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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm posting here because ya'know, we're quite a liberal bunch with tonnes of different views. My question, my musings my wonderings are...

Are all men opportunists or not programmed for monogamy, or need attention from elsewhere?

I'm basing this on men in the real world that I know are married, the guy I fancy that comes in the gym that flirts massively and makes inappropriate comments to me (innapropriate because I wouldn't appreciate my husband saying what he says to me) the father of a kid in one of my daughters classes, he whatsapped a picture to me ages ago cos I didn't have my phone so he now has my number and messages me stuff with kisses on the end of the message and I respond with factual information and not anything inappropriate and no kisses then he says don't drop me in it (I front of his wife) that we message.

Guys flirt with me and I know they're attached, is it me, do I come across as someone that would support extra marital shit?

Makes me think when/if I get a boyfriend I'm gonna straight up say to him, look if you have a chance for an opportunist fuck then take it but tell me and use protection. I couldn't handle the sneakiness and then thinking they have some fun secret, that would hurt me more than the sex.

I dunno, the shadiness doesn't fill me with hope.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are all men opportunists or not programmed for monogamy, or need attention from elsewhere?"

I think that, as women, we have more experience with men acting inappropriately. I recall one Christmas party where two different men who worked with my husband were hitting on me and, when I reminded them about their wives, one went on and on about how their relationship was on the rocks...etc, etc.

But I don't think such behavior is limited to men - ask any random man if he has experienced inappropriate behavior from a married woman before and I bet it won't take long to get a yes.

I think plenty of people (not all people) in society would be better suited to having multiple partners, rather than being monogamous. I also think that even people who are suited to monogamy like a bit of attention sometimes and like to feel desirable - especially to people they find attractive. Flirting with and eliciting reactions from people is a way to satisfy that need for attention. That's what I think, anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are all men opportunists or not programmed for monogamy, or need attention from elsewhere?

I think that, as women, we have more experience with men acting inappropriately. I recall one Christmas party where two different men who worked with my husband were hitting on me and, when I reminded them about their wives, one went on and on about how their relationship was on the rocks...etc, etc.

But I don't think such behavior is limited to men - ask any random man if he has experienced inappropriate behavior from a married woman before and I bet it won't take long to get a yes.

I think plenty of people (not all people) in society would be better suited to having multiple partners, rather than being monogamous. I also think that even people who are suited to monogamy like a bit of attention sometimes and like to feel desirable - especially to people they find attractive. Flirting with and eliciting reactions from people is a way to satisfy that need for attention. That's what I think, anyway. "

I think you've hit the nail on the head here.

There's times when I've been monogamous for long periods however the flirting and opportunistic nature is still there and from what I've seen amoungst my piers, it seems to be the same in the main. Although there are cases where men will flat out refuse to engage in any extramarital flirting let alone anoytjing else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think there is anything wrong with a bit of harmless flirting here and there it makes you feel good

But when it's messaging on private numbers that is going beyond flirting

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah, it's gonna go both ways isn't it with women doing it but obviously I only have experience of guys doing it.

Just doesn't fill me with much hope that any guy I got with would be completely loyal to me. Seriously makes me think that I'd say we are having the type of relationship that allows him to have an opportunist fuck, not a plannes one with messages and emotions, a one night stand on a lads holiday or a night out and he's to tell me about it afterwards. I'd ask him if she's did any special tricks or things he likes that I could do.

I'd like to think I would be enough for a guy but I don't even think it's about that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most men will flirt just to be sure they've still "got it"

There's a world of difference between a flirt and an affair. Most are not looking for an affair, though if the woman we're to show an interest, most men would find it difficult to say no as in those circumstances the brain tends to be overruled by the genitals.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah, it's gonna go both ways isn't it with women doing it but obviously I only have experience of guys doing it.

Just doesn't fill me with much hope that any guy I got with would be completely loyal to me. Seriously makes me think that I'd say we are having the type of relationship that allows him to have an opportunist fuck, not a plannes one with messages and emotions, a one night stand on a lads holiday or a night out and he's to tell me about it afterwards. I'd ask him if she's did any special tricks or things he likes that I could do.

I'd like to think I would be enough for a guy but I don't even think it's about that. "

Speaking from experience, it's not about that. Wasn't for me anyway. I strayed for different reasons.

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By *i fem huntersCouple
over a year ago

london

Hate to shock you women but i know of women who do the exact same thing. I would say that it happens equally in both sexes

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By *wesomeSauce!Man
over a year ago

Brighton


"

Are all men opportunists or not programmed for monogamy, or need attention from elsewhere?

"

God no. I think men are slightly driven by the need to "sow their seed", but most men don't actually do it (I think).

I was perfectly monogamous for my 13 year marriage, and then for 8 years with my current partner.

Swinging was actually her idea.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yeah, it's gonna go both ways isn't it with women doing it but obviously I only have experience of guys doing it.

Just doesn't fill me with much hope that any guy I got with would be completely loyal to me. Seriously makes me think that I'd say we are having the type of relationship that allows him to have an opportunist fuck, not a plannes one with messages and emotions, a one night stand on a lads holiday or a night out and he's to tell me about it afterwards. I'd ask him if she's did any special tricks or things he likes that I could do.

I'd like to think I would be enough for a guy but I don't even think it's about that.

Speaking from experience, it's not about that. Wasn't for me anyway. I strayed for different reasons. "

My experiences of married guys is that they married nice and want to shag nasty with me being the nasty but it's like mother fucker I'm domesticated and talented, I could have my tongue up your arse whilst making rice crispie cakes and make you really dinner box in the morning ready for work.

I dunno, always learning I am, reading things on here, experiences in life, I'm getting prepared to welcome a husband type into my life and I don't want to be shat on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah, it's gonna go both ways isn't it with women doing it but obviously I only have experience of guys doing it.

Just doesn't fill me with much hope that any guy I got with would be completely loyal to me. Seriously makes me think that I'd say we are having the type of relationship that allows him to have an opportunist fuck, not a plannes one with messages and emotions, a one night stand on a lads holiday or a night out and he's to tell me about it afterwards. I'd ask him if she's did any special tricks or things he likes that I could do.

I'd like to think I would be enough for a guy but I don't even think it's about that. "

You can never be 100% certain that someone won't cheat on you. The best you can do is determine for yourself whether you fully trust the person you're with not to cheat on you given what you know about them. I have known men who I would imagine would never cheat, and I've known men who probably would. Same with women. It all comes down to taking a chance with someone.

As for having a relationship where you allow the other person one night stands - if you're happy with that then that's fine. But you also have to ask yourself where that leads. Will the person take advantage of it? What if they have a one night stand every time they are away for the night? Is that ok? Are you really ok hearing about it all? What if they tell you stuff that the person they had sex with did better than you....ostensibly just so you know how to do it better. Would that be ok? Or would you be jealous? Be honest with yourself about these things before going down this path.

I know this sounds odd coming from someone who swings with her husband, but I wouldn't be happy in a relationship where I let my husband have sex when he wanted just to avoid him cheating on me. That's not to say some people wouldn't be happy with that - I'm sure plenty would. I just personally don't think my emotions could handle that. Do you think yours could?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yeah, it's gonna go both ways isn't it with women doing it but obviously I only have experience of guys doing it.

Just doesn't fill me with much hope that any guy I got with would be completely loyal to me. Seriously makes me think that I'd say we are having the type of relationship that allows him to have an opportunist fuck, not a plannes one with messages and emotions, a one night stand on a lads holiday or a night out and he's to tell me about it afterwards. I'd ask him if she's did any special tricks or things he likes that I could do.

I'd like to think I would be enough for a guy but I don't even think it's about that.

You can never be 100% certain that someone won't cheat on you. The best you can do is determine for yourself whether you fully trust the person you're with not to cheat on you given what you know about them. I have known men who I would imagine would never cheat, and I've known men who probably would. Same with women. It all comes down to taking a chance with someone.

As for having a relationship where you allow the other person one night stands - if you're happy with that then that's fine. But you also have to ask yourself where that leads. Will the person take advantage of it? What if they have a one night stand every time they are away for the night? Is that ok? Are you really ok hearing about it all? What if they tell you stuff that the person they had sex with did better than you....ostensibly just so you know how to do it better. Would that be ok? Or would you be jealous? Be honest with yourself about these things before going down this path.

I know this sounds odd coming from someone who swings with her husband, but I wouldn't be happy in a relationship where I let my husband have sex when he wanted just to avoid him cheating on me. That's not to say some people wouldn't be happy with that - I'm sure plenty would. I just personally don't think my emotions could handle that. Do you think yours could?"

It's the sneakiness that would piss me off more, them thinking they have something over me, having a little secret or emotional conversations with women. I'd take the Pepsi challenge over any bird in the sack but I would also be open to improvements. My husband/partner would also know, anything he can do, I can do BETTER, and he would know what's good for the goose is good for the gander. Course I wouldn't want to sleep with anyone else because I'm happy with one guy, but he would know that *if* I wanted to I could have a guy hanging out of every orrifice. My experience of most cheating guys is that they would hate for some guy to have his dirty hands all over his wife so on that basis alone I'd (secretly) hope it would put him off doing it.

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By *typical guyMan
over a year ago

wigan


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It's the sneakiness that would piss me off more, them thinking they have something over me, having a little secret or emotional conversations with women. I'd take the Pepsi challenge over any bird in the sack but I would also be open to improvements. My husband/partner would also know, anything he can do, I can do BETTER, and he would know what's good for the goose is good for the gander. Course I wouldn't want to sleep with anyone else because I'm happy with one guy, but he would know that *if* I wanted to I could have a guy hanging out of every orrifice. My experience of most cheating guys is that they would hate for some guy to have his dirty hands all over his wife so on that basis alone I'd (secretly) hope it would put him off doing it. "

I don`t cheat and if a new partner was to assume that i might and/or said/implied that they could "do better", or "whats good for the goose" etc i wouldn`t stick around to wonder if they where cheating because they thought i was cheating.

I would feel that they do not respect me, have trust issues and the future would be filled with accusations and pettyness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my experience I've found women to be less faithful than men, admittedly most men wouldn't let it slip in general conversation unless they thought they were going to be getting lucky.

When Fred has been chatted up on nights out he comes home mortified, myself on the otherhand laps it up

Ginger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm posting here because ya'know, we're quite a liberal bunch with tonnes of different views. My question, my musings my wonderings are...

Are all men opportunists or not programmed for monogamy, or need attention from elsewhere?

I'm basing this on men in the real world that I know are married, the guy I fancy that comes in the gym that flirts massively and makes inappropriate comments to me (innapropriate because I wouldn't appreciate my husband saying what he says to me) the father of a kid in one of my daughters classes, he whatsapped a picture to me ages ago cos I didn't have my phone so he now has my number and messages me stuff with kisses on the end of the message and I respond with factual information and not anything inappropriate and no kisses then he says don't drop me in it (I front of his wife) that we message.

Guys flirt with me and I know they're attached, is it me, do I come across as someone that would support extra marital shit?

Makes me think when/if I get a boyfriend I'm gonna straight up say to him, look if you have a chance for an opportunist fuck then take it but tell me and use protection. I couldn't handle the sneakiness and then thinking they have some fun secret, that would hurt me more than the sex.

I dunno, the shadiness doesn't fill me with hope. "
well its all in your in post oppertunist will take an oppertunity ..if the men didnt feel like there was an oppertunity then i doubt they will try and flirt seems like another male bashing thread to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't believe gender has anything to do with it, more what sort of person you are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once someone said to me only 2 types of people .people who are loyal and honest and the others cheats .once a cheat always a cheat .

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I saw a great quote recently:

Cheating is a personal decision. Some will never cheat no matter how bad things are. Others will always cheat no matter how good they have it.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"No"

That's what my ex would call 'A clean No'. Glad to see it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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It's the sneakiness that would piss me off more, them thinking they have something over me, having a little secret or emotional conversations with women. I'd take the Pepsi challenge over any bird in the sack but I would also be open to improvements. My husband/partner would also know, anything he can do, I can do BETTER, and he would know what's good for the goose is good for the gander. Course I wouldn't want to sleep with anyone else because I'm happy with one guy, but he would know that *if* I wanted to I could have a guy hanging out of every orrifice. My experience of most cheating guys is that they would hate for some guy to have his dirty hands all over his wife so on that basis alone I'd (secretly) hope it would put him off doing it.

I don`t cheat and if a new partner was to assume that i might and/or said/implied that they could "do better", or "whats good for the goose" etc i wouldn`t stick around to wonder if they where cheating because they thought i was cheating.

I would feel that they do not respect me, have trust issues and the future would be filled with accusations and pettyness. "

It's not cheating though is it if I say to a potential new guy that he has my full permission to have sex with someone if the opportunity came about and he wanted to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All day, a guy I was meeting tonight was sending messages via kik.

Looking forward to.our time together etc.

I checked when I got home.. Are we still on for tonight?.. Yes no problem.

I asked for his address etc.

Still waiting.....no reply but message read.

He isn't on here .

Good job I kept my dressing gown on, and hadn't put make up on.

Peed off now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

It's the sneakiness that would piss me off more, them thinking they have something over me, having a little secret or emotional conversations with women. I'd take the Pepsi challenge over any bird in the sack but I would also be open to improvements. My husband/partner would also know, anything he can do, I can do BETTER, and he would know what's good for the goose is good for the gander. Course I wouldn't want to sleep with anyone else because I'm happy with one guy, but he would know that *if* I wanted to I could have a guy hanging out of every orrifice. My experience of most cheating guys is that they would hate for some guy to have his dirty hands all over his wife so on that basis alone I'd (secretly) hope it would put him off doing it.

I don`t cheat and if a new partner was to assume that i might and/or said/implied that they could "do better", or "whats good for the goose" etc i wouldn`t stick around to wonder if they where cheating because they thought i was cheating.

I would feel that they do not respect me, have trust issues and the future would be filled with accusations and pettyness.

It's not cheating though is it if I say to a potential new guy that he has my full permission to have sex with someone if the opportunity came about and he wanted to. "

A guy may not want to do that to you tho.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I saw a great quote recently:

Cheating is a personal decision. Some will never cheat no matter how bad things are. Others will always cheat no matter how good they have it."

That's a good quote

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For my two penn’orth, I’m currently single so I make no bones about the fact that I’m on Fab for sex with multiple partners

Whenever I’ve been in a relationship, over periods of months/years, I’ve never been in the slightest bit tempted, even when opportunity presented itself. If I’m in a monogamous relationship it’s because I want that woman and I don’t need or want to look elsewhere. I save the flirting and the naughtiness for her

PS - having your tongue up my ass is guaranteed to stop me straying!

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By *typical guyMan
over a year ago

wigan


"

It's the sneakiness that would piss me off more, them thinking they have something over me, having a little secret or emotional conversations with women. I'd take the Pepsi challenge over any bird in the sack but I would also be open to improvements. My husband/partner would also know, anything he can do, I can do BETTER, and he would know what's good for the goose is good for the gander. Course I wouldn't want to sleep with anyone else because I'm happy with one guy, but he would know that *if* I wanted to I could have a guy hanging out of every orrifice. My experience of most cheating guys is that they would hate for some guy to have his dirty hands all over his wife so on that basis alone I'd (secretly) hope it would put him off doing it.

I don`t cheat and if a new partner was to assume that i might and/or said/implied that they could "do better", or "whats good for the goose" etc i wouldn`t stick around to wonder if they where cheating because they thought i was cheating.

I would feel that they do not respect me, have trust issues and the future would be filled with accusations and pettyness.

It's not cheating though is it if I say to a potential new guy that he has my full permission to have sex with someone if the opportunity came about and he wanted to. "

It wouldn`t be cheating if it was an open relationship, however threatening to have someone hanging out of every orifice if they do isn`t very open or good start to the relationship.

That is nothing to do with my point though. The problem is that you think they would do it even without permission, word it how you want but you still don`t trust them which leads to the question, would you trust them to tell you they had slept with someone else?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most men will flirt just to be sure they've still "got it"

There's a world of difference between a flirt and an affair. Most are not looking for an affair, though if the woman we're to show an interest, most men would find it difficult to say no as in those circumstances the brain tends to be overruled by the genitals."

I think if you told him he could have a one night stand then he would. Even if that had never been a possibility.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The number of women actively seeking men and yet seemingly hating them on here is interesting.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford


"Most men will flirt just to be sure they've still "got it"

There's a world of difference between a flirt and an affair. Most are not looking for an affair, though if the woman we're to show an interest, most men would find it difficult to say no as in those circumstances the brain tends to be overruled by the genitals.

I think if you told him he could have a one night stand then he would. Even if that had never been a possibility. "

He might. I can barely be arsed to persue one woman, let alone several, so I'm sre, were I given this option, I probably wouldn't take it. What I might, do, however, is assume that you wanted an open reationship/to fuck other guys and would probably decide that you weren't for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The church invented marriage. We as human beings plus us being essentially animals are made to breed.

Swinging in my opinion is far more natural then monogamy.

Oh course as a spiecise we fall at the first hurdle. That hurdle being feel8ngs and emotions.

Ptu xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most men will flirt just to be sure they've still "got it"

There's a world of difference between a flirt and an affair. Most are not looking for an affair, though if the woman we're to show an interest, most men would find it difficult to say no as in those circumstances the brain tends to be overruled by the genitals.

I think if you told him he could have a one night stand then he would. Even if that had never been a possibility.

He might. I can barely be arsed to persue one woman, let alone several, so I'm sre, were I given this option, I probably wouldn't take it. What I might, do, however, is assume that you wanted an open reationship/to fuck other guys and would probably decide that you weren't for me. "

That's an interesting slant I hadn't thought of.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The church invented marriage."

Did it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The church invented marriage.

Did it?"

Didn't it? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The church invented marriage.

Did it?

Didn't it? X"

I don't know.

I *thought* it was older than the church and definitely is a part of non Christian cultures too, but I don't know the history of it.

I think there's some argument that some other species mate for life (or close to it) too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The church invented marriage.

Did it?

Didn't it? X

I don't know.

I *thought* it was older than the church and definitely is a part of non Christian cultures too, but I don't know the history of it.

I think there's some argument that some other species mate for life (or close to it) too."

I'm just readin about it now. Yes your right seams like aborigines invented marriage some 5000 years bc.

I lye corrected. xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The church invented marriage.

Did it?

Didn't it? X

I don't know.

I *thought* it was older than the church and definitely is a part of non Christian cultures too, but I don't know the history of it.

I think there's some argument that some other species mate for life (or close to it) too.

I'm just readin about it now. Yes your right seams like aborigines invented marriage some 5000 years bc.

I lye corrected. xxx"

Ooh That was unexpected

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The church invented marriage.

Did it?

Didn't it? X

I don't know.

I *thought* it was older than the church and definitely is a part of non Christian cultures too, but I don't know the history of it.

I think there's some argument that some other species mate for life (or close to it) too.

I'm just readin about it now. Yes your right seams like aborigines invented marriage some 5000 years bc.

I lye corrected. xxx

Ooh That was unexpected "

It's also thought that Abraham brought about a marragige law for ownership of land. Love didn't come into it. So could tec be argued that as hebrew is a form of religion that it was made by the "church" although back in those days a husband could take as many wives as he wanted. It was the Catholic church that invented monogamy ?? xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, I think you would make a great girlfriend. You can cook, you're hot and you're kinky .

https://youtu.be/4m1EFMoRFvY

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm posting here because ya'know, we're quite a liberal bunch with tonnes of different views. My question, my musings my wonderings are...

Are all men opportunists or not programmed for monogamy, or need attention from elsewhere?

I'm basing this on men in the real world that I know are married, the guy I fancy that comes in the gym that flirts massively and makes inappropriate comments to me (innapropriate because I wouldn't appreciate my husband saying what he says to me) the father of a kid in one of my daughters classes, he whatsapped a picture to me ages ago cos I didn't have my phone so he now has my number and messages me stuff with kisses on the end of the message and I respond with factual information and not anything inappropriate and no kisses then he says don't drop me in it (I front of his wife) that we message.

Guys flirt with me and I know they're attached, is it me, do I come across as someone that would support extra marital shit?

Makes me think when/if I get a boyfriend I'm gonna straight up say to him, look if you have a chance for an opportunist fuck then take it but tell me and use protection. I couldn't handle the sneakiness and then thinking they have some fun secret, that would hurt me more than the sex.

I dunno, the shadiness doesn't fill me with hope. "
I think men are becoming worse in there behaviour because of sitea like this and modern technology. I'm not a rude man but find myself messaging women through facebook etc things I wouldn't normally say to them . Now I find myself saying things to , I'm a lot more flirty than ever before. If I was you and you don't like it tell them . I'm single by the way lol and wouldn't be unfaithful if I was in a relationship. Good luck .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm posting here because ya'know, we're quite a liberal bunch with tonnes of different views. My question, my musings my wonderings are...

Are all men opportunists or not programmed for monogamy, or need attention from elsewhere?

I'm basing this on men in the real world that I know are married, the guy I fancy that comes in the gym that flirts massively and makes inappropriate comments to me (innapropriate because I wouldn't appreciate my husband saying what he says to me) the father of a kid in one of my daughters classes, he whatsapped a picture to me ages ago cos I didn't have my phone so he now has my number and messages me stuff with kisses on the end of the message and I respond with factual information and not anything inappropriate and no kisses then he says don't drop me in it (I front of his wife) that we message.

Guys flirt with me and I know they're attached, is it me, do I come across as someone that would support extra marital shit?

Makes me think when/if I get a boyfriend I'm gonna straight up say to him, look if you have a chance for an opportunist fuck then take it but tell me and use protection. I couldn't handle the sneakiness and then thinking they have some fun secret, that would hurt me more than the sex.

I dunno, the shadiness doesn't fill me with hope. I think men are becoming worse in there behaviour because of sitea like this and modern technology. I'm not a rude man but find myself messaging women through facebook etc things I wouldn't normally say to them . Now I find myself saying things to , I'm a lot more flirty than ever before. If I was you and you don't like it tell them . I'm single by the way lol and wouldn't be unfaithful if I was in a relationship. Good luck . "

I think that many people have lost track of what is acceptable.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OP, I think you would make a great girlfriend. You can cook, you're hot and you're kinky .

https://youtu.be/4m1EFMoRFvY"

How do you know I can cook? I can by the way and yes I'd be the perfect wife.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


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Makes me think when/if I get a boyfriend I'm gonna straight up say to him, look if you have a chance for an opportunist fuck then take it but tell me and use protection. I couldn't handle the sneakiness and then thinking they have some fun secret, that would hurt me more than the sex.

I dunno, the shadiness doesn't fill me with hope. "

Would you seriously say that,I don't know you but you come across as someone who would rip both their faces off if you found out,so it would be more acceptable if he told you first?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP, I think you would make a great girlfriend. You can cook, you're hot and you're kinky .

https://youtu.be/4m1EFMoRFvY

How do you know I can cook? I can by the way and yes I'd be the perfect wife. "

Sunday roast pic .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most men would fuck anyone and most would be unfaithful if the choice was there and some women the same .

I work with loads of men and the things they get upto is shocking .All apparently happily married .

Men dont no how to date and gain respect ,too many players .

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By *mo-amas-amatMan
over a year ago

brighton


"Most men would fuck anyone and most would be unfaithful if the choice was there and some women the same .

I work with loads of men and the things they get upto is shocking .All apparently happily married .

Men dont no how to date and gain respect ,too many players ."

Ouch... we are not all the same...

(Or perhaps I should just clear my name)

Anyone I won't fuck

(Maybe just kiss and suck)

I think I should be on the game.

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over a year ago


"Most men would fuck anyone and most would be unfaithful if the choice was there and some women the same .

I work with loads of men and the things they get upto is shocking .All apparently happily married .

Men dont no how to date and gain respect ,too many players .

Ouch... we are not all the same...

(Or perhaps I should just clear my name)

Anyone I won't fuck

(Maybe just kiss and suck)

I think I should be on the game.

"

All the same until proven otherwise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds very much like control and mind games.

Your insecurities scream out and could put off any potential partner.

If you're "all that" why would any guy ever cheat on you?

There is a very fine line between confidence and arrogance, the latter being very unattractive.

I get the feeling that you've been hurt before and I can understand your insecurities.

You need to be happy and confident in yourself before you even think about getting into a relationship.

There is also a world of difference between a bit of flirting and banter and doing the actual deed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From an article in the Guardian in 2005.

'One in 25 fathers may not be the biological parent of the child they believe to be theirs, according to a study published today.'

Snakes of both gender?

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over a year ago


"From an article in the Guardian in 2005.

'One in 25 fathers may not be the biological parent of the child they believe to be theirs, according to a study published today.'

Snakes of both gender?"

Cheaper than ivf

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over a year ago


"From an article in the Guardian in 2005.

'One in 25 fathers may not be the biological parent of the child they believe to be theirs, according to a study published today.'

Snakes of both gender?

Cheaper than ivf "

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