FabSwingers.com forum: playing away?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok, if a guy profile said cannot accommodate is, according to the users here, playing away...

What if a woman cannot accommodate? Is the same? Or any particular reason?

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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Maybe neither of them want strangers in their home.

Works for men and women

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By *evonshireboyMan
over a year ago

North Devon

Ive got two kids so playing at home is a no-no.

But there does seem to be a bit of a double standard

No accommodation bloke = married

No accommodation lady = being safe

Seems to be the general attitude

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

Men dont normally give a dam if a women is attached anyhow.

How often do you read in mens profiles no married women!!

just saying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ive got two kids so playing at home is a no-no.

But there does seem to be a bit of a double standard

No accommodation bloke = married

No accommodation lady = being safe

Seems to be the general attitude"

Shame on you!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Men dont normally give a dam if a women is attached anyhow.

How often do you read in mens profiles no married women!!

just saying."

I'm not reading men profiles

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By *aelawMan
over a year ago

Paisley

I don't think it's a general assumption. I have seen a few comments. I wouldn't worry about it and if you do and you can't accommodate just explain on your profile why and then you are all good

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Ive got two kids so playing at home is a no-no.

But there does seem to be a bit of a double standard

No accommodation bloke = married

No accommodation lady = being safe

Seems to be the general attitude"

Women do have to worry about safety more though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Read advice about this a while ago and it was that you should put can accommodate if you book an hotel

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"Men dont normally give a dam if a women is attached anyhow.

How often do you read in mens profiles no married women!!

just saying.

I'm not reading men profiles

Believe me then

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Men dont normally give a dam if a women is attached anyhow.

How often do you read in mens profiles no married women!!

just saying.

I'm not reading men profiles

Believe me then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do not accommodate as I share a house and I keep this side of my life private.

I would be willing to pay for a hotel though.

I’ve not played away just cannot accommodate. It happens with both sexes.

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By *evonshireboyMan
over a year ago

North Devon

I didn't know that.

I always thought accommodate= home, anywhere else doesn't count

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Read advice about this a while ago and it was that you should put can accommodate if you book an hotel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe neither of them want strangers in their home.

Works for men and women "
As you can see I'm not alone in saying double standards are the norm here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Men dont normally give a dam if a women is attached anyhow.

How often do you read in mens profiles no married women!!

just saying."
Maybe because it goes without saying but I guess you've made up your mind that men don't give a damn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ive got two kids so playing at home is a no-no.

But there does seem to be a bit of a double standard

No accommodation bloke = married

No accommodation lady = being safe

Seems to be the general attitude

Women do have to worry about safety more though.

"
Because men can't be assaulted, they only do the assaulting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Men dont normally give a dam if a women is attached anyhow.

How often do you read in mens profiles no married women!!

just saying."

and they don't seem to give a dam about being married themselves when they are away on business.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Ok, if a guy profile said cannot accommodate is, according to the users here, playing away...

What if a woman cannot accommodate? Is the same? Or any particular reason?

Don't be silly..... If a woman can't accommodate its because she is looking after her own safety. Men are not allowed to do that on fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I accommodate but never on a first meeting. I wouldnt invite someone here i didnt get to know first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok, if a guy profile said cannot accommodate is, according to the users here, playing away...

What if a woman cannot accommodate? Is the same? Or any particular reason?

It could mean they are in a houseshare or have their kids there, I know I wouldn’t feel comfortable having a stranger come to our house with our kids there!!

Geeky x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I see cannot accommodate I either assume he's married/attached or depending on age, lives with family or shared accommodation.

Usually women have the children living at home when they're separated so no accommodating is generally more accepted.

I say can't accommodate so people don't assume they can come over, doesn't mean I won't if I want someone round when I have an empty house.

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside

I would never have random strangers in my house just for a fuck. How safe is that??

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"I would never have random strangers in my house just for a fuck. How safe is that??"

But what would you think if you saw that a man couldn't accommodate on their profile?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok, if a guy profile said cannot accommodate is, according to the users here, playing away...

What if a woman cannot accommodate? Is the same? Or any particular reason?

Please refer to rules of Fab, sorry, meant to say double standard rules of rules!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok, if a guy profile said cannot accommodate is, according to the users here, playing away...

What if a woman cannot accommodate? Is the same? Or any particular reason?

i never presumme,

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside

"I would never have random strangers in my house just for a fuck. How safe is that??

But what would you think if you saw that a man couldn't accommodate on their profile? "

Nothing. I wouldnt go to a strangers house either. Clubs only for me.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I don't assume they're married, I assume they don't want me in their house, which is fine...they can't come to mine either.

The way I play there needs to be trust...mainly from the men as I'm heavier than all my playmates and use restraints etc.

Not a problem finding playmates and I don't believe anyone should feel obliged to give any explanation.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Men dont normally give a dam if a women is attached anyhow.

How often do you read in mens profiles no married women!!

just saying.

I'm not reading men profiles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont accommodate when meeting and i dont give reasons either and im far far married

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

I (mr) wouldn't assume not accommodating meaning anything.

But, I can see that it would be more likely for a single female not to want to accomodate than a single guy. But, there are loads of valid reasons why neither would want or be able to.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

The statement simply means there should be no expectations of them hosting you at their place. What people infer from this is possibly based on experience. Similar behavioral patterns can be used by all genders but 'single' men have been most highlighted as cheating probably in part because they outnumber others.

It's potentially helpful to state why you don't accom for some people but there is no obligation to reveal highly personal information, such as having children or elderly people at home - we each have a right to live as we wish.

All genders cheat and on fab you will get more highlighted men who are doing things that others dislike because of user volume and disproportionate bias against them imo.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"I would never have random strangers in my house just for a fuck. How safe is that??"

In my experience of the site using my selection process it’s very safe

But each to their own

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I would never have random strangers in my house just for a fuck. How safe is that??

In my experience of the site using my selection process it’s very safe

But each to their own "

I've also read over the years people going to hotel rooms to be met by several men who had paid for a gang bang when the woman was expecting a one on one meet and he wasn't even one of the waiting men.

Also someone travelled a distance to meet someone to go to a club and spend the night at theirs to be met at the station with "sorry, made other plans with someone else" and left her stranded.

No one way of meeting strangers for sex is 100% safe.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"I would never have random strangers in my house just for a fuck. How safe is that??

In my experience of the site using my selection process it’s very safe

But each to their own

Also someone travelled a distance to meet someone to go to a club and spend the night at theirs to be met at the station with "sorry, made other plans with someone else" and left her stranded.

No one way of meeting strangers for sex is 100% safe."

Yea we’ve all heard those kind of stories from to Time to time

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

We can't accom ,at the moment we only have 1 bedroom and keep that for us

Not accomodating alone is not an indication of cheating,there will be other give aways.

I don't think its right that men will be accused of playing away and women not,many women are here behind someones back too.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do assume that and it’s based upon experience. I previously couldn’t accommodate due to a lodger and now I don’t want to. Or will if it’s an equal balance. Why should I constantly entertain offering tea, coffee etc they turn up dump their load and fuck off?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can sometimes but not always , so easier to say cannot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm single and can accommodate.

But I would not do so unless it was someone I knew and trusted.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I do normally presume that 'cannot accommodate' means attached and cheating, I have also had men saying they 'can accommodate' are also attached, cheating and lying.

The way I meet I normally find out the truth very quickly!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm more than happy to accommodate.... bloody great being single lol.

I'm comfy in my own walls and would make anyone visiting feel relaxed and welcome.

Some women just don't want guys knowing where they live..... too many clingy weirdos out there.

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