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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hey people just wondering if anyone experiencing zero interest ! I understand being married and partner not knowing is a No No for most. But I thought being upfront and honest would count for something?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Backs out quietly thinking is this de ja vu...

All over again..

Dusts off rock picks a quiet corner and watches the sun go down over the waves...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn’t take a married person playing away as upfront or honest

Maybe it’s something else?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Backs out quietly thinking is this de ja vu...

All over again..

Dusts off rock picks a quiet corner and watches the sun go down over the waves...

"

Might come with you, squidge over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey people just wondering if anyone experiencing zero interest ! I understand being married and partner not knowing is a No No for most. But I thought being upfront and honest would count for something?"

I have a small violin playing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Backs out quietly thinking is this de ja vu...

All over again..

Dusts off rock picks a quiet corner and watches the sun go down over the waves...

Might come with you, squidge over "

Come on then snuggle up I'll put the coffee on

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Not all married men are playing away because they just want extra sex! Awful lot of judgemental people that have no idea of circumstance.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Hey people just wondering if anyone experiencing zero interest ! I understand being married and partner not knowing is a No No for most. But I thought being upfront and honest would count for something?"

"Upfront and honest?!!"... ...okie dokie!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not into married men playing away but its good to see your being honest in your profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are advertising you want coffee and flirting and say if you want fuck you can use an escort. That is not very appealing. I meet married men but I fuck them, if I want to flirt I can do that virtually anywhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Disgusting married men playing away

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I wouldn’t take a married person playing away as upfront or honest

Maybe it’s something else?"

Not just me then!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ignore the negative comments.

You’ll find someone willing to meet you, you just have to be patient I’m afraid

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Good to see the typical trolls and judgemental folk are out n about. And I thought the site was supposed to have open minded folk lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Backs out quietly thinking is this de ja vu...

All over again..

Dusts off rock picks a quiet corner and watches the sun go down over the waves...

Might come with you, squidge over

Come on then snuggle up I'll put the coffee on "

I’ll bring biccies

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Not all married men are playing away because they just want extra sex! Awful lot of judgemental people that have no idea of circumstance."

If you don't want judgement calls don't ask opinions on an open forum!

No one has the right to send you unsolicited nasty messages etc, but if you post on an open forum you're going go get differing views.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have to accept that you are in the lowest rung of the Fab ladder. Whatever your reasons are, the majority won’t care.

Accept where you are, tell people you are married and then work at profile and pics.

Whining married guys are at the bottom of the married guy pile. Big boy pants on and get on with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey people just wondering if anyone experiencing zero interest ! I understand being married and partner not knowing is a No No for most. But I thought being upfront and honest would count for something?

"Upfront and honest?!!"... ...okie dokie!"

Upfront and honest with who thou

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry..

But lowest of the low. If you are unhappy with your relationship then either speak to her or finish it.

End of

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Backs out quietly thinking is this de ja vu...

All over again..

Dusts off rock picks a quiet corner and watches the sun go down over the waves...

Might come with you, squidge over

Come on then snuggle up I'll put the coffee on

I’ll bring biccies "

Custard creams

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not all married men are playing away because they just want extra sex! Awful lot of judgemental people that have no idea of circumstance."

Why are you here ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good to see the typical trolls and judgemental folk are out n about. And I thought the site was supposed to have open minded folk lol "

Yep, that's all you'll get here. Give it a few minutes and the trannies will be here too, offering nothing but sarcasm and rolling eye emojis....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You have to accept that you are in the lowest rung of the Fab ladder. Whatever your reasons are, the majority won’t care.

Accept where you are, tell people you are married and then work at profile and pics.

Whining married guys are at the bottom of the married guy pile. Big boy pants on and get on with it"

Nail on head

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not all married men are playing away because they just want extra sex! Awful lot of judgemental people that have no idea of circumstance.

Why are you here ?"

I was an accident

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are a number of married gents and ladies on here, quietly going about their business without posting threads about it.

You will find a daily thread about luck, generating interest and suchlike, have a search and see what other threads have come up with.

Whilst some will commend you for being honest on here, others will condemn you for cheating.

If you want specific advice on your profile, ask for it.

But you make your own luck on here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

True ! opinions are helpful maybe need to explain a little more about my marital circumstances on profile.

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By *unguya2zMan
over a year ago

coventry..ish


"Hey people just wondering if anyone experiencing zero interest ! I understand being married and partner not knowing is a No No for most. But I thought being upfront and honest would count for something?

I have a small violin playing. "
can I come and fine tune it for you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a married man myself, although my wife is on here too and we have a couples profile, we mainly meet alone purely cause it’s what we’ve agreed too, this doesn’t mean i get treated like a true single guy with not ties, there are still those who won’t meet married men regardless of whether their partner knows or not, all you can do is be open and honest in your profile so people can make an informed choice on whether to meet you or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"True ! opinions are helpful maybe need to explain a little more about my marital circumstances on profile."

Maybe you need fo explain them to your wife before joining here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Backs out quietly thinking is this de ja vu...

All over again..

Dusts off rock picks a quiet corner and watches the sun go down over the waves...

Might come with you, squidge over

Come on then snuggle up I'll put the coffee on

I’ll bring biccies

Custard creams "

Yas! lovely sunset tonight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey people just wondering if anyone experiencing zero interest ! I understand being married and partner not knowing is a No No for most. But I thought being upfront and honest would count for something?

I have a small violin playing. can I come and fine tune it for you?"

Fine but its small

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Backs out quietly thinking is this de ja vu...

All over again..

Dusts off rock picks a quiet corner and watches the sun go down over the waves...

Might come with you, squidge over

Come on then snuggle up I'll put the coffee on

I’ll bring biccies

Custard creams

Yas! lovely sunset tonight "

It's the calm after last nights storm.

Just brings a sense of peace and serenity to the evening ...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Haha great comments on here violins etc. Circumstances are different for everyone on the site. Couples Partners playing together , men or women looking for NSA sex all sorts. I'm happily married wife and my kids. But when your wife is terminally Ill with ovarian cancer having sex is the last thing on anyones mind. So is walking out on her and my kids. Good to see everyone jump to a obvious conclusion

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"True ! opinions are helpful maybe need to explain a little more about my marital circumstances on profile."

No you don't have to justify why you're here...people won't believe you anyway, but it works both ways. No one has to justify why they're not interested in meeting you.

Look for those who don't care and try and respect without rancour those who won't touch you with someone else's!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Cheers for the options people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That is even worse: you want meaningless sexual gratification with strangers when your wife is ill ??

What sort of a man are you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Haha great comments on here violins etc. Circumstances are different for everyone on the site. Couples Partners playing together , men or women looking for NSA sex all sorts. I'm happily married wife and my kids. But when your wife is terminally Ill with ovarian cancer having sex is the last thing on anyones mind. So is walking out on her and my kids. Good to see everyone jump to a obvious conclusion "

Thats my last post on the subject for me as if hes looking to dip his dick when his wife is “terminally ill” is disrespectful to say the least

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good to see the typical trolls and judgemental folk are out n about. And I thought the site was supposed to have open minded folk lol "

People airing their opinions on you cheating on your wife isn't being judgemental .. it's called having an opinion.. and you being open and honest !?.. shame you can't be open and honest to your wife ..

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Haha great comments on here violins etc. Circumstances are different for everyone on the site. Couples Partners playing together , men or women looking for NSA sex all sorts. I'm happily married wife and my kids. But when your wife is terminally Ill with ovarian cancer having sex is the last thing on anyones mind. So is walking out on her and my kids. Good to see everyone jump to a obvious conclusion "

So instead of spending the limited time you have together you're on here? You should have kept that to yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Haha great comments on here violins etc. Circumstances are different for everyone on the site. Couples Partners playing together , men or women looking for NSA sex all sorts. I'm happily married wife and my kids. But when your wife is terminally Ill with ovarian cancer having sex is the last thing on anyones mind. So is walking out on her and my kids. Good to see everyone jump to a obvious conclusion "

That's even worse ffs!!!!!!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"That is even worse: you want meaningless sexual gratification with strangers when your wife is ill ??

What sort of a man are you?"

I know...seldom surprised or shocked, but why anyone would want to appear so callous is beyond me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging is not about married men blowing their load into a free hooker whilst the wife is at home terminally ill. Swinging is about friendships, fun, a lifestyle, and exploring sex - women here aren't just a cumdump because you're not getting it at home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unbelievable how someone could treat their spouse like that and then expect people to sympathise!!

Lowest of the low

Should be banned

Poor wife

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Haha great comments on here violins etc. Circumstances are different for everyone on the site. Couples Partners playing together , men or women looking for NSA sex all sorts. I'm happily married wife and my kids. But when your wife is terminally Ill with ovarian cancer having sex is the last thing on anyones mind. So is walking out on her and my kids. Good to see everyone jump to a obvious conclusion "

Dude!!! What in the actual fuck!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I still find it funny that people hold such puritanical views on what I assumed was a bohemian, hedonistic site.

But we all have our boundaries and values, however we choose to justify them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Haha great comments on here violins etc. Circumstances are different for everyone on the site. Couples Partners playing together , men or women looking for NSA sex all sorts. I'm happily married wife and my kids. But when your wife is terminally Ill with ovarian cancer having sex is the last thing on anyones mind. So is walking out on her and my kids. Good to see everyone jump to a obvious conclusion "

Your poor wife is fighting for her life and you can't even keep your cock in your pants. I think this has to be one of the ugliest things I've ever read on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And while your wife is worrying about her health, life and her children. You're out trying to find a quick fuck?

I'm stunned at this!

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed


"Good to see the typical trolls and judgemental folk are out n about. And I thought the site was supposed to have open minded folk lol "

Open minded = same values as you.

That's a new one for the Oxford dictionary.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps your energies are better used elsewhere, than worrying about your profile on here

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Men swinging alone have it tough here, without extra circumstances that may make someone have a tougher time. It's not a guaranteed fast and easy sex site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not all married men are playing away because they just want extra sex! Awful lot of judgemental people that have no idea of circumstance.

Why are you here ?

I was an accident "

So was I

My mum thought she had the flu but lucky her got me instead

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good to see the typical trolls and judgemental folk are out n about. And I thought the site was supposed to have open minded folk lol "

Only as long as you play to their rules I'm afraid!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only upfront and honest should be to wifey.

I don't know your circumstances but I don't need to. When you break marriage vows you're not really married anyway. It's a lie. And the only one your cheating is your wife. Every moment shared becomes a lie.

Never have cheated or had it done. I believe in karma. So don't intend to start now.

I always laugh at I'm open and honest about it. No. Otherwise wifey would know and have the same options. But I can only imagine the boot being on the other foot and the reaction to it. Cake......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Haha great comments on here violins etc. Circumstances are different for everyone on the site. Couples Partners playing together , men or women looking for NSA sex all sorts. I'm happily married wife and my kids. But when your wife is terminally Ill with ovarian cancer having sex is the last thing on anyones mind. So is walking out on her and my kids. Good to see everyone jump to a obvious conclusion

Your poor wife is fighting for her life and you can't even keep your cock in your pants. I think this has to be one of the ugliest things I've ever read on here. "

Actually had this reason given by a married. I thought same.

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By *ookingforlustMan
over a year ago

northants


"Haha great comments on here violins etc. Circumstances are different for everyone on the site. Couples Partners playing together , men or women looking for NSA sex all sorts. I'm happily married wife and my kids. But when your wife is terminally Ill with ovarian cancer having sex is the last thing on anyones mind. So is walking out on her and my kids. Good to see everyone jump to a obvious conclusion "

Wow! You should’ve quit while you were behind

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"True ! opinions are helpful maybe need to explain a little more about my marital circumstances on profile."

with respect no you don't, not on an open profile..

by all means if you are in the process of meeting etc then share that in private if you think it will help you but to put your marital circumstances on an open profile is a terrible idea..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi Tatters, my name says it all and I for one have had plenty of interest from fab. If you take the time to read the profiles and understand what they person it seeking before sending messages, make your first one engaging and make reference to things they say so they know you are talking to them and not just 'cut n paste' messaging.

Define yourself so you have something more to offer then the 300 other guys messaging them on any given day.

Expect nothing and you will not be disappointed..

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"Haha great comments on here violins etc. Circumstances are different for everyone on the site. Couples Partners playing together , men or women looking for NSA sex all sorts. I'm happily married wife and my kids. But when your wife is terminally Ill with ovarian cancer having sex is the last thing on anyones mind. So is walking out on her and my kids. Good to see everyone jump to a obvious conclusion "

please tell me that this is surely a really poor taste attempt at trolling people..?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Haha great comments on here violins etc. Circumstances are different for everyone on the site. Couples Partners playing together , men or women looking for NSA sex all sorts. I'm happily married wife and my kids. But when your wife is terminally Ill with ovarian cancer having sex is the last thing on anyones mind. So is walking out on her and my kids. Good to see everyone jump to a obvious conclusion

please tell me that this is surely a really poor taste attempt at trolling people..?

"

As the OP has now hidden his profile, I think he realises his mistake of divulging such information to a bunch of strangers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Haha great comments on here violins etc. Circumstances are different for everyone on the site. Couples Partners playing together , men or women looking for NSA sex all sorts. I'm happily married wife and my kids. But when your wife is terminally Ill with ovarian cancer having sex is the last thing on anyones mind. So is walking out on her and my kids. Good to see everyone jump to a obvious conclusion "

What were you honestly expecting people to say?

If this is a way of you filling a hole in your life, to help you deal with other situations in your life but I'd keep quiet about it if I were you.

This post looks to me like s cry for help, talk to your family before posting on a forum like this.

Thoughts are with you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Karma is a bitch.

When she dies.. it comes around. You meet the the woman of your dreams. She screws around, dumps you and leaves you with crabs. Left with a broken heart and itchy bollocks.

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By *iss GalitzineWoman
over a year ago

Near Bath

Long term illness is a difficult one. My friends wife was ill for 15 years. She could hardly communicate and had to be fed. He cared for her throughout and supported the children. They couldn't share a bed. She wasn't getting better. It a long lonely existence. I wouldn't have blamed him for looking for intimacy elsewhere. Is there ever a time when it's acceptable?

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Haha great comments on here violins etc. Circumstances are different for everyone on the site. Couples Partners playing together , men or women looking for NSA sex all sorts. I'm happily married wife and my kids. But when your wife is terminally Ill with ovarian cancer having sex is the last thing on anyones mind. So is walking out on her and my kids. Good to see everyone jump to a obvious conclusion "

and this is why people should never try to justify why they are here....because where that may have sounded "good" in your head! out there in the real world.... that sounds about as awful as anything i think i have seen written.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Long term illness is a difficult one. My friends wife was ill for 15 years. She could hardly communicate and had to be fed. He cared for her throughout and supported the children. They couldn't share a bed. She wasn't getting better. It a long lonely existence. I wouldn't have blamed him for looking for intimacy elsewhere. Is there ever a time when it's acceptable? "

I can kind of understand him. She'll be getting support and he'll be lonely and scared for the future. He just wants human interaction. Even getting slagged off on a forum will be a change from a nightmare existence of losing his wife.

I'm not excusing him, just saying I understand the need to escape into a different reality, no matter what it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey people just wondering if anyone experiencing zero interest ! I understand being married and partner not knowing is a No No for most. But I thought being upfront and honest would count for something?

I have a small violin playing. "
And I have a big violin playing. Ok I lied, it's a double rock n roll bass. Put that under your chin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What you do is your business OP not here to judge but I wouldn't meet you myself for the simple reason your married.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Long term illness is a difficult one. My friends wife was ill for 15 years. She could hardly communicate and had to be fed. He cared for her throughout and supported the children. They couldn't share a bed. She wasn't getting better. It a long lonely existence. I wouldn't have blamed him for looking for intimacy elsewhere. Is there ever a time when it's acceptable?

I can kind of understand him. She'll be getting support and he'll be lonely and scared for the future. He just wants human interaction. Even getting slagged off on a forum will be a change from a nightmare existence of losing his wife.

I'm not excusing him, just saying I understand the need to escape into a different reality, no matter what it is. "

I think you’re right. To take care of others, we need to be taken care of as well. Whether that’s just meeting someone for a coffee or just a cuddle.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows


"Backs out quietly thinking is this de ja vu...

All over again..

Dusts off rock picks a quiet corner and watches the sun go down over the waves...

Might come with you, squidge over

Come on then snuggle up I'll put the coffee on

I’ll bring biccies "

Room for one more, I'll bring cake x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Backs out quietly thinking is this de ja vu...

All over again..

Dusts off rock picks a quiet corner and watches the sun go down over the waves...

Might come with you, squidge over

Come on then snuggle up I'll put the coffee on

I’ll bring biccies

Room for one more, I'll bring cake x"

Cake always works.. budge up a bit there's always room for another one..

I'll just throw a log on the fire and make fresh coffee

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Karma is a bitch.

When she dies.. it comes around. You meet the the woman of your dreams. She screws around, dumps you and leaves you with crabs. Left with a broken heart and itchy bollocks."

Fuck me...thats harsh !

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"Haha great comments on here violins etc. Circumstances are different for everyone on the site. Couples Partners playing together , men or women looking for NSA sex all sorts. I'm happily married wife and my kids. But when your wife is terminally Ill with ovarian cancer having sex is the last thing on anyones mind. So is walking out on her and my kids. Good to see everyone jump to a obvious conclusion "

Your poor wife.....disgraceful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone mention cake????

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows


"Backs out quietly thinking is this de ja vu...

All over again..

Dusts off rock picks a quiet corner and watches the sun go down over the waves...

Might come with you, squidge over

Come on then snuggle up I'll put the coffee on

I’ll bring biccies

Room for one more, I'll bring cake x

Cake always works.. budge up a bit there's always room for another one..

I'll just throw a log on the fire and make fresh coffee "

Awesome, I have Lemon Drizzle, or Coffee & Walnut.

Or shall I bring both?

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows


"Someone mention cake???? "

Pull up a rock by the fire

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Long term illness is a difficult one. My friends wife was ill for 15 years. She could hardly communicate and had to be fed. He cared for her throughout and supported the children. They couldn't share a bed. She wasn't getting better. It a long lonely existence. I wouldn't have blamed him for looking for intimacy elsewhere. Is there ever a time when it's acceptable?

I can kind of understand him. She'll be getting support and he'll be lonely and scared for the future. He just wants human interaction. Even getting slagged off on a forum will be a change from a nightmare existence of losing his wife.

I'm not excusing him, just saying I understand the need to escape into a different reality, no matter what it is. "

I totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im thinking nobody really meets up and eats cake

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By *wesomeSauce!Man
over a year ago

Brighton


"...Whining married guys are at the bottom of the married guy pile. Big boy pants on and get on with it"

There's a married guy pile?!!

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

I’ve not had much problem, then again L hasn’t either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Long term illness is a difficult one. My friends wife was ill for 15 years. She could hardly communicate and had to be fed. He cared for her throughout and supported the children. They couldn't share a bed. She wasn't getting better. It a long lonely existence. I wouldn't have blamed him for looking for intimacy elsewhere. Is there ever a time when it's acceptable?

I can kind of understand him. She'll be getting support and he'll be lonely and scared for the future. He just wants human interaction. Even getting slagged off on a forum will be a change from a nightmare existence of losing his wife.

I'm not excusing him, just saying I understand the need to escape into a different reality, no matter what it is.

I think you’re right. To take care of others, we need to be taken care of as well. Whether that’s just meeting someone for a coffee or just a cuddle."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Karma is a bitch.

When she dies.. it comes around. You meet the the woman of your dreams. She screws around, dumps you and leaves you with crabs. Left with a broken heart and itchy bollocks."

What a load of crap...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Backs out quietly thinking is this de ja vu...

All over again..

Dusts off rock picks a quiet corner and watches the sun go down over the waves...

Might come with you, squidge over

Come on then snuggle up I'll put the coffee on

I’ll bring biccies

Room for one more, I'll bring cake x

Cake always works.. budge up a bit there's always room for another one..

I'll just throw a log on the fire and make fresh coffee

Awesome, I have Lemon Drizzle, or Coffee & Walnut.

Or shall I bring both? "

Bring both... the man cave is getting busy tonight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Indeed it does OP, it actually counts for a lot and well done to you for being honest. Now I haven't read any other replies to this thread but in reality you are no more than a cheat and that is one thing that both of us hate - cheats and dishonest people in our book are lower than a snakes belly, so given that we are nothing special, I'd assume that others here share similar views ..... hence your lack of interest. If you don't want to be with your woman - grow a pair of balls and leave her but don't piss about behind her back and make a fool of her - and btw, this is the male half of the couple speaking just in case you were wondering.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

@Tatters.

A bit of advice. I ain't going to lie to you, being an attached single man on here is going to be really hard work. You need to have a great profile & something that makes you stand out of the crowd.

If you're after companionship maybe try one of those Meet Up clubs, if you need support see if you can be put in touch with a local group.

You might just be barking up the wrong tree being on here, might make you feel worse than you do already, it can be pretty brutal at times...!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Karma is a bitch.

When she dies.. it comes around. You meet the the woman of your dreams. She screws around, dumps you and leaves you with crabs. Left with a broken heart and itchy bollocks."

I may have taken the piss a little before the bombshell.

But if it is true that his wife is terminally ill the total lack of compassion you have just displayed by the comment..

"When she dies etc...."

Is beyond appalling and every bit as distasteful as OP may appear to be to many.

To find amusement in anyone's death and the depriving children of a parent no matter if it's having a pop at OP, displays a lack of humanity that is beneath contempt.

Karma may be a bitch so perhaps you should be careful what you wish for?...

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax


"Karma is a bitch.

When she dies.. it comes around. You meet the the woman of your dreams. She screws around, dumps you and leaves you with crabs. Left with a broken heart and itchy bollocks.

I may have taken the piss a little before the bombshell.

But if it is true that his wife is terminally ill the total lack of compassion you have just displayed by the comment..

"When she dies etc...."

Is beyond appalling and every bit as distasteful as OP may appear to be to many.

To find amusement in anyone's death and the depriving children of a parent no matter if it's having a pop at OP, displays a lack of humanity that is beneath contempt.

Karma may be a bitch so perhaps you should be careful what you wish for?..."

Totally agree

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good to see the typical trolls and judgemental folk are out n about. And I thought the site was supposed to have open minded folk lol "

It's not about being open-minded, it's about people's yardstick of morality.

People also have the right in being judgemental in reference to themselves, though I prefer the term assess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey people just wondering if anyone experiencing zero interest ! I understand being married and partner not knowing is a No No for most. But I thought being upfront and honest would count for something?"

Honest?

To who??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Indeed it does OP, it actually counts for a lot and well done to you for being honest. Now I haven't read any other replies to this thread but in reality you are no more than a cheat and that is one thing that both of us hate - cheats and dishonest people in our book are lower than a snakes belly, so given that we are nothing special, I'd assume that others here share similar views ..... hence your lack of interest. If you don't want to be with your woman - grow a pair of balls and leave her but don't piss about behind her back and make a fool of her - and btw, this is the male half of the couple speaking just in case you were wondering.

"

Ahh you might wish you had read further before you made that reply...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"@Tatters.

A bit of advice. I ain't going to lie to you, being an attached single man on here is going to be really hard work. You need to have a great profile & something that makes you stand out of the crowd.

If you're after companionship maybe try one of those Meet Up clubs, if you need support see if you can be put in touch with a local group.

You might just be barking up the wrong tree being on here, might make you feel worse than you do already, it can be pretty brutal at times...!"

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"Haha great comments on here violins etc. Circumstances are different for everyone on the site. Couples Partners playing together , men or women looking for NSA sex all sorts. I'm happily married wife and my kids. But when your wife is terminally Ill with ovarian cancer having sex is the last thing on anyones mind. So is walking out on her and my kids. Good to see everyone jump to a obvious conclusion "

Your wife is terminally ill and you're on here behind her back. Now that is low

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Well I don't know what you actually want from here,but if it's just companionship are there not support groups available?

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By *imetoexplore69Couple
over a year ago

Aberdeen


"Good to see the typical trolls and judgemental folk are out n about. And I thought the site was supposed to have open minded folk lol "
you can be open minded and also have morals you know.nothing to do with being judgemental.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good to see the typical trolls and judgemental folk are out n about. And I thought the site was supposed to have open minded folk lol you can be open minded and also have morals you know.nothing to do with being judgemental."

Well said!

Absolutely spot on.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

As someone suggested earlier, talk to your wife, also I would suggest that you get some proffesional help for your family, if you haven't already, Macmillan springs to mind, they are very helpful. Good luck OP.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I'm gonna put my 2 penneth in, it may not be any good but here goes.

Many people reach out on differing ways, I'm guessing this is the avenue you've chosen. I think if you seek people from this site for company you will do yourself and your wife a disjustice. Not because the people here aren't worthy of compassion and a chat, but purely because of the nature of the site. I think you'll have guilt, and god forbid your wife found out, can you imagine how that would impact her limited time?

I firmly believe you should be making full use of support groups etc. There you WILL find others who will want a coffee. You will find people to lean on, and those who will look to you to lean on too.

I can understand perhaps not wanting to, as due to the nature of meeting people that way means the gloom of the inevitable will be the base of the meeting, however, I do think it will do you the world of good, without any sneaky behaviour, lies or betrayal.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"I'm gonna put my 2 penneth in, it may not be any good but here goes.

Many people reach out on differing ways, I'm guessing this is the avenue you've chosen. I think if you seek people from this site for company you will do yourself and your wife a disjustice. Not because the people here aren't worthy of compassion and a chat, but purely because of the nature of the site. I think you'll have guilt, and god forbid your wife found out, can you imagine how that would impact her limited time?

I firmly believe you should be making full use of support groups etc. There you WILL find others who will want a coffee. You will find people to lean on, and those who will look to you to lean on too.

I can understand perhaps not wanting to, as due to the nature of meeting people that way means the gloom of the inevitable will be the base of the meeting, however, I do think it will do you the world of good, without any sneaky behaviour, lies or betrayal."

Well written princess, some good constructive advice.

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