FabSwingers.com forum: Do single women search and message single guys?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do single women search and message men or are you ladies way too busy dealing with your own inboxes?

is it just men who do the searching whilst ladies sit back and enjoy the attention lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes.

Is it really that shocking?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Not at all

just curious to know as most women seem to be dealing with hundreds off messages on a daily basis all recieved from guys whom they havnt messaged lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. I usually have my message filters on and do my own searching.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I can think of several examples of women who do exactly that OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do single women search and message men or are you ladies way too busy dealing with your own inboxes?

is it just men who do the searching whilst ladies sit back and enjoy the attention lol"

I never revel in attention. At times, I do search and message guys first.

Far too many timewasters who can't be bothered to read and respect a ladies profile wishes. That can really grind you down so at times I prefer to do the searching.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I don't think I've actually ever recieved a message outright lol only ones I've messaged have replied, well not all lol

and yes my profile as it is doesn't help at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t bother looking because most men don’t have face pics public and without a face pic I’m not interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think I've had one or two over my Fab stintmessage me first. Quite the shocker!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do single women search and message men or are you ladies way too busy dealing with your own inboxes?

is it just men who do the searching whilst ladies sit back and enjoy the attention lol

I never revel in attention. At times, I do search and message guys first.

Far too many timewasters who can't be bothered to read and respect a ladies profile wishes. That can really grind you down so at times I prefer to do the searching. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The, very, odd women who have contacted me have been really friendly and genuine.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I guess some are more lucky then I am.lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep I'm fucking sick of em sending me fanny pics and want a fuck messages.

It's a cross I have to bear though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yep I'm fucking sick of em sending me fanny pics and want a fuck messages.

It's a cross I have to bear though.

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lmao

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

A lot of fellas send spam mail out to as many women as they can. That's part of the reason we get so many. Myself and another forum user have had the same message off the same dude. We live a 4hr drive from each other.

This happens more than you'd think.

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By *ittle earsMan
over a year ago

south oxfordshire

"Yep I'm fucking sick of em sending me fanny pics and want a fuck messages.

It's a cross I have to bear though.

lmao"

Lucky for me I’ve got a big stick to beat them off with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I guess some are more lucky then I am.lol"

You make your own luck.

I have had some lovely messages as a result of posts on threads or ladies tripping over my profile.

You don't have to carpet bomb every inbox. Stand out, or at least stand proud and you'll be surprised. The less desperate you are to get a meet, the more likely you are to get one!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

most men are to lazy to read proifle and just send the same message to all.

I tend to cater the message accordingly to the person but even then it's a struggle lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I message when I'm attracted by their pics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not at all

just curious to know as most women seem to be dealing with hundreds off messages on a daily basis all recieved from guys whom they havnt messaged lol"

You can say that again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only time I ever chat with a woman on here they message me first- I just don’t send unsolicited messages.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The only time I ever chat with a woman on here they message me first- I just don’t send unsolicited messages. "

if I did that I don't think il be talking to anyone lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not dealing with hundreds of messages so if I see an interesting profile I will message. However I understand I am probably very much in the minority

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Of course we do. I have a few saved searches and occasionally have a look at who's near etc. I've messaged couple of newbies recently.....go me!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm not dealing with hundreds of messages so if I see an interesting profile I will message. However I understand I am probably very much in the minority "

minority? why would u think that?!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Of course we do. I have a few saved searches and occasionally have a look at who's near etc. I've messaged couple of newbies recently.....go me!!!!

I think I have to leave London lol its not helping my cause at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do single women search and message men or are you ladies way too busy dealing with your own inboxes?

is it just men who do the searching whilst ladies sit back and enjoy the attention lol"

my my this is a popular question today

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not dealing with hundreds of messages so if I see an interesting profile I will message. However I understand I am probably very much in the minority

minority? why would u think that?! "

Not in the minority in messaging men, but in not receiving hundreds of messages, is what I meant

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Do single women search and message men or are you ladies way too busy dealing with your own inboxes?

is it just men who do the searching whilst ladies sit back and enjoy the attention lol

my my this is a popular question today

all thanks to me lol I think this is a better way off conversing for me lol

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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago

Traffic land

To be honest I don’t as a rule, only really via the forum because they’ve said something I found amusing.

But then I’m much like that outside Fab, not one for pushing myself forward. Bit of a wallflower

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. Because we're not making enough effort.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm not dealing with hundreds of messages so if I see an interesting profile I will message. However I understand I am probably very much in the minority

minority? why would u think that?!

Not in the minority in messaging men, but in not receiving hundreds of messages, is what I meant"

lucky you then as some women, once you reply back.. they recieve another 50 and then your message is lost

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have everyone blocked so I have to find people for myself. However I normally contact people via the forums. When I do a local search I find the results to be rather lacking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not dealing with hundreds of messages so if I see an interesting profile I will message. However I understand I am probably very much in the minority

minority? why would u think that?!

Not in the minority in messaging men, but in not receiving hundreds of messages, is what I meant

lucky you then as some women, once you reply back.. they recieve another 50 and then your message is lost "

Yes, lucky to be unpopular!

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By *oblovesyouMan
over a year ago

poole

I've been on here quite a while now (cant remember how long exactly, a couple of years or more) & in that time I don't recall ever being messaged first by a women. So I'm quite surprised to see the responses above. Maybe it's just me..... ?!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

most off you are saying forums are a good way to find individuals that stand out.

I searched London forums only to find nearly all topics are posted by men and responded my mostly men.

for example there's a dogging post in which a guy is asking couples or females and nearly all responses over 50 are from single men.. lol

I think forums ain't gonna help then lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"most off you are saying forums are a good way to find individuals that stand out.

I searched London forums only to find nearly all topics are posted by men and responded my mostly men.

for example there's a dogging post in which a guy is asking couples or females and nearly all responses over 50 are from single men.. lol

I think forums ain't gonna help then lol"

Lots of people talk in the lounge, men, women and couples.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Single women do search and message single men as i've received numerous winks and first messages from single ladies.

All comes out to whether they find us interesting enough to take the initiative through first contact.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"most off you are saying forums are a good way to find individuals that stand out.

I searched London forums only to find nearly all topics are posted by men and responded my mostly men.

for example there's a dogging post in which a guy is asking couples or females and nearly all responses over 50 are from single men.. lol

I think forums ain't gonna help then lol

Lots of people talk in the lounge, men, women and couples.

thanks

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

in that case I think my proifle isn't doing me justice at all lol I think I need help on that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't usually, but after Christmas I may start searching for a man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The only time I ever chat with a woman on here they message me first- I just don’t send unsolicited messages.

if I did that I don't think il be talking to anyone lol

I like that if they do message me they definitely want to talk to me.

I don’t mind not getting messages very often. If I was actually looking to meet I’d try a more proactive strategy.

I think it helps because I’m ‘known’ on here through my forum posting, I also used to upload pictures regularly, so people got used to seeing my username popping up on updates as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"in that case I think my proifle isn't doing me justice at all lol I think I need help on that "

Your profile seems fine but you don’t have any public pictures and until today I hadn’t noticed your username

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes. I tend to message from forums or chat though, I rarely search.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Single women do search and message single men as i've received numerous winks and first messages from single ladies.

All comes out to whether they find us interesting enough to take the initiative through first contact. "

Yep. If I was a woman I’d contact you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"in that case I think my proifle isn't doing me justice at all lol I think I need help on that

Your profile seems fine but you don’t have any public pictures and until today I hadn’t noticed your username "

tbh I don't have any pics public all private...

and my username?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"in that case I think my proifle isn't doing me justice at all lol I think I need help on that

Your profile seems fine but you don’t have any public pictures and until today I hadn’t noticed your username

tbh I don't have any pics public all private...

and my username?"

The women like to look at your pics, read your profile and posts and then if they are interested might get in touch.

The more your personality gets expressed on here, through posts, in the chat rooms, status updates and your pictures- the more ‘known’ your username will become.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

thanks

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By *apillonNoirWoman
over a year ago

There...

Of course I search for myself - I know exactly what I want and it’s easier to go find it than wait for it to drop into my inbox - metaphorically speaking obviously! Some of my best meets have been as a result of me being proactive and long term fb’s have also come to me that way.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Of course I search for myself - I know exactly what I want and it’s easier to go find it than wait for it to drop into my inbox - metaphorically speaking obviously! Some of my best meets have been as a result of me being proactive and long term fb’s have also come to me that way. "

my views are changing lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah they do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been known to message guys first

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have been known to message guys first "

I wish I was one of them loool

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have messaged a few first, when I have found them very attractive, one of those has been my fwb for over a year now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"in that case I think my proifle isn't doing me justice at all lol I think I need help on that

Your profile seems fine but you don’t have any public pictures and until today I hadn’t noticed your username

tbh I don't have any pics public all private...

and my username?"

Yep the lacking pics is a huge biggie. Initial attraction is important to many.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I guess I have to make my pics public then....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've mailed men with no public pics... and met them too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes! The best way to do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't think so because I never get any messages lol am single

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Yes I do, not very often though, just if a profile really catches my eye

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By *ake442000Man
over a year ago

North west

Am still waiting for a single woman to message me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've stopped messaging guys on here and I have filters on but I have another female account with no pictures that accepts messages and I check those. If there's anyone nice in there then I'll message them off this account!

It's the best way because sometimes I can't be arsed to speak to people and if I message them first and then request a picture (face or willy) and they're not what I like I feel awakened afterwards so I just do all my shit from that account, rejecting people etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Awkward not awakened!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sits quietly on my rock and...

Waves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I 've had plenty message me??

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By *ilmissplumpyWoman
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

"most men are to lazy to read proifle and just send the same message to all.

I tend to cater the message accordingly to the person but even then it's a struggle lol"

I have sent one or two, i don't have an overflowing inbox. I don't answer messages that look like a generic ''fits all types'' messages. I also don't answer messages from guys who have obviously not read my profile...

LMP

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By *ooby birdWoman
over a year ago

North West

If I like the look of someone why wouldn't I?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I like the look of someone I will happily send the first messge.... shy girls have a little less fun

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If I like the look of someone I will happily send the first messge.... shy girls have a little less fun

I guess I'm not coming up on your search requirements lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very rate but if I’m attracted then yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do if im bored research guys in liverpool but there mostly the same guys.

If i fancy a couple/woman for fun i research them x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do single women search and message men..."
Yes!

When I cannot make it to a club or a party I use the site and I write first.

I find the people I wish to contact through the search funcion, from the local update, or on very rare occassions through forum posts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I look at people in my area on the updates thingy if that counts as searching.

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

Love a good old search. Fun, well written profile and decent pics get a wink these days.

Used to message but many tend to ignore

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They do. You just have to stand out in the sea of man cucumbers here

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By *oubyLoverWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

Even an advanced search usually brings up too many to go through so I tend to look at those getting verified or posting updates locally

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

Shock horror it happens and when it does it’s lovely. Xx.

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

Indeed ladies do sometimes message first.

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