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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What do you fear?

Why?

Is it tangible?

I fear getting Alzheimer's disease. I fear reliving parts of my life I have worked hard at getting over. Although the evidence of a familial link through research at present, is small, it's present in both sides of my family.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Death.

Mine and others. I'll miss certain people.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Not being loved.

I've been told to read up on albert ellis' 12 irrational thoughts to help with this and other issues.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The idea of having a disagreement with someone, and them suddenly dying without having a chance to make up. But, on the bright side, I think that's what's influenced my ability to not hold grudges or to stay mad at someone for too long.

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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago

Traffic land

Something awful happening to my kids, or me which takes me away from them while they are still so young.

My feelings about a bereavement (second anniversary today).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't fear death. I do fear dying alone.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not being loved.

I've been told to read up on albert ellis' 12 irrational thoughts to help with this and other issues. "

The only person you need loving you, is you. Anyone else is a bonus.

I don't know about you, but I need to remind myself I'm worthy of my own love.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Death. Don't like not knowing what's gonna happen.

Stepladders. Only the wobbly ones. Bad experience of a 15 footer when I was younger.

Donkeys. One tried to buck me off when I was in Blackpool when I was 7.

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By *aelawMan
over a year ago

Paisley

Going to be simple and say spiders *looks around room just in case*

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Not being loved.

I've been told to read up on albert ellis' 12 irrational thoughts to help with this and other issues.

The only person you need loving you, is you. Anyone else is a bonus.

I don't know about you, but I need to remind myself I'm worthy of my own love."

From what I've read that's one of the irrational beliefs... Thinking you need others to love you. It's very interesting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sharks..monkeys...and dying alone..

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham


"I don't fear death. I do fear dying alone.

"

Me too. I have no children and am single. If life works out the way we all expect it too then I will be the last one left in my family as they will have all passed away before me.

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By *easingtessWoman
over a year ago

waterford

Tight spaces

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing... yet...

I honestly haven't had any phobias, or even understand why there are such things. Perhaps something will pop up, maybe that Kim Jong Un hairstyle taking off... Very scary....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tight spaces "

I love tight spaces

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By *easingtessWoman
over a year ago

waterford


"Tight spaces

I love tight spaces "

Not that kind believe me

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By *horltzMan
over a year ago

heysham

I fear not managing to continue my ever improving life and experiences

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By *lla_maiWoman
over a year ago

staffordshire

The dark. Ever since i was aboit 12 and a neighbour though it would be funny to grab my ankle through the catflap when i was out getting coal one evening

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Impotence

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By *ty31Man
over a year ago

NW London

Failure. I have high standards of myself

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Death seems a common theme. I wonder if death is more frightening for people without a belief system.

I don't fear death as I'm spiritual and believe this is a short phase of my essence's (spirit/soul/energy) evolution.

I don't fear the death of anyone close to me - I just don't want to outlive my children.

I don't fear the pain of death if I am to suffer a terminal disease due to excellent palliative care we have in this country.

If I was to dwell on different ways to die, then I'd probably come up with a few I'd be scared of - so I don't dwell

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Failure. I have high standards of myself"

I'm guessing that fear drives you forward to succeed?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your mum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your mum."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your mum."
actually my mum too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sexual feet play

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nothing "

Surely you suffer from certain fears for the sake of your health? The fear of getting burned so you're careful around flames; the fear of getting knocked down, so you use the green cross code etc.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Your mum."

Be very afraid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mainly stuff.

And occasionally things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your mum.actually my mum too "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Occasionally the dark in certain places/situations because I tend to suddenly get memories of long forgotten horror movie scenes in similar circumstances.,. yes, I'm a little odd!

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By *arnsley guy100Man
over a year ago

Sheffield


"I don't fear death. I do fear dying alone.

"

I think I want to die alone... That way I don't have to say goodbye and people around me don't have to see it, and remember me in happier times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

New places/situations/people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That my inadequacy will cause someone's death

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not being really *known* by someone else.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"New places/situations/people. "

Causing you anxiety?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"That my inadequacy will cause someone's death

"

Is this in relation to your job?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not being really *known* by someone else. "

Anybody in particular such as when in a close relationship?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"New places/situations/people.

Causing you anxiety?"

A bit. But Im tough. I front it out

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Occasionally the dark in certain places/situations because I tend to suddenly get memories of long forgotten horror movie scenes in similar circumstances.,. yes, I'm a little odd! "

It would be irrational to fear emergence of the likes of Jason vorhee, but not irrational to walk the safest route home cos you're wary of what/who is in the dark.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Becoming closed minded, the lack of awareness to feel the world closing in.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"New places/situations/people.

Causing you anxiety?

A bit. But Im tough. I front it out "

Your body is probably forming a fight - flight hormonal response preparing itself for unknown challenges

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As I get older I have more fear

I'm single and I spend a lot of time alone.

I fear always being alone.

I fear I'm missing out on life.

I fear spending the rest of my life doing what I'm doing now.

I fear boredom and detachment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fear nothing.. It is the fodder of oppression and exploitation.

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By *ty31Man
over a year ago

NW London


"Failure. I have high standards of myself

I'm guessing that fear drives you forward to succeed?

"

Maybe. That and pride.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"As I get older I have more fear

I'm single and I spend a lot of time alone.

I fear always being alone.

I fear I'm missing out on life.

I fear spending the rest of my life doing what I'm doing now.

I fear boredom and detachment."

Is the fear causing you to be proactive in trying to change your situation?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Failure. I have high standards of myself

I'm guessing that fear drives you forward to succeed?

Maybe. That and pride."

As long as any occurrences of failure are seen as steps closer to success, I'm sure it's all good . Look at Einstein, it took him years to prove his theory of relativity.

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By *arksMan
over a year ago

in the centre

Heights , thrill rides , I'm not overly keen on dogs , I have a nasty habit of looking for the negative in a lot of situations

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Fear nothing.. It is the fodder of oppression and exploitation. "

That sounds like it should be in a political manifesto

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"Failure. I have high standards of myself

I'm guessing that fear drives you forward to succeed?

Maybe. That and pride.

As long as any occurrences of failure are seen as steps closer to success, I'm sure it's all good . Look at Einstein, it took him years to prove his theory of relativity.

"

Yer, but they pickled his brain.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I fear nothing. To fear or worry is to suffer twice.

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By *ilver_StarMan
over a year ago

Warwickshire

Cheerie topic! Don’t be afraid...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I fear nothing. To fear or worry is to suffer twice. "

You're right about worrying but fear can be a very useful tool.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fear nothing.. It is the fodder of oppression and exploitation.

That sounds like it should be in a political manifesto "

Viva la revoluçion..

Do I have yer vote compadré?

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Think Carlos Casternada, forgive the spelling, said in his four enemy’s of a man of knowledge sums it up for me....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chickens!

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By *irestorm 500Couple
over a year ago

coventry

Having to admit defeat and realise I can't sustain a house and bills on my own and me and my kids moving back in with my ex x storm x

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By *ranimallxl5Man
over a year ago

Winchester

Commitment

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Fear nothing.. It is the fodder of oppression and exploitation.

That sounds like it should be in a political manifesto

Viva la revoluçion..

Do I have yer vote compadré? "

Only if it guarantees this govt is ousted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All sorts of practical things I can't necessarily control but if happened would be a real issue.

Loads of frivolous stuff too.

Fortunately I'm not a big worrier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That my inadequacy will cause someone's death

Is this in relation to your job?"

Yes xxx always dread that job where you simply don't have a clue or are helpless to prevent the inevitable

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By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea


"

Q1)What do you fear?

Q2)Why?

Q3)Is it tangible? ."

A1)Being single for ever and never haveing a partnar or my own famley.

A2)Cos I'm now 30 and still never ever had a girlfriend or even been with sumone.

A3)Don't no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I fear that my fab side will be exposed in my vanilla world

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Something awful happening to my kids, or me which takes me away from them while they are still so young.

My feelings about a bereavement (second anniversary today)."
I do hope your ok x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fear nothing.. It is the fodder of oppression and exploitation.

That sounds like it should be in a political manifesto

Viva la revoluçion..

Do I have yer vote compadré?

Only if it guarantees this govt is ousted "

The government are puppets of the media.. the root of all evil. .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To fear nothing is a great ideal but, if you genuinely believe you're not frightened of anything...you haven't looked hard enough or pushed hard enough! Or you're lying and putting on a front?

My eldest son suffered terribly from depression when he was younger. Leaving him home alone used to frighten me in case I came home to find him swinging (not in the fab way)!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Got to be something happening to my son, hes my world. Keeps me going. Words just dont express how much i love him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Therea a lot of things I should be afraid of after some of the experiences I've had. Fear of being trapped under water or in a house fire being two. Car accidents, etc. But I'm not afraid of those things.

I think I'm more fearful of not being able to help somebody else in their moment of crisis than myself.

And not so much a fear, but I dread the day I'm the oldest of the family others turn to. Mainly because I see how much my father does for the family and friends without question. Dread not being up to it.

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By *i1971Man
over a year ago

Cornwall

For me?, fear is probably too strong, but I don't like crowds of people / parties / socialising & can fret if I know I have to do this.

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By *arnsleycouple7683Couple
over a year ago

Barnsley


"Death.

Mine and others. I'll miss certain people."

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Heights and airplanes pretty much...

Healthy respect for a lot of other stuff but not what I'd call fear. those two I don't like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Q1)What do you fear?

Q2)Why?

Q3)Is it tangible? .

A1)Being single for ever and never haveing a partnar or my own famley.

A2)Cos I'm now 30 and still never ever had a girlfriend or even been with sumone.

A3)Don't no "

Never give up seaside! You never know what's round the corner. I met my wife while she was working in a shop. The manager thought I was a shoplifter and told her to keep an eye on me. I became aware she was stalking me around the shop so took her for a little walk about before asking her why she obviously thought I was up to no good. I then ask her if she'd like to meet for a drink when she had lunch. She said no. Two days later, while walking past she grabbed me and asked if I was still up for a drink. We've been married for 21 years! Meeting my wife or any one for anything that day was the last thing on my mind. It just goes to show that things can happen when you least expect them. You have a good positive outlook, good morals and you come across as a nice guy. I'm am sure one day some one will be proud to say you're their man!

My wife had a stroke a few years ago. It frightens me that she might have another one! Make the most of life and the one thing you should never be afraid of is taking opportunities that present themselves to you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me?, fear is probably too strong, but I don't like crowds of people / parties / socialising & can fret if I know I have to do this.

"

I can relate to that, it takes a great deal of inner strength to overcome the anxiety and get out there. I nearly always end up enjoying myself though. What's it all about?

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By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea


"

Q1)What do you fear?

Q2)Why?

Q3)Is it tangible? .

A1)Being single for ever and never haveing a partnar or my own famley.

A2)Cos I'm now 30 and still never ever had a girlfriend or even been with sumone.

A3)Don't no

Never give up seaside! You never know what's round the corner. I met my wife while she was working in a shop. The manager thought I was a shoplifter and told her to keep an eye on me. I became aware she was stalking me around the shop so took her for a little walk about before asking her why she obviously thought I was up to no good. I then ask her if she'd like to meet for a drink when she had lunch. She said no. Two days later, while walking past she grabbed me and asked if I was still up for a drink. We've been married for 21 years! Meeting my wife or any one for anything that day was the last thing on my mind. It just goes to show that things can happen when you least expect them. You have a good positive outlook, good morals and you come across as a nice guy. I'm am sure one day some one will be proud to say you're their man!

My wife had a stroke a few years ago. It frightens me that she might have another one! Make the most of life and the one thing you should never be afraid of is taking opportunities that present themselves to you!"

thanks

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"That my inadequacy will cause someone's death

Is this in relation to your job?

Yes xxx always dread that job where you simply don't have a clue or are helpless to prevent the inevitable "

Your job sounds extremely stressful.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I fear that my fab side will be exposed in my vanilla world "

It's a risk we all take. We can only hope to minimise that risk.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"To fear nothing is a great ideal but, if you genuinely believe you're not frightened of anything...you haven't looked hard enough or pushed hard enough! Or you're lying and putting on a front?

My eldest son suffered terribly from depression when he was younger. Leaving him home alone used to frighten me in case I came home to find him swinging (not in the fab way)!"

I'm sure he appreciates that you have been his rock.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Death.

Mine and others. I'll miss certain people."

This is my only real fear that I can't overcome.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I fear dementia watching and caring for my mother everyday suffer with it is awful

I fear Alzheimer's as most of my fathers siblings suffered it

I fear fire for a reason I do not know

But my worst fear is I never want to out live my child

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By *zamiWoman
over a year ago

LONDON


"Your mum."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Losing my independence and becoming a burden on my loved ones. I will not let that happen.

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By *zamiWoman
over a year ago

LONDON

Both of my sisters

Dogs - its my phobia

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Failure. I fear not achieving everything I can in life, which is my driving force.

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By *zamiWoman
over a year ago

LONDON

Both of my sisters

Dogs - its my phobia

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By *heIcebreakersCouple
over a year ago

Cramlington


"Death seems a common theme. I wonder if death is more frightening for people without a belief system.

I don't fear death as I'm spiritual and believe this is a short phase of my essence's (spirit/soul/energy) evolution.

I don't fear the death of anyone close to me - I just don't want to outlive my children.

I don't fear the pain of death if I am to suffer a terminal disease due to excellent palliative care we have in this country.

If I was to dwell on different ways to die, then I'd probably come up with a few I'd be scared of - so I don't dwell "
I can only speak for me. I'm an atheist who doesn't believe in spirituality. I don't fear death. If I practice love, and live with love for others, I will be remembered, and my life won't have been wasted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I fear my house falling down x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Burning to death or drowning

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Losing my independence and becoming a burden on my loved ones. I will not let that happen."

Nice sentiment but unrealistic in certain scenarios - an RTA or stroke for example.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I fear, no life after death

I so long to see my wife again, I was never really into religion until I lost her, if there is a god, we will hopefully meet up again when my time is due

I miss her so much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Losing my independence and becoming a burden on my loved ones. I will not let that happen.

Nice sentiment but unrealistic in certain scenarios - an RTA or stroke for example."

Granted, but if it is within my power. I have watched too many people waste away. It's a horrible way to have to remember people.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

Being diabetic my biggest fear is that my feet are going to fall off ( an old scrubs joke) seriously tho I am very scared that if I don't stay on top of it I will lose a foot or two.

I am fully in control of my diabetes however as time goes on I now realise what a total nightmare it is having it.

Being diabetic effects just about everything else and causes so many complications.

So I guess my fear is not being able to control it.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

Dunno if it's classed as a fear as such but I'm scared about the day I have to say goodbye to the live if my life , my Norwich terrier . He is so unconditionally loving , more than any human and he depends on me for his existence . Not sure what that says about me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I fear I may be right

Fuzz

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

Kettering

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have nothing to fear except fear itself !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I fear I may be right

Fuzz"

Now there's a scarry thought... let's hope not aye!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That my inadequacy will cause someone's death

Is this in relation to your job?

Yes xxx always dread that job where you simply don't have a clue or are helpless to prevent the inevitable

Your job sounds extremely stressful."

999 Ambulance crew

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

I don't have any major fears. Nothing that stops me in my tracks and leaves me curled up in a ball in the corner.

I have a healthy rational fear of things that might hurt if I do them, jumping from height, deep water (I can't swim), that kind of stuff.

I do however, tend to face fear and do it anyway. For example the OCR that I run has a 35ft slide into deep water. I go down the slide because when I rationally think about it, no one has died yet on it and there are plenty of people around to help me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rail replacement bus service !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I fear my cancer returning and not surviving this time. X

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By *unguya2zMan
over a year ago

coventry..ish

I never say this to anyone,but as we're all strangers to eachother in a way.

Here goes,I fear any type of domestic abuse,I grew up in that environment,even hearing about it in the news,takes me back to a very dark place.thats all I'm saying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As I get older I have more fear

I'm single and I spend a lot of time alone.

I fear always being alone.

I fear I'm missing out on life.

I fear spending the rest of my life doing what I'm doing now.

I fear boredom and detachment.

Is the fear causing you to be proactive in trying to change your situation?

"

The fear is crippling me.

I feel powerless to do anything about any of it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"That my inadequacy will cause someone's death

Is this in relation to your job?

Yes xxx always dread that job where you simply don't have a clue or are helpless to prevent the inevitable

Your job sounds extremely stressful.

999 Ambulance crew "

Paramedic?

How do you feel when you don't succeed?

If the feelings of fear or hopelessness affect you, do see Occupational Health. Do you have clinical supervision wherein you can discuss your stressful call outs? If not then talk to a supervisor about arranging them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I fear my cancer returning and not surviving this time. X"

Understandable. Do you have support, one to one or via a group?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I never say this to anyone,but as we're all strangers to eachother in a way.

Here goes,I fear any type of domestic abuse,I grew up in that environment,even hearing about it in the news,takes me back to a very dark place.thats all I'm saying."

I can empathise it makes you feel vulnerable.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"As I get older I have more fear

I'm single and I spend a lot of time alone.

I fear always being alone.

I fear I'm missing out on life.

I fear spending the rest of my life doing what I'm doing now.

I fear boredom and detachment.

Is the fear causing you to be proactive in trying to change your situation?

The fear is crippling me.

I feel powerless to do anything about any of it "

Has it caused you to become depressed?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I fear my cancer returning and not surviving this time. X"

I have a 'life limiting' illnesss and in the depths of the night, it scares the shit out of me. I know it will kill me, just when.

Badly cooked roast potatoes. Just as scary.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a fear of electrical fires.

So much so it gave me ocd and I turn everything off but my fridge freezer and check over and over again untill I feel safe.

Wierd I know

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By *unguya2zMan
over a year ago

coventry..ish


"I never say this to anyone,but as we're all strangers to eachother in a way.

Here goes,I fear any type of domestic abuse,I grew up in that environment,even hearing about it in the news,takes me back to a very dark place.thats all I'm saying.

I can empathise it makes you feel vulnerable."

Thankyou.x

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By *unguya2zMan
over a year ago

coventry..ish

I talk anymore guys and gals,but help is out there

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I fear my cancer returning and not surviving this time. X

I have a 'life limiting' illnesss and in the depths of the night, it scares the shit out of me. I know it will kill me, just."

Does this make you live life to the full?

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over a year ago


"I fear my cancer returning and not surviving this time. X

I have a 'life limiting' illnesss and in the depths of the night, it scares the shit out of me. I know it will kill me, just.

Does this make you live life to the full?"

Good question. I'm not sure. We started swinging because of the illness (its autoimmune, so no danger to anyone else), and I do tend to savour things more now.

Most of us tend to live life in the future. Looking forward to Christmas, payday or even just the weekend. I tend to see the beauty in now. I might not be well enough to see the beauty tomorrow.

It's funny but you think of your bucket list. There's nothing on mine. I'll take what I'm given. A late rose came into bloom this morning. I'll take that for today.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Failure

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I fear my cancer returning and not surviving this time. X

I have a 'life limiting' illnesss and in the depths of the night, it scares the shit out of me. I know it will kill me, just.

Does this make you live life to the full?

Good question. I'm not sure. We started swinging because of the illness (its autoimmune, so no danger to anyone else), and I do tend to savour things more now.

Most of us tend to live life in the future. Looking forward to Christmas, payday or even just the weekend. I tend to see the beauty in now. I might not be well enough to see the beauty tomorrow.

It's funny but you think of your bucket list. There's nothing on mine. I'll take what I'm given. A late rose came into bloom this morning. I'll take that for today."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Snakes

Total phobia cannot even see a picture of one without being hysterical and getting sick in my mouth

Unexplainable never seen one in real life and never want to

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I also fear having another breakdown. That was some scary shit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Spiders

Heights

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

Wasps -evil fuckers

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By *vbride1963TV/TS
over a year ago

E.K . Glasgow


"Wasps -evil fuckers "

His partner going sale shoe shopping .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't fear death. I do fear dying alone.

I think I want to die alone... That way I don't have to say goodbye and people around me don't have to see it, and remember me in happier times"

I get that. And totally agree, i've watched too many loved ones pass away and I don't want my kids there. Or any family. I just don't want to be alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That my inadequacy will cause someone's death

Is this in relation to your job?

Yes xxx always dread that job where you simply don't have a clue or are helpless to prevent the inevitable

Your job sounds extremely stressful.

999 Ambulance crew

Paramedic?

How do you feel when you don't succeed?

If the feelings of fear or hopelessness affect you, do see Occupational Health. Do you have clinical supervision wherein you can discuss your stressful call outs? If not then talk to a supervisor about arranging them.

"

Yes we always talk after every job even the routine ones and do clinical reflections on the bad or challenging ones

Support is excellent, feelings of hopelessness don't affect me as so far has never happened

Would just hate to get to a job and be like wow, what the f... do I do here and let my patient down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Occasionally the dark in certain places/situations because I tend to suddenly get memories of long forgotten horror movie scenes in similar circumstances.,. yes, I'm a little odd!

It would be irrational to fear emergence of the likes of Jason vorhee, but not irrational to walk the safest route home cos you're wary of what/who is in the dark."

Thank you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I also fear having another breakdown. That was some scary shit."

Can you put safeguards up? You need to be aware of triggers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clowns.. clowns and more clowns... OMG multiple clowns.. cowers in the corner weeping

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I fear not been loved

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That my inadequacy will cause someone's death

Is this in relation to your job?

Yes xxx always dread that job where you simply don't have a clue or are helpless to prevent the inevitable

Your job sounds extremely stressful.

999 Ambulance crew

Paramedic?

How do you feel when you don't succeed?

If the feelings of fear or hopelessness affect you, do see Occupational Health. Do you have clinical supervision wherein you can discuss your stressful call outs? If not then talk to a supervisor about arranging them.

Yes we always talk after every job even the routine ones and do clinical reflections on the bad or challenging ones

Support is excellent, feelings of hopelessness don't affect me as so far has never happened

Would just hate to get to a job and be like wow, what the f... do I do here and let my patient down "

I admire this man so fucking much

Sorry for butting in but I just had to be said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't fear death. I do fear dying alone.

"
that’s deep.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rejection.

Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Rejection.

Mrs x"

But.. How could anybody reject you, your stunning

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Clowns

As a child I got stuck in a chair and had a clown get me out.. All scary faced.

May have helped me but scared me silly.

Not funny at all to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I fear being alone, failure and also bridges

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I fear being alone, failure and also bridges "

I must admit I hate bridges over water. I mastered the QE toll bridge, Dartford, providing i don't have to stop on it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

For those fearing clowns - don't watch Cult, the latest American Horror Story

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Rejection.

Mrs x

But.. How could anybody reject you, your stunning"

Thank you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My first experience of a lift. I was very young. Standing with my mum facing the door. I was feeling nervous anyway. As the doors started to close, a man rushed forward and put his arm through the doors and they closed around it

I new nothing of the safety system and it seemed like an age before the doors opened and the man stepped in.

I shit my pants as this arm hung there, the fingers wiggling.

It was a long time, into my teens before I'd get in a lift. Even now, as the doors close, that's the image I see.

I'm no longer frightened but lifts still make me feel mildly uncomfortable if I let them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I fear being alone, failure and also bridges

I must admit I hate bridges over water. I mastered the QE toll bridge, Dartford, providing i don't have to stop on it "

i managed to go across humber bridge but never again would i lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fakes...don't ask why as it's illogical on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Inmensity of something so big that I can’t help/control/aid/solve! Like a huge disaster happening where I am that I really can’t help with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Death is number 1 on my list.

I am not afraid of dying (unless I burn to death) but the thought of leaving my children without their father being there to support them and watch them grow through life is terrifying

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Inmensity of something so big that I can’t help/control/aid/solve! Like a huge disaster happening where I am that I really can’t help with "

Your body will go into survival mode, fight/flight. No-one can predict how we'd act in such a crisis.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rejection

Deep water

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By *heekytradesman46Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Snakes...gives me the fear just saying the word!

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