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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I bet some of you are singing the chorus now.

Is the idea of sex with someone just as powerful as the when you meet them, or has it ever been too much of great anticipation that you've declined to meet through fear of dissapointment?

The mind is powerful, often people say it starts in the mind, but has it ever become a hindrance and has it eve spoilt a meet? Have you ever built it up to much?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I definitely find meeting as powerful and exciting as the building up of it all. I don't get why people would not want to see if the final accumulation is everything it hoped to be. The worst that could happen is that you do stuff and it isn't as expected. Better to try and find out than to back out and never know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry, I’ve still got U2’s song going round my head

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I bet some of you are singing the chorus now.

Is the idea of sex with someone just as powerful as the when you meet them, or has it ever been too much of great anticipation that you've declined to meet through fear of dissapointment?

The mind is powerful, often people say it starts in the mind, but has it ever become a hindrance and has it eve spoilt a meet? Have you ever built it up to much?

"

This is why procrastination is out for me.

Nothing can ever live up to something that's been built up in the mind for some time.

Not a film. Not food. Not a holiday. Not a party and certainly NOT sex.

I've never put it off tho ......

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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman
over a year ago

'tween PontyCarlo & CasVegas in West Yorks

Yes...ive built up in my head that having sex with you MB is the most awesome experience and that you have ninja-like moves, unprecedented amounts of energy, and that you'd cum on my command.

In reality you're probs really rubbish so i'll leave it as a fantasy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes...ive built up in my head that having sex with you MB is the most awesome experience and that you have ninja-like moves, unprecedented amounts of energy, and that you'd cum on my command.

In reality you're probs really rubbish so i'll leave it as a fantasy

"

Have you been reading my verifications?

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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman
over a year ago

'tween PontyCarlo & CasVegas in West Yorks


"Yes...ive built up in my head that having sex with you MB is the most awesome experience and that you have ninja-like moves, unprecedented amounts of energy, and that you'd cum on my command.

In reality you're probs really rubbish so i'll leave it as a fantasy

Have you been reading my verifications?

"

You have verifications??? Didnt get past the pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was disappointed with a first meet because we'd built it up too much and the sexual tension was too strong, but the next meets more than made up for it. We both can't wait for the next. The mind is very powerful.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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No, I'm always that good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had varying experiences, one was a long pre planned meet that was everything we expected. Then have had a couple of meets where the tension before was electric then when we met it was a complete disappointment. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend not to think of the physicality of a meet beforehand. I tend to daydream about how the electricity and anticipation will feel.

I know from talking with someone if that chemistry is there and it excites me into meeting them, I don't think I could be disappointed as I trust my gut instinct implicitly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it's not that I think I might be dissapointed with them it's that I'm worried they will be dissapointed with me. There's a lot of pressure to live up to expectations or at least I feel like there is. It's often enough to stop me having meets, maybe it's just a lack of confidence but regardless I need to be feeling pretty positive about myself and in a good place mentally to be able to meet someone new the first time.

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By *isa 59Woman
over a year ago

Newcastle

I've never declined to meet through fear of disappointment but I have felt deflated when the delicious build-up has turned out to be more enjoyable than the actual meet

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By *icky-discoMan
over a year ago

oxford

The first time I went to xtasia I was sort of nervous but excited too. It was a really great night and all the people I met couldn’t have been friendlier

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I'm sorry to say all the flirting chatting before we met and that connection I thought I just have to meet him

And it was a huge let down and put me off meeting for months

Now I don't have any expectations

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep it’s haooened to me a couple of times ... it’s that catch 22 when you won’t meet straight away and like the flirting and banter until you meet but if it’s been built up to be too much and the experience is just a let down in the flesh! It’s soul destroying when you were looking forward to a jolly good seeing to

Moral of the story is don’t build it up or message endlessly describing what you’d like to do to each other ... leave that for after a first meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

still get that buzz when the 'im on my way' text drops in

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"For me it's not that I think I might be dissapointed with them it's that I'm worried they will be dissapointed with me. There's a lot of pressure to live up to expectations or at least I feel like there is. It's often enough to stop me having meets, maybe it's just a lack of confidence but regardless I need to be feeling pretty positive about myself and in a good place mentally to be able to meet someone new the first time."

donyou think people (or yourself) could put needles pressure on the situation by building it up? Do you think it would be easier, and maybe better if you just arranged a date, and not talk until you meet up?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always enjoy the build up And not been disappointed yet, but if it was an anticlimax then hey-ho there's always someone else

Wouldn't put off meeting someone who'd kept me bubbling for sometime, what a waste!!

Peach x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me it's not that I think I might be dissapointed with them it's that I'm worried they will be dissapointed with me. There's a lot of pressure to live up to expectations or at least I feel like there is. It's often enough to stop me having meets, maybe it's just a lack of confidence but regardless I need to be feeling pretty positive about myself and in a good place mentally to be able to meet someone new the first time."

Hence why I rarely meet anyone new.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"For me it's not that I think I might be dissapointed with them it's that I'm worried they will be dissapointed with me. There's a lot of pressure to live up to expectations or at least I feel like there is. It's often enough to stop me having meets, maybe it's just a lack of confidence but regardless I need to be feeling pretty positive about myself and in a good place mentally to be able to meet someone new the first time.

Hence why I rarely meet anyone new."

How did you get the courage to meet in the first place. Did you build it up? Or did you okay it down?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me it's not that I think I might be dissapointed with them it's that I'm worried they will be dissapointed with me. There's a lot of pressure to live up to expectations or at least I feel like there is. It's often enough to stop me having meets, maybe it's just a lack of confidence but regardless I need to be feeling pretty positive about myself and in a good place mentally to be able to meet someone new the first time.

Hence why I rarely meet anyone new.

How did you get the courage to meet in the first place. Did you build it up? Or did you okay it down? "

I was younger then.

Now I know what men are looking for- and it's not me.

The women on here are sexual goddesses. Biggest tits, hottest face, nicest arse, best bj skills, furthest squirter, bushiest bush etc etc. I'm just me and I'm ok with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only ever had one disappointment. He bigged himself up to be something he just wasn't. I expected some tall dark rugby player and was greeted by his opposite.... Such a disappointment, only time I've ever made my excuses to leave. He really thought he was all that, and made me feel like I should be grateful he'd given up time to meet a "woman of my type".. That was the point at which I walked.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Only ever had one disappointment. He bigged himself up to be something he just wasn't. I expected some tall dark rugby player and was greeted by his opposite.... Such a disappointment, only time I've ever made my excuses to leave. He really thought he was all that, and made me feel like I should be grateful he'd given up time to meet a "woman of my type".. That was the point at which I walked. "

A woman of your type? What did he mean, Like "a woman?" Haha.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Only ever had one disappointment. He bigged himself up to be something he just wasn't. I expected some tall dark rugby player and was greeted by his opposite.... Such a disappointment, only time I've ever made my excuses to leave. He really thought he was all that, and made me feel like I should be grateful he'd given up time to meet a "woman of my type".. That was the point at which I walked.

A woman of your type? What did he mean, Like "a woman?" Haha. "

Not entirely sure, but I think the fact I wasn't stick thin was an issue, profile states curvy, not much I can do if he didn't read before asking to meet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me it's not that I think I might be dissapointed with them it's that I'm worried they will be dissapointed with me. There's a lot of pressure to live up to expectations or at least I feel like there is. It's often enough to stop me having meets, maybe it's just a lack of confidence but regardless I need to be feeling pretty positive about myself and in a good place mentally to be able to meet someone new the first time.

donyou think people (or yourself) could put needles pressure on the situation by building it up? Do you think it would be easier, and maybe better if you just arranged a date, and not talk until you meet up? "

It's a catch 22 as I can't really do stranger sex either, I need to establish a bit of a connection or familiarity. It's about getting the balance right, it's not easy and one of the reasons I don't meet many new people. It's not just the one on one chatting that builds up expectations either. It's possible to feel like you have oversold yourself on here with your profile, pictures and online persona you build up in the forums, up to the point that having to live up to expectations becomes a bit daunting.

Who would have thought NSA sex would be so complicated

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