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By *wisted2000 OP   Woman
over a year ago

under my rock cleethorpes

Am I being picky or shallow by only looking for what I want and am attracted to? I’m here on the rebound as my profile states, it also states what I’m attracted to and why I specifically want that, I’m getting nasty messages because I won’t sleep with some people, am I wrong for wanting what I want for my own reasons?

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall


"Am I being picky or shallow by only looking for what I want and am attracted to? I’m here on the rebound as my profile states, it also states what I’m attracted to and why I specifically want that, I’m getting nasty messages because I won’t sleep with some people, am I wrong for wanting what I want for my own reasons? "

Your life, your body, your rules....simple as that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all. I’m super picky. It can take one thing to step out of line and I’m like ‘ah. Nope.’ You’re allowed to like and want what you want. Those people are just upset because they don’t fit into it. Take it as a compliment that they feel the need to be so outward about it

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By *wisted2000 OP   Woman
over a year ago

under my rock cleethorpes

Thanks guys, I’m hoping it’s just because I’m going through a tough time that’s making me wonder

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Be as picky as you want, I'm exactly the same and why I haven't had sex since March

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I being picky or shallow by only looking for what I want and am attracted to? I’m here on the rebound as my profile states, it also states what I’m attracted to and why I specifically want that, I’m getting nasty messages because I won’t sleep with some people, am I wrong for wanting what I want for my own reasons? "

Never understood meeting people you don't fancy for sex. Surely attraction is the key to a good time?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Be as picky as you want, I'm exactly the same and why I haven't had sex since March "

You need to drop them standards then, you'll be swimming in a sea of cock n spunk

*runs for cover*

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Couldn't give a toss, whether someone thinks we're 'wrong', for meeting how, who and when we like.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Stick to your guns.

The fab world and world in general isn't a one size fits all place. People should (even though we know a lot don't) respect your choices.

Ask these blokes if they would allow any tom, dick or Harry to stick a cock up their arse. Lots will say no, so, why should you let any bill, Fred or Kevin have his cock anywhere near you?!

I reckon these fools need to be force fed something they don't like and see what they think about having a choice.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Of course not. You're here for you!

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"Be as picky as you want, I'm exactly the same and why I haven't had sex since March "

You're like a born again virgin woman!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely not. Whoever assumes sending a nasty message will get you in to bed is a moron.

You wait for exactly what you want xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be as picky as you like it's your body and if the lads are worth it they will make an effort anyone else use the block button

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

Absolutely nothing wrong with being picky or having certain preferences.

I knew what I wanted to experience & find out about when I joined this site, and that rules put an awful lot of people.

Apparently that makes me 'a prick tease' as one called me this morning for saying no thanks

Too funny!

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By *wisted2000 OP   Woman
over a year ago

under my rock cleethorpes

Thanks everyone, when they bombard me it makes me feel like I’m wrong not them but you’re all helping me see otherwise xxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I being picky or shallow by only looking for what I want and am attracted to? I’m here on the rebound as my profile states, it also states what I’m attracted to and why I specifically want that, I’m getting nasty messages because I won’t sleep with some people, am I wrong for wanting what I want for my own reasons? "

Absolutely not x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I being picky or shallow by only looking for what I want and am attracted to? I’m here on the rebound as my profile states, it also states what I’m attracted to and why I specifically want that, I’m getting nasty messages because I won’t sleep with some people, am I wrong for wanting what I want for my own reasons? "

Absolutely not. This is not match.com. Essentially, we are all here to fulfill our desires and have fun. It’s not fun when you don’t fancy the other person. The purpose of being on here. End of. Good luck xxx

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By *ucklingsCouple
over a year ago

Rugby


"Am I being picky or shallow by only looking for what I want and am attracted to? I’m here on the rebound as my profile states, it also states what I’m attracted to and why I specifically want that, I’m getting nasty messages because I won’t sleep with some people, am I wrong for wanting what I want for my own reasons? "

No , not at all. Your life your choice!!!

You always will get people who can’t take rejection and will get nasty. I found the block option very useful! Don’t change your ways because some people can’t take it!!! Mrs D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Not at all. You're perfectly within your right to pick and choose whoever suits you for your own particular reasons. Never settle for less than what you aspire for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi .....we are quite picky too ... you have every right to be , just because people are here for sex doesn't mean you have to accept them because they want you .

We had a lady message us when we only just came on here seemed really nice and polite ....we all sent pics and as we wernt attracted to her physically and said we would like to just stay friends in a vety polite message back etc ....she got really nasty saying horrible things to us . As much as I'd have loved her to say them to my face cos she wouldn't have been stood up long lol , we just blocked her and moved on and just thought she was being brave over a screen . Funnily enough she has now a profile with her fuck buddy and they winked us and messaged us asking for meets again haha.

Don't take them to heart .....just jealous people on here. Xx

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

Don't worry about it. I'm super picky too and get the same abusive messages when I say not my type. I guess because it's fab you're expected to fuck everyone and anyone (like most will) but just because we are horny we shouldn't loose our morals or standards (in my opinion). Just stay picky OP it's no regrets then. You'll be A-ok.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"Be as picky as you want, I'm exactly the same and why I haven't had sex since March

You're like a born again virgin woman! "

Can I get a certificate please?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m getting nasty messages because I won’t sleep with some people, am I wrong for wanting what I want for my own reasons? "

Block and move on! Unfortunately some people on here think they are God’s gift to all or have a god given right to fuck anyone THEY want.

As others have said, your body, your rules. Same as in the world of vanilla, you wouldn’t just sleep with someone who wanted you that you didn’t want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I being picky or shallow by only looking for what I want and am attracted to? I’m here on the rebound as my profile states, it also states what I’m attracted to and why I specifically want that, I’m getting nasty messages because I won’t sleep with some people, am I wrong for wanting what I want for my own reasons?

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It's your choice your life your rules....live it how you see fit

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol


"Am I being picky or shallow by only looking for what I want and am attracted to? I’m here on the rebound as my profile states, it also states what I’m attracted to and why I specifically want that, I’m getting nasty messages because I won’t sleep with some people, am I wrong for wanting what I want for my own reasons? "

No, you're not. If you apply the concept of the playground to fab it helps with the nastiness. You're a toy they don't get to play with. They have a nasty streak and want to break that toy so no-one else can play with it if they can't. But now we're grown ups we can ignore such vitriol and feel sorry for those who are butt hurt (plus feeling sorry for them really annoys them, which is a bonus).

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By *wisted2000 OP   Woman
over a year ago

under my rock cleethorpes

Thanks everyone xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t settle for anything less than you desire, no matter how long it takes.

Ultimately, it will be worth it when you find it.

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By *a Fee VerteWoman
over a year ago

Limbo

You're not being picky and you're definitely not shallow. I have to admit I've sometimes wondered in the past if I'm 'too fussy' because, for example, I've gone to clubs a number of times and in a room full of people not seen anyone I've found attractive enough to get intimate with. But I also know from bitter experience (on one occasion) that ignoring your gut feelings, lowering your own personal standards, and going through with sex when you're not 100% on board with the idea is not only inevitably physically unfulfilling but more importantly, can be hugely damaging to your self esteem for quite some time after. I never want to feel like that again so I'm going to be as fussy/picky as I need to be. Remember none of us are here to provide any sort of on demand service to others (unless we get off on that sort of thing) - we're here to enjoy ourselves, within whatever sexual boundaries we choose and have (hopefully) great sex with people who are as much into us as we are into them. You shouldn't waste a moment feeling guilty about that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I being picky or shallow by only looking for what I want and am attracted to? I’m here on the rebound as my profile states, it also states what I’m attracted to and why I specifically want that, I’m getting nasty messages because I won’t sleep with some people, am I wrong for wanting what I want for my own reasons? "

Call it picky call it prefernace but either way it’s your call...jeeze if we ladies fucked everyone that we weren’t attracted to I swear we’d be busy 24-7

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