FabSwingers.com forum: Getting older

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So next month I turn 46 and realise I will now fall outside a lot of potential meets preferred age range and I wondered as you got older fabsters should you adjust your preferences or stay optimistic that people will want to meet you

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"So next month I turn 46 and realise I will now fall outside a lot of potential meets preferred age range and I wondered as you got older fabsters should you adjust your preferences or stay optimistic that people will want to meet you "

Oh always stay optimistic!

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Why should your preferences change just because you have got a year older? Surely you still have the same preferences the day before your birthday as you do the day after it.

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By *wesomeSauce!Man
over a year ago

Brighton

I have noticed a lot of prefs cutting off at 45 too.

They probably aren't going to update them to 46 in the next year sadly.

Age is just a number at the end of the day.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why should your preferences change just because you have got a year older? Surely you still have the same preferences the day before your birthday as you do the day after it."
yes but as a realist I also realize that I'm maybe now not going to get to meet those in the lower age spectrum of my preferences so I might need to raise it to a more sensible age expectation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey it's their choices dear chap just go with the flow and don't take the site seriously . Once you have done that it's a wonderful place

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

"Hey it's their choices dear chap"

No, it's not. It's his preferences he is talking about.

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

"Why should your preferences change just because you have got a year older? Surely you still have the same preferences the day before your birthday as you do the day after it.yes but as a realist I also realize that I'm maybe now not going to get to meet those in the lower age spectrum of my preferences so I might need to raise it to a more sensible age expectation"

Your currently 45 with your lowest preference set to 18. When you turn 46 would you still like to meet with someone of 18? If you would then leave it, but if you wouldn't then change it.

I really can't see that your preferences will change overnight just because it happens to be your birthday.

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By *tillup4funMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

Wait till you get to 61 you,ll have a lot less to choose from.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

My preferences haven't changed but being a realist I realise that the 18 to 30 age group haven't been knocking my door down and most of my meets have been in the upper bracket

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

So like most on here, does this mean you are really 48 next birthday?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So like most on here, does this mean you are really 48 next birthday?

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nope definitely 46 lol my driving licence bears me out x

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

"My preferences haven't changed but being a realist I realise that the 18 to 30 age group haven't been knocking my door down and most of my meets have been in the upper bracket"

But if those are your preferences why wouldn't you show them?

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

Well look on the bright side of life, you are never getting younger so embrace who you are. Maybe your having a touch of "mid life crisis"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

46 has been a great year. I say adjust nothing, you will either be attractive to some or you won't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn’t notice any dip in messages, meets or attention at clubs etc when I’m turned 46.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't really have an age preference. I just picked the ages as similar to people I've met before.

There's many people within the age range that I wouldn't want to meet, but also some outside the range that I'd want to meet.

I'm not optimistic that anyone would want to meet me so it's actually irrelevant.

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

Wait until your over 50

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By *ittle earsMan
over a year ago

south oxfordshire

"Wait until your over 50

Quite, because then optimism is all there is !

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By *ewrocksWoman
over a year ago

button moon

My profile has my preferred age range, says 34-46ish.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wait until your over 50

Quite, because then optimism is all there is !"

What’s wrong with being over 50!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As I age up I put my lower age up. Not now cos it's set at 99 to stop messages but I have 30-44 normally. If anyone out of those age ranges Fab a picture and they look like someone I want to meet I'll just fire them a message myself.

If I was over 40 I wouldn't have my lower age range at 18 though. It actually puts me off if I see a guy has 18 as their lower age range as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On a plus side being 45 puts me within some folks age range

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

"Wait until your over 50

Quite, because then optimism is all there is !

What’s wrong with being over 50!!

Nothing at all, I am totally happy and having the best time and have more time to enjoy everything, fab and life has to offer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My preferences have definitely changed with age.

There are very few women under about 25 that I'd fancy nowadays whereas once upon a time I'd have thought a 40 year old was border line ancient.

I'm quite relieved this has been the case as clearly all those youngsters would now consider me ancient too!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Mmm lots to ponder and weigh up bit think might end up raising my expectations

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By *unloversCouple
over a year ago

rotherham

Bloody hell if people are ancient at 40 then there's no hope for me

Lmao

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've not noticed age makes a difference on here but regular dating type sites have gone cold for me at 48/49

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm 50 next year ... looks like I'd better curl up and die then then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wait until your over 50

Quite, because then optimism is all there is !

What’s wrong with being over 50!!

Nothing when you look like you...

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By *unloversCouple
over a year ago

rotherham

50 and over is the new fourtys

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Think I might raise my upper limit as there's definitely some very sexy older people that have caught my eye and not just in this post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've found same in my area and those looking for older start at 60 not sure what to do during the ten years lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've recently turned 56 and rarely give my age a second thought

Saying that I wouldn't meet anyone under 40

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By *tace 309TV/TS
over a year ago

durham

Age doesn't bother me

For those that it does

There's always the door .

Embrace and enjoy i do

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

My preferences have definitely changed as I've got older.

It's rare, that I'm interested in meeting many men or women, under 30 for a private meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*goes to remind self what age filters are up*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"*goes to remind self what age filters are up*

Happy with that

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

It's your preferences OP adjust them as you see fit - whilst there may be some whose age preferences you fall outside as you get older, there's absolutely nothing you can do about it so no point worrying about it.

At 52, there are still plenty who don't consider me over the hill and I respect the preferences of those that do

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By *he GriswaldsCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

Wait until you're over a half century!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wait until you're over a half century!

I will be that plus 4 on sunday,but who cares,im happy

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By *he GriswaldsCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

"Wait until you're over a half century!

I will be that plus 4 on sunday,but who cares,im happy"

Eggsackly!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am 63 and still active, age is just a number I met a guy who was 84 a few weeks ago and we still had a good time

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By *he GriswaldsCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

"I am 63 and still active, age is just a number I met a guy who was 84 a few weeks ago and we still had a good time "

Bravo sir!

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By *unguya2zMan
over a year ago

coventry..ish

I've found that the forums are a lot more interesting, infact I probably spend to much time in here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just turned 56

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By *ittle earsMan
over a year ago

south oxfordshire

"Wait until your over 50

Quite, because then optimism is all there is !

What’s wrong with being over 50!!

There’s nothing wrong with you, but for men (me) the options close and the filters shut down. I’m open to your friendly and naughty suggestions tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just turned 56"

As long as someone looks good in their photos then I'd always consider tweaking my age range to accommodate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wait until your over 50

Quite, because then optimism is all there is !

What’s wrong with being over 50!!

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obviously nothing .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It does seem 45 is a cut off on here . I think they think we are old lol. Well I'm as fit as a fiddle compared to my youth and far more open minded .

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By *he GriswaldsCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

"It does seem 45 is a cut off on here . I think they think we are old lol. Well I'm as fit as a fiddle compared to my youth and far more open minded . "

They probably think we'll turn up on a mobility scooter & need to go to the loo every 5 minutes

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It does seem 45 is a cut off on here . I think they think we are old lol. Well I'm as fit as a fiddle compared to my youth and far more open minded .

They probably think we'll turn up on a mobility scooter & need to go to the loo every 5 minutes

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lol and wearing a shell suit and fanny pack

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By *anaduABCMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Im 48 now..no hope for me unless some 60 yr old fancies a bit of young -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's easier for men turning 50 but women are treated differently (even at 49)

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By *anaduABCMan
over a year ago

Dublin

"It's easier for men turning 50 but women are treated differently (even at 49)

Damn not only am i too old for most now im too small for you....not my day -

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well come Sunday I turn 46 so will be interesting to see who disappears from my radar as I fall outside their parameters and how quickly it happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Embracing who you are is the greatest gift you can give yourself!

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By *umpkinMan
over a year ago

near the sounds of the wimborne quarter jack!

Wait till you get to 61 you,ll have a lot less to choose from.

Snap!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did. I adjusted my age preferences. What difference did it make.....? None.

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York

Unless injury stops me I'm determined that in 10 years time and beyond I'll still be hitting the gym hard and continue to be in good shape for my age, it's all about making the best of yourself! I'm 35 and a few weeks back on a night out I had a gorgeous 19 year old girl fawning over me and telling me how much she likes older men, she was a bit young for me (prefer around 23 - 35ish) but I was flattered

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Unless injury stops me I'm determined that in 10 years time and beyond I'll still be hitting the gym hard and continue to be in good shape for my age, it's all about making the best of yourself! I'm 35 and a few weeks back on a night out I had a gorgeous 19 year old girl fawning over me and telling me how much she likes older men, she was a bit young for me (prefer around 23 - 35ish) but I was flattered

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so tomorrow I get to see how many in my hotlist disappear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was 18 I was engaged to a 36 year old ... and was with him for 3 and a half years

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

46 is the inbox killer age mate, nothing you can do about that, apart from opening a new profile with your age set lower (as others in here do). Apart from that, enjoy those willing to not instantly write you off as ‘over the hill’

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Nope I think I'll be true to myself and if people don't want to meet me because I'm old their loss lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the op cut off is 55 then he shouldn't moan about the same thing happening to himself!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If the op cut off is 55 then he shouldn't moan about the same thing happening to himself! "
not moaning pal just wondering if I should change my preferences as I get older but guess u didn't read the beginning of the thread properly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think 40 is a threshold for a lot of people. I noticed a lot of ladies suddenly became un-massageable (It's totally a word!) when I hit 41.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*un-messageable

Fuck's sake...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get to the gym early and acquire a dad bod, if they don’t go for that then that’s their loss eh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"*un-messageable

Fuck's sake...

Still have years to go till you're old enough to message me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"*un-messageable

Fuck's sake...

Still have years to go till you're old enough to message me!"

I'm a patient man

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