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By *orbycpl4FFM OP   Couple
over a year ago

Corby

Hiya, we are new to all this malarkey but are clearly doing it wrong. We would very much like to partake in our first 3 sum but all we are attracting is clearly fake pic hunters and masturbators. Any words to the wise much appreciated x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck. There’s a lot of couples looking for females.

Have u thought about a club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your looking for a female to enhance your sex life that is the problem what does the female get out of it sorry x

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By *orbycpl4FFM OP   Couple
over a year ago

Corby

This is what we have decided to do we think. Nervous and excited in equal measure x

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By *orbycpl4FFM OP   Couple
over a year ago

Corby

To experience new things. We both want this.

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By *orbycpl4FFM OP   Couple
over a year ago

Corby

We have BOTH decided we want to try this and then who knows? Onwards and upwards

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

OP single ladies who are looking to meet couples are very much in demand on fab. As such they can afford to be very choosy. They usually look at your profile before reading any message you send. If they don't see anything that piques their interest they will delete the message.

Is your profile the very best you can make it and aimed at attracting single ladies?

I can't offer you any specific profile advice because you haven't asked for it (against forum rules). I would recommend doing a forum search for profile advice and picking out the good bits.

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By *easingtessWoman
over a year ago

waterford

Its not going to be the easiest thing to find. It takes a lot for a female to meet two people who already know each other and are comfortable with each other. There's the safety concern as well for a female

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"Its not going to be the easiest thing to find. It takes a lot for a female to meet two people who already know each other and are comfortable with each other. There's the safety concern as well for a female "

Yep. That's been the biggest factor for me and Lexi too. Single females say all the right things but it all comes down to safety. We like to talk quite a bit befire hand and then try set up a club meet so that it's public and if we don't get along in person then both sides can still have a good night

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By *orbycpl4FFM OP   Couple
over a year ago

Corby

This is all very good advice guys. Thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your looking for a female to enhance your sex life that is the problem what does the female get out of it sorry x"

Thats a bit rude considering the op was genuinely just asking for advice being a newbie. Im sure like most people who enjoy threesomes the genuine idea is for all.parties to enjoy themselves. In.my opinion the single lady is not just there to enhance the couples sex life and can get a great deal of enjoyment from the scenario herself otherwise why would anyone bother x

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By *easingtessWoman
over a year ago

waterford


"Its not going to be the easiest thing to find. It takes a lot for a female to meet two people who already know each other and are comfortable with each other. There's the safety concern as well for a female

Yep. That's been the biggest factor for me and Lexi too. Single females say all the right things but it all comes down to safety. We like to talk quite a bit befire hand and then try set up a club meet so that it's public and if we don't get along in person then both sides can still have a good night "

Some people don't understand this.

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By *_Yeah19Couple
over a year ago

Lincoln

I joined Fab originally as a single girl and for me it just came down purely to personal preference. I had plenty of messages and offers and the meets I had were with people I had an attraction to and who lived reasonably locally to actually be able to arrange something.

Profiles didn’t massively come in to it, as long as they sounded like they could hold a conversation and had photos that I could tell if I fancied them or not.

Purely my own thoughts, other girls may of course think differently.

TB

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"Its not going to be the easiest thing to find. It takes a lot for a female to meet two people who already know each other and are comfortable with each other. There's the safety concern as well for a female

Yep. That's been the biggest factor for me and Lexi too. Single females say all the right things but it all comes down to safety. We like to talk quite a bit befire hand and then try set up a club meet so that it's public and if we don't get along in person then both sides can still have a good night

Some people don't understand this."

No..i think they do 100%,but i think frustration,timewasters etc can make people a bit blunt and lack patience at times unfortunately. Then to do all that talking only for the single female to disappear and not reply to any mail after that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you both going to have sex with her? I only meet couples with pics of both people. I don't like the type that use the woman as some kind of bait.

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

Most have more if the women bcz let's be frank. The woman are the bait lol. We wouldn't do that bad it's so annoying when you check out a couple only to have to Ask,do you have pictures of the male ..but then in their bio it states address us both and not just the female haha.

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"Are you both going to have sex with her? I only meet couples with pics of both people. I don't like the type that use the woman as some kind of bait. "

Was that directed at moi?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have BOTH decided we want to try this and then who knows? Onwards and upwards "

No that is not what the previous poster meant. WHAT is the FEMALE you want to JOIN you getting out of the meet. FK all by the looks of it, just a sex toy to enhance your sex life. It doesn't work like that, single females are real people not a fantasy porn star or free prostitute.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your looking for a female to enhance your sex life that is the problem what does the female get out of it sorry x

Thats a bit rude considering the op was genuinely just asking for advice being a newbie. Im sure like most people who enjoy threesomes the genuine idea is for all.parties to enjoy themselves. In.my opinion the single lady is not just there to enhance the couples sex life and can get a great deal of enjoyment from the scenario herself otherwise why would anyone bother x "

No it isn't rude at all, so what if they are newbies. It's still the same old same old, a couple looking for a female to satisfy their sexual fantasies. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are you both going to have sex with her? I only meet couples with pics of both people. I don't like the type that use the woman as some kind of bait.

Was that directed at moi? "

No, you're not a couple.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I'm not sure I'd want to meet you to 'enhance' you sex life. Performing seal and couples plaything spring to mind. Sorry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbh this is how I started on here a UNICORN looking to meet FM couples and for me at the time I had not had one so wanted a couple who had experienced a few I'd look for if I liked the profile first locality to me and chat for a bit mostly with the women but on most actions it was with booth at same time on phone but first I'd deff have to see them to tether on smile too, but at the mo I'm soon to hang up my unicorn horn and delve into a couple profile so I my be on here my self to ask for advice too, good luck I love joining in with a couple although I've not meet a married couple as I wasn't into that it's a lot of fun I got to be there play thing nice merorys XXX can't wait to be on the other side now

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"We have BOTH decided we want to try this and then who knows? Onwards and upwards

No that is not what the previous poster meant. WHAT is the FEMALE you want to JOIN you getting out of the meet. FK all by the looks of it, just a sex toy to enhance your sex life. It doesn't work like that, single females are real people not a fantasy porn star or free prostitute. "

Huh. What do you mean what is she getting out of it. Surely the same as they are. Sex no?. We all played together after her and Lexi had had thie r likkle moment. What is a single F supposed to get out of it apart from Sex?. Me and Lexi met a single female a week ago,and i'm struggling to see what she got out of it in comparison to what we did . I think you're getting way too deep into the dynamics to be fair

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"I'm not sure I'd want to meet you to 'enhance' you sex life. Performing seal and couples plaything spring to mind. Sorry."

Sorry if i'm wrong abd feel free to corewct me,but don't we all enhance our sex lives by being here. If a single F meets a couple is her sex life not enhanced if only for that night and vice versa?

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"Are you both going to have sex with her? I only meet couples with pics of both people. I don't like the type that use the woman as some kind of bait.

Was that directed at moi?

No, you're not a couple. "

I am. Hence why i'm quite shocked by some recent posts. Seems like some have been taken for a fool and now feel like they have to right the 3some world

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"I'm not sure I'd want to meet you to 'enhance' you sex life. Performing seal and couples plaything spring to mind. Sorry.

Sorry if i'm wrong abd feel free to corewct me,but don't we all enhance our sex lives by being here. If a single F meets a couple is her sex life not enhanced if only for that night and vice versa? "

Depends on the couple some use you as a glorified Sex toy and cast you aside once they're turned on enough to give each other and you're left to feel like a spare part

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By *apillonNoirWoman
over a year ago

There...

To be fair, the OP’s profile says very little to entice a single fem. Too often I’ve exchanged numerous messages with a couple to find that actually, he’s not going to touch me... ummmm I think what we single fems up for meeting couples like to see are profiles that describe what’s in it for all of us - some won’t mind not being touched by him, others just want him to sit and watch, many crave a messy tangle of bodies - we’re all different and we’re not mind readers. Good luck in your search OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Change your account settings so only verified users can contact you. Check out there veries before chatting. Get a kik account and video chat on there prior to meeting. Thats all i can suggest really. Good luck!

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By *orbycpl4FFM OP   Couple
over a year ago

Corby

Woah there (that’s English for stop a horse) we are not looking for a performing seal or a fuck toy (performing seal fuck toy idea noted)

We would like to meet some good people and at very least have a laugh and what not. We are not evil or the enemy. We posted about trying to find some sex on a sex site. What next? People will be d*unk in pubs I tell ya.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"Woah there (that’s English for stop a horse) we are not looking for a performing seal or a fuck toy (performing seal fuck toy idea noted)

We would like to meet some good people and at very least have a laugh and what not. We are not evil or the enemy. We posted about trying to find some sex on a sex site. What next? People will be d*unk in pubs I tell ya."

For most single dens the fact you refer to this as a sex sure will be an instant turn off it's a swingers site there is actually a difference between sex and swinging

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"I'm not sure I'd want to meet you to 'enhance' you sex life. Performing seal and couples plaything spring to mind. Sorry.

Sorry if i'm wrong abd feel free to corewct me,but don't we all enhance our sex lives by being here. If a single F meets a couple is her sex life not enhanced if only for that night and vice versa?

Depends on the couple some use you as a glorified Sex toy and cast you aside once they're turned on enough to give each other and you're left to feel like a spare part

"

Well sorry to be blunt. Then you should get to know them before hand as most can't hide who they really are for long. Obviously there will always be those types of people around. Don't be in A rush to meet then all should be fine

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"Change your account settings so only verified users can contact you. Check out there veries before chatting. Get a kik account and video chat on there prior to meeting. Thats all i can suggest really. Good luck!"

That is what we do as in the kik side of it. Caught out a lot of fakes and selfish people that way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Woah there (that’s English for stop a horse) we are not looking for a performing seal or a fuck toy (performing seal fuck toy idea noted)

We would like to meet some good people and at very least have a laugh and what not. We are not evil or the enemy. We posted about trying to find some sex on a sex site. What next? People will be d*unk in pubs I tell ya."

It's just advice to try and help you see why a lot of women are put off meeting couples. Maybe try a club or a social event. It can be easier in person.

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"To be fair, the OP’s profile says very little to entice a single fem. Too often I’ve exchanged numerous messages with a couple to find that actually, he’s not going to touch me... ummmm I think what we single fems up for meeting couples like to see are profiles that describe what’s in it for all of us - some won’t mind not being touched by him, others just want him to sit and watch, many crave a messy tangle of bodies - we’re all different and we’re not mind readers. Good luck in your search OP. "

Well bloody said. 1st common sense post and bang on the money. Thread closed now lol

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"Woah there (that’s English for stop a horse) we are not looking for a performing seal or a fuck toy (performing seal fuck toy idea noted)

We would like to meet some good people and at very least have a laugh and what not. We are not evil or the enemy. We posted about trying to find some sex on a sex site. What next? People will be d*unk in pubs I tell ya.

It's just advice to try and help you see why a lot of women are put off meeting couples. Maybe try a club or a social event. It can be easier in person. "

And vice versa may i add.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"I'm not sure I'd want to meet you to 'enhance' you sex life. Performing seal and couples plaything spring to mind. Sorry.

Sorry if i'm wrong abd feel free to corewct me,but don't we all enhance our sex lives by being here. If a single F meets a couple is her sex life not enhanced if only for that night and vice versa?

Depends on the couple some use you as a glorified Sex toy and cast you aside once they're turned on enough to give each other and you're left to feel like a spare part

Well sorry to be blunt. Then you should get to know them before hand as most can't hide who they really are for long. Obviously there will always be those types of people around. Don't be in A rush to meet then all should be fine "

I do comsuderingbi inly get to meet once every few months but thanks for asumming otherwise

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"To be fair, the OP’s profile says very little to entice a single fem. Too often I’ve exchanged numerous messages with a couple to find that actually, he’s not going to touch me... ummmm I think what we single fems up for meeting couples like to see are profiles that describe what’s in it for all of us - some won’t mind not being touched by him, others just want him to sit and watch, many crave a messy tangle of bodies - we’re all different and we’re not mind readers. Good luck in your search OP.

Well bloody said. 1st common sense post and bang on the money. Thread closed now lol"

Not really there's plenty of couples in clubs that give it all the chat to get you into a play room then bloody cast you aside mid play

Only advantage of i club is then I can think fuck you and find someone else decent to play with

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"I'm not sure I'd want to meet you to 'enhance' you sex life. Performing seal and couples plaything spring to mind. Sorry.

Sorry if i'm wrong abd feel free to corewct me,but don't we all enhance our sex lives by being here. If a single F meets a couple is her sex life not enhanced if only for that night and vice versa?

Depends on the couple some use you as a glorified Sex toy and cast you aside once they're turned on enough to give each other and you're left to feel like a spare part

Well sorry to be blunt. Then you should get to know them before hand as most can't hide who they really are for long. Obviously there will always be those types of people around. Don't be in A rush to meet then all should be fine

I do comsuderingbi inly get to meet once every few months but thanks for asumming otherwise

"

Erm...give me a minute to decide the 3rd word. I love a challenge .

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"To be fair, the OP’s profile says very little to entice a single fem. Too often I’ve exchanged numerous messages with a couple to find that actually, he’s not going to touch me... ummmm I think what we single fems up for meeting couples like to see are profiles that describe what’s in it for all of us - some won’t mind not being touched by him, others just want him to sit and watch, many crave a messy tangle of bodies - we’re all different and we’re not mind readers. Good luck in your search OP.

Well bloody said. 1st common sense post and bang on the money. Thread closed now lol

Not really there's plenty of couples in clubs that give it all the chat to get you into a play room then bloody cast you aside mid play

Only advantage of i club is then I can think fuck you and find someone else decent to play with

"

It's clear that you just want someone to disagree with ha. But same time that's why most single females meet at clubs so if this does happen you can say fuck you I'm off,but again surely that's something that could've been picked up on via chat/social. I'm a good judge so far hence my stance. Not having a go as we all get it wrong from time to time . Chilax for God sake woman

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

The op what're to know where they've gone wrong the answer is their profile it reads in a negative way to which I and many other fens have picked up, those of us with experience know that generally that attitudes carries through to the play and we steer clear

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"To be fair, the OP’s profile says very little to entice a single fem. Too often I’ve exchanged numerous messages with a couple to find that actually, he’s not going to touch me... ummmm I think what we single fems up for meeting couples like to see are profiles that describe what’s in it for all of us - some won’t mind not being touched by him, others just want him to sit and watch, many crave a messy tangle of bodies - we’re all different and we’re not mind readers. Good luck in your search OP.

Well bloody said. 1st common sense post and bang on the money. Thread closed now lol

Not really there's plenty of couples in clubs that give it all the chat to get you into a play room then bloody cast you aside mid play

Only advantage of i club is then I can think fuck you and find someone else decent to play with

It's clear that you just want someone to disagree with ha. But same time that's why most single females meet at clubs so if this does happen you can say fuck you I'm off,but again surely that's something that could've been picked up on via chat/social. I'm a good judge so far hence my stance. Not having a go as we all get it wrong from time to time . Chilax for God sake woman "

Quite chilled cheers

You're the one challenging every bloody fem that says similar on the thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just to add I love to meet couples at clubs far more relaxed and easier to play with. And another tip it is very hard to click with both parties and both male and female of the couple I need a spark with both of them to be able to play x

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"Just to add I love to meet couples at clubs far more relaxed and easier to play with. And another tip it is very hard to click with both parties and both male and female of the couple I need a spark with both of them to be able to play x"

Exactly this. If both aren't in 100% agreement then a single will pick up on it and probably swerve them. Being a club makes you feel at least it isn't a compete waste if your time

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I think the same as others have said that a club would probably be the best place.

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By *dam_TinaCouple
over a year ago

Hampshire

They're lovely

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By *obnDaniCouple
over a year ago

Crawley

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"Hiya, we are new to all this malarkey but are clearly doing it wrong. We would very much like to partake in our first 3 sum but all we are attracting is clearly fake pic hunters and masturbators. Any words to the wise much appreciated x"

Try looking for any potential play mates instead of allowing them to come to yourselves

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Hiya, we are new to all this malarkey but are clearly doing it wrong. We would very much like to partake in our first 3 sum but all we are attracting is clearly fake pic hunters and masturbators. Any words to the wise much appreciated x

Try looking for any potential play mates instead of allowing them to come to yourselves "
This

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