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By *heboobieman OP   Man
over a year ago

aust bristol

Hi i often compliment if i see a nice lady be it in the supermarket or walking up the street it maybe a simple mmm as they walk past or a very nice! Something like that sometimes i get a cheeky smile back or a giggle is this appreciated by most of you or should i just keep it to myself im never rude or creepy just like to complement a good looking woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds pretty creepy to me.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Would depend. I tend to think it's a little creepy if I'm honest.

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

I’m sorry but I think it’s creepy

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull

I don’t like it at all.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

It's creepy I was letched over in my local swimming pool the other week, don't do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If some random ‘mmm’d at me in the street he’d get a filthy look

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By *londieddWoman
over a year ago

fife

someone saying mmm when passing you is creepy as feck, would you do it if they were with a man?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What 'compliment' did you pay the woman in your picture? She's gone blue in the face with anger.

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By *wisted2000Woman
over a year ago

under my rock cleethorpes

It would depend on the complement to be honest, a charming one is ok but a mmmm would make me feel creeped out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you wear a flashers Mac at the same time and lick your lips suggestively OP?

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"It would depend on the complement to be honest, a charming one is ok but a mmmm would make me feel creeped out "

100%

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"Sounds pretty creepy to me. "

Same here

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

Flash a smile and maybe a nod. Anything more than that from a stranger is too much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Creepy as

it actually made me shudder just reading it

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

.

I'd find it creepy (unless I knew the man and he was doing it in a silly way) regardless of how attractive he is. Sorry OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Creepy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's creepy as fuck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That I would find creepy. Bit like one of my postmen that keeps making comments. X

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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago

swingers clubs

Prob nor what you want to hear OP but another woman here who thinks that sounds creepy.

What's your objective? If it's to make her feel good then perhaps reassess as we feel creeped out and weirded out at someone mmmm-ing at us.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

OP What percentage of women give "a cheeky smile or giggle" in return? What percentage of women shudder, cringe or tell you to fuck off?

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I think you have your answer OP. Not many appreciate that.

If I heard a Mmmmm I'd presume it was aimed at someone else and think 'dirty old bastard'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mmmm

MmHmm hmm hmph

Hmmmu hu hu hu

Mu hu ah ah aaaah

I'm ah lookin and I'm ah likin.. with some fava beans and a nice chianti sth sth sth

https://youtu.be/iVlkZVAw8Gc

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Depends what mood I'm in to be honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone mmmmm'd at me in the street I'd go for the nads, not in a good way either!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Flash a smile and maybe a nod. Anything more than that from a stranger is too much."
well put.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dislike it. That and being called out to from cars makes me feel incredibly self conscious.

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I wouldn't find it complimentary. Firstly I would assume it was aimed at someone else and then if I realised it was aimed at me I would feel weirded out by a complete stranger obviously having sexual thoughts about me. I'm a person going about my day, not an object to be leered at. Even if that wasn't the intention, that is exactly how I would read the situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Creepy as

it actually made me shudder just reading it"

I agree. Gross.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of the interesting fallouts from the Harvey Weinstein case is that too many men are utterly clueless as to what is- and isn't- acceptable behaviour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One of the interesting fallouts from the Harvey Weinstein case is that too many men are utterly clueless as to what is- and isn't- acceptable behaviour. "

Do you think it’s a generational thing? Every time something similar has ever happened to me it’s been an older guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just wrong. Would creep most women out. Some times i give them a cute innocent smile. Maybe say hi at a bar if im out but thats about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One of the interesting fallouts from the Harvey Weinstein case is that too many men are utterly clueless as to what is- and isn't- acceptable behaviour.

Do you think it’s a generational thing? Every time something similar has ever happened to me it’s been an older guy "

I'm older so I don't get any younger men attracted to me (that may then be inappropriate) so can't really say.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

If you find a woman attractive just smile.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"One of the interesting fallouts from the Harvey Weinstein case is that too many men are utterly clueless as to what is- and isn't- acceptable behaviour. "

I think lots of men have no idea. Mr N and I were chatting in the wake of the HW revelations and I was saying that the men who do understand these things often don't realise how many guys find it acceptable to comment sexually to a woman. It doesn't happen to me now but when I was younger it wasn't unusual for complete strangers to comment on my breasts, in the street as I went about my business. It isn't generational young women nowadays experience it too. Some men truly believe that women are first and foremost sex objects.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi i often compliment if i see a nice lady be it in the supermarket or walking up the street it maybe a simple mmm as they walk past or a very nice! Something like that sometimes i get a cheeky smile back or a giggle is this appreciated by most of you or should i just keep it to myself im never rude or creepy just like to complement a good looking woman"

Given that so many have said they would not appreciate this behaviour, OP -- will you stop?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nowt worse than a leery look - im much happier with a bit of eye contact and a smile

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By *heboobieman OP   Man
over a year ago

aust bristol


"Hi i often compliment if i see a nice lady be it in the supermarket or walking up the street it maybe a simple mmm as they walk past or a very nice! Something like that sometimes i get a cheeky smile back or a giggle is this appreciated by most of you or should i just keep it to myself im never rude or creepy mjust like to complement a good looking woman

Given that so many have said they would not appreciate this behaviour, OP -- will you stop? "
maybe not stop but definitely read the situation better ive had more ladies smile and say thanks than not and have never been told to fuck off yet in fact about 14 year ago i smiled and said your stunning to a girl and when i was on my lunch she walked in the pub i was in we ended up living together for 3 years so not all bad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At a guess most of them are so shocked they don't have time to frame a polite version of Fuck Off or Creep or are trying to get away fast. Sounds so lecherous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi i often compliment if i see a nice lady be it in the supermarket or walking up the street it maybe a simple mmm as they walk past or a very nice! Something like that sometimes i get a cheeky smile back or a giggle is this appreciated by most of you or should i just keep it to myself im never rude or creepy mjust like to complement a good looking woman

Given that so many have said they would not appreciate this behaviour, OP -- will you stop? maybe not stop but definitely read the situation better ive had more ladies smile and say thanks than not and have never been told to fuck off yet in fact about 14 year ago i smiled and said your stunning to a girl and when i was on my lunch she walked in the pub i was in we ended up living together for 3 years so not all bad"

Maybe they’re just being polite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Keep it limited to a friendly smile if you happen to make eye contact. Anything else is sexual harrassment.

Would you be happy for someone to do that to your mum,granny, sister or daughter (delete as appropriate)."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi i often compliment if i see a nice lady be it in the supermarket or walking up the street it maybe a simple mmm as they walk past or a very nice! Something like that sometimes i get a cheeky smile back or a giggle is this appreciated by most of you or should i just keep it to myself im never rude or creepy mjust like to complement a good looking woman

Given that so many have said they would not appreciate this behaviour, OP -- will you stop? maybe not stop but definitely read the situation better ive had more ladies smile and say thanks than not and have never been told to fuck off yet in fact about 14 year ago i smiled and said your stunning to a girl and when i was on my lunch she walked in the pub i was in we ended up living together for 3 years so not all bad"

So no, then.

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By *loppsyWoman
over a year ago

marlow

Creepy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*shudders*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi i often compliment if i see a nice lady be it in the supermarket or walking up the street it maybe a simple mmm as they walk past or a very nice! Something like that sometimes i get a cheeky smile back or a giggle is this appreciated by most of you or should i just keep it to myself im never rude or creepy mjust like to complement a good looking woman

Given that so many have said they would not appreciate this behaviour, OP -- will you stop? maybe not stop but definitely read the situation better ive had more ladies smile and say thanks than not and have never been told to fuck off yet in fact about 14 year ago i smiled and said your stunning to a girl and when i was on my lunch she walked in the pub i was in we ended up living together for 3 years so not all bad "

And given the fact you were 22 back then, have you not grown up?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's creepy I was letched over in my local swimming pool the other week, don't do it."

Hmmm, what were you wearing though???

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Totally creepy, repulsive in fact.

I have a charismatic male friend who regularly compliments women, he will openly and enthusiastically say, with a broad grin, 'Wow you look totally fantastic in that dress!!!' and that kind of compliment has always gone down well.

It's the creepy, pervy, 'hmmm' or uninvited sexual comment that is so, so wrong!

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By *appy squirrelWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

i think its tricky. everyone likes to be complimented but the way you described it would feel a bit creepy to me as well.

maybe find some other ways to do it? I know it really made my day once when I was in town smiling to myself and an older guy said "keep on smiling- it brightens up the day for everyone" and just continued on his way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Totally creepy, repulsive in fact.

I have a charismatic male friend who regularly compliments women, he will openly and enthusiastically say, with a broad grin, 'Wow you look totally fantastic in that dress!!!' and that kind of compliment has always gone down well.

It's the creepy, pervy, 'hmmm' or uninvited sexual comment that is so, so wrong!"

I assure you my comment was firmly tongue in cheek

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"It's creepy I was letched over in my local swimming pool the other week, don't do it.

Hmmm, what were you wearing though???"
a one piece swimsuit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi i often compliment if i see a nice lady be it in the supermarket or walking up the street it maybe a simple mmm as they walk past or a very nice! Something like that sometimes i get a cheeky smile back or a giggle is this appreciated by most of you or should i just keep it to myself im never rude or creepy mjust like to complement a good looking woman

Given that so many have said they would not appreciate this behaviour, OP -- will you stop? maybe not stop but definitely read the situation better ive had more ladies smile and say thanks than not and have never been told to fuck off yet in fact about 14 year ago i smiled and said your stunning to a girl and when i was on my lunch she walked in the pub i was in we ended up living together for 3 years so not all bad"

Bro they're just being polite and if they are a little introverted they'll not want to be a "bitch" and earn your masculine disapproval. It's not the mmm itself, it's the fact that it's an opener with no prior contact or context. Of course none of us are there to see you in action so maybe you are just a smooth heartthrob with the ladies but I'm guessing you wouldn't have asked if you were thoroughly convinced that your methods are failsafe. If a woman did that to me I'd think, what a creep.. unless it was Beyoncé

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I message some ladies I think have a gorgeous face and figure.....

All I get is a delete!

Saying it to a stranger in the street is risky!

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I message some ladies I think have a gorgeous face and figure.....

All I get is a delete!

Saying it to a stranger in the street is risky! "

I like the design on your arm.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"I message some ladies I think have a gorgeous face and figure.....

All I get is a delete!

Saying it to a stranger in the street is risky! "
if someone sends me a nice message like that I always say thanks and have had some lovely chats as a result. I suppose in public it would depend on where and how it's said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's creepy I was letched over in my local swimming pool the other week, don't do it.

Hmmm, what were you wearing though???a one piece swimsuit."

You tease

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"It's creepy I was letched over in my local swimming pool the other week, don't do it.

Hmmm, what were you wearing though???a one piece swimsuit.

You tease "
evidently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If some guy mmmm'd at me when I was going about my daily business I'd be pissed off because 9 times out of 10 I'd have my child with me.

IF I was on a night out and a guy I thought was handsome gave me a compliment or mmm'd at me or whatever, I'd accompany him to the smoking area and have a feel of his penis.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"If some guy mmmm'd at me when I was going about my daily business I'd be pissed off because 9 times out of 10 I'd have my child with me.

IF I was on a night out and a guy I thought was handsome gave me a compliment or mmm'd at me or whatever, I'd accompany him to the smoking area and have a feel of his penis. "

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"Hi i often compliment if i see a nice lady be it in the supermarket or walking up the street it maybe a simple mmm as they walk past or a very nice! Something like that sometimes i get a cheeky smile back or a giggle is this appreciated by most of you or should i just keep it to myself im never rude or creepy mjust like to complement a good looking woman

Given that so many have said they would not appreciate this behaviour, OP -- will you stop? maybe not stop but definitely read the situation better ive had more ladies smile and say thanks than not and have never been told to fuck off yet in fact about 14 year ago i smiled and said your stunning to a girl and when i was on my lunch she walked in the pub i was in we ended up living together for 3 years so not all bad"

When confronted with an inappropriate comment or touch supposedly done to be complimentary, it often puts women on guard and anxious, we then adopt a positive or tolerant reply or repose because anything else may entice the creep to become aggressive and that we don't want to deal with.

Total strangers gaslight me here when I defend myself from their bullshit self entitlement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If some guy mmmm'd at me when I was going about my daily business I'd be pissed off because 9 times out of 10 I'd have my child with me.

IF I was on a night out and a guy I thought was handsome gave me a compliment or mmm'd at me or whatever, I'd accompany him to the smoking area and have a feel of his penis. "

I think you're right, you need to consider the context of such attention. What is unacceptable in a office can be fine on a night out, but it's also how it's interpreted too. Sometimes people are just waiting to be "offended" by something

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By *olden RatioWoman
over a year ago

Buckinghamshire

It’s really creepy

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple
over a year ago

Maidstone

It all sounds a bit cringy to me. If you’re single and genuinely find a lady attractive why not just approach her and tell her she’s beautiful or something? Even if she’s not interested you’d make her feel good about herself. Ogling and ‘hmmmm’ noises are a bit immature and uncomfortable. Mrs x

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"It all sounds a bit cringy to me. If you’re single and genuinely find a lady attractive why not just approach her and tell her she’s beautiful or something? Even if she’s not interested you’d make her feel good about herself. Ogling and ‘hmmmm’ noises are a bit immature and uncomfortable. Mrs x "
exactly this

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

You might as well just grab your cock and lick your lips, as it would be same lewd behaviour

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

OP.

If they are ‘nice to you’ in reply it’s because they don’t want the hassle and abuse that comes from saying how it really makes them feel.

Just google ‘why is catcalling bad’ or look at the tweets by women on #everydaysexism

It’s not acceptable. It’s not appreciated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi i often compliment if i see a nice lady be it in the supermarket or walking up the street it maybe a simple mmm as they walk past or a very nice! Something like that sometimes i get a cheeky smile back or a giggle is this appreciated by most of you or should i just keep it to myself im never rude or creepy mjust like to complement a good looking woman

Given that so many have said they would not appreciate this behaviour, OP -- will you stop? maybe not stop but definitely read the situation better ive had more ladies smile and say thanks than not and have never been told to fuck off yet in fact about 14 year ago i smiled and said your stunning to a girl and when i was on my lunch she walked in the pub i was in we ended up living together for 3 years so not all bad

When confronted with an inappropriate comment or touch supposedly done to be complimentary, it often puts women on guard and anxious, we then adopt a positive or tolerant reply or repose because anything else may entice the creep to become aggressive and that we don't want to deal with.

Total strangers gaslight me here when I defend myself from their bullshit self entitlement.

"

So. Bloody. True.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sounds pretty creepy to me. "

This

Mmmm nice....I think I’ll stalk you across the car park

Then tap on your window....

Asking for your number...

True story!

MrsK x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never forget when I was in maguluf and I went back to the room to change and was walking alone back down the strip to the bar my friends were in, some guy was following me asking if I wanted to fuck him and before I even had a chance to tell him to fuck off he fell over the concrete boulder things that's along the pavements!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"I never forget when I was in maguluf and I went back to the room to change and was walking alone back down the strip to the bar my friends were in, some guy was following me asking if I wanted to fuck him and before I even had a chance to tell him to fuck off he fell over the concrete boulder things that's along the pavements!"
well I guess that stopped him then lol

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By *ANDA2Couple
over a year ago

Henley Arden

Mr writing here

Very interesting responses from the ladies.

I have complimented a few women in public and never had a bad reaction only positive. I don't make a habit of it but occasionally I've seen a woman look so good ' in herself ' ( not necessarily drop dead beautiful) that a compliment is given.

However it is VERY important in the way, when and how it is done.

1. Never do it you women much much younger than you- that's creepy.Always compliment around the same age.

2. Make the compliment clear to the lady. NOT mmmm

3. Be clear your not trying to chat her up.

4. Always make sure you are smartly dressed yourself. Not dressed in your gardening togs or just rolled out of bed.

5. Then walk away.

So for example, I saw a lady who looked amazing in a business suit and just looked fantastic. She was not stunning model but she looked great and was on her own. I was dressed in a business suit.

So I walked up to her and she ' excuse me please. I'm not chatting you up as I'm married. However I just want to say you look absolutely fantastic. In fact so good I felt I needed to tell you.

Now I wish you a good day and a super week ahead '. Then I walked away.

The ladies reaction?

A big smile, a thank you and you could see her glow and grow in stature.

So it's not alwYs creepy. It like everything. It's how and when it's done along with the timing.

Looking forward to being blocked now !!!

Excuse the text layout. Fab doesn't seem to like iPads

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Mr writing here

Very interesting responses from the ladies.

I have complimented a few women in public and never had a bad reaction only positive. I don't make a habit of it but occasionally I've seen a woman look so good ' in herself ' ( not necessarily drop dead beautiful) that a compliment is given.

However it is VERY important in the way, when and how it is done.

1. Never do it you women much much younger than you- that's creepy.Always compliment around the same age.

2. Make the compliment clear to the lady. NOT mmmm

3. Be clear your not trying to chat her up.

4. Always make sure you are smartly dressed yourself. Not dressed in your gardening togs or just rolled out of bed.

5. Then walk away.

So for example, I saw a lady who looked amazing in a business suit and just looked fantastic. She was not stunning model but she looked great and was on her own. I was dressed in a business suit.

So I walked up to her and she ' excuse me please. I'm not chatting you up as I'm married. However I just want to say you look absolutely fantastic. In fact so good I felt I needed to tell you.

Now I wish you a good day and a super week ahead '. Then I walked away.

The ladies reaction?

A big smile, a thank you and you could see her glow and grow in stature.

So it's not alwYs creepy. It like everything. It's how and when it's done along with the timing.

Looking forward to being blocked now !!!

Excuse the text layout. Fab doesn't seem to like iPads "
that's not creepy, it's in the right context.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's creepy I was letched over in my local swimming pool the other week, don't do it.

Hmmm, what were you wearing though???a one piece swimsuit.

You tease "

"Mmm" or very nice in passing would creep me out too, that's not a compliment it's letchy.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"Mr writing here

Very interesting responses from the ladies.

I have complimented a few women in public and never had a bad reaction only positive. I don't make a habit of it but occasionally I've seen a woman look so good ' in herself ' ( not necessarily drop dead beautiful) that a compliment is given.

However it is VERY important in the way, when and how it is done.

1. Never do it you women much much younger than you- that's creepy.Always compliment around the same age.

2. Make the compliment clear to the lady. NOT mmmm

3. Be clear your not trying to chat her up.

4. Always make sure you are smartly dressed yourself. Not dressed in your gardening togs or just rolled out of bed.

5. Then walk away.

So for example, I saw a lady who looked amazing in a business suit and just looked fantastic. She was not stunning model but she looked great and was on her own. I was dressed in a business suit.

So I walked up to her and she ' excuse me please. I'm not chatting you up as I'm married. However I just want to say you look absolutely fantastic. In fact so good I felt I needed to tell you.

Now I wish you a good day and a super week ahead '. Then I walked away.

The ladies reaction?

A big smile, a thank you and you could see her glow and grow in stature.

So it's not alwYs creepy. It like everything. It's how and when it's done along with the timing.

Looking forward to being blocked now !!!

Excuse the text layout. Fab doesn't seem to like iPads "

That's because it doesn't sound creepy!

I think it is mainly 'the mmmm' that in itself implies sexual thoughts, not the compliment per say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Eeeek.. it would make me at the very least feel un-comfortable.

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch


"Hi i often compliment if i see a nice lady be it in the supermarket or walking up the street it maybe a simple mmm as they walk past or a very nice! Something like that sometimes i get a cheeky smile back or a giggle is this appreciated by most of you or should i just keep it to myself im never rude or creepy just like to complement a good looking woman"

Very creepy

Good article on r4 today about sexual harassment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I complimented the guy that comes in my gym that I've fancied for 20 months, I saw him in the kebab house last week getting a pizza (must have been cheat night!) he had glasses on and I said to him you look nice and smart with your glasses, whilst holding my finger up and drawing a circle around my face! He smiled and said thank you very much!

What I wanted to say was fuck I wanna rip them jogging bottoms off you and stick my tongue up your arse right here right now. Don't think he would've appreciated that!

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By *ANDA2Couple
over a year ago

Henley Arden

Hi

Thanks.

It took me sooo long to type it out and fight fabs text box I missed some of the replies.

Yes I totally agree. A guy going ' mmmmmm' ' nice' as he walks past a lady or she past him is just creepy and intimidating.

Even more so if the guys much older than the woman. Say a 50 year old man doing it to a 25 old woman. That's being a letch

If it's a mother with a child then it's totally disrespectful and out of order.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"Mr writing here

Very interesting responses from the ladies.

I have complimented a few women in public and never had a bad reaction only positive. I don't make a habit of it but occasionally I've seen a woman look so good ' in herself ' ( not necessarily drop dead beautiful) that a compliment is given.

However it is VERY important in the way, when and how it is done.

1. Never do it you women much much younger than you- that's creepy.Always compliment around the same age.

2. Make the compliment clear to the lady. NOT mmmm

3. Be clear your not trying to chat her up.

4. Always make sure you are smartly dressed yourself. Not dressed in your gardening togs or just rolled out of bed.

5. Then walk away.

So for example, I saw a lady who looked amazing in a business suit and just looked fantastic. She was not stunning model but she looked great and was on her own. I was dressed in a business suit.

So I walked up to her and she ' excuse me please. I'm not chatting you up as I'm married. However I just want to say you look absolutely fantastic. In fact so good I felt I needed to tell you.

Now I wish you a good day and a super week ahead '. Then I walked away.

The ladies reaction?

A big smile, a thank you and you could see her glow and grow in stature.

So it's not alwYs creepy. It like everything. It's how and when it's done along with the timing.

Looking forward to being blocked now !!!

Excuse the text layout. Fab doesn't seem to like iPads "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mr writing here

Very interesting responses from the ladies.

I have complimented a few women in public and never had a bad reaction only positive. I don't make a habit of it but occasionally I've seen a woman look so good ' in herself ' ( not necessarily drop dead beautiful) that a compliment is given.

However it is VERY important in the way, when and how it is done.

1. Never do it you women much much younger than you- that's creepy.Always compliment around the same age.

2. Make the compliment clear to the lady. NOT mmmm

3. Be clear your not trying to chat her up.

4. Always make sure you are smartly dressed yourself. Not dressed in your gardening togs or just rolled out of bed.

5. Then walk away.

So for example, I saw a lady who looked amazing in a business suit and just looked fantastic. She was not stunning model but she looked great and was on her own. I was dressed in a business suit.

So I walked up to her and she ' excuse me please. I'm not chatting you up as I'm married. However I just want to say you look absolutely fantastic. In fact so good I felt I needed to tell you.

Now I wish you a good day and a super week ahead '. Then I walked away.

The ladies reaction?

A big smile, a thank you and you could see her glow and grow in stature.

So it's not alwYs creepy. It like everything. It's how and when it's done along with the timing.

Looking forward to being blocked now !!!

Excuse the text layout. Fab doesn't seem to like iPads "

Absolutely agree that how and where make all the difference.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"I complimented the guy that comes in my gym that I've fancied for 20 months, I saw him in the kebab house last week getting a pizza (must have been cheat night!) he had glasses on and I said to him you look nice and smart with your glasses, whilst holding my finger up and drawing a circle around my face! He smiled and said thank you very much!

What I wanted to say was fuck I wanna rip them jogging bottoms off you and stick my tongue up your arse right here right now. Don't think he would've appreciated that!"

Why did you draw a circle around your face with your finger?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I complimented the guy that comes in my gym that I've fancied for 20 months, I saw him in the kebab house last week getting a pizza (must have been cheat night!) he had glasses on and I said to him you look nice and smart with your glasses, whilst holding my finger up and drawing a circle around my face! He smiled and said thank you very much!

What I wanted to say was fuck I wanna rip them jogging bottoms off you and stick my tongue up your arse right here right now. Don't think he would've appreciated that!

Why did you draw a circle around your face with your finger? "

I can't describe it, you know I was like holding my finger up and drawing imaginary circles around my whole face, like to emphasise the fact I was talking about his glasses. I don't know why I did it, felt like a bit of a knob after but it was spur of the moment thing, kind of just fell out. You look nice and smart in your glasses. I couldn't have said anything more wetter than that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I complimented the guy that comes in my gym that I've fancied for 20 months, I saw him in the kebab house last week getting a pizza (must have been cheat night!) he had glasses on and I said to him you look nice and smart with your glasses, whilst holding my finger up and drawing a circle around my face! He smiled and said thank you very much!

What I wanted to say was fuck I wanna rip them jogging bottoms off you and stick my tongue up your arse right here right now. Don't think he would've appreciated that!

Why did you draw a circle around your face with your finger?

I can't describe it, you know I was like holding my finger up and drawing imaginary circles around my whole face, like to emphasise the fact I was talking about his glasses. I don't know why I did it, felt like a bit of a knob after but it was spur of the moment thing, kind of just fell out. You look nice and smart in your glasses. I couldn't have said anything more wetter than that! "

That took courage. That's as good as a F.A.F. coming from a lady!

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By *rscotsdudeMan
over a year ago

angus

For some reason I keep thinking of vic reeves on shooting stars saying mmmmmm and rubbing his thighs at any of the fit panel guests.

Maybe you should try it OP

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"It's creepy I was letched over in my local swimming pool the other week, don't do it.

Hmmm, what were you wearing though???a one piece swimsuit.

You tease

"Mmm" or very nice in passing would creep me out too, that's not a compliment it's letchy."

Not quite sure what else I should have been wearing in a pool to be honest lol

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By *ANDA2Couple
over a year ago

Henley Arden


"It's creepy I was letched over in my local swimming pool the other week, don't do it.

Hmmm, what were you wearing though???a one piece swimsuit.

You tease

"Mmm" or very nice in passing would creep me out too, that's not a compliment it's letchy.

Not quite sure what else I should have been wearing in a pool to be honest lol "

Passing a compliment or leaching over a lady in a swimming pool is just out of order.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I complimented the guy that comes in my gym that I've fancied for 20 months, I saw him in the kebab house last week getting a pizza (must have been cheat night!) he had glasses on and I said to him you look nice and smart with your glasses, whilst holding my finger up and drawing a circle around my face! He smiled and said thank you very much!

What I wanted to say was fuck I wanna rip them jogging bottoms off you and stick my tongue up your arse right here right now. Don't think he would've appreciated that!

Why did you draw a circle around your face with your finger?

I can't describe it, you know I was like holding my finger up and drawing imaginary circles around my whole face, like to emphasise the fact I was talking about his glasses. I don't know why I did it, felt like a bit of a knob after but it was spur of the moment thing, kind of just fell out. You look nice and smart in your glasses. I couldn't have said anything more wetter than that! "

I don’t know what I love more, the fact that you did this or the fact that you shared it with us

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"It's creepy I was letched over in my local swimming pool the other week, don't do it.

Hmmm, what were you wearing though???a one piece swimsuit.

You tease

"Mmm" or very nice in passing would creep me out too, that's not a compliment it's letchy.

Not quite sure what else I should have been wearing in a pool to be honest lol

Passing a compliment or leaching over a lady in a swimming pool is just out of order. "
I was only polite because he had his kids with him it was very awkward.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi i often compliment if i see a nice lady be it in the supermarket or walking up the street it maybe a simple mmm as they walk past or a very nice! Something like that sometimes i get a cheeky smile back or a giggle is this appreciated by most of you or should i just keep it to myself im never rude or creepy just like to complement a good looking woman"

are you on the register OP???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi i often compliment if i see a nice lady be it in the supermarket or walking up the street it maybe a simple mmm as they walk past or a very nice! Something like that sometimes i get a cheeky smile back or a giggle is this appreciated by most of you or should i just keep it to myself im never rude or creepy just like to complement a good looking woman

are you on the register OP???"

This

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)


"I complimented the guy that comes in my gym that I've fancied for 20 months, I saw him in the kebab house last week getting a pizza (must have been cheat night!) he had glasses on and I said to him you look nice and smart with your glasses, whilst holding my finger up and drawing a circle around my face! He smiled and said thank you very much!

What I wanted to say was fuck I wanna rip them jogging bottoms off you and stick my tongue up your arse right here right now. Don't think he would've appreciated that!

Why did you draw a circle around your face with your finger?

I can't describe it, you know I was like holding my finger up and drawing imaginary circles around my whole face, like to emphasise the fact I was talking about his glasses. I don't know why I did it, felt like a bit of a knob after but it was spur of the moment thing, kind of just fell out. You look nice and smart in your glasses. I couldn't have said anything more wetter than that! "

This is exactly why I am rubbish at actually chatting people up. I turn into a blathering idiot that can’t speak.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"I complimented the guy that comes in my gym that I've fancied for 20 months, I saw him in the kebab house last week getting a pizza (must have been cheat night!) he had glasses on and I said to him you look nice and smart with your glasses, whilst holding my finger up and drawing a circle around my face! He smiled and said thank you very much!

What I wanted to say was fuck I wanna rip them jogging bottoms off you and stick my tongue up your arse right here right now. Don't think he would've appreciated that!

Why did you draw a circle around your face with your finger?

I can't describe it, you know I was like holding my finger up and drawing imaginary circles around my whole face, like to emphasise the fact I was talking about his glasses. I don't know why I did it, felt like a bit of a knob after but it was spur of the moment thing, kind of just fell out. You look nice and smart in your glasses. I couldn't have said anything more wetter than that!

This is exactly why I am rubbish at actually chatting people up. I turn into a blathering idiot that can’t speak. "

Pretty much the same here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I complimented the guy that comes in my gym that I've fancied for 20 months, I saw him in the kebab house last week getting a pizza (must have been cheat night!) he had glasses on and I said to him you look nice and smart with your glasses, whilst holding my finger up and drawing a circle around my face! He smiled and said thank you very much!

What I wanted to say was fuck I wanna rip them jogging bottoms off you and stick my tongue up your arse right here right now. Don't think he would've appreciated that!

Why did you draw a circle around your face with your finger?

I can't describe it, you know I was like holding my finger up and drawing imaginary circles around my whole face, like to emphasise the fact I was talking about his glasses. I don't know why I did it, felt like a bit of a knob after but it was spur of the moment thing, kind of just fell out. You look nice and smart in your glasses. I couldn't have said anything more wetter than that!

I don’t know what I love more, the fact that you did this or the fact that you shared it with us "

Exactly why I love her.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

Damn auto carrot changed my words, next try....

Sorry OP, but if someone, a complete stranger, walked past me in the street, and "Mmmm'd" or "nice'd" me as you described

He'd get told exactly where to go.

It's just fucking odd

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I complimented the guy that comes in my gym that I've fancied for 20 months, I saw him in the kebab house last week getting a pizza (must have been cheat night!) he had glasses on and I said to him you look nice and smart with your glasses, whilst holding my finger up and drawing a circle around my face! He smiled and said thank you very much!

What I wanted to say was fuck I wanna rip them jogging bottoms off you and stick my tongue up your arse right here right now. Don't think he would've appreciated that!

Why did you draw a circle around your face with your finger?

I can't describe it, you know I was like holding my finger up and drawing imaginary circles around my whole face, like to emphasise the fact I was talking about his glasses. I don't know why I did it, felt like a bit of a knob after but it was spur of the moment thing, kind of just fell out. You look nice and smart in your glasses. I couldn't have said anything more wetter than that!

I don’t know what I love more, the fact that you did this or the fact that you shared it with us

Exactly why I love her. "

Proper gave me belly laughs imagining that whole scene

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"I complimented the guy that comes in my gym that I've fancied for 20 months, I saw him in the kebab house last week getting a pizza (must have been cheat night!) he had glasses on and I said to him you look nice and smart with your glasses, whilst holding my finger up and drawing a circle around my face! He smiled and said thank you very much!

What I wanted to say was fuck I wanna rip them jogging bottoms off you and stick my tongue up your arse right here right now. Don't think he would've appreciated that!

Why did you draw a circle around your face with your finger?

I can't describe it, you know I was like holding my finger up and drawing imaginary circles around my whole face, like to emphasise the fact I was talking about his glasses. I don't know why I did it, felt like a bit of a knob after but it was spur of the moment thing, kind of just fell out. You look nice and smart in your glasses. I couldn't have said anything more wetter than that! "

Oh right I'm with you! . Look I'm sure he really appreciated the compliment inspite of it being wet. It's better than leering at the guy.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If some guy mmmm'd at me when I was going about my daily business I'd be pissed off because 9 times out of 10 I'd have my child with me.

IF I was on a night out and a guy I thought was handsome gave me a compliment or mmm'd at me or whatever, I'd accompany him to the smoking area and have a feel of his penis.

I think you're right, you need to consider the context of such attention. What is unacceptable in a office can be fine on a night out, but it's also how it's interpreted too. Sometimes people are just waiting to be "offended" by something"

Some people can be offensive without realising.

The main theme through this thread is that the OP asked if ladies appreciated that sort of behavior. The general consensus is a no.

The OP can learn from this.

What some people see as "harmless banter" is completely unacceptable to others.

If you don't like Chubby Brown, you don't buy tickets for him.

You do not expect him to randomly walk by you in the street and call you a fat bastard.

Treat people fairly and how you would expect others to treat you or your family, you can't go far wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cheeky smile of a cheeky wink, perhaps but full on “mmmmm” would creep me out I must say, don’t think M would be that keen either!!!

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