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By *ungBlackTop OP   Man
over a year ago

salford

Why does it bother me so much when I get asked to meet someone and after having a look at their verifications get instantly put off? Sometimes it's the amount of people they've met for sex or it's the people they have met.

Been trying to reflect on it but just can't find a reason. I don't meet a lot of people as prefer to meet the same person regularly as I feel more comfortable with that and I think the sex is better with people you are comfortable with.

Anyone offer an explanation for my weirdness? lol

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"Why does it bother me so much when I get asked to meet someone and after having a look at their verifications get instantly put off? Sometimes it's the amount of people they've met for sex or it's the people they have met.

Been trying to reflect on it but just can't find a reason. I don't meet a lot of people as prefer to meet the same person regularly as I feel more comfortable with that and I think the sex is better with people you are comfortable with.

Anyone offer an explanation for my weirdness? lol"

You've said it before. You're not a swinger. You're single. It's perfectly natural.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why is it weird? Youre looking fir someone to be intimate with, its natural to judge them on the limited information you have.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

I'd guess, that we all have things that can put us off.

We all make judgements (good & bad) on the information that's available.

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By *ungBlackTop OP   Man
over a year ago

salford

It just seems weird that I can't just meet anyone for sex compared to a lot of people on here. Don't get me wrong I like sex and the whole intimacy that goes with it. Maybe I just have a different take on it all and don't know how to use the site properly. Sometimes wish i could just do the whole anonymous fuck and go thing but i have tried it and it didn't feel right at all.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"It just seems weird that I can't just meet anyone for sex compared to a lot of people on here. Don't get me wrong I like sex and the whole intimacy that goes with it. Maybe I just have a different take on it all and don't know how to use the site properly. Sometimes wish i could just do the whole anonymous fuck and go thing but i have tried it and it didn't feel right at all."

That's standard.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why does it bother me so much when I get asked to meet someone and after having a look at their verifications get instantly put off? Sometimes it's the amount of people they've met for sex or it's the people they have met.

Been trying to reflect on it but just can't find a reason. I don't meet a lot of people as prefer to meet the same person regularly as I feel more comfortable with that and I think the sex is better with people you are comfortable with.

Anyone offer an explanation for my weirdness? lol"

Its a filter you use at times and nothing wrong with that. Its your choice who you meet etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of people are exactly the same as you OP.

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By *ungBlackTop OP   Man
over a year ago

salford


"A lot of people are exactly the same as you OP.

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I always thought there was something wrong with me and i shouldn't be on the site so that's actually more reassuring to know other users feel the same.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"It just seems weird that I can't just meet anyone for sex compared to a lot of people on here. Don't get me wrong I like sex and the whole intimacy that goes with it. Maybe I just have a different take on it all and don't know how to use the site properly. Sometimes wish i could just do the whole anonymous fuck and go thing but i have tried it and it didn't feel right at all."

We were talking about this today and discussing the different ways people approach swinging or whatever you want to call it. We came to the conclusion that we all approach it in our own way and suspect that more people are like you than you think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. I can't explain. You've found something that turns you off from a person, We all have certain things we like/dislike, it's obvious, It's what makes us all different.

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By *ungBlackTop OP   Man
over a year ago

salford

i suppose nicecouple but still doesn't explain why it turns me off so much? I appreciate we are different and use the site for different reasons but i don't understand even if the person is my type I can still bite my own nose off to spite my face and won't meet them after I've read their profile of verifications. E.g I regular meet someone off here and recently seen who they have met. The person who they met I wouldn't consider in any shape or form for plenty of reasons and now I will never meet this fuck buddy again, that's odd I think hahaha

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"i suppose nicecouple but still doesn't explain why it turns me off so much? I appreciate we are different and use the site for different reasons but i don't understand even if the person is my type I can still bite my own nose off to spite my face and won't meet them after I've read their profile of verifications. E.g I regular meet someone off here and recently seen who they have met. The person who they met I wouldn't consider in any shape or form for plenty of reasons and now I will never meet this fuck buddy again, that's odd I think hahaha"

I kind of understand what you mean. I used to have a regular playmate. He met several people, no problem, but one person he met only does bareback...I never met him again.

We always used a condom but somehow the thought of him with someone who indulged in bareback gang bangs just put me off him. In the grand scheme of things it shouldn't have but it did.

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"A lot of people are exactly the same as you OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm the same OP. for me to really enjoy sexy I need intimacy and a connection. I've had true NSA sex in the past and while it's fun it doesn't tick my boxes.

I suppose you (and I) look at someone with a lot of veris and assume that the type of meets they enjoy aren't the same as the type we enjoy, so we rule them out.

Everyone is just here doing their own thing though

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Just because we're on here some of us still want to feel a little special and not like we're just another f*ck for someone. If someone has lots of verifications then maybe you are precisely that,I don't know...

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By *ungBlackTop OP   Man
over a year ago

salford

This is a really positive thread, thank you all, so nice to know others are in the same boat and see things the way you do. Makes you think you're not going completely mad.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

I think we are all a bit guilty of it op,

You can read something really graphic or some little detail in a verie that makes you think twice.

Miss

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By *iss GalitzineWoman
over a year ago

Near Bath

I get it. I am put off if people have dogging on their profile. I also hate the thought of people 'rating ' me and therefore don't show my verifications. I do read others though! They are useful for seeing if they are genuine couples or females as the green flag doesn't appear to be fool proof.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It just seems weird that I can't just meet anyone for sex compared to a lot of people on here. Don't get me wrong I like sex and the whole intimacy that goes with it. Maybe I just have a different take on it all and don't know how to use the site properly. Sometimes wish i could just do the whole anonymous fuck and go thing but i have tried it and it didn't feel right at all."
to some you will be normal... I sometimes think im weird or a freak after spending lots of time on the forums or chatting to people as a lot of people don't get how I enjoy what I do... but I'm trying now to just do my thing with people that either are okay with it or oblivious. And just go with it.

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By *usthere8Man
over a year ago

acton


"Why does it bother me so much when I get asked to meet someone and after having a look at their verifications get instantly put off? Sometimes it's the amount of people they've met for sex or it's the people they have met.

Been trying to reflect on it but just can't find a reason. I don't meet a lot of people as prefer to meet the same person regularly as I feel more comfortable with that and I think the sex is better with people you are comfortable with.

Anyone offer an explanation for my weirdness? lol"

Let me ask a question, when you go out and get lucky on a random night do you ask how many they have been with?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im the same, im new on here. Im still finding out what it is i want but i know meeting up with random guys isnt my thing : /

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

This is the reason why we don't show our meets anymore, prefer to meet who like us based on our profile and not who we've met. Was good before but it's better now.

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By *ungBlackTop OP   Man
over a year ago

salford


"Why does it bother me so much when I get asked to meet someone and after having a look at their verifications get instantly put off? Sometimes it's the amount of people they've met for sex or it's the people they have met.

Been trying to reflect on it but just can't find a reason. I don't meet a lot of people as prefer to meet the same person regularly as I feel more comfortable with that and I think the sex is better with people you are comfortable with.

Anyone offer an explanation for my weirdness? lol

Let me ask a question, when you go out and get lucky on a random night do you ask how many they have been with? "

Wow reflective question. Hmmm when I go out in the real world and if I was to get lucky I would've talked at length with the person. In real life you can almost get a feel for the person you are with without knowing them at all (no pun intended). I am not a prude so I will ask someone if they've "been around the bush" so to speak. Sometimes it doesn't bother me in real life so I know it's not purely the numbers thing but more the "who" if that makes sense?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Lost dreams

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why does it bother me so much when I get asked to meet someone and after having a look at their verifications get instantly put off? Sometimes it's the amount of people they've met for sex or it's the people they have met.

Been trying to reflect on it but just can't find a reason. I don't meet a lot of people as prefer to meet the same person regularly as I feel more comfortable with that and I think the sex is better with people you are comfortable with.

Anyone offer an explanation for my weirdness? lol

Let me ask a question, when you go out and get lucky on a random night do you ask how many they have been with?

Wow reflective question. Hmmm when I go out in the real world and if I was to get lucky I would've talked at length with the person. In real life you can almost get a feel for the person you are with without knowing them at all (no pun intended). I am not a prude so I will ask someone if they've "been around the bush" so to speak. Sometimes it doesn't bother me in real life so I know it's not purely the numbers thing but more the "who" if that makes sense?

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It makes sense to me. I don't care if someone has fucked 1 or 1,000 people, I just don't want any details. Verifications put me off too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why does it bother me so much when I get asked to meet someone and after having a look at their verifications get instantly put off? Sometimes it's the amount of people they've met for sex or it's the people they have met.

Been trying to reflect on it but just can't find a reason. I don't meet a lot of people as prefer to meet the same person regularly as I feel more comfortable with that and I think the sex is better with people you are comfortable with.

Anyone offer an explanation for my weirdness? lol"

Im exactly the same OP. Like someone said I’m single not a swinger really. However I have a lot of verifications as I chat to a lot of people at Socials or Chams when I go with my FB, people presume I’ve slept with everyone who has given me a verification, Ive met met very few. Just do what feels right for you

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By *ungBlackTop OP   Man
over a year ago

salford

I still think we're the minority (us who prefer to meet a small amount of people) on here. I agree, I'm single instead of a swinger. Rather be single though than cheating on someone pretending I'm swinging and deceiving people (a lot do on here unfortunately), all makes the world go round. After a few PM's from people about this thread I definitely feel I'm not weird anymore, just in the minority.

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