been on here, just the comments themselves.
Curating threads isn’t easy sometimes but it is a good way to ease people in. If the OP is responding to them fairly they will feel part of that thread and hopefully be encouraged to join in more
But to echo others you have to get stuck in as a newbie until you become part of the furniture "It gets tiring. I’m conscious right now how many more posts there are and how slowly I’m going! | |||
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"I consider myself a relative newcomer, I like the forums a lot, I appreciate that many posters have been here a lot longer than me and things get mentioned that I have no clue about. I comment on threads and if I am included in someone's response then it serves as acknowledgement. I don't feel excluded or welcomed but I certainly don't feel ostracised in any way. I have enjoyed reading the obvious bonhomie between friends that goes on and on the whole your all a good crowd with a collective wealth of humour, experience and in the grand scheme of things not much negativity. So here's to the forum collective... Thanks for being who you are and does anyone have any ice cream? X
Ice cream for this lovely!!
Ahhh thanks... No nuts though please. X "Noted | |||
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"Meh ... You need thick skin to be on here. I'm a regular poster but barely anyone knows I exist - but I like to Blaaaahhh so I don't care
A lot of the forum members have met and seem cliqey - but they're a friendly bunch really.
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You watch, you listen, you learn, you pounce when ready.
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"Even some regulars give up posting on here, so I understand why newbies would be put off. To much LPP and private conversations being eluded to and that is extremely mild compared to when I first joined, some of the posters 10 years ago would have scared the pants off the lot of you!
How do you prevent that? If that’s a product of friendship and frequent interactions?
Take conversations to PM rather than keep derailing a thread! Simple, if you want to flirt, flirt privately, it's not difficult! And not rocket science......it really is as easy as that
So no one flirts on the forum?
I am more comfortable flirting in the forum than on PM, so I think that’s where we also need to appreciate diversity and different people's comfort levels too. Derailing someone else’s thread is different to posting your own, I get that though.
So you have a thread that is derailed by two people who continually post the emoji's
Really helpful and encourages others to join in NOT! So are we really looking for a genuine way to help people join in, or just another thread to see how popular to OP is? Not that I am cynical in ant way
Sorry, was I flirting with someone on this thread or posting it for popularity? Is that what you’re asking? "I wasn't asking anything, I was just stating the reasons why I can't be arsed to post that much any more, too many ego's want to be loved and to do that they have to post a thread as often as they can, just my opinion of course | |||
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"I consider myself a relative newcomer, I like the forums a lot, I appreciate that many posters have been here a lot longer than me and things get mentioned that I have no clue about. I comment on threads and if I am included in someone's response then it serves as acknowledgement. I don't feel excluded or welcomed but I certainly don't feel ostracised in any way. I have enjoyed reading the obvious bonhomie between friends that goes on and on the whole your all a good crowd with a collective wealth of humour, experience and in the grand scheme of things not much negativity. So here's to the forum collective... Thanks for being who you are and does anyone have any ice cream? X
Ice cream for this lovely!!
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"I consider myself a relative newcomer, I like the forums a lot, I appreciate that many posters have been here a lot longer than me and things get mentioned that I have no clue about. I comment on threads and if I am included in someone's response then it serves as acknowledgement. I don't feel excluded or welcomed but I certainly don't feel ostracised in any way. I have enjoyed reading the obvious bonhomie between friends that goes on and on the whole your all a good crowd with a collective wealth of humour, experience and in the grand scheme of things not much negativity. So here's to the forum collective... Thanks for being who you are and does anyone have any ice cream? X
Ice cream for this lovely!!
Already provided. Keep up
I’m trying!!"Just for the record, there is no such thing as too much ice cream... X | |||
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"Though one way someone can influence inclusion is when you start your own thread and you try to respond to everyone. But it's not always possible/easy. And if you are responding you don't pay attention to how long anyone has been on here, just the comments themselves.
Curating threads isn’t easy sometimes but it is a good way to ease people in. If the OP is responding to them fairly they will feel part of that thread and hopefully be encouraged to join in more
But to echo others you have to get stuck in as a newbie until you become part of the furniture
It gets tiring. I’m conscious right now how many more posts there are and how slowly I’m going! "Maybe it’s not about acknowledging all posts but about spreading the seeds of inclusivity about. Can’t beat a bit of promiscuous seed spreading | |||
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"Even some regulars give up posting on here, so I understand why newbies would be put off. To much LPP and private conversations being eluded to and that is extremely mild compared to when I first joined, some of the posters 10 years ago would have scared the pants off the lot of you!
How do you prevent that? If that’s a product of friendship and frequent interactions?
Take conversations to PM rather than keep derailing a thread! Simple, if you want to flirt, flirt privately, it's not difficult! And not rocket science......it really is as easy as that
So no one flirts on the forum?
I am more comfortable flirting in the forum than on PM, so I think that’s where we also need to appreciate diversity and different people's comfort levels too. Derailing someone else’s thread is different to posting your own, I get that though.
So you have a thread that is derailed by two people who continually post the emoji's
Really helpful and encourages others to join in NOT! So are we really looking for a genuine way to help people join in, or just another thread to see how popular to OP is? Not that I am cynical in ant way
Sorry, was I flirting with someone on this thread or posting it for popularity? Is that what you’re asking?
I wasn't asking anything, I was just stating the reasons why I can't be arsed to post that much any more, too many ego's want to be loved and to do that they have to post a thread as often as they can, just my opinion of course "It’s a forum that wouldn’t exist without egos and ppl starting threads | |||
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"Meh ... You need thick skin to be on here. I'm a regular poster but barely anyone knows I exist - but I like to Blaaaahhh so I don't care
A lot of the forum members have met and seem cliqey - but they're a friendly bunch really.
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I wear a thin sensitive skin and don’t feel the need to make it thicker, that said I am resilient. However I agree that on the whole the forum is quite friendly and therefore makes it ok for me"It's a Christmas miracle! I'm not invisible after all
But yes I agree the forum isn't a hostile place I think it feels hostile to people that ask stupid questions!
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"How do regular posters better include non-regular posters? They don't
As in they shouldn’t or just don’t, and if it’s don’t how could they? "As in they don't. This is the most cliquey I've ever seen it. There seem to be a much smaller number of posters & topics too. | |||
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"How do regular posters better include non-regular posters? Faf? Are you agreeing to fuck all non-regular posters? " No but they say there's someone for everyone. | |||
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"I consider myself a relative newcomer, I like the forums a lot, I appreciate that many posters have been here a lot longer than me and things get mentioned that I have no clue about. I comment on threads and if I am included in someone's response then it serves as acknowledgement. I don't feel excluded or welcomed but I certainly don't feel ostracised in any way. I have enjoyed reading the obvious bonhomie between friends that goes on and on the whole your all a good crowd with a collective wealth of humour, experience and in the grand scheme of things not much negativity. So here's to the forum collective... Thanks for being who you are and does anyone have any ice cream? X
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I’m trying!!
Just for the record, there is no such thing as too much ice cream... X"Noted xx | |||
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"'Regulars' is also something to do with perception. About a year ago (or so?) there was a guy who joined the forums for a while and in one post mentioned some 'regulars'. I can't remember who they were, but at least one of them had only been here a couple of months "Perception has a lot to answer for | |||
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"It's a great sentiment but no one made me feel included or anything. I came I saw and I joined in. And I kept going. Not everyone likes me, listens to me or knows I exist, but I know I'm here and I make the effort
The only way to become a 'regular poster' is to post regularly. It's really that simple
This is exactly the same as I feel about the forums. I probably get ignored a lot but hey ho I will still keep on putting my twopenneth in"Please do, I read you | |||
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"Meh ... You need thick skin to be on here. I'm a regular poster but barely anyone knows I exist - but I like to Blaaaahhh so I don't care
A lot of the forum members have met and seem cliqey - but they're a friendly bunch really.
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I wear a thin sensitive skin and don’t feel the need to make it thicker, that said I am resilient. However I agree that on the whole the forum is quite friendly and therefore makes it ok for me
It's a Christmas miracle!
I'm not invisible after all
But yes I agree the forum isn't a hostile place I think it feels hostile to people that ask stupid questions!
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"Not give them the "who the fuck are you" vibe? This. A thousand times: this. I’m an infrequent poster but a regular reader. Where’s that ‘eye roll’ emoji?! " I'm regular and sometimes I feel this way. Or I read stuff and want to  | |||
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"Meh ... You need thick skin to be on here. I'm a regular poster but barely anyone knows I exist - but I like to Blaaaahhh so I don't care
A lot of the forum members have met and seem cliqey - but they're a friendly bunch really.
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"It’s a good point, how do you tune in with a group if you’re new...
You watch, you listen, you learn, you pounce when ready.
The chat rooms are tougher crowd than here but it's possible to break in there too "I like the chat rooms | |||
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"I'm pretty sure a while ago Ruggers referred to a newbie thread (before she closed it) which highlighted a variety of reasons as to why someone wouldn't want to ever post in the forums again. Made for an interesting read! " It did. The chap who posted the meet for him and his female friend, I think. | |||
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"Even some regulars give up posting on here, so I understand why newbies would be put off. To much LPP and private conversations being eluded to and that is extremely mild compared to when I first joined, some of the posters 10 years ago would have scared the pants off the lot of you!
How do you prevent that? If that’s a product of friendship and frequent interactions?
Take conversations to PM rather than keep derailing a thread! Simple, if you want to flirt, flirt privately, it's not difficult! And not rocket science......it really is as easy as that
So no one flirts on the forum?
I am more comfortable flirting in the forum than on PM, so I think that’s where we also need to appreciate diversity and different people's comfort levels too. Derailing someone else’s thread is different to posting your own, I get that though.
So you have a thread that is derailed by two people who continually post the emoji's
Really helpful and encourages others to join in NOT! So are we really looking for a genuine way to help people join in, or just another thread to see how popular to OP is? Not that I am cynical in ant way
Sorry, was I flirting with someone on this thread or posting it for popularity? Is that what you’re asking?
I wasn't asking anything, I was just stating the reasons why I can't be arsed to post that much any more, too many ego's want to be loved and to do that they have to post a thread as often as they can, just my opinion of course "Aha! I see. Sorry, wanted to make sure I didn’t miss you if it was a direct question — yes I see your point. | |||
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"I guess one’s reason for using the forums at any given could have some sort of bearing in their inclusivity. Perhaps we should avoid posting when we’re in dickish moods. Either way, it’s nice this thread recognises it and hopefully it’ll improve. Sometimes I *need* the forums when I’m in a dickish mood! " You know what I mean though, right? I think we all get like that, and that’s cool unless we become less inclusive when we feel like that. | |||
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"As someone who rarely pops their head in now, it seems as though the forums are much the same as ever. Most of the threads are tail chasing between a few posters. Who's hottest? Who has the best tits/stockings/torso or whatever. Boring as fuck. However, the difference between now and a couple of years ago is there are very few decent discussions. Dare I say it, hiving the politics threads off has affected the quality of conversation. I'm sorry, but it's slim pickings for anyone who's not a tailchasing egotist." I think there are less quality threads but I’m not sure that is due to politics being segregated. | |||
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"Sending them, welcome cheseecake pics "Hahaha. Good point | |||
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"It gets tiring. I’m conscious right now how many more posts there are and how slowly I’m going! I've cut back on my Match thread posting. When there are interesting comments it's easier but atm it's a lot of "Im in". But then in a thread like this where there are lots of great views being put forward, and at a fast pace, it does get hard "*gasp* yes! | |||
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"As someone who rarely pops their head in now, it seems as though the forums are much the same as ever. Most of the threads are tail chasing between a few posters. Who's hottest? Who has the best tits/stockings/torso or whatever. Boring as fuck. However, the difference between now and a couple of years ago is there are very few decent discussions. Dare I say it, hiving the politics threads off has affected the quality of conversation. I'm sorry, but it's slim pickings for anyone who's not a tailchasing egotist." Then why not post interesting discussions yourself? | |||
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"I think there are a larger number of people dominating the forums currently who take matters very personally. In previous years, discussions could get very heated but there were far more people who were capable of debating a point rather than getting hung up on who said the point." Interesting. | |||
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"I consider myself a relative newcomer, I like the forums a lot, I appreciate that many posters have been here a lot longer than me and things get mentioned that I have no clue about. I comment on threads and if I am included in someone's response then it serves as acknowledgement. I don't feel excluded or welcomed but I certainly don't feel ostracised in any way. I have enjoyed reading the obvious bonhomie between friends that goes on and on the whole your all a good crowd with a collective wealth of humour, experience and in the grand scheme of things not much negativity. So here's to the forum collective... Thanks for being who you are and does anyone have any ice cream? X
Ice cream for this lovely!!
Already provided. Keep up
I’m trying!!
Just for the record, there is no such thing as too much ice cream... X"Aww thanks! | |||
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"As someone who rarely pops their head in now, it seems as though the forums are much the same as ever. Most of the threads are tail chasing between a few posters. Who's hottest? Who has the best tits/stockings/torso or whatever. Boring as fuck. However, the difference between now and a couple of years ago is there are very few decent discussions. Dare I say it, hiving the politics threads off has affected the quality of conversation. I'm sorry, but it's slim pickings for anyone who's not a tailchasing egotist. I think there are less quality threads but I’m not sure that is due to politics being segregated. " Separating politics (and shoving anything you don't like in there) sent a message that these forums didn't welcome actual debate. | |||
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"I decided to post a thread introducing myself just a few days ago and felt totally welcomed. I don’t get chance to look at the forums too often during the day but I shall keep posting the odd comment and hopefully people will get to know me." I've never introduced myself in that sense. | |||
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"As someone who rarely pops their head in now, it seems as though the forums are much the same as ever. Most of the threads are tail chasing between a few posters. Who's hottest? Who has the best tits/stockings/torso or whatever. Boring as fuck. However, the difference between now and a couple of years ago is there are very few decent discussions. Dare I say it, hiving the politics threads off has affected the quality of conversation. I'm sorry, but it's slim pickings for anyone who's not a tailchasing egotist. I think there are less quality threads but I’m not sure that is due to politics being segregated. " The political threads often turned into arguments. | |||
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"As someone who rarely pops their head in now, it seems as though the forums are much the same as ever. Most of the threads are tail chasing between a few posters. Who's hottest? Who has the best tits/stockings/torso or whatever. Boring as fuck. However, the difference between now and a couple of years ago is there are very few decent discussions. Dare I say it, hiving the politics threads off has affected the quality of conversation. I'm sorry, but it's slim pickings for anyone who's not a tailchasing egotist. I think there are less quality threads but I’m not sure that is due to politics being segregated. " To me the decline coincided with the politics forum coming into being. It seemed as though people only wanted fluffy threads after that. | |||
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"I decided to post a thread introducing myself just a few days ago and felt totally welcomed. I don’t get chance to look at the forums too often during the day but I shall keep posting the odd comment and hopefully people will get to know me." I think that's a good analysis | |||
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"How do regular posters better include non-regular posters? " They don't | |||
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"We’ve all posted things we think others will be so inspired by that our post will be quoted over and over again..... only for it to be ignored by everyone. Sure, there’s a certain amount of quoting to gain favour, but in general, if you post something worth acknowledging it will occasionally be acknowledged. I say ‘occasionally ‘ because often someone else will have posted something more thought provoking and your inspirational bit of wordsmithing gets overlooked. Such is life. Don’t let it discourage you from posting again. " Well put. And I totally agree. | |||
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"Meh ... You need thick skin to be on here. I'm a regular poster but barely anyone knows I exist - but I like to Blaaaahhh so I don't care
A lot of the forum members have met and seem cliqey - but they're a friendly bunch really.
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I wear a thin sensitive skin and don’t feel the need to make it thicker, that said I am resilient. However I agree that on the whole the forum is quite friendly and therefore makes it ok for me
It's a Christmas miracle!
I'm not invisible after all
But yes I agree the forum isn't a hostile place I think it feels hostile to people that ask stupid questions!
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