FabSwingers.com forum: Condoms

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I don’t enjoy sexy with a condom on. Don’t get me wrong I know it’s to keep us safe. But noting better that the feeling when sliding it inside a woman. Feeling her walls wrap your cock and the warmth of it.

As soon as you put a condom on you loose that. If you both are clean why bother with a condom. As soon as she says put a condom on I don’t get as hard.

What’s your thoughts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In a committed, trusting relationship, sure why not?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t enjoy sexy with a condom on. Don’t get me wrong I know it’s to keep us safe. But noting better that the feeling when sliding it inside a woman. Feeling her walls wrap your cock and the warmth of it.

As soon as you put a condom on you loose that. If you both are clean why bother with a condom. As soon as she says put a condom on I don’t get as hard.

What’s your thoughts. "

Find a wife and stay monogamous, my friend, is it worth the risk otherwise?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try a different condom, maybe it's the size and fit that's causing your erection to dissipate.

If it is the mental act of putting one on that causes droopy time then perhaps you need to change your mindset. Act as though bareback sex isn't even on the table to start with.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

But if you both know you are clean what does it matter ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pregnancy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But if you both know you are clean what does it matter ?"

Birth control?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ermmm unwanted pregnancy can be a problem, especially as oral contraceptives can fail.

It's not all about STI's.

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By *outhernchappieMan
over a year ago

brighton

^^^^^exactly this

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Exactly who would not be on birth control pill ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Exactly who would not be on birth control pill ?

Me. And many others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But they can fail...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Exactly who would not be on birth control pill ?

Plenty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Exactly who would not be on birth control pill ?

Me. And many others.

^^^

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By *ampWithABrainWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Lots of women can't use hormonal contraceptives, some of us get pregnant even WITH hormonal contraception (TWICE!) so doubling up a good idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because neither of you can be 100% sure who the other is also fucking bareback. Have couple of posh wanks and try and get into the condom mindset

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Exactly who would not be on birth control pill ?

This is a worryingly naive statement :/

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

If you're both free from STI and the woman is using foolproof contraception, why not?

1. People lie

2. There is no such thing as foolproof contraception

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Exactly who would not be on birth control pill ?

This is a worryingly naive statement :/"

Amazed to see the age of the op

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

" Exactly who would not be on birth control pill ?

Ohhh you now sound a bit silly

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Nerdy girl .. fancy giving me a hand with that ? I love a red heady girl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh dear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A) Birth control isn't 100% protection

B) unless you've waited long enough to cover the incubation period and neither of you have played with anyone else in the interim you don't "know" you are clean, only that you were at the date of the test.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have to say I'm shocked by some of the comments on here! This sort of naivety would would put me off having sex with someone. I wouldn't feel safe. If you're engaging in any sex, casual or regular etc., I think you have a certain responsibility to educate yourself on these matters to protect yourself and your partner(s).

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"But if you both know you are clean what does it matter ?"

It doesn't matter if you are both up for it.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

" Exactly who would not be on birth control pill ?

In that case... why haven't you had a vasectomy?

I sense a sense of selfishness in this one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm clean, I use my soap on a rope every morning.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

" Exactly who would not be on birth control pill ?

Someone wanting babies and perhaps some support with them

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

OP if you and your partner are both exclusive to each other then bareback is amazing providing you are using other means of contraception.

However many women cannot take the pill, me included.

How do you know you can trust the other person when they claim to be "clean"? A clear sti test only proves they were not carrying an infection at the time of testing. They could have picked something up since the test and some infections have a long incubation period and don't show up on tests for a while.

How do you know they have even been tested? All you have to go on is their word to say it happened.

If you are willing to take the risk OP then great, have fun and enjoy yourself. For me personally it's not something I would be willing to do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Exactly who would not be on birth control pill ?

That’s a pretty bad assumption that everyone should be on it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm clean, I use my soap on a rope every morning. "

Where does the soap go

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

"But if you both know you are clean what does it matter ?"

Cos people arent always truthful on here op

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Exactly who would not be on birth control pill ?

Someone wanting babies and perhaps some support with them "

Or those who can’t take hormones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Train yourself so that putting a condom on means sex. Your cock will be standing up ready for it then

Or get the chop, get a committed relationship and your good to go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As soon as she says put a condom on I don’t get as hard.

What’s your thoughts. "

I think... Way hay!! I'm going to get some!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If using a condom is causing a droop, get the lady to prepare you first and let her put it on for you as part of play. The stimulation should help keep you hard.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"Train yourself so that putting a condom on means sex. Your cock will be standing up ready for it then

Or get the chop, get a committed relationship and your good to go

Exactly this, have a posh wank now and again and you'll soon be used to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If using a condom is causing a droop, get the lady to prepare you first and let her put it on for you as part of play. The stimulation should help keep you hard."

That's why I ask a woman to wrap me up. There's something sexy about watching them do it.

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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago

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" Exactly who would not be on birth control pill ?

XX wouldn't be.

XY had the snip years ago. Which is part of the reason we will only play safe.

The other reason is STI's

You're only as clean as the last person you played with. Are playmates just meant to take each other's word for it too?

How do you prove you are clean? You could have had bareback sex with someone who was riddled 20 minutes after being treated, would anyone really know?

Each to their own and all that, but it's not for us and is a deal breaker. If we are aware you've played bb we will not play with you.

Yes, condoms are horrible and spoil the fluidity of play, but to us, they are necessary if you want to join us.

We use these forum threads to help grow our every expanding block list.

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By *ampWithABrainWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Even the tests aren't 100%

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Exactly who would not be on birth control pill ?

Me I'm not on it! Condoms all the way. No glove no love!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Exactly who would not be on birth control pill ?

Facepalm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Exactly who would not be on birth control pill ?

XX wouldn't be.

XY had the snip years ago. Which is part of the reason we will only play safe.

The other reason is STI's

You're only as clean as the last person you played with. Are playmates just meant to take each other's word for it too?

How do you prove you are clean? You could have had bareback sex with someone who was riddled 20 minutes after being treated, would anyone really know?

Each to their own and all that, but it's not for us and is a deal breaker. If we are aware you've played bb we will not play with you.

Yes, condoms are horrible and spoil the fluidity of play, but to us, they are necessary if you want to join us.

We use these forum threads to help grow our every expanding block list. "

Exactly this

Worrying naivety from OP

At 35 too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Makes me laugh when people say they are 'clean' and put on their profiles that they expect prospective partners to be so too

Oh, and the ones that say " we dont play with people who have lots of veris, as they are somehow dirty"

Absolutely terrifying naivety

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"I'm clean, I use my soap on a rope every morning. "

That hole in the middle gets bigger every day lol............

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As soon as you put a condom on you loose that. If you both are clean why bother with a condom. As soon as she says put a condom on I don’t get as hard.

What’s your thoughts. "

Horrible things. Like swimming in chest waders

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Makes me laugh when people say they are 'clean' and put on their profiles that they expect prospective partners to be so too

Oh, and the ones that say " we dont play with people who have lots of veris, as they are somehow dirty"

Absolutely terrifying naivety"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Something I said OP?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Something I said OP?"

think he went UNLOS

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Something I said OP?

think he went UNLOS

Yes, I do so love a man who puts up a reasoned, logical, educated argument

Such a turn on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Something I said OP?

think he went UNLOS

Yes, I do so love a man who puts up a reasoned, logical, educated argument

Such a turn on"

i think he realissed what a knob he was on here and deleted out of shame

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Maybe he's gone for the snip, so he doesn't impregnate any of the ladies who he thinks should be taking the pill.

Maybe he's gone to get tested

Or maybe he's gone to practise putting posh wanking

I'm hoping he's gone to get educated personally.

I think I have a little evil in me today, must be the prick I just had.

Hep jab

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth

Methinks he realised he’s committed grievous fabicide and has no hope of getting a fuck. He’s probably already started his new profile

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Something I said OP?

think he went UNLOS

Yes, I do so love a man who puts up a reasoned, logical, educated argument

Such a turn on"

Aww jeez! So that's where I've been going wrong all this time?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Methinks he realised he’s committed grievous fabicide and has no hope of getting a fuck. He’s probably already started his new profile

And stalking this thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had a vascectomy and I'm clean.

I use condoms because without everyone having access to my medical records you can only take my word for it.

The lady may be on the pill or sterilised but I only have her word for that too.

Why risk it?

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

The (low) level of knowledge demonstrated by some fab posters is terrifying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As soon as you put a condom on you loose that. If you both are clean why bother with a condom. As soon as she says put a condom on I don’t get as hard.

What’s your thoughts. "

get a sandwhich bag and an elastic band

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh! He's done a runner.

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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago

swingers clubs

"Methinks he realised he’s committed grievous fabicide and has no hope of getting a fuck. He’s probably already started his new profile

Fabicide

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

Unless you have waited 6 months from having sex, then got a clean std test, you wont know if you're clean.

You will test negative for a long time after catching a few stds.

Anyway I bought a box of fancy condoms, supposed to be real nice, had them for about 3 months now, but I mean, I can't get anyone to try them with. So that would be a start for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Exactly who would not be on birth control pill ?

Me!! I *cant* be on any hormonal contraceptives I've always reacted badly to them, and I've tried a few! Condoms all the way!

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

Skynz

As close as you can get to feeling like you aren't wearing one.

Non latex too.

Best by far

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are strains of gonorrhoea that are now untreatable.

Let that sink in for a minute.

Now the question seems silly doesnt it?

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

UNLOS

Mustn't like wearing them then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am shocked though at how many married men do not carry on buy condoms for fab meets .( i always carry them and always play safe ).

But i have noticed so makes we wonder how many would go with these men if they haven't got protection on them .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am shocked though at how many married men do not carry on buy condoms for fab meets .( i always carry them and always play safe ).

But i have noticed so makes we wonder how many would go with these men if they haven't got protection on them .

Not just married men surely?! All people should have them for a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am shocked though at how many married men do not carry on buy condoms for fab meets .( i always carry them and always play safe ).

But i have noticed so makes we wonder how many would go with these men if they haven't got protection on them .

Not just married

men surely?! All people should have them for a meet

I agree all should but all dont .its the married men who made excuses in not having them as incase wife or girlfriend finds them.im put off at this point so dont play as i get feeling they wouldnt play safe .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am shocked though at how many married men do not carry on buy condoms for fab meets .( i always carry them and always play safe ).

But i have noticed so makes we wonder how many would go with these men if they haven't got protection on them .

Not just married

men surely?! All people should have them for a meet

Too right!

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By *wy69Man
over a year ago

Darlington

I had the snip at 30. Didn't want kids im happy with bareback but not on the first couple of meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am shocked though at how many married men do not carry on buy condoms for fab meets .( i always carry them and always play safe ).

But i have noticed so makes we wonder how many would go with these men if they haven't got protection on them .

Not just married

men surely?! All people should have them for a meet

Too right! "

Something else that startled me was a male friend i chat too meets 2 couples .he always plays safe and one of the women wanted him to go bareback .He didnt and he was put off the couple .wonder how many times this is asked .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am shocked though at how many married men do not carry on buy condoms for fab meets .( i always carry them and always play safe ).

But i have noticed so makes we wonder how many would go with these men if they haven't got protection on them .

Not just married

men surely?! All people should have them for a meet

Too right!

Quite often, judging by the amount of threads about it on here. I’d never go bb with anyone apart from my husband and if anyone asked or expected me to that would be the end of that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Exactly who would not be on birth control pill ?

Accidents don't happen?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am shocked though at how many married men do not carry on buy condoms for fab meets .( i always carry them and always play safe ).

But i have noticed so makes we wonder how many would go with these men if they haven't got protection on them .

Not just married

men surely?! All people should have them for a meet

Too right!

Quite often, judging by the amount of threads about it on here. I’d never go bb with anyone apart from my husband and if anyone asked or expected me to that would be the end of that!

Yes dont blame you id do the same .im single and so hard as no men can be trusted on fab or the vanilla world .i wish i had someone who i trusted .

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