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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'll keep it short and sweet..has anyone dated from Fab?? I had a recent break with someone I care about...however it ended badly...and now I have to see her meets and her oucs on here! Kind of like slow anogising torture if I'm honest...seeing a girl you like rack up meets and put the odd status aimed at me...dont wanna coming across as havìng double standards but pain is pain...yeah I should block her..stop checking out her profile but I'm human with all the human failings...still bloody hurts though....any advise???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block her. I know you say you can't and I probably couldn't either. I'm no help but at least you know you're not alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unless you block her, you’re never gunna recover from this, if you keep looking and she keeps aiming her statuses at you for whatever reason, the pain will carry on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block her and it's probabky better to leave the site.

It's too tempting to look!

A few years back I got rid of Facebook and all of that nonsense- I feel a lot better for it!

Moving on means not seeing them st all for a while.

Hugs x

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I say block her to. Seeing all that won't help you move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Block her. I know you say you can't and I probably couldn't either. I'm no help but at least you know you're not alone. "

To be honest that was almost what I would have said word for word ... I agree completely anyway needless to say x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take a Fab break and when you come back don't even check her out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't dated from here but I've caught 'feelings' for someone. It's not pretty when it ends and you're both still on here.

The only thing guaranteed to help is time. Block her so you don't see the updates (bit nasty that she's doing that imo) and just ride it out.

Also, you could try to distract yourself with someone else

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

My only suggestion is new toys lol!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks guys...like a said..i know it's a swinging site ...but I'm a big softie...for once a think with my head not my cock...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Blocking her isnt enough as you can still look when the temptation arises. You need to get her to block u

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Blocking her isnt enough as you can still look when the temptation arises. You need to get her to block u "

But would she? Maybe she is doing it deliberately ... there are unpleasant women out there as well as men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take a fab break, give your self a 6 month hiatus and believe the fact that when you come back not much will have changed except she would have moved on too, fab will stay the same and you will be wiser, good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask the admins to block her for you, so you won't be tempted to look still....

It'll hurt, a lot, but it passes, you need a clean break.x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks guys ....i think do that x x much love to all who didnt take the piss and under stood the pain x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know this sounds a tad wooly and hippy. But try some.mindfulness it could help you. It brings you back to the hear and now .it stops you over thinking and dwelling in the past.

It makes you feel good and compassionate to yourself

All the best buddy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Blocking her isnt enough as you can still look when the temptation arises. You need to get her to block u

But would she? Maybe she is doing it deliberately ... there are unpleasant women out there as well as men "

I've asked her too...so far she hasn't...just given me a lot of abuse..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I know this sounds a tad wooly and hippy. But try some.mindfulness it could help you. It brings you back to the hear and now .it stops you over thinking and dwelling in the past.

It makes you feel good and compassionate to yourself

All the best buddy "

Thanks dude

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

I know everyone has said it already,but you really need to block her if you want to move on from this. Do it now before you change your mind. She'll stop posting the statuses when she realises you're not seeing them

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By *appy squirrelWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

I don't know if you need to block her. maybe seeing what she is doing- the unkind things towards you and that she is moving on can help you as well.

I can still go into my ex 's dropbox and found myself checking it less and less- now it doesn't bother me any longer.

but definitely take some time to concentrate on yourself and figure out what you want and who you are. it's good finding back to oneself!!

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By *dventurousAlexMan
over a year ago

Ipswich

You have to block her as everyone has said, but there’s more to it. You also have to cut off the possibility of there ever being a future with her.

It hurts because you think you’ve lost something... the future you had planned with her.

Take the qualities you liked of being with her and add them to what you’re looking for in someone else.

When you feel the pang, remind yourself you’ll have all those things you liked with the better version in the future.

It isn’t easy, but takes the discipline to look ahead instead of back.

Keep busy being you and find the one that’s right for you. Good luck mate

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I haven't dated from here but I've caught 'feelings' for someone. It's not pretty when it ends and you're both still on here.

The only thing guaranteed to help is time. Block her so you don't see the updates (bit nasty that she's doing that imo) and just ride it out.

Also, you could try to distract yourself with someone else "

Know anyone?????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I haven't dated from here but I've caught 'feelings' for someone. It's not pretty when it ends and you're both still on here.

The only thing guaranteed to help is time. Block her so you don't see the updates (bit nasty that she's doing that imo) and just ride it out.

Also, you could try to distract yourself with someone else

Know anyone????? "

Meowwww

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By *typical guyMan
over a year ago

wigan

A wise person once told me that the best way to get over a person is to get under another.

You also need to change the way you let her behaviour affect you. I fully understand it is difficult not to be hurt by it BUT take a step back for a moment and realise that this person doesn`t deserve to have that power over you.

You are allowing yourself to be an emotional punchbag and you will be in the firing line until you see that your feelings are misplaced and someone worth caring about would not treat you like this.

I know this seems very simplistic and easy to say as an outsider, and it wont take away the feelings, but it is 100% correct. Look at it logically, you are fawning after someone that shows you no respect, seeks to hurt you and obviously does not care about you in the same way you care about her. Not only that, they are taking great pleasure in making you suffer and you are letting them do it.

Show yourself some respect mate, hold your head high and soon enough you will see it as a lucky escape rather than a lost love.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with all of comments posted. it does hurt but give it time. sending you hugs xxx good luck

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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I haven't dated from here but I've caught 'feelings' for someone. It's not pretty when it ends and you're both still on here.

The only thing guaranteed to help is time. Block her so you don't see the updates (bit nasty that she's doing that imo) and just ride it out.

Also, you could try to distract yourself with someone else "

Ugh, catching the ‘feelings’. Yeah, that’s not fun at all. Been there...it’s miserable.

I’d try and block but I’d probably fail too. It’s just too tempting to check what’s going on. I’d switch my profile off and take up something completely different outside of this and not let myself come back on the site at all. It’s like quitting smoking - for the first few months, you have to avoid the places where you used to smoke.

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains

Gonna have to block her! I blocked my ex, just a shame I can't get rid of him altogether as the stupid pillock keeps talking to me at clubs despite me telling him politely (and not so politely) to do one and leave me alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a wee dose of the feelse.

Currently on a block down, its hard not to unblock and have a look but I just remind myself of what he did and how it felt.

Then i go perv some other hotties and it always makes me feel better

It will get easier OP. Stop torturing yourself though, block her. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yep block . what you don't know don't hurt .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just block her then try and forget about her thats what I did with a guy I dated on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ignore her and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A wise person once told me that the best way to get over a person is to get under another.

You also need to change the way you let her behaviour affect you. I fully understand it is difficult not to be hurt by it BUT take a step back for a moment and realise that this person doesn`t deserve to have that power over you.

You are allowing yourself to be an emotional punchbag and you will be in the firing line until you see that your feelings are misplaced and someone worth caring about would not treat you like this.

I know this seems very simplistic and easy to say as an outsider, and it wont take away the feelings, but it is 100% correct. Look at it logically, you are fawning after someone that shows you no respect, seeks to hurt you and obviously does not care about you in the same way you care about her. Not only that, they are taking great pleasure in making you suffer and you are letting them do it.

Show yourself some respect mate, hold your head high and soon enough you will see it as a lucky escape rather than a lost love.

"

Great post!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Block her. I know you say you can't and I probably couldn't either. I'm no help but at least you know you're not alone. "

Yes, op, you've kind of given yourself the advice you need. You know what to do.

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By *typical guyMan
over a year ago

wigan


"A wise person once told me that the best way to get over a person is to get under another.

You also need to change the way you let her behaviour affect you. I fully understand it is difficult not to be hurt by it BUT take a step back for a moment and realise that this person doesn`t deserve to have that power over you.

You are allowing yourself to be an emotional punchbag and you will be in the firing line until you see that your feelings are misplaced and someone worth caring about would not treat you like this.

I know this seems very simplistic and easy to say as an outsider, and it wont take away the feelings, but it is 100% correct. Look at it logically, you are fawning after someone that shows you no respect, seeks to hurt you and obviously does not care about you in the same way you care about her. Not only that, they are taking great pleasure in making you suffer and you are letting them do it.

Show yourself some respect mate, hold your head high and soon enough you will see it as a lucky escape rather than a lost love.

Great post! "

Thanks.

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