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Gender - who’s bothered by gender ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why does gender matter anyway - it’s all about the person you are and whether another person has a penis or a pussy is irrelevant - if you like them and they like you - then that’s it - crack on and enjoy - you are only here once - thank goodness I discovered “people” rather than “gender” in my teens - no regrets - but the world is changing too slowly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It matters to them that don't have no attraction to a particular gender be is same or not.

As long as people are happy it don't matter what others think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think gender shouldn't be such a big deal but unfortunately it is still a major barrier in life to relationships. I applaud you for being so comfortable with who you are that you can look past gender but a lot of people still have the old stereotypes of men are ment to be with women etc rammed down their throats when we should be able to teach each other and show each other that gender is now a lesser precursor in life. Hope this makes sense lol

M

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By *aelawMan
over a year ago

Paisley

We live in a culture who are rather fond of labels. They are also rather fond of sticking them on people and demanding they conform. When it comes to sexuality I agree that people are becoming more accepting and understanding of their own sexuality and what and how they find attraction which is brilliant . Alas the label culture is leading people to believe that they need to fall under one category when in reality that would leave them restricted and bound by a set series of rules or characteristics associated with that label. We need to get passed that and leave the labels at the door. We are who we are and we like who we like for whatever reason we want to like them.

When it comes to gender, this I is more advanced in my opinion and we are now as a society more accepting of one another whether male, female, trans, CD, cis, non-binary etc. Alas, we still use the labels.

I think the labels are there so people who are either afraid or judgemental about gender and sexuality to have a name for that in which they disapprove of. We have just accepted it and attempted to conform to it.

The future is looking bright though and I really hope that we will eradicate the hatred fuelled by religion!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Funnily enough - this web site propagates the concept of gender by even asking us to specify - it would be preferable if it simply added a couple more options - such as “gender neutral” etc to cater for those of who do not wish to be classified as Male, Female, etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gender is irrelevant to me. If I fancy someone, I fancy them and their gender is of no consequence. I guess my sexuality could be described as pansexual.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

I'm straight and as a straight woman I get turned on by a man not a woman. Why do some people have a problem with someone being straight?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not much point being a crossdresser with no male genitalia

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm straight and as a straight woman I get turned on by a man not a woman. Why do some people have a problem with someone being straight?"

Because they are busy hoping everyone will or even trying to make everyone become a copy of them or at least to their design - a Pygmalion Project if you like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm straight and as a straight woman I get turned on by a man not a woman. Why do some people have a problem with someone being straight?"

Exactly this. Except I get turned on by women!

I have no problem with somebody being straight, bi or gay. But I am just not attracted to other men or their cocks, however they dress.

I can still enjoy chatting and having a laugh with people from the same 'gender' though. They're called mates.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"I'm straight and as a straight woman I get turned on by a man not a woman. Why do some people have a problem with someone being straight?

Because they are busy hoping everyone will or even trying to make everyone become a copy of them or at least to their design - a Pygmalion Project if you like."

I don't know,it kinda annoys me a little to be honest. I accept anyone's gender likes/dislikes,gay/lesbian/bi and all the other thing's I probably don't know about,but dare I say I'm straight and people can't except that.

The thought of going down on a woman is a huge no I have no desire to do that whatsoever,I want a man pure and simple,I want his penis! I don't want a vagina! Someone's genitalia does matter to me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm straight and as a straight woman I get turned on by a man not a woman. Why do some people have a problem with someone being straight?

Exactly this. Except I get turned on by women!

I have no problem with somebody being straight, bi or gay. But I am just not attracted to other men or their cocks, however they dress.

I can still enjoy chatting and having a laugh with people from the same 'gender' though. They're called mates."

Exactly this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer to think of gender and sexuality not so much as black and white or for that matter pink and blue but as having infinite shades between the two.

Unless you have been with everyone of your gender how can you know you're straight?

If you take gender out of the equation, sexuality is irrelevant any way.

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By *aucy tiggerWoman
over a year ago

Back where I belong

It's the person I'm interested in, their gender is irrelevant x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I prefer to think of gender and sexuality not so much as black and white or for that matter pink and blue but as having infinite shades between the two.

Unless you have been with everyone of your gender how can you know you're straight?

If you take gender out of the equation, sexuality is irrelevant any way."

Do we all have to sleep with everyone to decide what sexuality we are???

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"

Unless you have been with everyone of your gender how can you know you're straight?

"

Because when I look and talk to a woman I find attractive I don't think ooh I wonder what she's like to have sex with,my fanny doesn't twitch so to speak. I don't get all giddy and accident prone/flirty with a woman I find attractive.

I don't have a desire to drop to my knees and undo her clothing,I don't have a desire to kiss her on the lips when she's talking. I don't have a desire to set up home with and take her home to the family. I don't look at a pair of boob's and have a desire to touch and taste them. I just don't...

With a man however I do!

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Sorry, I'm straight and I only like men in full working order.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I'm straight and as a straight woman I get turned on by a man not a woman. Why do some people have a problem with someone being straight?"

Sadly, those that seek tolerance are the least tolerant towards others...go figure!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I'm straight and as a straight woman I get turned on by a man not a woman. Why do some people have a problem with someone being straight?

Exactly this. Except I get turned on by women!

I have no problem with somebody being straight, bi or gay. But I am just not attracted to other men or their cocks, however they dress.

I can still enjoy chatting and having a laugh with people from the same 'gender' though. They're called mates."

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I'm straight and as a straight woman I get turned on by a man not a woman. Why do some people have a problem with someone being straight?

Because they are busy hoping everyone will or even trying to make everyone become a copy of them or at least to their design - a Pygmalion Project if you like.

I don't know,it kinda annoys me a little to be honest. I accept anyone's gender likes/dislikes,gay/lesbian/bi and all the other thing's I probably don't know about,but dare I say I'm straight and people can't except that.

The thought of going down on a woman is a huge no I have no desire to do that whatsoever,I want a man pure and simple,I want his penis! I don't want a vagina! Someone's genitalia does matter to me!"

...and again...

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I prefer to think of gender and sexuality not so much as black and white or for that matter pink and blue but as having infinite shades between the two.

Unless you have been with everyone of your gender how can you know you're straight?

If you take gender out of the equation, sexuality is irrelevant any way.

Do we all have to sleep with everyone to decide what sexuality we are??? "

Apparently so!

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"I'm straight and as a straight woman I get turned on by a man not a woman. Why do some people have a problem with someone being straight?

Sadly, those that seek tolerance are the least tolerant towards others...go figure! "

It does seem that way at time's you're right.

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By *ink magnolia s yorksWoman
over a year ago

south yorkshire

Done bi, does nothing for me, I'm sexually attracted to men, what can I say except I like cocks, pussies don't do anything interesting. I get messages from TVs etc (no one start on the whole I'm not a this I'm a that because I'm this reply it's irrelevant) all the time to meet them, I'm not interested, I want a man, dressed as a man. I cross dress my subs for humiliation, I'm not sexually attracted to that or my subs, I don't use them sexually. All these changes people want fab to make could be possible if more people paid the paltry sum to be a site supporter. Always non site supporters who have the 'good' ideas.
"I'm straight and as a straight woman I get turned on by a man not a woman. Why do some people have a problem with someone being straight?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I prefer to think of gender and sexuality not so much as black and white or for that matter pink and blue but as having infinite shades between the two.

Unless you have been with everyone of your gender how can you know you're straight?

If you take gender out of the equation, sexuality is irrelevant any way."

Having participated in several gbs over the years, one with 10 guys and one female I had absolutely no interest in any of the guys, all ages, sizes, (not talking about their cocks, although I expect they were), all my attention was focused on the (one!) female in the room.

I have also played with couples that had a bi male, all interest focused on the female, again no interest in the males.

I have played with a straight couple and as I was fucking her, her husband lunged forward to put his hand in between us. This led to me going soft and pulling out. He apologised and said he only wanted to play with her clit as we fucked, which would have been fine if he'd said what he was planning.

I know, I am straight!

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Do you mean in relation to the site? If so it matters to me as I don't want to play with women.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I adore all the remarks here and am a passionate supporter of free speech and respect everyone’s right to state their case

I am simply making the point that I am attracted to a person - because they are what they are - not because of their gender - and if there was a simple button on Fab for Non gender specific people such as me - rather than TV - which is how I have to identify on Fab - then it would make life easier - especially for some of the people who have responded this morning and who have said what their preferences are - it just seems to make sense - if u read my profile u can see I am happy with the whole gamut of human psyche and am totally non judgmental in my approach and respect all styles, types, fetishes, etc, of lifestyles - we are all flesh and blood on the day and our unique DNA composition makes us the people that we are - peace and contentment to you all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why does gender matter anyway - it’s all about the person you are and whether another person has a penis or a pussy is irrelevant - if you like them and they like you - then that’s it - crack on and enjoy - you are only here once - thank goodness I discovered “people” rather than “gender” in my teens - no regrets - but the world is changing too slowly

"

Unfortunately in today's society people like labelling others. Read somewhere there are 71 gender options on Facebook! Wasn't that long ago our son came home from school saying "Mam did you know there is x amount of genders - so its even been taught in the classroom.

Don't understand why it is so important to label people. My sister is gay - something she's not comfortable with at all and it affects her life and happiness, truly believe if there was no labelling she wouldn't feel the way she does x

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By *heIcebreakersCouple
over a year ago

Cramlington


"I'm straight and as a straight woman I get turned on by a man not a woman. Why do some people have a problem with someone being straight?"
I don't think anyone has, but certainly it would help if this site made it easier for people to declare if they're non-binary or gender queer, or open to meeting people who are either.

The flipside of your reaction of course is all the people who won't have sex with bi-men, even if the men in question indicate they're not looking to play with hubby at that time...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Pansexual - that’s a word that Fab could use ! It nails it !!!

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"Why does gender matter anyway - it’s all about the person you are and whether another person has a penis or a pussy is irrelevant - if you like them and they like you - then that’s it - crack on and enjoy - you are only here once - thank goodness I discovered “people” rather than “gender” in my teens - no regrets - but the world is changing too slowly

Unfortunately in today's society people like labelling others. Read somewhere there are 71 gender options on Facebook! Wasn't that long ago our son came home from school saying "Mam did you know there is x amount of genders - so its even been taught in the classroom.

Don't understand why it is so important to label people. My sister is gay - something she's not comfortable with at all and it affects her life and happiness, truly believe if there was no labelling she wouldn't feel the way she does x"

Sorry to hear your sister feel's like that,but is it to do with the labelling I don't understand how that affects her? My daughter is gay and I see it as being no different to me being straight.

Is it other people that make her feel the way she does?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

And that is precisely my point -why does your sister need to be labelled - all I am asking for is another button on the gender selection - ie - pansexual

- as fet life does

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"I'm straight and as a straight woman I get turned on by a man not a woman. Why do some people have a problem with someone being straight?I don't think anyone has, but certainly it would help if this site made it easier for people to declare if they're non-binary or gender queer, or open to meeting people who are either.

The flipside of your reaction of course is all the people who won't have sex with bi-men, even if the men in question indicate they're not looking to play with hubby at that time... "

I played with bi men when meeting,bi mmf's are most enjoyable. I know what you mean though,they're seen as more likely to have some sti,pounce on the straight guy etc...and that's quite within their right

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"And that is precisely my point -why does your sister need to be labelled - all I am asking for is another button on the gender selection - ie - pansexual

- as fet life does "

It make's it easier finding who you're attracted to I suppose.

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By *tace 309TV/TS
over a year ago

durham

I'm me ...take it or leave it xx

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"And that is precisely my point -why does your sister need to be labelled - all I am asking for is another button on the gender selection - ie - pansexual

- as fet life does "

I am afraid that people for whom the genitals of people they have sex with are irrelevant are a tiny minority. The labels "gay", "straight", "bi" etc are signs that indicate what particular genitals 99.9% of the population are interested in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why does gender matter anyway - it’s all about the person you are and whether another person has a penis or a pussy is irrelevant - if you like them and they like you - then that’s it - crack on and enjoy - you are only here once - thank goodness I discovered “people” rather than “gender” in my teens - no regrets - but the world is changing too slowly

Unfortunately in today's society people like labelling others. Read somewhere there are 71 gender options on Facebook! Wasn't that long ago our son came home from school saying "Mam did you know there is x amount of genders - so its even been taught in the classroom.

Don't understand why it is so important to label people. My sister is gay - something she's not comfortable with at all and it affects her life and happiness, truly believe if there was no labelling she wouldn't feel the way she does x

Sorry to hear your sister feel's like that,but is it to do with the labelling I don't understand how that affects her? My daughter is gay and I see it as being no different to me being straight.

Is it other people that make her feel the way she does?"

Think for her it's more to do with the stigma attached to been gay (know there's not so much nowadays but unfortunately she doesn't see that) x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And that is precisely my point -why does your sister need to be labelled - all I am asking for is another button on the gender selection - ie - pansexual

- as fet life does "

The site mentioned does permit you to put gender (and more) but it also allows you to state orientation.

Although I can understand those subject to discrimination fighting their corner and owning their identity, labels are important. If I want to buy a red car I want red car and not a blue car. Yes a blue car drives as well as a red but I want red. Human sexual interaction is a tricky business but as we should learn from Fab insulting another for their preferences should be a no go area (unless they are being abusive whilst stating their preferences). As they say in kink 'your kink is not my kink but I respect your right to practice it'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And that is precisely my point -why does your sister need to be labelled - all I am asking for is another button on the gender selection - ie - pansexual

- as fet life does

The site mentioned does permit you to put gender (and more) but it also allows you to state orientation.

Although I can understand those subject to discrimination fighting their corner and owning their identity, labels are important. If I want to buy a red car I want red car and not a blue car. Yes a blue car drives as well as a red but I want red. Human sexual interaction is a tricky business but as we should learn from Fab insulting another for their preferences should be a no go area (unless they are being abusive whilst stating their preferences). As they say in kink 'your kink is not my kink but I respect your right to practice it'."

But are they actually discriminated against? I don't think that's the point of the op, although I could be wrong. People talk of labels, but it seems the op is just asking for another one?

As I said in my first post, I don't care if someone is bi, gay or straight. If they are of no interest to me, I pass them by. I don't look at male profiles, unless they are asking for advice, so have no idea what they 'label' themselves as. I guess if you are looking for a gender fluid, bi, gay or straight you can find them there or single female or couples profile. If you are looking for something specific, you will find it, whether labelled or not.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Why does gender matter anyway - it’s all about the person you are and whether another person has a penis or a pussy is irrelevant - if you like them and they like you - then that’s it - crack on and enjoy - you are only here once - thank goodness I discovered “people” rather than “gender” in my teens - no regrets - but the world is changing too slowly

Unfortunately in today's society people like labelling others. Read somewhere there are 71 gender options on Facebook! Wasn't that long ago our son came home from school saying "Mam did you know there is x amount of genders - so its even been taught in the classroom.

Don't understand why it is so important to label people. My sister is gay - something she's not comfortable with at all and it affects her life and happiness, truly believe if there was no labelling she wouldn't feel the way she does x"

How would you find anything without labels?

For example, for internet hook ups I'm a Domme seeking sub playmates. I have a partner who can't even pronounce "sub", so without the relevant "label" how would I attract/find what I'm looking for?

I'm straight, I know people on here seem to think there's no such thing, but I'm straight. "Labelling" myself straight should prevent bi women contacting me.

I'm comfortable with my sexuality. My other half is straight but gets hit on by men: doesn't bother him because he's comfortable in his own skin.

You have said your sister is not comfortable in her own skin. That could be her problem not her sexuality, because all said and done really, who cares?

Finding playmates/partners etc to suit our needs is what's important. If people were honest with themselves they'd be happier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can get on with anyone of any gender, natural or self declared. However, when it come to intimate relationships I prefer my lady partners to have the anatomically correct bits.Big surprise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And that is precisely my point -why does your sister need to be labelled - all I am asking for is another button on the gender selection - ie - pansexual

- as fet life does

The site mentioned does permit you to put gender (and more) but it also allows you to state orientation.

Although I can understand those subject to discrimination fighting their corner and owning their identity, labels are important. If I want to buy a red car I want red car and not a blue car. Yes a blue car drives as well as a red but I want red. Human sexual interaction is a tricky business but as we should learn from Fab insulting another for their preferences should be a no go area (unless they are being abusive whilst stating their preferences). As they say in kink 'your kink is not my kink but I respect your right to practice it'.

But are they actually discriminated against? I don't think that's the point of the op, although I could be wrong. People talk of labels, but it seems the op is just asking for another one?

As I said in my first post, I don't care if someone is bi, gay or straight. If they are of no interest to me, I pass them by. I don't look at male profiles, unless they are asking for advice, so have no idea what they 'label' themselves as. I guess if you are looking for a gender fluid, bi, gay or straight you can find them there or single female or couples profile. If you are looking for something specific, you will find it, whether labelled or not."

Taken from heading in the Independent.

'Attacks on LGBT people surge almost 80% in UK over last four years

More than one in five LGBT people verbally or physically attacked due to their sexual orientation or gender identity in last 12 months.'

http://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/home-news/gay-lgbt-hate-crimes-stats-rise-four-year-physical-verbal-homophobic-abuse-community-a7933126.html

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not bothered by gender. But I do lean towards women to enjoy sex with. Simply because they're generally pretty cute. And I find men are not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And that is precisely my point -why does your sister need to be labelled - all I am asking for is another button on the gender selection - ie - pansexual

- as fet life does

The site mentioned does permit you to put gender (and more) but it also allows you to state orientation.

Although I can understand those subject to discrimination fighting their corner and owning their identity, labels are important. If I want to buy a red car I want red car and not a blue car. Yes a blue car drives as well as a red but I want red. Human sexual interaction is a tricky business but as we should learn from Fab insulting another for their preferences should be a no go area (unless they are being abusive whilst stating their preferences). As they say in kink 'your kink is not my kink but I respect your right to practice it'.

But are they actually discriminated against? I don't think that's the point of the op, although I could be wrong. People talk of labels, but it seems the op is just asking for another one?

As I said in my first post, I don't care if someone is bi, gay or straight. If they are of no interest to me, I pass them by. I don't look at male profiles, unless they are asking for advice, so have no idea what they 'label' themselves as. I guess if you are looking for a gender fluid, bi, gay or straight you can find them there or single female or couples profile. If you are looking for something specific, you will find it, whether labelled or not.

Taken from heading in the Independent.

'Attacks on LGBT people surge almost 80% in UK over last four years

More than one in five LGBT people verbally or physically attacked due to their sexual orientation or gender identity in last 12 months.'

http://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/home-news/gay-lgbt-hate-crimes-stats-rise-four-year-physical-verbal-homophobic-abuse-community-a7933126.html

"

I'm not disputing that.

I was actually talking about on fab. Which I thought was the topic?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But I don't fancy men, so yeah gender matters...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But I don't fancy men, so yeah gender matters..."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like a label on things - because I want to know what I'm getting

I'm not a fan of surprises.

Gender matters to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I adore all the remarks here and am a passionate supporter of free speech and respect everyone’s right to state their case

I am simply making the point that I am attracted to a person - because they are what they are - not because of their gender - and if there was a simple button on Fab for Non gender specific people such as me - rather than TV - which is how I have to identify on Fab - then it would make life easier - especially for some of the people who have responded this morning and who have said what their preferences are - it just seems to make sense - if u read my profile u can see I am happy with the whole gamut of human psyche and am totally non judgmental in my approach and respect all styles, types, fetishes, etc, of lifestyles - we are all flesh and blood on the day and our unique DNA composition makes us the people that we are - peace and contentment to you all"

If we started catering for everybody's preferences, we would have a milion genders and types of sexuality.

The current classification is complicated enough, no point making it even more complicated.

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch


"I adore all the remarks here and am a passionate supporter of free speech and respect everyone’s right to state their case

I am simply making the point that I am attracted to a person - because they are what they are - not because of their gender - and if there was a simple button on Fab for Non gender specific people such as me - rather than TV - which is how I have to identify on Fab - then it would make life easier - especially for some of the people who have responded this morning and who have said what their preferences are - it just seems to make sense - if u read my profile u can see I am happy with the whole gamut of human psyche and am totally non judgmental in my approach and respect all styles, types, fetishes, etc, of lifestyles - we are all flesh and blood on the day and our unique DNA composition makes us the people that we are - peace and contentment to you all"

Why does bisexual not cover you ?

I know why I like women and no men it has to do with their natural scent and sexual bits

Psychologically I could seduce some men but unless he smelt a particular way tasted a particular way and had no appendage that smelt a particular way and a part of body that secreted juices that taste a particular way , I would not be attracted however pretty they may be x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And that is precisely my point -why does your sister need to be labelled - all I am asking for is another button on the gender selection - ie - pansexual

- as fet life does

The site mentioned does permit you to put gender (and more) but it also allows you to state orientation.

Although I can understand those subject to discrimination fighting their corner and owning their identity, labels are important. If I want to buy a red car I want red car and not a blue car. Yes a blue car drives as well as a red but I want red. Human sexual interaction is a tricky business but as we should learn from Fab insulting another for their preferences should be a no go area (unless they are being abusive whilst stating their preferences). As they say in kink 'your kink is not my kink but I respect your right to practice it'.

But are they actually discriminated against? I don't think that's the point of the op, although I could be wrong. People talk of labels, but it seems the op is just asking for another one?

As I said in my first post, I don't care if someone is bi, gay or straight. If they are of no interest to me, I pass them by. I don't look at male profiles, unless they are asking for advice, so have no idea what they 'label' themselves as. I guess if you are looking for a gender fluid, bi, gay or straight you can find them there or single female or couples profile. If you are looking for something specific, you will find it, whether labelled or not.

Taken from heading in the Independent.

'Attacks on LGBT people surge almost 80% in UK over last four years

More than one in five LGBT people verbally or physically attacked due to their sexual orientation or gender identity in last 12 months.'

http://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/home-news/gay-lgbt-hate-crimes-stats-rise-four-year-physical-verbal-homophobic-abuse-community-a7933126.html

I'm not disputing that.

I was actually talking about on fab. Which I thought was the topic?"

The topic, as I read it, went wider than the relevance of gender in the Fab world. But I think our discussion detracts from the main debate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I prefer to think of gender and sexuality not so much as black and white or for that matter pink and blue but as having infinite shades between the two.

Unless you have been with everyone of your gender how can you know you're straight?

If you take gender out of the equation, sexuality is irrelevant any way.

Do we all have to sleep with everyone to decide what sexuality we are??? "

How can you be so sure there's no one out there that doesn't do it for you unless you already tried with everyone?

This is exactly why gay and straight labels don't work.

The number of people I have had this talk to who are definitely 100% straight but would go with some celebrate is comical.

If a woman is straight then she isn't interested in playing with ANY women, not any woman except (fill in the blank)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I prefer to think of gender and sexuality not so much as black and white or for that matter pink and blue but as having infinite shades between the two.

Unless you have been with everyone of your gender how can you know you're straight?

If you take gender out of the equation, sexuality is irrelevant any way.

Do we all have to sleep with everyone to decide what sexuality we are???

How can you be so sure there's no one out there that doesn't do it for you unless you already tried with everyone?

This is exactly why gay and straight labels don't work.

The number of people I have had this talk to who are definitely 100% straight but would go with some celebrate is comical.

If a woman is straight then she isn't interested in playing with ANY women, not any woman except (fill in the blank)"

No, many people, including people on this thread have said that they are absolutely not attracted to the same sex, and are therefore straight. They don't need to try it once, a couple of times, with a celebrity or indeed "try it with everyone". Sometimes people just know themselves well enough to say "you know what? I'm straight" and that should be fine

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"Why does gender matter anyway - it’s all about the person you are and whether another person has a penis or a pussy is irrelevant - if you like them and they like you - then that’s it - crack on and enjoy - you are only here once - thank goodness I discovered “people” rather than “gender” in my teens - no regrets - but the world is changing too slowly

"

You mention if they like you and vice versa..as a mate or as a sexual partner?, bcz obviously if you're straight and not fab straight then chances are you're not going to like a tv,ts,gay or bi guy. If like you as a mate is your point then no it shouldn't matter

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"I prefer to think of gender and sexuality not so much as black and white or for that matter pink and blue but as having infinite shades between the two.

Unless you have been with everyone of your gender how can you know you're straight?

If you take gender out of the equation, sexuality is irrelevant any way.

Do we all have to sleep with everyone to decide what sexuality we are???

How can you be so sure there's no one out there that doesn't do it for you unless you already tried with everyone?

This is exactly why gay and straight labels don't work.

The number of people I have had this talk to who are definitely 100% straight but would go with some celebrate is comical.

If a woman is straight then she isn't interested in playing with ANY women, not any woman except (fill in the blank)"

The straight label for me does work. Whether someone is a celebrity or not doesn't matter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I prefer to think of gender and sexuality not so much as black and white or for that matter pink and blue but as having infinite shades between the two.

Unless you have been with everyone of your gender how can you know you're straight?

If you take gender out of the equation, sexuality is irrelevant any way.

Do we all have to sleep with everyone to decide what sexuality we are???

How can you be so sure there's no one out there that doesn't do it for you unless you already tried with everyone?

This is exactly why gay and straight labels don't work.

The number of people I have had this talk to who are definitely 100% straight but would go with some celebrate is comical.

If a woman is straight then she isn't interested in playing with ANY women, not any woman except (fill in the blank)

The straight label for me does work. Whether someone is a celebrity or not doesn't matter."

It's like telling a vegan, no I don't want a veggie burger...

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"I prefer to think of gender and sexuality not so much as black and white or for that matter pink and blue but as having infinite shades between the two.

Unless you have been with everyone of your gender how can you know you're straight?

If you take gender out of the equation, sexuality is irrelevant any way.

Do we all have to sleep with everyone to decide what sexuality we are???

How can you be so sure there's no one out there that doesn't do it for you unless you already tried with everyone?

This is exactly why gay and straight labels don't work.

The number of people I have had this talk to who are definitely 100% straight but would go with some celebrate is comical.

If a woman is straight then she isn't interested in playing with ANY women, not any woman except (fill in the blank)

The straight label for me does work. Whether someone is a celebrity or not doesn't matter."

Well clearly they aren't straight lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This thread seems to have become a bash the minority. Those of us who have stood up, male and female and said we are straight.

It seems to me that some can't accept that, saying we don't know our own minds. That if we met a, guy in my case, I would fall on my knees and suck his cock. It's not going to happen.

While I can appreciate a guy can be good looking that doesn't mean I would be attracted to him.

So for those of you that say you know and accept your sexualities, I have no problem with that. But please accept mine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This thread seems to have become a bash the minority. Those of us who have stood up, male and female and said we are straight.

It seems to me that some can't accept that, saying we don't know our own minds. That if we met a, guy in my case, I would fall on my knees and suck his cock. It's not going to happen.

While I can appreciate a guy can be good looking that doesn't mean I would be attracted to him.

So for those of you that say you know and accept your sexualities, I have no problem with that. But please accept mine."

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"This thread seems to have become a bash the minority. Those of us who have stood up, male and female and said we are straight.

It seems to me that some can't accept that, saying we don't know our own minds. That if we met a, guy in my case, I would fall on my knees and suck his cock. It's not going to happen.

While I can appreciate a guy can be good looking that doesn't mean I would be attracted to him.

So for those of you that say you know and accept your sexualities, I have no problem with that. But please accept mine."

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

I am happy being straight...I don't need to try licking a fanny to know I don't want to. There are some things in life that you just don't want to try.

I accept other people's sexuality so I can't understand why others don't accept other people's.

Being told you are in denial or to go try it first before you decide isn't accepting other people's sexuality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am happy being straight...I don't need to try licking a fanny to know I don't want to. There are some things in life that you just don't want to try.

I accept other people's sexuality so I can't understand why others don't accept other people's.

Being told you are in denial or to go try it first before you decide isn't accepting other people's sexuality."

Exactly.

This kind of argument is getting boring!

Why can't people attracted to Male and Female just accept they are Bi?

Regardless of what they are wearing.

I'm Bi - but I'm not arguing that everyone is - because who am I to tell people who to be attracted to?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am happy being straight...I don't need to try licking a fanny to know I don't want to. There are some things in life that you just don't want to try.

I accept other people's sexuality so I can't understand why others don't accept other people's.

Being told you are in denial or to go try it first before you decide isn't accepting other people's sexuality."

Exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am happy being straight...I don't need to try licking a fanny to know I don't want to. There are some things in life that you just don't want to try.

I accept other people's sexuality so I can't understand why others don't accept other people's.

Being told you are in denial or to go try it first before you decide isn't accepting other people's sexuality.

Exactly.

This kind of argument is getting boring!

Why can't people attracted to Male and Female just accept they are Bi?

Regardless of what they are wearing.

I'm Bi - but I'm not arguing that everyone is - because who am I to tell people who to be attracted to?

"

Totally agree. Although on this thread in particular it seems it's the straight people who aren't being accepted, by the people who are wanting acceptance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am happy being straight...I don't need to try licking a fanny to know I don't want to. There are some things in life that you just don't want to try.

I accept other people's sexuality so I can't understand why others don't accept other people's.

Being told you are in denial or to go try it first before you decide isn't accepting other people's sexuality.

Exactly.

This kind of argument is getting boring!

Why can't people attracted to Male and Female just accept they are Bi?

Regardless of what they are wearing.

I'm Bi - but I'm not arguing that everyone is - because who am I to tell people who to be attracted to?

Totally agree. Although on this thread in particular it seems it's the straight people who aren't being accepted, by the people who are wanting acceptance "

These arguments always turn out the same way.

It really is ironic that the people that want acceptance are the most judgemental - and have sexual contact with the group that are the most in denial

It's boring!

Just fuck who you want to fuck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am happy being straight...I don't need to try licking a fanny to know I don't want to. There are some things in life that you just don't want to try.

I accept other people's sexuality so I can't understand why others don't accept other people's.

Being told you are in denial or to go try it first before you decide isn't accepting other people's sexuality.

Exactly.

This kind of argument is getting boring!

Why can't people attracted to Male and Female just accept they are Bi?

Regardless of what they are wearing.

I'm Bi - but I'm not arguing that everyone is - because who am I to tell people who to be attracted to?

Totally agree. Although on this thread in particular it seems it's the straight people who aren't being accepted, by the people who are wanting acceptance

These arguments always turn out the same way.

It really is ironic that the people that want acceptance are the most judgemental - and have sexual contact with the group that are the most in denial

It's boring!

Just fuck who you want to fuck "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each to their own but people should allow other to felt comfortable with their own opinion and tastes what we all need to accept. I'm a straight guy and only go for women I will chat to anyone but once it crosses a certain line I don't like it the same as when a man makes a women feel uncomfortable has to be a fair balance.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

I have absolutely no problem with gender, as long as they are happy, as am I, I am straight. I have in the past had some play with ladies, but it does nothing for me. The only issues I have had, in the past and it is a minority, is in a club on holiday, where some bi ladies couldn't accept or understand why I was straight and continued to be pushy, until the staff member told them they would have to leave, if they didn't stop harassing me. I accept this can happen with any gender, towards any gender.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

Personally I couldn't care less who's bi , gay , gender fluid , pansexual , potsexual or whatever . The only thing I don't agree with are unisex toilets . Not everyone is comfortable with that and I don't blame them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the point being made by the bi and trans contributors is that life, experience and history shows that a sizeable number of people (mainly men) who claim they are straight turn out to not to be straight. Given that the people who claim to be straight are numerically the majority in society and on Fab it is interesting to see people claim they are a minority (possibly on this thread). As someone who is straight I disagree with the argument that all straight people are really gay. I do agree that a number of straight people are situatuonally straight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I prefer to think of gender and sexuality not so much as black and white or for that matter pink and blue but as having infinite shades between the two.

Unless you have been with everyone of your gender how can you know you're straight?

If you take gender out of the equation, sexuality is irrelevant any way."

Dear oh dear!

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By *hloe sussexTV/TS
over a year ago

Larne

I am bothered by my penis as I don't want one lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am happy being straight...I don't need to try licking a fanny to know I don't want to. There are some things in life that you just don't want to try.

I accept other people's sexuality so I can't understand why others don't accept other people's.

Being told you are in denial or to go try it first before you decide isn't accepting other people's sexuality.

Exactly.

This kind of argument is getting boring!

Why can't people attracted to Male and Female just accept they are Bi?

Regardless of what they are wearing.

I'm Bi - but I'm not arguing that everyone is - because who am I to tell people who to be attracted to?

Totally agree. Although on this thread in particular it seems it's the straight people who aren't being accepted, by the people who are wanting acceptance

These arguments always turn out the same way.

It really is ironic that the people that want acceptance are the most judgemental - and have sexual contact with the group that are the most in denial

It's boring!

I agree!

Just fuck who you want to fuck "

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By *omesWoman
over a year ago

Surrey


"Why does gender matter anyway - it’s all about the person you are and whether another person has a penis or a pussy is irrelevant - if you like them and they like you - then that’s it - crack on and enjoy - you are only here once - thank goodness I discovered “people” rather than “gender” in my teens - no regrets - but the world is changing too slowly

"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

My sentiment entirely !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you read the book by Milo yiannopoulos? (Might have spelt the surname wrong!). If not I might suggest you do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Milo_Yiannopoulos

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I couldn't care less who's bi , gay , gender fluid , pansexual , potsexual or whatever . The only thing I don't agree with are unisex toilets . Not everyone is comfortable with that and I don't blame them "

In the military, we had unisex shower blocks. Worked out incredibly well for me..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Milo_Yiannopoulos"

It's well known that Wikipedia is, shall we say fictional, but taken as gospel by many. Even I can contribute should I wish.

Before you express an opinion you should read the book. He does answer his critics or perhaps that should be, enemies of free speech. I for one certainly wouldn't condone what Wikipedia has to say, if any of it is true.

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